@elwe18, amadice and SirKriz
Thank you for your help!

Fyi

Hello
Please could anybody tell me if 250 000 N for labour and 218 000N for the material is a fair price to plaster this Bungalow.
Thanks in advance!

@jennykadry He still insult them at times. He said: when i am angry i talk bad, some man beat they're wives insted. I didn't  wan t my in law to die, maybe i should have shut my mouth.

@Blueice4re Monday they call: mama is ill, she is in hospital. Five days later she was death.

A while back i asked for advice because my husband and my family don t like each other. The problem seemed solved for a longe time, but, it was last year, my husband  caused my mother so bad: he wish her death. I told him to be careful with his causes, maybe it comes back to him. Now his mother died suddenly

@priobaba
Thanks for asking! I try not too take it to serious when my man talk bad about my parents, when my head get hot, i simply go out of the room. Last time when he start talking about my mom, he stopped it fast when he looked at me.
Thank you for your advices, you are a pro!

@MRbrownJAY No, my father never say any racist remarks to my husbands face. He just act diverent when my husband is around. My father cannt tell people what he thinks/feels, he is always talking in somebodys back.

@pirobaba Tanks for your advice, it make sens.

@panteleonk I dont think all Nigerians are the same. My husband travel to europ when he was thirteen. Since this time he only travel once to Nigeria and I doupt that he marry that time. And if there is an Nigerian wife, I doupt she would welcome him back with my kids! You coment is full of negativ thinking.

Thank you all for respond
@ chaircover God forgive me but I alrady insult his parents ( I use his mothers demanding for money) and it lead to a horrybel fight. I will never try this again!

@ Akuviv and Meldrick thanks for the wise words!

@top5000 no, in the beginnig of our relationship everythin was OK. But since about half a year he is like that.

@MrbrownJAY if he insult my father in his present, is OK for me, my father deserv it at times. but why is he insulting him only in my present and make me feel like I am the problem. It is not my cause that my father is a rasist.

@FBS My husband told me that one of the worst thing my father did, was when he visit us and open my husbands pot ( he was cocking Egusi for his frinds). My husband dont like the way he steers at him somtimes. He is also angry that my mother never take our kids for a walk.

@ origina9ja yes he drinks, he started after the birth of our lastborn. He limit it to 6 cans a day. I always try to stop him from drinking what lead to other quaralls.
He life in europ for more than 10 years, and I dont think he sould still have problems with the cultural differences, abi?

Maybe he is really tierd of me. But I will not leave him. Like Akuviv say God dont like divorce.

We life in Swiss and yes we have three smal children together. The kids love theyr daddy, they also love theyr grandparents. He insult my parents in theyr present too, but they are to small to understande all the bad bad words.
Maybe I have to close my ears for his talk about my parents and swallow my anger. Maybe he will stop it one day.

Hello everybody,

I have a big problem with my husband. This problem is destroying our marriage.

I am a whit women, married with an nigerian man.  My father never accept our marriage. I mary my husband because I love him and only him, I am sad that my father never accept, but I still want to live my own life. From the first day I introduced my husband to my father, we know my father have a racist attitude.

Now to my mother, my mother is a verry gentel person, but she have some mental problem, because of thes problems she can´t help me (like taking care of my children, or give me addvices for my marriage). Now every time my husband sees grandparends taking care of theyr grandchilderen, he say that my parents can´t do that, in fact they can´t suport us in any way. My husband is insulting my family all the time and it´s hurting me, because they are my parents! I tell him many times, that he have to accept our situation and forget about my parents but he keep on talking verry bad about my mothers mental health and my racist father, by doing this he is also insulting me. I love this man so mutch I don´t want to lose him becaus of my parents. Do I have to brake up any contact with my parents, to stay with him or what could I do to please him?