BUTCHCASSIDY:


Depends on what's on your mind to say

BUTCHCASSIDY:



Not 3 times in a row man
U can be forgiven a first time,
maybe a 2nd but a 3rd is unacceptable
haba and to think the girl is giving it away like candy on a Halloween night ?
as Mr. Omar would say

digitsolution:


Will advice you to concentrate more on your work, business or education if you school. Get involved with positive developmental things gradually you will get her out of your mind and the rewards are great.

No point chasing her let her go to soothe your Ego psychologise yourself say na d Babe loss and you are way out of her league, anything to remove that ugly feeling of making u feel u are shit cos she is banging every other dude but you (sorry I hit the spot that exactly is what is bugging you amigo)

digitsolution:



Up on all the classy,set, beyouncelike,nicki minaj like, video vixen like set hour glass for States na Naija stuff do u like this? No comment for you bro!

BuddhaPalm:


Bro it's just your ego having a hard time letting go.

Deep down, you feel like her 'rejecting' you de-validates you as a man, and as a big love-vendor. So your ego wants to reassert itself by at least sleeping with her.

Let her go.

BuddhaPalm:
You're not exactly foolish or anything, as most people label you.

Most of us have equally done very 'ineffective' stuff, as I'd rather call it.

When I was 23, I remember buying some girl a fridge - spur of the moment - and a N20K painting.

I did not see her ankle...


Repeat this a number of times - across several chics, and you really really learn that it doesn't work.

Spending money fvcks things up...

Even tiny amounts.

In fact, to sleep with a girl faaaster, you have to turn this on it's head.

You have to get her to spend on you - even it's just N1.

Psychologically, a woman who spends on you has made an INVESTMENT in you. And in her mind, you are now set apart from ALL other men.

It could be a drink (a beer, cocktail or even coke would do). Just make it something she can easily afford.

Personally, what I usually do is tell a girl who is coming to see me to buy me fruits. Oranges or banana.

And if she does this, my chances of tapping that ass rises to 95%.

I kid you not.

(if she doesn't, serve her tap water, and treat her as if she has leprosy ) A girl who won't even spend N500 bucks on you is not someone you want to be seeing.

What kind of men do girls buy things for?

Men they really really like: their boyfriends, husbands, brothers and fathers.

And once she spends on you, she naturally rationalizes that she must really like you a lot to do that.

Finally, spending on women to impress them classifies you, in her brain, as a PROVIDER.

But you want her to see you as a LOVER, so stick to lover things.

donMIG:

Hum huhhahahahhahahaaaa
Chopin necessary guy else u will b tagged LOOSER

donMIG:


She don enter ur head
Normally na girl pose dei say but I still love him after Al wat he has don to me

Guy wake up

donMIG:


Lol...guy y now
Girls full every wia na!
Am on zero tolerance of craps
3tyms is way too much

donMIG:
FALLIN FOR THE SAME SHIT OVER N OVER ONLY MAKES U A FOOL....SORRY KO...3. SEF NA MAGIC NUMBER

drnoel:


How old are u? A full blooded woman is stringing u along and u are on Nairaland complaining. God help me if I not slap am for lap with touch and follow. Who born that person?

cornoil:
Forget abt the babe. Delete her completely from ur memory a everything in ur life. Move on.

eyinjuege:
Op, I would say this verrryyy sloowwlyyy. She's not that into you!!!
Do you unnnddeerrstttand
Just how many times do you wanna open different threads on the same topic and girl?. It's time you moved on for goodness sakes. You win some and you lose some. Shit happens, count your loses and mmooovvveee on!

runnazz:


without a doubt u were... that's why she playing the no sex card from the onset but I wonder why her fcken other guys makes u mad? Not like she's ur gf she may be trying to hold u down tho but come to think of it.. no offence meant,I think the fault is like 80% urs because any naija girl that smokes weed & gets high in ur presence hardly pretends..she's who she is maybe there is something u r not getting right I dnt knw.. who would take a regular weed smoker to meet mom? I won't. don't think any of us would so she cearly isn't gunning for wifey then what d he'll is she holding back d punny for?? or maybe she's d type that counts number of dates before giving it up..just forget about her & d number of other guys she's fcken... it's a waste of good time.

runnazz:



yep she probably fcking other guys...going for gold I meant she's aiming for just good stuff she gets from u & letting her go would be a very wise choice

runnazz:


The girl tough sha, she just dey chop u and no want u to chop her. The way u can win is this.. still be nice to her & make it a point of duty to not be romantic with her or make moves towards fckng her... just be her friend...play her game DO NOT BE MEAN TO HER. make no sexual advances no matter the temptation. Now if u really want to fck her brains out, fck with different pretty ladies and date other ladies in her face but don't change ur attitude towards her except for the NO SEXUAL ADVANCES..you can also just date a single girl instead of many but make sure u do it in her face. Although I would recommend u go for option A (date many gals) cos going for option B(one gal) might make her either try hard to win u or try hard to fck with u one last time and this time really bad. Now say u go for option A' chances are she would still feel she has a chance to be the one main chic and when she does warm up to u eventually which she will in time.. then u can do ur thing. On the other hand she might leave u and claim u are a player who only wants her for sex..but seriously I doubt that cos from ur post she's not that type she's going for gold that's why she keeps accepting to reconnect not luv bruh & and if she's scheming why can't u beat her it... it's a confirmed strategy that works always.. IT ONLY REQUIRES PATIENCE

AfroKnight:


Lol. Why are you trying to paint her like she is not a runs girl. The OP was not plain about his intentions early enough. She is a pure olosho. No doubt. He should have just attached a good reward for the sex, voila! It's only business.

But seriously if he needs a girlfriend then he is looking in the wrong direction. Girls like this cannot be faithful even if they love you back (which is very unlikely).

andromida:


Lol just lol so in your opinion because she is no longer a virgin she should be free and allow you to reap rewards since you have invested in her. Joshhhhh you chose to she does not owe you sex, she is not your wife you are not even in any relationship, you just "hang out" now and then. She makes out because she wants to she does not have sex because she does not want to she may not be playing any games she is just doing what she likes. Is your anger that 'oloso' like her as you've concluded refused to s.ex you?

AfroKnight:
Bro just forget her. You win some you lose some. She's just smarter about these things than you are. Let go bro

AfroKnight:


Lol. Why are you trying to paint her like she is not a runs girl. The OP was not plain about his intentions early enough. She is a pure olosho. No doubt. He should have just attached a good reward for the sex, voila! It's only business.

But seriously if he needs a girlfriend then he is looking in the wrong direction. Girls like this cannot be faithful even if they love you back (which is very unlikely).

ziddy:
Girls who smoke weed are usual bold, free spirits and fun to be around, especially if they're well educated. OP is attracted to these qualities, he got no plans to wife her though.

That babe on the other hand wants him for keeps. She sees a potential bus stop here. Clean dude with cash, yankee in the picture. She knows by instinct that she cannot keep the guy if he perceives her as a 'loose girl'. Dude already does, but she keeps hoping, trying to change that perception, that's why she's playing hard to get.

She will keep coming even if you stop spending money on her, she's trying to settle down! To bang this girl, you have to date her properly, make promises. I don't advise that though, it leads to hard feelings, and might have spiritual consequences, when u eventually dump her, as am sure u definitely will. Forget about the money you've spent and just let her go, cos u're looking for a good time while she's catching feelings already.

andromida:


This is the WHY you might like to look into.

andromida:


Your interest looks flaky one minute you are starting up the next she does not put out and you are quarreling if you can't pursue the relationship without sex as the vision because it seems to be what is putting her off i think you should drop it. Maybe you should get clear on what you want from her seeing as you think she is 'oloso'.

andromida:


Just because it feels that way does not make it true. Sowwie it just feels that way because you've believed you deserve to sex her? because you did this and that and she is supposedly and 'oloso'. She may be staying around for whatever reason you can only keep guessing.

My wonder is why you are hanging around her and giving this non relationship so much energy. You seem very attracted to this chic.

andromida:


Just because it feels that way does not make it true. Sowwie it just feels that way because you've believed you deserve to sex her? because you did this and that and she is supposedly and 'oloso'. She may be staying around for whatever reason you can only keep guessing.

My wonder is why you are hanging around her and giving this non relationship so much energy. You seem very attracted to this chic.

andromida:
Why do you feel she owes you? She does not owe you anything she has the right to do as she pleases if she likes she can be "oloso" or whatever she has not agreed to a relationship with you or to have sex with you. So this is Love

Ephemmm:


Good! No matter what, don't listen to your friends' advice as to whether she is Oloso or not. The earlier you believe that good girls are girls that are never caught, the better for you. Try your luck!

Remember, relationship is like a game: it is either you win or loose. However, you can't loose out totally even if you fail, because good relationship will give you a joyful period while the bad ones shall give you much experience needed to shape up the next.

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Ariani:
dude if i may ask is it a do or die affair dat u must bleep d bitch

Ephemmm:


It can be rectified. The first step for you to take is that you must stop behaving as if your entire life depends on her. If you are the one that have been calling her always, please stop it onwards: if she calls you, don't pick immediately. Make sure you class yourself and make yourself seems busy even if not. If you know how to play your card, you can have sex with her on the first day of her visitation.

Secondly, write of having sex with her from your mind. Is she the only lady in the world? You are blessed and have money to pay for her flight; why suffering yourself on anybody that doesn't deserve it or is her vagina made of gold? A real guy handed not his manliness over to a lady in relationship. If possible, allow her to have a bit of exposure to you having another girl even if not for any relationship.

For your information, women are confused being: they will never appreciate any guy that is predictable. I remember handling a babe like this. Truly I wanted sexual desire badly as at then, but when she wanted to take advantage of this, I have to redesign my strategy. There was a day when she was ready to have sex too and as a man you know it takes less than a five seconds to have erection. But guess what? She was amazed how I rubbished the mood to her astonishment. I intentionally did this to ensure that she has a feeling that my brain control the activities of my life and not erection of 'that thing without any bone'

For you to enjoy any relationship, ladies needs investments too: love is not a unilateral act where someone will be acting and other would be watching. It requires concerted efforts of both parties.

Next time, if she request for visitation, tell her you are highly geared. If she love you truly, she will still visit you whether you pay for her fare or not. That is where her own investment start.

I know from your explanation that you can hardly marry a lady like this: it is an opportunity to explore your world without any reservation or self pity. Take charge dude.

Cutehector:
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