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Now do you think this is just a coincidence? No! It's obviously a FACT! You must agree with me that a fact is established by series of constant research produce same result. Parents are depressed and will certainly get depressed if they are not right now because of feeding challenge. That is not the news actually. Here is the news! There's a solution.

A problem can be averted once you have the solution but without that solution the problem continues to exist. That solution is only know by 5 people in Nigeria Dangote, Okonjo Iweala, Adenuga, Bishop Oyedepo and Myself! Don't ask me how I got to know about it. Just ask me for the solution. No! Am not going to tell you for free! Even father Christmas charges kids Lol! I charge a token of 6300 naira to reveal to you this life saving solution. And if you feel what am going to offer you is not worth your 6300, then this offer is not for you. Am only willing to offer this package to 50 parents which is why that price is there to act as a check mate, reasons best known to me. Here is the better part of the goodnews, I collect your money, keep it safe and give you this life changing offer and after a month if you are not satisfied with what you get I will refund your money to you and you have every right to sue me for time wasted. Yes! That's how I operate.

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Hello sweetie,

Am here again, this time to give you something that will be helpful in your relationship as usual. Come with me



The dude from your last relationship started loosing interest in you at some point? I mean he started exhibiting some weird attitude right? Just few weeks into the relationship those attitudes were not there but it started growing on a daily basis. Finally you felt a fence between you two and gbam! The relationship was over!



You have tried all you can to no avail? Infact your every move irritated him. Calm down! I have been through such in the past and I will show you why he acted that way and tell you 3 simple but yet unknown things you've done in the past that you should never try again in your future relationship with your crush so he don't loose interest in you again like your ex did.



O yeah I know that many dating experiences is different but there are some common issues that everyone must avoid in a relationship. These common but very important things are what I will pint out to you my dear. Come with me. Take a seat.


1. BEING TOO CHATTY OR BORING:

You see that saying that 'too much of everything is bad'? It applies to this point. But too much of money is not bad o *winks*. Ok, let me show you how this point makes him START loosing interest in you. No matter how smart and interesting you are do not dominate the whole conversation. Don't get talking and talking alone and when your date wants to drop a sentence you snatch it from him with phrases like ' exactly!', ' that's my point' etc and rush into talking without allowing him to contribute.
Such will make him bored! We both know that no one like hanging out with anyone that loves the sound of their own voice more than anything else. Heey sweerie calm down! Chill a bit and let him air his own views. It gives him a sense of belonging and acceptance. Yes, you might feel you are being interesting and funny but no, you are blocking that thing which creates a bond through discussion.



Being boring is just the opposite of being too chatty! Common girl don't go all mushy and soft like a sea animal! Flow with the conversation. You see, your date actually want someone they can connect with and not someone that will just fill the space of time, and even though you offer him the best of sex that is the only interesting thing he can connect with you, most times that date of yours need a companion he can talk to, a man's brain is not wired towards sex alone, he craves a chat mate and if you can't be that chat mate he starts looking somewhere else and soon the vibe dies.


Yeah I know it's not easy to be less boring but maybe you are with the wrong guy, get connected with someone who gat some mutual interest. Don't be boring! I know you don't like boring dudes so why be one yourself?


2.ROMANCING THE PAST
Come here sweeri do not bring the experience of your past soured relationship into this fresh one! If you do! He will loose interest, walk away and leave you dejected as your ex did. Dump the past, embrace the present and worry little about the future. No no no am not some motivational speaker jooor. Now come closer let me tell you why this act will make him loose interest in you. Clinging to the past have a way of making you unconsciously compare your crush with your ex and no one on planet earth have I seen who agrees that they love comparism. Over 5 years into my profession as a love doctor, I have never encountered anyone who accepts that they love comparism. So my dear when you cling to the past you'll unconsciously start comparing your man with your ex telling him how your last relationship got soured because of one reason or the other. I mean he will find it irritating and feels you have so much emotional baggage hanging on your shoulders.


Another reason why you shouldn't behave this way is that it makes it hard for you to accept your mistakes because you're busy comparing your crush with your ex and you will unconsciously not know when you have fuccked up, and once you do you won't have the ability to say sorry. Let me tell you what many of your fellow ladies don't know, the ability to say sorry is so sexy to men. I mean saying sorry when you are at fault o not when he is at fault! If he is at fault my dear don't bother apologising because it will make you appear insecure which is another turn off to the male folks. Are you sinking all these into your pretty smart skull? Always learn to say sorry! Bring down that goddamn pride and say sorry! Don't try to make a joke out of it because
1.No one love when you offend them, they may act like it doesn't matter but inside them they are sulking.
2. When you fail to say sorry but try to make a joke out of it what happens? He feels mocked! If your man behave like that to you, you surely must feel mocked. You will feel he is playing on your intelligence so my dear don't be a perpetrator of such.

Another thing this point makes you to do unconsciously is to make you erratic and indecisive. What do I mean? You have a date with a guy and because you want him to appreciate you unlike the dude from you last relationship then you show up a hour after the appointed time thereby keeping your crush waiting! My dear you are not making your self worth any better, you are not being funny and irresistible, you are simply being rude and selfish. No one will love to date someone who don't consider their feelings so don't be an indecisive person by cancelling dates at the last hour, if you can't make it let him know on time! If you behave like this constantly your crush will feel you are not interested and will outrightly start loosing interest.


3. OVERT JELOUSY


You just have to agree with me that no one loves being with someone who is outrightly jealous! No no no! Am not saying that you should not be jealous, infact jealousy is an important stuff in every relationship (Even our God is a jealous one) but when it becomes super obvious! Girl you start killing the vibe! Why feel so insecure? Why track his every movement? Give him some space! He has some other people in his life before he meet you so don't try to colonize him and don't allow him colonize you either, let it grow gently. Don't get jealous when he has done nothing to make you feel jealous ok? No man actually wants a person who they will be convincing and petting on a daily basis that they aren't cheating on them! It's a whole lot of a big credit unit load,
Learn to deal with low self esteem because that's actually what breed jealousy, don't be comparing your physical beauty or intelligence with other ladies! That things have a way of breeding low self esteem like fertilizer and low self esteem on its own breeds overt jealous because you will always be feeling you are not good enough so he is going out with other ladies better than you. So don't be overtly jealous! Take your time, develop yourself and be a super girl and he will never loose interest in you!



Still under this context you have to learn how to focus more on developing yourself into a smart lady so that you don't spend all your time blushing and getting mushy thinking about your crush. Yes! I know he's cute! It happened like magic how you guys are now together so for that reason you want to keep a watch on him so he won't loose interest. Hello babe..m don't do that because you will end up getting that which you are avoiding» He would loose interest, men love what they earn not what is tossed at them. Hope you get that.
Till next time I would love to stop at this point.

PS: I know am not so steady due to the nature of my job but I believe with time I will get a manager who can be assisting in posting most of these articles which will go a long way to help you.
PSS: I would love to connect with you all so don't fail to drop your questions or inbox me if you don't feel secured here

Peace

lovelygurl:



What about submission? Besides you can't get anyone to get serious with you. They are not dolls. Honestly it's an insult to the man and also the woman who will do everything just for a man to take her serious. Where is the self worth?

Don't get me wrong I really love wgat you are doing bit I don't like the reason and goal behind it.

What about submissive? I guess you are getting the whole stuff twisted up but once there is commitment there is submission, note that submission in this context don't refer to slavery ok?

And yeah! We can get one to be serious with us, I know you won't love a man who plays with your emotions. You won't want a husband who cheats around! You won't want a boyfriend who is not committed when you feel he should. Thanks for your time dear

lovelygurl:
Omg I love this. Don't mind the whiners. I think you are right. It all depends on where you grow up BUT getting him committed and submissive is bullsh*t. I mean why, for what reason? He is not a baby. I agree with your points but I don't agree with your goal

Committed and submissive here does not mean he should be your slave!

It means he shud get serious with you and be in charge

Here is a dictionary definition my dear


Noun (plural commitments)
The act or an instance of committing, putting in charge, keeping, or trust, especially:

lovethchioma:
I have liked your page... can you add me to the FB group?

Yeah I saw you have wait for the appointed time my dear

Janeyinspires:



Men and ego are like con-joined twins.And underlying therein, is the emotional aspect of them them craves to be indulged.They love petting,playing.They love it like bad when a woman calls them 'baby.'
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Do I have a witness there? I'm keen to know the deflating process,MrsAdadinmma.

Take a chill pill it's on it's way have you liked the page which is a pass to being added to the closed group?

Before I continue I would love to address some issues arising from this thread.

I mentioned specifically that this thread is meant for the ladies I wonder what all the men I saw here came doing!

Hello dear man you are allowed to read if that will please you but commenting is not just cool!
This thread is just for my ladies! I want to have a heart to heart talk with them!


I am new to this platform, am more familiar with facebook so with time I will be able to adjust to the audience here. For those that felt insulted by my replies, you asked for it! No apologies, but if you insist then inbox me and I will consider apologising!




Ok! Here we go with the second part!





WHAT THE MAN REALLY IS.

From the story of Taiye and Kehinde you'd notice that the male has been made to ACT so as to be accepted as a man but is that what he truly is? NO! The man is an emotional being, yeah weird as it may sound that's the true. He wants to express his thoughts but is always afraid of the negative response he will get so he rather hold that thought to himself unlike the woman who was trained into shielding her thoughts and emotions.



Any man just like you babe wishes to be pampered but will never make it known because the SOCIETY will see him as weak. Once a man is being seen as weak it pricks his ego. An ego he has toiled many years to build and because he don't want such to happen he keeps his wishes, dreams, thoughts and emotions to himself so that he will be SEEN as a MAN. But that is not who he truly is! He is a human being just like you who loves praises, care, and petting. A man can cry! He got tears in him but the society have made him seem a block who should not cry as the woman do. The man wishes he can cry. These are things I have learnt from men I interview over the years of my profession.



Whenever I counsel men, I penetrate their psychology (My book will show you how I do this) make them feel at ease with me and make them see me the way they see their fellow men. This I do by deflating their ego subtly and before long you'll see him get all emotional and speak openly things he felt is not right for his to say. Over a hundred men have cried before me during a counseling session so I know what am saying when I tell you that men are not really what they seem. It only takes you to master the art of penetrating his psychology and gently deflate his ego and you'd see the man behind the mask. You've got a role to play sister!



I will love you to connect with me on facebook by liking my page https://m.facebook.com/Guaranteed-guide-to-get-him-commited-814337722054396/?ref=bookmarks

For each of you that like the page you will be added to a closed group where I will guide step by step to getting your man committed to you!

So don't forget to like the page if you are interested in the coaching classes that will be holding in the closed group.
PS: you liking the page is your password to be added to the closed group as I won't want to get anyone who is not interested added to some group.

Peace! I remain Dr Adadinmma


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Rukkydelta
lovethchioma
Janeyinspires
funmisticqueen
‎MissCuppy
NotOfThis‎

Janeyinspires:
*Clearing a space to pitch my tent* Yea yea,I can totally relate to the stories cited.Only yesterday,I told my 6 y rold nephew to stop crying,be a man.Lol.Really he needed to stop it,cos he's started acting like a girl(crying is a girly stuff.Crying to be heard or get attention.Now who said that?Not me!).Crying at every little thing.Makes me wonder if he can stand and be the man he ought to be-tomorrow.
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Hope we don't derail the purpose of this thread with arguements.Aside the reference to Biblical teachings-God created man first,made him the head.The reason why society has buried the gender expectations into us is because of our biological distributions.My view.The physical distribution in men makes society apportion some expected behaviours from them.

The physical distribution in men? To some extent you are correct but do not the male and female posses same parts of the body? Tell me one thing a man has that a woman does not have, either in excess or reversed

DaniDani:
Another feminist on the loose. You coward Nigerian feminists have been warned to relocate to USA where you can freely practice and apply your feminism but you won't listen. As long as you are in Nigeria and Africa, you are all subjects to men. No matter what you think you are, no matter the influence of Western culture, you feminist wannabes will end up under our control and service us in za oza room...

menxer:


Another biased feminist.
How different are you from the male ego you are dissing?

I thought feminism is about equal rights and opportunities for the female folk but it is more like usurp the male role and put him down.

@bolded, make that "naturally more beautiful."

Both of you surely did not read al through!

You dumbheads just come to the comment section and started making claims of Feminism.
Rea through again and point out your assertions. Don't be sily

uzoclinton:
Men are very impressionable you can mould one into anything you want him to be....

You sound like an Elite!
Different from other guys here. Kudos

LordIsaac:
Your write up is gender biased. Can you trace the primary duties of a woman biologically? Plus, can you critique the rationale behind the payment of bride price and not groom price? Leave society put of this, even in the animal kingdom, the male is superior.

Your write up is gender biased.
Helo dear LordIsaac
I will love you to point out any line where I was biased


Can you trace the primary duties of a woman biologically? Plus, can you critique the rationale behind the payment of bride price and not groom price?
The primary duties of a woman biologically is same with that of the man just that the male was groomed into what he is at childhood we all have same reasoning just like in my story but as we get groomed separately we loose that natural behaviour.

Do you know that India do pay groom price? In the North when one gets married it's the woman's family that provide the properties so you can agree with me that culture and ethics varies but the natural behaviour remains even though we strive so hard to thwart it.


even in the animal kingdom, the male is superior.
Are you an animal to know that? Do you communicate with animals? Or are you working under assumption?

Remain in peace dear...
NB;I called in the ladies and you came rushing in to post your thought, doe this thread in anyway poise a threat to your personality?

WHAT THE SOCIETY MOULDED MEN INTO.


I will like to use a real life story to explain this for better understanding. Many years ago while I was still a secondary school teacher in one of the states in Nigeria. I was teaching Chemistry to my students when the discussion drifted to 'what are your life ambitions?' they started giving me normal teenage answers and out of the blues a boy told me 'I will like to have a wife who will always cook for me, wash my clothe and give me children' I was not really stunned until I asked 'So you will like to control your wife, and he gave me an assuring 'yes' for an answer and I decide to throw the topic to the class. 'Men and women who are superior!' and I got a louder 'Men' than 'women' even though the girls were more in my class, which means even the girls believe that the men are more superior to them. Not satisfied with this mentally my students have, I decided we argue it out so I called up Akudo who happened to be one of the smart students in my class and asked her 'Will you like to be controlled by any man?' and her reply is as same as yours. 'No' she replied me and I called up Binta, another bright female student and asked her same question and she also replied me in the negative. 'See none of the ladies here will like to be controlled by any man so why will you wish to control your wife?' I asked Chizuru- the boy who stirred the argument with his statement and he replied that 'men are made superior by God' I knew he has been convinced by the society for him to bring God into the matter, so I went ahead to ask him a simple question.
'Did you in any way choose your sex while in your mother's womb?'
'No' he replied.
'So imagine you were not given birth as a male but a female will you loved to be controlled by any of these boys in the future?' I asked and his countenance changed as he lowered his eyelid and muttered
'No' in a defeated voice.
Yeah I came to teach chemistry but ended up in discussing gender issues but that sparkled up the class and that little experience made an impact in the mind of the teens no matter what, if you are a teacher note that sometimes issues like this should be raised in the classroom to help alleviate the ills being passed down to the teens.



From the above story you'll realise that the male ego is not something that the male is born with, it's something he was moulded into. Imagine my student Chizuru, a JSS2 male who at that tender age have already have been ingrained with the mentality that he's got an ego to protect by being superior to the female gender. None of us have power of choice over our sex so why should a particular gender be accorded with a higher reputation than the other even when the female gender is naturally more brilliant.



Here is an in-depth analysis of what the society have moulded men into. As much as am going to make this aspect of my teaching short and straight to the point, I will like to present it to you in a very simplistic manner. When children are given birth to, they are raised in the same manner and treated as equal until a later stage, the training differs. The female grow up trying to be like the mother while the man grows up trying to make the mother become proud of what he is.



Do you catch the drift? They sound almost alike but are quiet different. Now here is a short story of a pretty lady like you who gave birth to a pair of twin- A BOY and A GIRL on a warm cosy sunday evening. Both kids were nurtured as every other kids were nurtured and ytaken well care of and they were named Taiye and Kehinde. Taiye being the male and kehinde the female. Few years on they started schooling. Whenever Taiye and kehinde are playing crazily their mum will scold at kehinde 'Look at how you are playing, don't you know you are a girl?' and to Taiye she'll say 'remember you are a boy, better reduce the way you are play'. Someday while they were returning from school something bad happened and they were both crying, on getting home the mum inquired what went wrong and they told her. Here are reply. To Taiye the boys she said 'How can a boy like you be crying? Don't you know that men don't cry?' and to Kehinde she said 'Come here my dear, clean your tears ok? I will make sure I get things even with anyone who make you cry'
Whenever they complain the mother will rebuke Taiye saying 'You complain a lot, don't you know you are a boy?' and to Kehinde 'Don't worry my dear, I will see what I'll do'
They grew up into adult always being cautioned in different ways, Taiye always got the 'Don't you know you are a boy? You shouldn't do like this or do like that while Kehinde always got the 'Remember you are a girl, you should behave this way and not this way' Taiye grew up into a man who is supposed to shed his emotions to avoid shame and act 'Manly' while Kehinde grew up into a lady who is supposed to be prime and proper and always express her emotions without any shame. Same twins, one mother but different orientation!



Is the picture getting clearer at this point? O yeah it is!
From the story of taiye and Kehinde you'd realise that the male ego starts getting breeded by the mother of the male. Thereby the man grows up into what the mother will become proud of while the female grows to become like her mother! The man is not supposed to show emotions, not that he can't show emotions, the man is supposed to act strong not that he can't be weak. This is what the society have moulded the male folks into, but is this what the male actually is? No! That takes us to the second approach of understanding the male psychology- how he thinks, why he thinks the way he thinks.


Keep a date with me tomorrow for the real deal


I want to be sure someone is reading this so I would love to entertain your questions, just drop them here and get the best advice, I still remain Dr Adadinma The relationship counsellor
Peace

I have been busy lately with relationship counselling but I remembered I have some people here who can't get access to me physically so holla!



WARNING
This post is not for sluggish ladies.


Welcome here, take your time as you read this part. You ought to know that before you train chickens you must have some knowledge of chickens, you can't just engage in a fish pond business if you have not studied about fishes else all your money and time will go down the loo.



Same here, you can't learn how to tackle the male ego without a sound understanding of your subject - MEN! In this thread am going to lead you into an unbelievable journey into the men's psychology. How is thinks, why he thinks the way he thinks and... wait! Have you ever pondered before and ask "What do men really want?" o yeah! You have! We all have! At some point before I gained full knowledge about men I used to ask this same question. Now am here to give you a simple answer to that complex question. For me to do this in a very interesting way that will make you understand fully, I will be breaking it into two parts. They are:


* What the society moulded men into


* What men really are.
Let's take on the first.

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FelixFelicis:
OK, Nice read, but where's the format they'll use to collect the money? And shey na MoneyGram?

You succeeded in being FTC boy, this is a sign of victory. Go for thanks giving

Finally Exposed : How to make Nigerian men spend money on you without demanding for sex
Yes!
It's possible for a man to spend money on you without demanding for sex!


Disclaimer: Every man has a different mentality either because of his nature or nurture so there may be an exception to the rules am about to give you but relax this rules have worked over the years and will still work on mist men especially Nigeria men.
Ok girl, you are this babe that needs one or two things to do with money but you are not ready to trade sex for money, then this stuff is for you. Probably men always come to you, offer you lots and lots of goodies and ask for sex in return but you don't feel you should give in for some reasons best known to you, then you need to read this.

I love going straight to the point, the rules are just 3
1. Be Natural
2. Act Independent
3. Amuse him


Ok those three rules up there will not only get any man attracted to you but will also make him spend money on you without asking you for sex. If you offer sex to him he will count it as joy not as his right. Ok let me strip the content of each of this rule so you'd know how it works.


1. Be Natural
The natural is one who attracts people's admiration to themselves. When we see a child, we unconsciously like that child and feel at ease and at peace with the child because the child acts so natural. There is something about children that makes us put down our defence. We don't try to impress a child, we don't even expect anything from a child rather we feel happy helping a child and making a child happy.


Adopt the natural nature of a child and see men spend on you because of the likeness they have for you and not because they want to lure you into sex.


How do you do this? Act natural! Don't try to impress him, behave the way you'll behave in front of your females. Admire him with innocence, don't go throwing any pranks that he will misinterprete as a 'green light'. Laugh heartily and always appear happy, let your presence give him a sense of peace and happiness.

How do you achieve this? When he compliment you, don't sneer or pretend you did not hear him, don't blush also. Just simply thank him with honesty, this will make him realise that he's not the first person that is complementing you.



When he dresses nice compliment him and when you feel what he's putting on is not so great let him know, don't try to impress him! Tell him it doesn't fit him. Now you must know you have to do this with concern and honesty not arrogance, there should be a smile on your face when you let him know this don't go frowning like a bitch while talking to him, it will disgust him and he will tag you arrogant.



When you two are together and he hints things about sex using metaphors act like you don't know what that mean. Ok here is a great example that happened to me personally some years ago when I was trying to sexting a guy. We got chatting and I was chipping in some naughty words that hint on sex. I told him
"My pu*sy is damp" (yes! Am quite a naughty girl)
And he replied naturally
"Awww so you have a pussy cat and I never knew"
That line sounds so stupid but it worked on my being, The sexual appeal reduced. Why? He acted like he doesn't know what 'pu*sy' in my content means. He finally got me laughing and not feeling Hot with the way he chatted so naive and I swore I would have sex with him someday! And yeah! Don't ask me if I finally succeed.



Ok! Here is another example, he's chatting with you and he says
'My cock needs you'
You could just reply 'woow! What colour is your cock?'
He will probably reply 'Black' or 'brown' or whatever his cock is.
You simply reply him in a sarcastic way like
'I love the using cock feathers to tickle people's ear'



This sarcastic reply will make him believe you don't know what he actually meant. Such replies makes guys believe you are naive and not exposed to the world of sex. And most guys naturally don't like asking a girl who is naive for sex. You doubt? Then listen to Falz 'Soft work' where he say '...a girl that already knows the koko...' most guys wants sex with a girl that already knows the 'Koko'
NB: You must not dare to apply this rule to a man you want to have sexual encounters with because he would be shocked when you suddenly turn naughty. You can only switch over from being a natural to a naughty girl by letting him believe he is seducing you into a bad girl.



2. Act Independent
As I will always say, nothing turns a man on like an independent woman! He respects an independent woman so much even though he will never say it. Yeah! Men don't express emotions that much, but inside them, they acknowledge truth.



If you are independent and focus driven men will love to spend money on you without asking about sex because they'll feel you are just a unique lady and to win a place in your heart they'll want to invest in your dreams!
Am sure you have heard when some men say 'That girls is smart, I like her' they just like the girl and for that reason they always don't say no when she ask for assistance.



A man once told me 'You see that girl? I can send her money if she ask me for it but you see this one? Never!"
I was surprised and asked why and he says the former hardly ask for money while the later always demands for everything. Don't be a pest girl! A girl who asks for nothing gets everything.
Don't do mistakes other babes do! Get exceptional.

3. Amuse him
We all are freeks for amusement! Entertainment and pleasure! This is one secret the organisers of Big Brother Nigeria know about and utilized it fully! Don't you wonder why the have so much audience even when many people feel the show promotes immorality? This is because human beings love reckless entertainment! Get creative! Learn to amuse him!
Most girls make that mistake of only allowing the guy to amuse them or they get bored. No! Turn the table towards you! Make him love and appreciate your presence by entertaining him!
Do you have a good voice? Sing for him! Make him wonder how you do it!
Can you dance? Entertain him!!!
Play reckless games like 'Truth or dare' with him.
Give him gist that will make him get so interested in you and when you see he's beginning to fall, flee! Give him space and watch him chase you. Why will he chase you? Because you are so active and entertaining! Your presence makes him feel at peace! You are not like every other girls.
As he's chasing you to get back your attention he'll be spending on you unconsciously not to have sex with you but to have you back as his friend!
NB: These rules work like magic only if you adhere strictly to it and practice it!
You can always get a deeper analysis about men in my bestselling book for the Nigerian woman which many women possess but will never show you because they don't want you to know what they know.

Peace sister.

FitnessDoctor:
Very great post... But to change the male psychology, the lady needs to have a life first of all...

Most ladies are not interested in being big and creating businesses for themselves... They just want to find a small job to manage and when husband comes he will bring in the big fish...

How can a lady like this change a man's psychology when her own psychology is flawed??

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

The few who will not want such will surely value this post.

QueenSuccubus:



Hahahhaha....then what about if the girl will keep pestering her man to have sex instead?

That will be for another thread.

TheSlyone2:
Sorry OP, in an event where it the other way around, what should he do?


Abi dem tell you say na only guys want sex??

Yeah I get the angle you are coming from my dear, you see this thread treats the female angle which is what am specialised in.

When the female pester the male, the male always have a way to deal with it probably I'll invite my colleague to this platform so he can talk on that.

Over a decade as a female counsellor in relationship matters, one of the most raised up questions I always tackle is he pesters me for sex
HOW DO I TAKE HIS MIND AWAY FROM SEX?

For this very reason I wish to address this topic on this platform where I believe I will be reaching out to lots of ladies out there.

Yes! He walks up to you, he looks attractive and responsible, you are attracted and few days into the relationship he's asking for sex, he's not the first neither is he the second guy and he will not even be the fourth.


These guys are not useless or irresponsible, no! no! No! My dear he is just being a human. The male's psychology have been aligned to think about sex with various women as an achievement. Yeah! I know he shouldn't have been allowed to allow his brain get aligned in such manner. The society upbringing have done some damage now it's time for you to REALIGN IT he's like a computer and will give you what you give him! It's a garbage-in-garbage-out kinda game, you gerrit?


Sit with me my dear sister..
Ok...
Now let's work it out
Do u like him?
But feel it's too early?
Sharp! Here is what to do!
Now you have to strike him
How do I mean?
I mean you have to make him get interested in you and not sex
Have you tried? Really?
How did u try?
What did u do?
You tried talking to him like making him understand?
Nah!
That's not how it works


You have to understand something about the male psychology.
That guy is actually having the 'male ego' issue
How do I mean?
This is a disorder that makes him nurture his ego by having sex with any lady he feels catches his interest. His success in slaying ladies boosts that ego of his.


Now u must learn something...
U must learn how to deflate the male ego and get him interested in you fully but that shit takes some effort. For him to be interested in sex so fast means you didn't engage his mind in something else about you


Simple steps to take...
1.TAKE CHARGE OF THE DISCUSSION


Don't let him bring up the topic. Bring up a topic and be in charge of it. Note that this topic is something away from sex, something about ambitions, future goals and plans. Now, just don't say it these things to him like you recited them, there should be passion in your words, every man like an ambitious woman (They always admit it)
And don't make your statement look like you are looking for someone to help you achieve these goals...nah nah nah!!!
Talk like you really got plans...even if you don't! e.g don't say 'I will love to be a fashion designer if I'll see someone who will sponsor me'

You'll be giving him chance to lure you into having sex with you. (Sex is awesome when you freely give it! When you are ready and not when you're lured into it, that way you don't have any feeling of guilt after all jigi jigi )


Rather


Say 'am planning on becoming a fashion designer in the nearest future because I have realised the fashion world needs ma'

Do you spot the difference in both statement? Read again if you didn't, I won't point out that for you.


(No man 'not boy o' likes women who are solely dependent on them unless they just want to flirt with them and walk away)


This will make the man realise that you are not cut out for frivolities, he will know you have a destination.
Once a man realise you have no destination of your own he tries to take you to a destination that will sooth is ego. He tries to mess up your life! (You surely don't want that do you? )

Wait! When you do this
He will not give up on chasing you nor trying to confuse you...(You never hear about 'Try your luck next time? )
But he will be convinced you are different when you are really bringing up topics that are quite sensible and logical with some humours fixed in one or two places. Hope you spot the word 'humour'? That means am not asking you to act up all like a bitch by frowning your face like someone who's talking to shit, that's arrogance not diplomacy



Once you've made him realise your kind of being (That you are not like every other lady out there with a chicken brain) he will do two tyns

Yeah he'll do either of two things
It's either he walks away because he realise that you're not the girl he wants to play with ( that is if he actually came to play games)
Or he will get more interested in you (if he is actually serious) and you'll see that his mind will start shifting from sex to wanting to win you.

The question is How will he want to win you over?
He will always want you to believe that with him you can achieve your goals and desires in life. Then you will notice that he'll start focusing on helping you achieve your goals and dreams if they are genuine

2. SHOW SOME APPRECIATION

When he's assured of the kind of girl you are and he really wants you you'd notice he'll start trying to put in effort to help you realize that dream so that you'll see him as a mini god who helped you out and once you always praise and compliment every effort he makes towards you he will feel satisfied with his ego and because man naturally loves when his ego is being boosted he will want to do more
Doing more make him feel like a lord! A saviour and a messiah who is trying to make a woman realise her dreams.

The problem I notice with most of we women over the years in my counselling sessions is that; we hardly show appreciation to a man until he does something so big. No! That is not right, praise him even when he does little things and watch him do more. HUMANS ARE SUCKERS FOR PRAISE!


And the day you give sex to him he gets mad! He will value it like crazy!
Because his mind have long shifted from sex to making you a star!
Now he will see you as a lady that is rare!

This will surely help you if you go out and practice it!

I just exposed the men finish
Though this is a bit of the iceberg...I wrote a complete guide on how to make any man submissive to any woman sometime ago and that book have been a bestseller, so many testimonies here and there. Someday I may introduce the PDF to few of my readers here.

Till then
Peace sister!

BiafranBushBoy:
Trash... You have married after giving oga hole plenty times!

Yet you wan spoil other girls chances!!

Bad Belle!!

when you grow up into a MAN u'll appreciate this post

Davash222:
Just keep deceiving yourself.

I wonder when you become a girl

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DON'T ALTER HIS FREEDOM .


I know you are reading and also learning...


Humans are social beings, men love their freedom so much and once they see you are about to bridge that freedom they flee!

I won't want to say much here but always remember that if you want a man that will be committed to you then you must make him realise that his freedom is assured, don't monitor all his movements, don't depend all your happiness on himn what do I mean here? You have friends before you met him don't let go of those friends unless they are not helping you, don't feel bored at his absence, in fact don't depend your happiness on him alone and he will get curious and wonder if you really care about what he does and not and that will make him more committed. No one like monotony...
We all like something new, something UNUSUAL
Be that UNUSUAL girl and get him changed.

Peace girl!

I won't update this evening due to some schedules. Bear with me and keep up the reading and don't fail to drop comments on any point that confuses you, I I take my time to explain.

Peace sister

Hello sisters...

Before I continue I will like to give a scornful smile to all the 'Boys' who came into a thread that is meant for Ladies. Someday you will all become 'MEN'


I will like to continue asap with my guide...

2. STRATEGISE HIS DREAMS

Every single man have a dream, a goal and an aim to achieve. Yes, most men don't appear like they do have dreams, that's because you have not delved into his private life deeply. Most men are afraid to voice out their dreams simply because they are afraid of the scornful reply the will get in return. Every single man out there have a dream he wishes so much to achieve.

How does this connect with getting him committed to you? It is a simple trick that most smart ladies use but will never tell you, many ladies don't know this and for such reason have never been able to get a man who is committed to them. Men chase women daily, yes, Daily! And an average man tries to woo a woman daily, it gives him that sense of masculinity and a winner! Now let us do a little mathematics, if a man woos atleast a woman a day that means in a week he is wooing 7 women! That is for a man who is busy o not a player kinda guy who will woo 14.



You will agree with me that in a week, one out of that seven ladies must fall for his antics and if he is a smart man, he will have three ladies at his cool! In just a week! Are you getting the picture? Before you read further you have to pause all former beliefs you have about the male folks and read this carefully.

NOT ALL MEN ARE RAVENOUS SEXAHOLICS

Yeah, most men are not really interested in sex as we think or have been made to think, as hard as this sound it is the truth! They always bring sex into the scene when they see that a girl have nothing more than sex to offer to them, and over the years most ladies have proved that they have nothing else to offer to the male folks rather than sex in exchange for some paltry sum of money, favours or gift and this became the status quo! Which is why you see most men have sex as their motive as they approach you.


Stay with me!

I want to unschool you about this nation, you can make a man get interested in YOU and not the SEX you can offer, How? I will divulge this secret in my future post.




Back to our analysis of the man who have three ladies weekly. These three ladies are at his control because he is a smart player, he spends on them, have sex with them, and goes to hunt for another the next week! He is soothing his ego by having variety of women who warms his bed daily but adds nothing to his life aside from that. Don't say you are beautiful and can keep him with that, my dear there is over a billion beautiful girls in the world. Your beauty will only attract him but will not keep him so why should you think your big butt, big boobs or sexy lips will keep him to you? FOREVER? Many girls have what you have! Many girls give sex to get something why not try what everyone is not trying? Why not change the game? Why not strategies his dreams?




Every girl come to him, allow him seduce them into having sex with them, ask him to pay their bills and that's all! Don't do that, if you want a man to get committed to you! Never!
Get to know him!
Get to know his dreams
Get to understand why he has these dreams
Believe in his dreams!
Encourage him
Give him opinions on how he can realise these dreams
Make him believe that with you by his side he will excel in what he believes!




Many girls don't do this! I guess even you reading this doesn't, It is not your fault my dear it is because you have not been educated about the male psych. But the few that do, gets the man so attached to them and you wonder what jazz they use! Hell no! It's no jazz my dear, these are strategies! Closely guided secrets that the smart girls will never tell you.




As stated earlier, every man's ultimate dream is to become successful in life and once he discovers that you have what it takes to make him successful he will never want to let go! He will chase you like mad and do as you wish! Even though he will still want to be in control in some certain issues to suit his male ego. He will respect your opinions and will never want to hurt you because he believes he will be hurting his own self too if he does that!




Do these and watch him drool over you not in LUST but in ADMIRATION


In my next post I will be giving you what will complete the commitment process once he gets into a relationship with you.
That is the last but very essential point DON'T ALTER HIS FREEDOM

Peace Sister

Welcome on board sister and...(I know some creepy dudes will be snooping around too )



What am about to expose to you is a top secret closely guided by few distinguished high class ladies in the society.



You are this lady that have been into so many relationships that never takes you to the next stage which is ENGAGEMENT. You can also be this lady that have been engaged once but that engagement failed to lead you and HIM to the alter simply because he was afraid of commitment and chickened out, he left you embarrassed and heart broken and since then you have been afraid of every relationship, you no longer trust men and you 'think' all they need is sex.



I know how you feel my dear, I have been there before and it took me years of trauma to uproot this secret I want to share with you. Why giving this out to you? I was traumatised for years and I know the damage it had on me before I finally met the man of my life. A trauma I won't wish for even an enemy so I want to show you the way. Let this be what I contribute to womanhood.


Brace up let's do this!

HOW DO YOU GET HIM COMMITED?
This is a question on many ladies lips! We have been asking and yet no answer given to you by friends and so called professional love doctors seems to be working. This is because they have not told you something and you yourself have not taken your time to understand how men think (or maybe you have but never found out), Who they are naturally and what the society moulded them into. I will summerise these secrets into 3 simple points and pick each to explain.

1. PENETRATE HIS PSYCHOLOGY
2. STRATEGISE HIS DREAMS
3. DON'T ALTER HIS FREEDOM


These three powerful points on the surface may not mean much to you until explained. So baby girl, ama gonna take each point and trash the hell out of it to make you understand how it works.


1. PENETRATE HIS PSYCHOLOGY
Most ladies makes a mistake of going into a relationship when they have not control of the man they are going into a relationship with. When I mentioned 'control' I mean psychological control. They allow the men control them physically when they can control the men psychologically. You controlling the man psychological will influence how he controls you physically.



How do you control the man when you don't know how he thinks? This is why the first step is to penetrate his psychology. To penetrate a man's psychology is very easy if only you know how to but because you don't, you need to pay attention to what am about to teach you.


"EVERYONE ADORES WHAT THEY EARN"


That quote up there is just a summary of the human psychology, especially men. Every man adores a woman who he won his love. Don't go about persuading a man into a relationship. Yes you may succeed in seducing him with sex and other things into a relationship but my dear the very day he realises he was 'Sleep-walked' into that relationship he will step out and your heart will be shattered. Always remember this!



The male psychology is one that adores anything that caresses his ego. Men and women are given birth to through the same process.


-Sperm fertilized the egg
-Foetus matures into a baby
-Baby is pushed out through the Vagina!


So you see practically the man and the woman are the same psychologically at birth but the male psychology is changed as he grows! Who changes it? The society, starting from the mother. (I won't go into much details about this here you can email me for that). None of us choose to be a woman!




It is the society that made the man into a being that must achieve great things for him to be seen as a man, he has to have the abilty to conquer else he is not a man, he must have dreams and ambitions else he is not a man! Anything that is tossed to a man has no value. [b[He wants to earn it![/b] Stick this into your skull shoddy.



If you understand this about the male psychology then you have to make the man sought for you! And not you throwing yourself at him. How do you do this? GET HIM INTERESTED and watch him sought after you. I didn't say get his SEDUCED!



Make him believe that your presence in his life will make life thrilling. (I will show you how to achieve this in my future posts), he should see that with you his dreams are bound to come to pass, once you've done that my dear you have penetrated his psychology and he will want to win your love but don't just fall in like a blind person, there are other things you need to do and that takes us to the next step

STRATEGISE HIS DREAMS
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I will be explaining this very essential point in my next update until then, Keep watch!
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