Farfalla:

Those marathon runners are always winning but you don't wanna hear the stereotypes associated with their tribe.

Leos are cool. They're never invisible. You must notice them as they're usually distinguished and command a lot of respect, naturally. True lions.

My zodiac sign is Libra.
Yeah. Yeah. I know. We're flowery bimbos, usually undecided, flirtatious....what else?

Now, I am interested in knowing the stereotypes associated with Ruto's tribe, please spill o. How many tribes are in Kenya? There are so many in Nigeria our diversity can be head spinning sometimes.

Aww.......my head is swelling at your impression of Leos. I'm glad you think so!

Lol 🤣 @ your description of Libras. I know nothing about Libras but my intention was to read up on your zodiac sign to get an insight, which was why I asked. I will do that shortly.

PS: I'm watching a crime documentary where two kids joined their stepmother to murder their own mother. I'm sitting here and thinking to myself, children are truly not worth the stress, one can live a happy and fulfilling life without them fa.

Farfalla:


The thing pepper me die. Any time I file my personal and business tax returns and think of how all that money is being collected only to be squandered on meaningless dockets such as the Office of the First Daughter, I get really mad.

Kenya is just as corrupt as Nigeria.

Oh no, sweetheart, Kenya is more corrupt than Nigeria. Considering the fact that there's an office of the first daughter and we don't have that.
I am in shock and awe that such an office would even be created, the violent protest in Kenya is more than justified for that singular reason alone. Like seriously, what the hell? That guy may have to be taken out through a coup or assassination, because he is asking for it.

There's a prophecy about Nigeria by the late Sydney Elton which gives me a strong hope and comfort about my nation. His prophecy about Nigeria and Nigerians: “Nigeria and Nigerians will be known all over the world for corruption. Your name Nigeria will stink for corruption but after a while, a new phase will come a phase of righteousness. People from the nations of the earth will hold to a Nigerian and say, We want to follow you to your nation to go and learn righteousness.”

Pa Sydney Granville Elton was a towering apostolic and prophetic vessel in the hand of God specifically for Nigeria. This man lived in Nigeria for 50 years from 1937 to 1987, you can say he gave his life for Nigeria. Before he died he made that profound prophetic declaration about Nigeria.

I believe that just as this man saw it in the spirit years back, Nigeria is presently going through that phase of shame and humiliation.The name Nigeria is not only stinking to those afar but as we see today that it’s now having a bad odour to Nigerians themselves, such that many are now clamouring for any other state (japa) other than Nigeria.

Source: Churchtimesnigeria.net

I don't want to copy and paste a link, antispam bot no dey waste time to ban me whenever I do that. I believe that prophecy and the God I know, if he says something it will come to pass no matter how long it takes, he doesn't work according to our desires or timetables. That is why I don't join in with folks who love to diss Nigeria and call it a shithole, they are liberty to hold the views they do, but I know different and I know better than to do that.

Konquest:

@Klass, my pleasure... I'm glad you gained some insights here. I wrote my feedback based off of the fact that I wanted to connect with you and a few readers.

As to the last part, I don't know if being a "wifey 2.0" is your thing? But I get the thrust of what you're feeling.

I'll be going offline in a few minutes.
I enjoyed your feedback here. Talk to you soon.

Ciao.

Oh yes, there were definitely insights on what to do and not do, what can be appealing and unappealing. I meant what I said, your post was an enjoyable read packing a punch.

You had me LOL @ wifey 2.0. So, you are married after all? You are so cunning with your answers, it reminds me of childhood tales of the tortoise in children's story books. 2nd wives have a way of turning a man's head and rocking his world, did you not see the drama with that popular nairalander (Suraj/Jarus)

I have met some sweet gentlemen in my lifetime whom I wished weren't taken off the market already or whom I privately thought I wouldn't mind having this man as my spouse fa. Men are not the only ones polygamous in nature, women just restrain themselves more for fear of what people will say and social conditioning from birth.

I think patriarchy is terribly afraid of what will happen if we weren't conditioned and subdued that way. I reckon the fear of raising another man's child gives all of you sleepless nights

Farfalla:

They were urging Christians to vote for a fellow "brother-in-Christ". He went around smearing Raila's name using what Africans fear most -- witchcraft and sorcery. 😂 He'd talk about Raila's witchcraft powers, talking about how he's a wizard who dabbles in black magic, while painting himself as "a man of prayer". Many fõols believed him. I'd rather he just engaged in his usual shenanigans without invoking God's name. God is not mocked.

Yep, she was right.....there's truly no difference between our countries 😂. Mother Africa......who did this to us? God's judgement of different nations will be a spectacular event to behold.

Farfalla:

Yes o. By their posts we shall know them. 😂

Leos are the people I meet (and bond with) everywhere I go! I know them like the back of my hand. My mother is one and so is my immediate elder brother. The logical Papi I live with is a Leo too, so is my ex. And then for some reason I would get hit on by Leo men more than any other group of men. Next would be Aquarius guys but they were too mean-spirited for me to bond with.

Forget what the thread was about, the original poster abandoned the thread since the threat of exposure. What you shared interests me more than their shenanigans.

You sound more passionate than we Leos sef . Na so the thing pepper you reach? You don't sound like a loser you sound like a citizen who has a lot of reasons to be mad.

You have me so captivated I am reading, typing a response and laughing out loud all at once. I remember when I was in Kenya, our tour guide (a young lady of university age) told us there is no difference between Kenya and Nigeria. In her words she's not sure which country is worse but we appear to be in competition with each other when it comes to corruption.

People who grew up poor have serious self esteem issues I can't understand, they are usually the ones to do the most and the worst when they come into money or their situations change just a little. I am not surprised by what you've said regarding Ruto.

The guy physically fine for my eye sha, I had no idea he is such a rotten soul. Na wao! You get bad mouth sha, see as you just finish the guy and his entire tribe 🤣. You really don't like him and I cannot blame you, at least him and his tribe can run long distance to win marathon races for Africa. I will be rooting for them come this Olympics, because I like it when African countries win a medal at the games.

You engaging back with so much energy and passion has made my day. And kudos to you for bonding well with Leos, we are cool like that, ain't we? What's your zodiac sign? Make I check something.

Konquest:

Hey Klass, how's it going?

K-quest, it is going well. I enjoyed reading your post, it's loaded with valuable information.

Your feedback is appreciated as well, like LR your maturity prompted the mention. You answered the question like you are not married though, I thought you were.

If you are not, come let us get hitched. You know we have the same love language we will be explosive together.......I think.

LordReed:

For me it's her kindness. And it's not just to me and the children, anybody who associates with her always gets a taste of it and it makes me marvel.

Okay, cool.

She sounds like a woman who will never maltreat the help, I like that.

Your maturity is the reason I wanted to see your view.

This is an interesting topic MsFaith. I would like to know and see sincerity in the comments too.

Konquest & LordReed, I am particularly interested in your thoughts on this. Please do share if you don't mind.

Farfalla:

That explains the passion in your posts.

Is that so?

How are you? Were you in Kenya during the protests? Did you join in? What are your thoughts on the current president?

He made a good impression on me when he talked about African countries banding together to have a unique currency, we trade and do business with in Africa, among ourselves Rather than trading or doing business in USD.

But, I think Kenya still buys and sells predominantly in USD or has that changed? He's a fine boy too......I like

Brandiebird:

The second thing I did was reflect on my relationship with the people around me. As we get older we do fall into that “I dey my lane “ mindset but we have to resist that.

I phoned people I haven’t spoken to in years, I volunteered a few hours a week to get to know more people and to put more good into the world. I can’t (or won’t) help op right now but her lesson isn’t lost on me. We are human, we are flawed, and we are all in this together. I don’t want God to use me as a lesson 😫.

I like and I applaud the actions you took after self reflecting. I occasionally self reflect on the relationships in my life too, and sometimes I decide I'm better off cutting out some people. Not because they are toxic or evil but they bring too much drama with them which can be unsettling.

There's a therapeutic peace of mind I experience from not engaging with certain people in my life because of how needy they are, how they love to pry into one's life and affairs, while trying to get up close and personal, too quickly. Then they take offence when you are cool in response to their excessive friendship overtures.

I feel you on the bit about getting older and falling into the mindset of "dey your lane, make I dey my lane." I tend to do that, usually with people whom my soul perceives as being toxic, negative, rude and ill mannered. As I've grown older I listen to my gut instincts and feelings a lot. I don't ignore any signals it sends me regarding people or situations.

However, "dey your lane, make I dey my lane" doesn't mean we can't be pleasant, friendly, polite and helpful towards others. I've found life to be easier and sweeter when I lead that way, rather than leading with a no nonsense commando style. Being friendly is different from being friends with someone, but even that alone, helps more than it hurts.

Brandiebird:
PS I don’t like July Leos, they are weird!!!
I like August Leos though…😂

As an August born Leo, I am flattered to read this.

Stevenbright:

The last one is where my focus is actually that is the possibility that she was working in conjunction with some other people with the intention of defrauding unsuspecting people.

Hmm.......that would be an interesting twist to this never ending drama. Where did you get the suspicion that she may be working with others to defraud? I think some people viciously troll her so it's hard to tell if they are saying the truth or not.

It is intriguing though that she has been silent since Clevagal's post about her operating on other platforms and having numerous pseudonyms. This thread will soon be deleted because of that singular post by Clevagal. I just dey look like lucozade .

Stevenbright:
So, like play like play; this is all scam!!

What happened to all those various accounts, not so good relationship experiences, twinny, phonetic teacher and schools she claims to work with, "my German bobo", federal government grant or the rice palliative, church and pastor, .....

Nigerians Sha... We deserve the leaders we have got because majority of the people are that way!!

Echoke and eshok me!!!

This issue should not just go dead like that. The people who have had close contact with her should out her most especially the "German bobo" etc.

Klass99

Lol , abeg die this woman's matter. I told myself that no matter how tempted I was, I will no longer chook my mouth in her matter. I will quietly read her stories and try to learn a lesson or two from it.

One of the lessons I've learnt so far is that authentic relationships, building good will with others and generally having a good rapport with folks, does count for something.

I recall seeing a post where she said she is a mind my business, do my work, I no send my colleagues kind of person. I am paraphrasing because I can't remember her exact words but that was the gist of her post. You know those kind of people who act like the real OGs, the dey your lane make I dey my lane, kind of people. The sort who basic courtesy and pleasantries are too much to ask for!

All this time she has been on NL soliciting help, I kept thinking to myself, none of this would be necessary if she had a good rapport with some of her colleagues in her past or most recent place of work. One or two of them may have been willing to help and if they couldn't, they may know someone who knows someone with the capacity to help.

But, knowing her, after four market days, she will return with a story of a colleague who wants to throw her out because she refused to follow them to their fetish church. She has used that lie twice now, with two different monikers. She can't even keep up with her own stories, meanwhile some of us read her tales and remember what she previously said.

Mrblessed been off me completely when he said the only advice or comment she likes to hear is send me your bank account details, I couldn't stop laughing the day I saw that post. These days I just read her threads for the entertainment value and any lessons I can learn. Another lesson I took away is that sincerity matters as well.

ojun50:


Bomb dey yr 🧠, you think say na there wish to get one child. You need slap with your question.

Typing:


What stopped you from becoming the richest black man before Dangote?

Mwaah . You both made my day by answering a fool according to his folly.

MasterJayJay:
Recently, a married couple living opposite to our house lost their only child.

How do couples like this move on? The child should be around 14 years before she died in the hospital.

Those that have many children can look at other kids as a consolation. But losing the only child must be very painful. How will they start over to have another child?

Losing an only child can make or break a couple. I'm aware of a married couple who is now divorced after the loss of their child. I don't know the whole story but I grasped that the event put a strain on their relationship, they grew apart and ended up divorced.

To answer the question in your last paragraph, I will say this, they don't need to start over with another child. They should move on by taking solace in each other, continuing to live life as best as they can and enjoying the companionship they have (if any)

Marriage doesn't have to be about children. Why do we always like to make it about children? That couple can simply be two adults taking good care of each other, mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually and financially, without kids, from this point forward.

I'm guessing they are in their late 40s to early 50s. Who wants to be paying school fees well into their 60s and 70s? I suspect you are the one worrying for them and starting over with another child has not even crossed their minds because they are still grieving.

GloriousGbola:


one of the worst things you can do to children, imho, is leave them with their father

a large number of nigerian men simply do not know how to take care of children and will outsource 90% of the tasks to someone else

at best an already old grand mother or at worst one aunty like that

this leaves the children at risk of being molested

own

also, to be much more cynical,about it - children are an unhappy Nigerian wifes long game revenge.

Oh yes, I clearly said the kind of woman I am though, I will not leave and take the children. We will find a way to make co-parenting work. I will not take on that kind of responsibility on my own or by myself, when their father is alive, his hands are not broken and his brain is not malfunctioning.

If he likes he should not know how to take care of children, he will learn by hook or by force or not learn at, but I will not kill myself over that. Sexual abuse occurs even when couples are married and living together under one roof. And the perpetrators are usually close relatives of the wife or husband.

I am not missing the point due to lack of interest in children. I see the other issues involved when women leave and take the children. Taking the children with you as a woman will not eliminate the risks of abuse either, emphasis on eliminate. And we only continue to enable men and their stupid behaviours (like the one about them not knowing how to take care of kids) when we go with the kids.

This martyrdom women are expected to take on for the sake of marriage and kids, is not for every woman, even the ones who are interested in children. Some women are simply not wired for it and others are sick and tired of being told what to do and how to live their lives (which is usually for the benefit of others) We weren't created for tolerance and endurance alone, for husbands and children only. Our lives, hopes and dreams, matter too.

Men like to punish women who leave with the kids by deliberately not providing for those kids. They withhold financial support in particular for their children as a way of hurting the woman. If you like do the same thing when they are with you, in a co-parenting situation, they will see for themselves what a selfish/mean parent you are, without my input. At least, when they come over to my place I will take care of them as best as I can.

What I will not do is take full custody or sole responsibility for them. Two of us procreated, both of us, plus the procreations (children) will all bear the brunt together. I am not wired for that kind of unnecessary suffer head and I refuse to be conditioned for it. Kudos to the women who leave with the children, I will not do it, not while their father is alive.

folake4u:

Seven kisses to you, my Madam.

21 kisses to you, my small madam.

pocohantas:


Exactly. They refuse to face the main issue here and resort to the usual subtle gaslighting of women to stay in unhealthy marriages.

The main issues are women taking on the responsibility of the kids alone after divorce.

Lack of financial capability.

Lack of moral willpower.

However, some go into a wild stage of their lives. So contrary to posts that they are helpless sidechciks, they know what they are doing. They don't want marriage again. They only want a partner. What better man for that than an adulterous (polygamous) man. It is a win win for both parties.

Any grown woman who would resort to sleeping around for 20k to feed herself was never supposed to be a wife in the first place.

You see that your first paragraph ehn! The matter dey weak me, especially when it comes from fellow women.

I hate statements like, it rains every where, there is no perfect marriage, etc. And I am starting to feel a strong dislike for people who push out such narratives because these narratives are false, they can be so misleading and inaccurate.

I talked about this with Farfalla on a different thread some time ago. A bad marriage is like a bad job, you often hear the same narratives in both situations.

I left a bad job for a new and different one, and boy, am I having a great time at the new job. I can't even begin to explain what a world of difference that has made in my life. I feel good, I actually enjoy going to work and doing the work, come rain, sunshine and mad traffic.

Modified to add; It does not rain every where and while there is no perfect marriage, there are excellent and enjoyable marriages. Not perfect, but still sweet and enjoyable, why should I shackle myself to a bad one, in the name of, it rains every where?

Stevenbright:


My point is if he truly so hate what those set of girls are doing, he should also discipline himself. But he has a point too from his response to me, in that he is only paying for the product the seller is hawking!

He is a hypocrite if you ask me.

You can't be condemning people for a certain kind of lifestyle and actively participating in the same sort of lifestyle yourself.

Biko, what is the difference between him and his escorts? Abeg, the guy is a brolosho. That was my first thought and initial impression of him after reading that post.

buJu234:
she is not wrong

just staying the truth that we all know.

i know one that left her marriage over 2years ago with 3 kids in the East, all in the excuse that her husband was cheating.

today she is lagos, fucking any guy fuckable as far they can give 15k and above.

Did she take the kids with her when she left?

Some weeks ago a divorced lady shared her story with a radio station about how she left her marriage taking along their 4 kids, only to end up as a side chic to a married man because there wasn't enough income or cash flow to take care of herself and 4 kids.

She left because her husband was cheating and her advice to married women was just stay in your marriage even if hubby is cheating so you don't end up in a situation like mine. At least even with his side chics you remain the main madam he goes home to.

I had issues with her story because;

1. I will never understand why women feel the need to leave and take the children along, particularly when they lack the financial capacity to take care of them. Did you climb on top of yourself to have those children by yourself? Why are we always trying to be super-women and acting like, na we love pikin pass, more than the fathers?

The kind of woman I am though, I will not play myself that way. I didn't go to your house with children, I will not leave with children, I will leave as I came. And we will find a way to co-parent!

We let men get away with far too much in Naija, let them start feeling the consequences of separation and divorce too, by leaving him with his children and awakening him to the realities of a wife and mother' absence, after all is it not his name they bear? And NL men in particular claim we bring nothing to the table, so leave the table with nothing too when going.

2. Cheating husbands can infect you with an STD, curable and incurable ones. I am personally aware of three women and one of those women married as a virgin, she never cheated on her husband in marriage.

One clown on page two is boasting of picking escorts and fcking around, he is the kind to infect a virgin wife with disease. Chances are, that when wifey is heavily pregnant, and can't satisfy his urge he will still call one of those escorts and take home a disease at some point.

My own is that the day I have to treat myself for an STI and I know I didn't cheat, you better be sleeping with one eye open and that will signal the beginning of the end.

SAMBARRY:
make una dey recycle una genitals dey go dey deceive yourself make pharmacies dey cash out for hiv and std drugs.we need more senseless men like you make our hotel businesses dey sell

You made me laugh.

Stevenbright:

You are also having sex before marriage in the case you cited and the way you classified her also suit you too.

What kind of savagery is this? The guy and his girlfriend may be practicing a no sex relationship until marriage. But, your response to him suggests that is not something majority of men do, want, like or are good at.