salam every one have i missed much?

I saw that someone had shared a boona mohamed poem earlier so I thought I would add my favorite one to the mix

boonaa mohammed for the love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySf0hCJfdvU

interfaith dialogue is a good thing but how did this thread go from what a Muslim girls hart dieresis to such dialogue?? also what is all this about alien cultures?

the western world forgets that the roots of their own cultures and beliefs came out of the Middle East and is so integral to their way of life the two cant really be pulled apart. History is written by the victors and the truth is easily overshadowed!! I find these arguments so annoying, I even had someone ask me why I had an English name lol. Hers was Hannah so I asked her why she had an aramaic name

babybuzx: Salam alaekum. Can a Muslim sister enter a mosque to listen to lectures and not to pray

As someone else commented on earlier it depends upon the particulars of the situation and the topic of whether a woman can enter a masjid has even divide the opinion of some scholars. (please please stop using the word mosque...it is derived from a Spanish word and loosely translates as the house of the mosquito)

My understanding of this issue is that a woman on her menses cannot enter into a place reserved purely for salah, so if your masjid is just open for prayer and no lectures you cannot attend but if it is also used as a center of Islamic learning you can attend lectures and other activities which will increase your knowledge of the deen and simply sit the prayer out. there is a great book which has compiled many of these issues it is called:

The concise presentation of the figh, the sunnah and the noble book by Dr Abdul Azeem Badawi.

also this is a good informative link:
http://www.islamopediaonline.org/fatwa/ruling-permitting-menstruating-women-recite-quran-and-enter-mosque

Sissie: In as much as we are concerned about the persons religion, you should be concerned for yours too.
I.e as a woman, I like to think am smart, if I find his brain wanting its problem for me, what if he wants me to do something and I disobey him often because I think am smarter and my way is better, what if I don't find him attractive and find it hard to do my wifey duties, thereby commiting sins, just like the woman who asked for divorce from her husband because she was scared of commiting kufr, I too am scared of it.

As a man it's easier to overlook so many things, if she gets fat, or loose herself, you can threaten her with marrying another wife, and you can even go ahead and do so, me I cant.
I have to be submissive and I need to know he is someone I would submit to, the submitting becomes easier if I feel he's qualified to have.

And of course he's religion extremely important, I don't want him bringing home money he made in riba ways.

P.s I know men who started looking for second wives, because their wife couldn't keep them intellectually stimulated, and wasn't interested in things they liked. Even though their wife's were good/ok muslims.

very true. the issue about plural marriage is reaching epidemic proportions. Men see the fact that they can marry up to four times as an inalienable right when this is simply not true!! there are strict conditions attached to it and their consequences are very serious. It is very difficult for any man to fulfill the rights of one wife let alone more but they don't seem to consider this at all. this also links back to my earlier point about knowing the figh of marriage. Not many sisters know that they can stipulate in their marriage contract that their husband cannot marry another wife without her consent, or in fact say that such an action would invalidate their marriage.

As for disobeying your husband the likelihood of this can be avoided by marrying a man who you respect and is your intellectual, cultural and social equal as was recommended by the prophet peace be upon him.

i know this is a little off topic but it covers it too


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYuWX0aZFf0

Sissie: Yes it's priority, but it's important to note my question isn't about priority.

You meet a guy/girl you find yourself attracted to the person (beauty)
You start talking and like the way the person thinks, or you think oh he's not too bad, not great but not a no no (brain),
You got talking and find out more about his family and him (family).
You observe how the person view the world and his personality, and you think great or not bad or its manageable (compatibility)
And you think to your self this is nice, and you start looking at the person deeper, observing, look at their character, how they interact, ask him questions that has to do with Deen, and all that tbaba and lala-laila listed (religion) you are ok with it, great masha Allah, it's time to fix date. If your not ok with it you call it quit, and start looking for someone else.

In this scenario, it doesn't mean religion isn't the most important, it's is the most important it's about how we look at it.

Very well said finding out about how someone practices their deen is the most important but not necessarily the first thing which will happen, Just because it might come later down a list does not mean it is not a priority.

This said however, you can loose a lot of time this way too, everything else can be all great and might take some time to uncover and you get to the issue of deen and it all falls apart. a good way around this is to ask people who you trust and respect to recommend prospective suitors to you....This way you already have a reference so to speak and they know that your intentions are serious from the outset.

As Salamu Alykum everyone, I know this thread is kinda old but if you have time time there is a really moving and powerful lecture about the process of death in Islam told in such a unique way that it will leave its mark on you!!

The lecture is by Ahmed Sidkey and is available on Youtube, it is called a journey into the hereafter


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmM0xhel1Y0 (Part One)


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MN_AavfIt20 (Part Two)

deols:

You got me confused at a point. If we cannot be able to classify people and only Allah does that, then we should just choose whoever calls himself a Muslim?

And that is why there should not be too much demands?

Looking back into the sunnah et all would not put demands on the other person?

Muslims today make marriage too complicated

Of course you cannot be implying that we dont know what marriage entails and that our demands are not genuine enough. Please say it loud and clear and you will find me listening attentively as you convince me on that.

On the akhlaq thing, can u explain further?

Sorry for the confusion, I did not express myself as well as i would have liked, trying to make too many points at once.
Someone said earlier that most people pray five times etc so we all should tick the Muslim box....(not their exact words) my point is that there are many who do complete the basic requirements of the deen but only Allah knows how sincere they are and even within the Ummah people can be classed as Muslim, Mumin or Muhsin. So when looking for a spouse why look for the lowest level of faith? Look into their character, conduct and family to try to get a more comprehensive idea of how they practice in their faith. But at the same time One must ensure that their conduct and character can bear up against similar scrutiny. Don't set standards for others that you cannot stand up to!

No, I meant the fiscal demands put upon potential spouses, Islam makes it simple, the meher should be something reasonable...be a monetary amount or a physical object but culture has eroded this principle, I don't know the Nigerian customs that tie into marriage but the cost of marrying in mine is almost prohibitive and is driving may of our indigenous brothers to marry outside (not that inter racial marriage is bad)

Looking back into the sunnah has nothing to do with your prospective partner, I was just trying to urge all brothers and sisters who are contemplating marriage to learn about the fiqh of marriage, so that they will know what their rights, responsibilities and duties are according to the sunnah.

We all think we know what marriage entails but when we look back into the sunnah the truth will blow your mind, and sadly many of us do not know what is required of us in our marital roles according to the sunnah.

Akhlaq just means manners

I can reccomend some great books as their is no way to cover it all in detail insha allah and i did not intend to offend anyone with my comments I will try to be more clear

The deen and your prospective spouse approach to it is the most fundamental thing of all. It is after all the foundations upon which you build your house in this life and the next. Muslims today make marriage too complicated and complex, there should be as little demand put upon each partner, thereby making it easier to enter into a union with each other and it is time that we all when back to the quran and sunnah, before looking for your prospective spouse look at the Islamic laws and akhlaaq which pertain to marriage, do you know what your duties would be as a husband/ wife, for that matter do you know your rights

Its easy to talk about I want someone who looks like this and is a Muslim, but many of us call ourselves by this title but only Allah knows who he will class as a Muslim when we stand before him for his final verdict.....with that I'm off to pray brb.

why an obsession with married women

If you truly have a connection with someone, their offer of marriage will never be boring no matter how simple it might be. One of the best proposals I have ever heard of was my sisters, and all her husband did was ask her if she would do him the honor of being his wife whilst they were walking in a park. That was over 13 years ago and he is still fully appreciative of the honor she has done him and demonstrated this by treating her and his family with the utmost honor, respect and love. Long may it continue and may we all be blessed with the same insha allah

yuck

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Hope this helps you out and good luck in your future studies

sabotage

earing

there are answers for your questions

efia suny:

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, nice talk. u mean sey na wait u hav been waiting since. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, anyway, i waited for almost 2yrs b4 we got marriage. we didn't chop apple.

I have always waited, i really dont get the point of 'renewing' virginity. I believe that there are somethings one only does in the confines of marriage and this is one of them.

out

many of the worst people to have ever lived were non Muslims, so does that make their religions etc bad too?

ppl get a grip

revolver

efia suny:

it is true sha Lala! but were u able 2 wait till after marriage? pls, lets bee raw a little.

I am engaged to be married next year and yes i am waiting

After marriage it will increase respect that your spouse has for you

what a nice thread

I would like Zachariah for a boy and Amina for a girl

the rest i will figure out as i go along

maybe they are intimidated when your all dressed up and find it easier to approach you when your not? the issue is theirs not yours

easement

erudite

usurper

harlos: You failed the game u should start with lagos
Away in which state

ohh noo i guess i am too tired to play

I dont live in Nigeria at all
.....
but if you have restarted the game

States are changeable

grinning

False I live far away

laughter