All I know is that I judge everything by the light of the scripture and things that don't match up are flung away.Believers in Christ should guard that their hearts more than ever becase many false teachings,doctrines and teachers abound.Study the word of God to show yourself approved.Hold no other persons as standards but Christ because He is the author and finisher of our faith.

@Poster,where is this man's wife as both of you are playing okoso with each other?Na you be the only sista wey need counselling for that church,eh?He's even had the guts to tell you that he would have married you had he met you before his wife.Kai,have you no sense?He is married,so keep off.There are other places of worship in your area are there not?Move away from that church since you don't seem mature enough to tell that louse to keep his fingers to himself.That you are joining him in this act of blasphemous rebellion is sad.If you are genuinely a christian,repent and live your life like a christian woman should.

They should go ahead and get married.If she is 2 months in now,she'll be 8 months by May 2008 which leaves her a month before she puts to bed.If she is 'ashamed' of walking down the aisle with a big belly, they can bring the wedding forward or push it back till after she has had the baby.Do your best to discourage them from any thoughts of abortion as that would be foolish.The deed is done already,there is no undoing it.

Hi Poster,your man is not ready to get married.He needs a job and a home.If you get married to him now will you squat with him where he is now or will you bring him into your own home?This is a very important question you need to ask yourself.

It is not about materialism,a man ought to be able to provide for his wife.I don't know how old you are but you guys have already put in 2 years into this relationship so that must count for something.Reflect on where you are now and how much longer you will be willing wait.There is no guarantee that he will want to marry you when things turn around for him;sad but true.You are the only one in your situation so advice yourself.

Ha,I always write letters and I love receiving hand-written letters.I wrote a letter just last week.

Beware,my dear girl.Be wary of men that show you off only to their friends and never to family.
This one you say you are ready to give your cookies and that your bones want him,nhia,be very careful.Since you want a commitment from him,7 months is time enough for him to know if you are the one he wants to marry.


Btw,you do realize that as he is shadowing you and showing you off,he's blocking your chances of meeting someone else?Other guys that might be interested see both of you all the time and think you have been spoken for.Talk to him and find out what is slowing him down.Good luck and hold onto your cookies!

Ok,people it is 'make hay,not hale or hail.'

English spellings are still necessary.Let's not get all insultive when corrected ok.

Nigerian men,Hmmmmm!
Isn't it just funny how quickly they profess their love and funnier how much more quicker they want to get into our pants?
We want to be wooed.How difficult can wooing us be?

Ndi Igbo mmamma nu o.Nuo nu,rie nu,taa nu.
A bu m nwanne unu nwanyi,ana m ekele unu.E bi m na Texas ebe m na-aga mahadum.A bu m onye Uzuakoli di na Abia State.Onwe ndi nwanim no ngo?Holler!Obi di m uto ihu ka unu si atapia asusu anyi ebe a.




Bia Toshman,elee ihe iji jiri aha m na-agu egwu?Kpachara anya gi o.

Hmmm,this reads like something out of Dan Brown's The Da Vinci Code' abnd even his 'Angels and Demons.'

There is so much weird stuff going on in the world today that nothing seems impossible to believe.

hehehehe,Nigerian men come and defend yourselves.

@Nwando,I enjoyed reading your take on this matter.

Marrying up from the little online search I did seems to refer to marrying someone better than one is-whether the better is in finances,assets,education.The most emphasis is on finances though.

So do women want to marry up because they don't feel like they're making enough money or is it just a status symbol thing?Whether marrying up or down,a woman should never marry a man that can't provide for her and their kids.Though women are working more and are in some instances making more money than their male counterparts or available suitors,a man should and must be able to provide for her regardless.That's what being the head is all about .

Bonjour mes amis,je m'appelle Jezzy.J'habite a Houston,TX.J'ai vingt-sept ans.
I love French and was once able to speak and write it very well but lack of practice has robbed this beloved language from me.
Oh well,bon nuit.

Soulpatrol,I can't stop laughing.
I didn't actually notice cos I've been doing it since time Imo river,I always eat my meat afterI'm done with my food.Kai,it just comes naturally withut any thoughts.

Is it our men that are retarded or what?That's too negative.

Leilah,that word subservient is kinda harsh.Why would a man expect you to be that?I hope you are not mistaking it for submission.
I'm glad that you are happy.

All these Christmas stories are makig me homesick.

Christmas like I remember started like around the ending ending of October when all the radio stations would be playing Christmas music,the closer it got to Christmas the more frequently they are played.I grew up in the East so Christmas is always associated in my mind with harmattan season.It would be cold,dry and dusty.In the apartment complex where we lived while growing up,almost every family went to their village to celebrate so the 'watchman' used to be compensated well before hand so he'd keep an eye out on our property.People started leaving as soon as school closed for the holidays and the last to go often left around the 23rd or 24th.I remember that at that time our neighbor and my mum would buy a big basket of tomatoes to share.On the way back to our village-which was like an hour away-we saw other cars loaded with belongings and happy children and sometimes an slightly open trunk so the chicken and torotoro could breathe.Lol.

Anyway,by the time we got to the village other cousins would be there or be on the way and it was always a happy reunion for all the cousins and proud grandparents.All the cousins came together and compared clothes,money and stashes of knockout/banger.As soon as we were done greeting everybody, we hit the stream,maybe with little cans to convince the adults we weren't gong to just play.We always swam till we turned blue in the face and red in the eyes.

Christmas eve,the cooking started.Meat was tenderized and cooked in preparation for frying on Christmas morning.On Christmas eve night,we went to church for the service armed with knockouts/bangers.And even while we were in church we could hear others blasting away the knockouts/bangers,we would become restless.As soon as service was over,we went outside blasting our knockouts/bangers away to the chagrin of the adults.When we eventually stopped running wild and were coralled by the adults,we went home and continued with the knockouts/bangers under adult supervision.If we ran out,doting uncles and aunts and grandparents replenished our stash.

On Christams day gon gon,the sweet aroma of stew and meat awakened us.The adults would get the older children to help get the younger ones ready for Christmas day service.Before we left for church,we had something light like bread and tea saving our appetites for the feast to come.We went to church dressed in our brand new Christmas clothes,shoes and freshly braided hair for the girls or smart crew-cut for the guys and no matter how great service was we itched to go home.Whenever service ended,we were made to greet more relatives bfore we went home.As soon as we got home,we dined on rice and stew,jollof rice,fried rice,chicken,beef,salad,chin-chin,and lots of fanta(who ever thought of calories or sugar then?).The food would not even digest before we began running wild again with other kids.Visitors,relatives were entertained.Carollers came,little dancing girls came,little boys in masquerades came;they were all shown appreciation with money.

Chritsmas Naija style is the bomb.If you haven't experienced it,you should because it does good things to the soul.Sweet memories.

I'm from God's own state--Abia state(Bende LGA).

This is getting more hilarous by the minute.(so the man now reminds her of a turtle--stories that touch the heart).Pcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!

Boogey(man),a 16 year old girl should be in high school or even finished-depending on when she started so if you love her encourage to focus on her studies instead of sex.Jeez,what is wrong with you?If you are that much in love,let her hit 21 and then get married to her.If you are intent on sex,look for people your own age.At 16,she is a minor and here you would be prosecuted and made to register as sex offender.
Gosh,why don't our laws work?

This flower depends on the recipient.Personally,I love flowers(roses,lilies,orchids etc).I grew up in a family that loves flowers.If a guy sends me flowers,I'll appreciate it.

On the other hand,the flowers better be live(real).I went on a date with this guy and he gave me a single rose,a fake single rose .I felt so disappointed,kai,why did he even bother?That clouded my opinion of him immediately.We dey obodo oyibo so how expensive can a flower be?I would have been more impressed sef if he stopped and plucked one from a flower garden.Pcheeeeeeeeeeew!!!

Hi Kconfused,
What exactly is keeping you from being attracted to this man?I do not believe you should ignore that and simply keep seeing him to keep up appearances.I also don't think you should sleep with him to see if you would get attracted to him.
I'd also like to know if he specifically told you he would like to marry you and have kids with you.That he brings it up when you are together does not mean it's you he wants to marry.Some men have the habit of bringing the marriage issue up just to test waters and not because they want you in particular.
If you have been going out with this man for sometime now and still don't feel anything for him,you may want to just walk.It is not by force.There may be a man somewhere out there that you are attracted to and that can offer you stability.Marriage is not something to be entered into with unresolved issues.

This is a tradition that you can stop.What is the rationale behind getting a lady pregnant before marrying her?What if something happens before the wedding,ehn?Biko,I believe your family is educated,try and reason with them.
BTW,if am your lady and you insist I will walk.I hope she is not desperate.

David,that's mean(but true).Lol.

I commend you dear.There are many that would tell you are foolish for holding out but pay them no mind at all,ok.You have come this far already.It pays to be chaste,it does.

Personally,I think this is a very important decision for any couple.If they go into a relationship now they know what they are,are they going to be willing to confront the issues that this will bring up in their marriage?If you have seen those afflicted with the sickle disease and seen what they go through in their crises,you would have second thoughts about bringing one into the world.Are they willing to abort a baby instead of bringing it into the world to be sick?
This couple have two choices,they can break up now or they can get married and resort to aborting their babies if the tests reveal that they are SS or hope that they receive a miracle.Either way,there's going to some heartbreak involved.

Ivvie,how many Nigerian girls in Houston do you know?Are all of them sarcastic and loud?Enough already!The topic is about Naija girls in UK but you had to drag the girls in Houston into it.You must have done something to warrant the sarcasm.Brush up your game and you may just meet the classy ones.