tiwaz:
Oba of Lagos Rilwan Akiolu, was spotted on the streets of London holding what seemed like agege bread. LOL Abi him no wan chop onyibo food?

http://www.pijangonews.com/2015/09/photos-oba-of-lagos-akiolu-spotted-in.html

I dnt see any bad whatsoever king's holding as long he's human being is bond 2 eat 2 make body active.... I'm sworie 2 say Some pple have head bt dey cnt reason

ednut1:
a teller not a banker , she has no right to be rude to u even if she is tired cos d customer is king. ask your self. if a celeb came into d bank instead of u wud she treat him same way cos of wat u did she suddenly bcame nice. wat nonsense she must be ......

point of correction d both of u also bankers coz u all contributes some quota for d growth n developmnt of d bank

wonder shall neva end!

Nemesis has emerged 2 them.. The so called BH shall face punishment of almighty God for dis cruel n even things

Niwdog: #1.You give meaning to my life.
#2 I can't imagine my life without you.
#3 How do you look so beautiful all the time.
#4 You make me feel so lucky when i'm aroun d you.
#5 You look so cute when you laugh.
#6 I think of you and kiss my pillow before i fall asleep every night.
#7 I love the way you smell.
#8 Spending time with you is the highlight of my day.
#9 You are such a great dancer(even when she can't shake what mama gave to her).
#10 It hurts me most to see you sad.
#11 You make me want to be a better man just so i can be more worthy of your love.
#12 I get butterflies in my stomach when you run your hands against my face.
#13 I start my day with you on my mind and end my day with you in my dreams.
#14 No,you're not fat.you're perfect and just the way i like(even when you know,she is Akpa'akpu)

nyce one.. U cn also supplement: I won't last a day without U

jennylove7575: Na today? Na so we see am o. When them enter my eden dem no dey wan leave o. Even though
God try chase them out, dem go still remain. They are rready to die inside my eden. Some married men Na wah

na so ur "eden" take sweet.. Lolz

eleojo23: Does your mental soundtrack go anything like this?
‘’I don’t want to go out tonight, but Mike will think I’m boring if I stay in.’’
‘’I can’t wear these same shoes I wore last week again – people will think there’s something wrong with me.’’
‘’I’m over-committed already, but how can I say no to John? He’ll think I don’t like him.’’
‘’I’d be really refreshed by taking a day off just to do what I like … but my colleagues will think I’m just being lazy.’’

When we were kids, we didn’t have many things to worry about. We saw adulthood as a place of amazing freedom: when you’re an adult, you can do the things you like and go to places you like. Yeah, so much freedom
But somehow, by the time we reach adulthood, this world of vast possibilities has narrowed. We go to tertiary institution, because that’s what everyone else is doing. Then we look for a sensible, entry-level job, because that’s what everyone else is doing. Pretty soon, we think about getting a house, getting a better car, working towards a promotion … because that’s what everyone else is doing.

What Went Wrong?
Life isn’t supposed to be a dull, day-in-day-out routine where work is bearable and evenings are spent going through the motions: eating dinner, watching television, surfing the net … waiting for it to be time to go to bed, and get up, and repeat it all over again. But unfortunately, that pretty much describes the lives of many people.
Most times we try to show the world we are flawless in hopes that we will be liked and accepted by everyone. In some ways, this is a natural thing: as humans, we’re social creatures, and it’s hard to risk being derided or excluded by our community. But we can’t please everyone and we shouldn’t try. The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our complex emotions, and our authentic imperfections. When we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of who we think others want us to be, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness, and real success.

There is no need to put on a mask. There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. Below are some reasons why you should stop trying to prove yourself to everyone.
I have tried to make a list from articles by persons who have discovered and are practicing this truth. I do hope you will find them useful on your quest for the freedom you seek. Please don't fall asleep on me yet! Ok, here we go...

1. Life isn’t a race; you have nothing to prove.
Everyone wants to get to the top of the mountain first and shout, “Look at me! Look at me!” But the truth is, all your happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing, not while you’re sitting at the top. Enjoy the journey by paying attention to each step. Don’t rush through your life and miss it. Forget where everyone else is in relation to you. This isn’t a race. You get there a little at a time, not all at once.
Let go of the foolish need to prove yourself to everyone else, and you’ll free yourself to accomplish what matters most to you. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that you don’t have to always be and do what everyone else is being and doing.

2. Most people are NOT thinking about you anyway.
Forget what everyone else thinks of you; chances are, they aren’t thinking about you anyway. Everyone is pretty much preoccupied with himself. If you feel like they always are, understand that this perception of them watching you and critiquing your every move is a complete figment of your imagination. It’s your own inner fears and insecurities that are creating this illusion. It’s you judging yourself that’s the problem.

3. The people worth impressing just want you to be yourself.
In the long run, it’s better to be loathed for who you are than loved for who you are not. In fact, the only relationships that work well in the long run are the ones that make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself, and without preventing you from outgrowing the person you used to be.
Ignore the comparisons and expectations knocking at your door. The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. The RIGHT people for you will love you for doing so, and they will appreciate all the things about you that the WRONG people are intimidated by. Bottom line: Don’t change so people will like you; be patient, keep being your amazing self, and pretty soon the RIGHT people will love the REAL you.

4. People’s Expectations May Be Based On A Narrow, Inaccurate View Of You
People make snap judgments in life: they might meet you briefly, and proceed to offer all sorts of advice based on an inaccurate assessment of who you are.
Families often fail to recognize how you’ve changed and grown over the years. They also tend to label you – and it’s easy to end up conforming to these labels because you believe them. They say “Oh, Tunde’s always been the lazy one” or “Chidimma never does anything right” or “Ali never could focus on anything.”
It is your responsibility, and yours alone, to recognize that regardless of what has happened up to this point in your life, you are capable of making choices to change your situation, or to change the way you think about it. Don’t let the opinions of others interfere with this prevailing reality. What you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you. What you’re capable of achieving depends entirely on what you choose to do with your time and energy. So stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Just keep living your truth. The only people that will fault you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.
Your parents or your friends might have pigeonholed you – but you know there’s more to you than what they see. Even if you do have plenty of habits and characteristics that you’d like to change, you have the ability to do that.

5. Your Values/Priorities Could Be Wildly Different From Theirs
This is one of the big problems with trying to meet other people’s expectations: they might have a completely different agenda to yours. You need to get clear about your own values and priorities: then you can figure out what you want to refocus your life around.
Walk your path confidently and don’t expect anyone else to understand your journey, especially if they have not been exactly where you are going. You have to take the steps that are right for you; no one else walks in your shoes.

6. Society’s materialistic measurement of worth is worthless.
No matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone.
They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are. But you know better than that – material things don’t matter. Don’t chase the money. Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive. Go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy. What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth. If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them. Never sell yourself short.

7. It’s Ok to fail Sometimes
If you try too hard to impress everyone else with your “perfection,” you will stunt your growth. You will spend all your time looking a certain way, instead of living a certain way. It’s impossible to live without failing sometimes, unless you live so cautiously that you aren’t really living at all – you’re merely existing. If you’re too afraid of failing in front of others, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful in your own eyes. You have to remember that it doesn’t matter how many times you fail or how messy your journey is, so long as you do not stop taking small steps forward.

8. You cannot Win everyone’s approval.
When you run into someone who discredits you, disrespects you and treats you poorly for no apparent reason at all, don’t consume yourself with trying to change them or win their approval. Don’t ever worry about the haters. Don’t let them get to you. They’re just upset because the truth you know contradicts the lies they live. Period.

Final words: Just know that You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, FINE enough, and STRONG enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you are already VALUABLE.


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Credits to Marc Chernoff and Aliventures.com for some excerpts used in this post.

Very Educating, it makes to be self-esteem n self reliance... Well said

Uchiha Madara: Why is my dude wearing sunglasses indoors, chai!

"You can pay for school, but you can't buy class!"

jst imagine d outfit.. It appears Radical governor.. Anyway, I jst he governs well

Death of my gal friend on 30th december, 2007 tru accident along abuja road. its so painful dat left vacuum in my h@. I missed ha so much, may almighty God 4give ha sin n grant ha aljannah firdouse!

welcome developmnt and good creativity... May God continue 2 strengthen u...

wonda shall neva end.. She knws dat d grandpa has limited tym on earth dat's y she decided 2 married him so dat she cn enriched all his belongs after dealth... Luv one tin tin indeed!

Truth talk...likewise me I do snore wen I gat tired n d best option is to change position.

4 ha caring, loving, kind gesture most importantly gave birth 2 me

wenger too conservative n dat's wot dey deserve...

2nd to comment yeepy yeah

pappy2000: Nice one for her

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