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You are not in a church my Sister. You might become another Ese Walter. Just thinking aloud.

Did you know that every creation created by God was created for a specific purpose?

Did you know that the purpose each creation serve can be best carried out by that creation only?

The sun was created to give out light at day time only while the moon was created to give out light at night only. The air we breathe in and out, the waters, the lands and every known creation all serve a specific purpose.

Even man-made inventions were all created to meet a specific need in life.

Take a car for instance. It was designed to move on land and not water. You will need a canoe or a ship instead. A basket cannot and will never retain any liquid substance because it was never created for such. We will need a container that can achieve that. This is understanding purpose.

Did you know that every man and woman God created was for a specific purpose? Even before their conception in the womb, did you know God already have a specific task for each human to accomplish? And that he has also put into each of his creation one all that is needed to accomplish that particular task?

To your parent, you might come as a result of their passion. You might be wondering why you were born into a particular home or at a particular era. I want you to realise that God has everything planned even before your parent came together as one.

The account of creation made us understand that there was not a man to till the ground. This prompted God to go to work and created the first man (Adam). He created him to be able to accomplish the task he gave to him.

Same with Eve, the first woman on earth. God created her because he observed the need of a helper to Adam. And she was designed to accomplish that role in Adam’s life.

Nothing in life came into existence for nothing.

When you realise the reason for your existence on earth – that is who you are, you will not find yourself in the danger of experimenting with your life. You will not be living to please men, imitating people’s lifestyle or wishing to be somebody somewhere. There will be no need of exhibiting jealousy over others success.

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You will begin to realise the potentials packed inside of you and you begin to find fulfilment in what you are doing. With decision you will be making in life (marriage, career, etc.) you will discover you are choosing the best.

People who are yet to realise their reasons of existence might be successful in what they are doing but there is no fulfilment in their life. This is why you hear and read stories of some celebrities committing suicide and fighting drug addiction.

This is why you hear stories of men transforming themselves into women and women into men and stories of people committing suicide over a failed relationship and story of singles ones remaining in an abusive relationship. Because they are yet to discover their purpose of existence. Their identity.

So, how then do you discover your purpose?

There is only one way to understand your purpose of existence which I will be revealing. But first of all, let me take you back the account of the fall of man.

The disobedience of Adam and Eve brought separation between God and man. But God our loving father is still interested in us and want to have that relationship with us again. Hence, he sent Jesus, his son for reconciliation.

To understand and start fulfilling your purpose of existence, you need to go to God, through Jesus. For he says “I am the way the truth and the life, no one comes to the Father except by me”

I urge you reading this to take that bold step today, so you can start living a life of purpose.

Stay bless!

I am not in a marital relationship presently (I hope to be someday) neither am I a divorcé (I don’t pray to be). I am writing, from careful observations made from several conversations I have had with the divorced and those seeking a divorce.
During my careful observations and conversations, I can tell you divorce is a bitter experience. Enduring a bad marriage is not a pleasant one.


I witness people, who couldn’t hold back tears in their eyes from pouring. I could feel the bitterness whenever they pour out their heart on how they have been enduring a troublesome marriage, for the children’s sake and others reasons.

One interesting thing that catches my attention is the happy beginning of the relationship.
The divorced and those enduring a troublesome marriage were once living happily. None of them ever had the thought of having a failed marriage.
What then happen? What led to the dissolution of the marriage?
For those who are still single, about getting married and those experience troubles in their homes. Here are the 13 tips I have learned that will save your marriages from ending in a divorce:

AVOID THIRD PARTY INTERFERING IN YOUR MARRIAGE:
The marital relationship involves leaving to cleave. It involves leaving of father, mother and all other known relative. When third parties are allowed to have a say, regarding any situation in the marriage, the marriage is bound to fail. Marriage is meant for the matured and both couples should be willing to resolve any situation.

KEEP THE COMMUNICATION LINE OPEN:
Healthy relationships are built on communication. When there is no communication, there is no relationship. Be willing to communicate. And when you communicate, talk about everything and anything with a listening heart.

BE READY AND WILLING TO FORGIVE AT ALL TIME:
We are human, imperfect and bound to offend others. But at the same time, we can forgive without keeping in the heart records of the other partner. When you are offended, talk to your partner at an appropriate time. Never go to bed with a grievance heart.

NEVER HIDE THINGS FROM ONE ANOTHER:
Your partners ought to know everything you are into. Hiding a single thing from your spouse will definitely break the trust in the marriage. Remember, marriage joins couples together as one flesh. And whosoever hides anything thing from his or her spouse hides thing from his or herself. Even your body, you ought not to hide.

BE WILLING TO MEET EACH OTHER SEXUAL NEED:
Sex play a major role in a marital relationship (Not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship please). The day you are joined together as one, you have no power over your body anymore. Your bodies belong to each other. Therefore, be diligent in rendering due benevolence when duty calls for it that Satan tempts not any of you for your incontinency. Read your Bible.

ALWAYS SEE THE BEST IN YOUR SPOUSE:
Due to the different level of exposure, upbringings, backgrounds and knowledge, expect shortcoming from your partner. And for this, pay less attention to the shortcomings and always see the best in your spouse. This is why you are partners- to complement each other. Never try comparing your spouse to anybody.

CONTINUE THE COURTING:
NEVER EVER stop courting your spouse. Never discard any thought that comes to your my mind to please your spouse. Continue wooing your spouse in your appearance, in knowledge, in words, and in action.

MIND THE MANNER YOU MAKE USE OF THE TONGUE:
The sweetest and the bitterest part of the body is the tongue. As small as it is, it is capable of wrecking a happy marital relationship. But when used with caution, it could bring life into a relationship. Therefore be slow to speak!

ELIMINATE SELFISHNESS:
Whatever decision you’re making, always put into consideration the effect it will have on your spouse and the entire family. Don’t think about yourself alone.

SPEND QUALITY TIME TOGETHER:
Couples who spend more time together are happier than those who don’t. Endeavor to create quality time just for you and your spouse alone. Never let the cares for material things deny you of the quality time you could enjoy with the spouse.

ALWAYS BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER:
There are no roads without dust and no rose without thorns. Marriage comes with a lot of challenges. So, therefore, be willing and committed to keeping to your marital vows. Be present for each other in both good and trying times.

RESPECT AND SUBMIT UNTO ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE:
The husband and wife in a marital relationship should learn to respect each other. The husband who demands respect should earn it by fulfilling his role which is to love the wife. And the wife who desires respect for her role in the home should submit to her husband.

ALWAYS STAY CLOSE TO GOD:
Husband and wife in a relationship will face plenty of life challenges that will try and knock them down making it hard to keep a good marriage. But when both couples decide to stay close to God, the marriage becomes a three strengthen cord that cannot be broken by challenges of life.

I am praying that God grant you a blissful marriage.
Don’t forget to leave behind your comment and share, you can save someone’s marriage.

Dear Op, I believe you already have the truth in your heart, but you need people on nairaland to justify you. Well here is the truth, you will always find people to justify you. But at the end, we all we face our judgement alone and no one to blame.

After knowing Christ, you have to do away with the former life style and let your life conform to the doctrine of Christ - one man one wife is one of them.

Do the needful, if you are mindful of heaven that nothing stand against you on judgement day.

Whosoever finds a wife have found a good thing and obtains "Favour" from the lord.

Two head are better than one.

Study the above statement and understand them, it might be helpful. I know of couples who started we nothing. The mount Zion couples, Mr and Mrs Bamiloye are one example. Their story was posted here on nairaland some days ago.

But for men who wants to embark on the marital journey with this amount, ensure you have a vision. And any woman who believes in your vision will stay.

Thanks.

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Association of baby mamas? Just curious

Then salvation and holy living is in vain.

Dear Op,
You see, when God created the marriage institution everything was good but devil ain't happy about this. And this is why he is waging war against marriages so as to destroy God's plan of raising Godly seeds.
But beloved, I want you to know that God desire is that you to have a happy marriage. Do not report him to man, do not compete with him trying to look sexy to work for it won't change his nature (From what you said, he can get want he wants without spending much). All you have to do is to go down on your knees and pray to God the creator of marriage institute. Ask him to make your husband the man he designed him to be at the beginning of creation.
I am praying that you will rejoice again in your marriage.
Stay bless beloved Op.

It is time we need to go to God in prayer for this country. Everything seems to be going worse everyday

It God's natural gift for us. So dear friend, don't fight it, embrace it

Did he escape from a Lion's den?

It is not unusual for parents to use offensive, curse and harsh word on their children. And I want us all to understand the implication of this.

God spoke and things became living. When we speak we give life to what comes out of our mouth. Because you are God’s children you possess the same nature and likeness. Therefore, as parents, you have the power to speak blessings into the life of your children. You are to speak the wisdom that you receive from God to your children. If you speak harsh and negative words to your children, you curse them and those words can become their destiny.

Just thinking aloud

One thing I have observed all this so call prophets have in common is that they always a child, chained they want to cure them from stealing

They both look "gayish" in nature.

When the bible said do not be equally yoked with unbelievers, it wasn't for writing sake. It was written for our own learning.

Thanks every one and have a blessed week ahead.

for my nation.

When no one gives you attention as a celeb, log into your social media account and post anything related to sex. It sure work wonders because it

seems like nearly every one is (fill in the gap) about sex.

They were not of God that departs