so I just broke up with him *crying*

But how do I break up with him? What do I say?

Well it seems like he is living with the baby mama because she is forever positing pics of herself on facebook in that house and she openly tells people she lives there.

Halala South Africa halala!! The spirit of OR Tambo is with us! Make us proud boys! Uniting the country once again. Madiba magic at its best! Bafana I Believe!!

@ chikeorji123 yes I think so

But I really love him. I don't understand what happened. Even now when I try talk to him he doesn't answer and on bbm he just reads my msgs and doesn't reply. I'm so heartbroken.

I'm looking for someone to help me. I don't know what to do anymore. My man and I started dating about 4 months ago. He used to live about 45min away from me but we managed. We met online. The first time we met up it was great and we even went to go introduce me to his uncle. He insisted to go through my phone so I gave it to him. He found some old text from my ex bf and he got upset. Since that day things have gone downhill. We used to talk everyday but now we hardly talk. And then beginning of this year I found out that he has a son. He lied to me and told me that its his nephew but he later confessed. And then he moved closer to me in january. Then I found out on facebook that his baby mama is claiming to have moved with him and also to live with him. I confronted him and he just ignored me and disregarded me. I went to go visit his place for the first time then I found pictures of his ex on the wall in the living room for everyone to see. He later told me that its for his son to see his mom face. Everytime I confront him about everything he just ignores me. We hardly talk and see each other. We see each other once a month. And when I want to see him he says he's busy working. I don't know what to do anymore. He's hurt me so bad. PLEASE someone help me!!!

Halala Bafana!!! We are so proud of you today!
Make us proud!!!
PROUDLY SOUTH AFRICAN
May the spirit of OR Tambo continue to be with you! HALALA!

Thank you very much

Hi everyone. I'm south african and he is nigerian from south south. His parents are in town so I'm meeting them this week. I just wanted to get advice because South african people and nigerian people are very different so I don't want to make a mistake. My man has told me what to expect but in a vague way. I just don't want to disappoint her or myself or my man. Its a complicated situation. He has a child and I'm coming in as the woman he wants to marry and I guess the step mother of his baby. So please don't insult me. If you have nothing nice to say then don't say it at all.

Hi. I'm meeting my partners mother tomorrow. She seems to be a hardcore Nigerian women and this is her first son. So should I expect tomorrow taking into account I am younger than him?

I just asked him if he's married or not and he said NO.
So when I meet his parents I will ask the appropriate questions.

I'm so confused now but I will definitely ask him and talk to him.
I will also listen to him as he introduces me to his mom and dad.
I'm bit sure about requesting to see the baby mana. I mean how do I even ask?

And he wants me to meet his parents.

I will see him next week. Thing is he didn't hide anything which is really weird.

He told me himself but I think he is hiding more. But he wants me to meet his mom which I don't understand.

What you mean a sheep?

Yeah I. Gonna ask him to take them down.

I recently found out that my man has a son. So I surprised him and visited him at his home and I found pictures of his ex on his walls. He says its for his son so that when he comes to visit him he can have pictures of his mom around. How do I deal with this situation?

@ mudistr : clearly you only attract cheap things so please keep your sad and sorry comments to yourself.

@ chronique: thank you for your advice. My man has noticed a change in me and has expressed his gratitude and commitment towards me.

I will be in school around the time he leaves. And he has not paid any dowry

How do I greet in his language?

@ Samuel thank. That is the best advice I've been given so far.

No I can't go with because I will be schooling. I'm 23

He says he's going to visit his family.
He's been talking about marriage. He said he wants a baby since I can't give him one now. But he told me he"ll wait

I'm not sure but he's leaving in may.

Any advice anyone?

For 10 yrs and we've been dating for five months.

@ dammyex : well his company headquarters are here in South Africa. But how do I go about asking him about the seriousness of our relationship?

@ chieorji : he says he's ukwuani. But please do help

@ ichidodo yes!

@ outrage : ok responsible and mature. I'm really trying. He just told me his favorite dish is banga soup with pounded yam so I guess I'm getting somewhere.
I just want to make him happy and I feel like I'm Failing because I am not nigerian so I don't know the whole Nigerian women culture . I'm still young so I don't know how he wants me to be.

@ Claremont the problem is I don't want to seem like I'm at his disposal. So how do I cater to him and make sure he still knows I have my own life.