mirababy:

poster,you re sayig what u dont know because u re confuse.your fiancee is not yet Hiv positive so why re u narrating the poor girl?RUBBISH,

Do want me to scan the test result? i could do that if you want.

Radiant:

Is the result out

She is currently involved in fasting and prayers, believing and waiting upon the good Lord for a divine healing.
She insisted she was going to get the second test done after attending our Church yearly revival next month.

osaki:

guy! if that gal test positive again then be very sure u might have it , just have to go for test again 2 to 3 months tym after,u will understand me beta

I thought about that too,
But i have already concluded for the worst, that is why i am here. Soliciting, asking all your advise on how to live happily.
Let our love take us through,

tashanja:

@ Poster
You have my support and prayer: supprt for your obvious bravery and prayer for your safety. My admiration also for your unconditional love for this woman. I also truly hope that her final test result turns out to be negative.

My advice is as follows:
Get a re- test at recognised reputable health institution e.g a teaching or general hospital to confirm both your status, where you should also expect to received counselling (pre & post test) on how to cope & live with the outcome of the test result; whether pos or neg as well as when & where to receive help, in case of the former.

Yes, it is possible to live close to normal life with a HIV pos wife while the husband is neg. and even have healthy normal children; all of which should be explained to you through proper counselling at these type of places I mentioned above. 

These facillities usually have comprhensive free testing and treament programmes (VCT, PMTCT & ART) which are well funded and managed with international donor funds (PEFAR, USAID, GLOBAL FUNDS ) and with whose support you should be able to acheive the mentioned goals. 

Basically, you and your prospective wife would have learn to live positively with HIV/AIDS, in particular accept and adjust to a lifetime of safe sex as well as other safe practices to protect you and your future children from contracting the disease. You would always also have to be emotionally strong and ready to support your wife cope with her own challenges of the disease

Anyway, with love anything is possible . Good luck

I thank you so much for your educative presentation,

The test would be run today, you all would get updated

mama-gee:

It looks as if this poster is seeking for an attention, please guys, don't give it to him/her.

Its a HE,  Yes i am seeking for attentions, elaborate attentions to keep me going.
Thank you anyway for your contribution.

topup:

Before the results come, pray, pray very hard (it doesn't hurt), and it can help put your mind to rest.

You should research the meaning of this, it means that everytime you two want to become intimate and have intercourse that you must wear protection or also contract the virus. Secondly, your children, yes there are drugs these days that can surpress it, but supposed she develops full-blown AIDS in the future and becomes very ill.

I am not saying you should or shouldn't continue with the wedding plans, in fact you are smart for making your own decision but also asking for some advice too, you could google some of this, you'll find a lot of testimonies and hopefully a lot of tips too.

Thanks alot

I hear you all, and i thank you all for lovely advise.

I just do not want to get confused yet or draw up a conclusion.

I keep praying her next test result turns out NEGATIVE, then we shall go back to the
medical Consultant from the Church to re -run the test with them again.

To try the expert professionalism they claim.

Infidelity is out of the question, this am very sure. She is very true to me.

And thought of sex frightens her a lot, beside she is just 24 yrs old.

She needs me now more than anything. Just can not let her go.

Am truly and deeply worried.

She was confirmed HIV negative three years ago before we meet. And was also confirmed HIV negative two months ago.
Just last week, our church was running a free medical services. She decided to join the crowd for a free HIV test.

Lo and behold, it was POSITIVE.

I left the office to join her and we agreed i run my own test too. But i refused the free laboratory test.
We went out to pay for it. The doctor took my blood, and left us at the reception for 30min. and came back with
the report sheet. He presented it to me, but my fiancee snatched it away from me and opened it. Only to find out it was NEGATIVE


I refused to believe that her free laboratory test was correct. Because her result was NEGATIVE two months back and our relationship
has been very intimate and the wedding plan is currently going on, slated for May 2010.

Now she i going out for another test result. Am waiting to get you people updated.

But,  I really do not care about the test anymore. I love her so much and am ready to marry her
with or without the test result. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, she is best thing that have ever happen to me. I know i sound stupid.
But i have made up my mind,  And its my LIFE.

I need your help, your advice on how we can live together happily ONLY, it she turns out positive again,