You could buy a Nokia 603 for about N40k

Android phones, you're possibly looking at Samsung Galaxy Ace or a Sony Ericsson Xperia phone. I would recommend a Samsung Galaxy S or HTC Desire S but they may be outside your budget

What exactly do you want to do with your phone?
If you spend a lot of time on the internet watching films and surfing, I wouldn't buy an Android phone - lovely phones but chomp through data.

The default pin is 1234

1. Who loves the more between you and your spouse?
Neither - it's a mutual thing.

2. Do you think the person that loves more is at a disadvantage because they are likely to give more than they will receive?
Whether you're married or not, the person who loves most will always be the vulnerable one. In a marriage it's almost destructive. The one who loves the more will be "suffering and smiling" while the person who loves less can easily run rough shod over them. Not a nice thing.

3. How can the imbalance in this love equation be mitigated?
If you're saying people love in different ways, then it's really about understanding the person you married and working with that. If there's an imbalance of love from the start, I can't imagine how that can be mitigated.

4. If you are of the opinion that this 'talk of love' is a waste of time, what do you think should be the foundation of marriage? In other words, if you think love isn't important, what is?
"Love" as many of us grew up to believing is a myth. Real love is based on more than feelings. Commitment and respect should be the foundation of any marriage not "I must marry" or the warm fuzzy feelings. Marriage is not compulsory and if you do go there, shine your eye well: any red flags and/or any doubts, that person isn't for you. If you persist don't complain afterwards - you made your bed. . .

oludashmi:

You are really ignorant (not insulting you).
Did you hear the way it is pronounced? Introduction!!. . . this is a way for the immediate family of both parties to meet and know each other before the traditional wedding day where the dowry is paid. Dowry is not paid at the introduction, neither is it paid in the church. And the dowry is the most important part of any union both before God and Man, even if it is paid in the sitting room with witnesses and no ceremony is conducted at all!

I am not ignorant of what I am saying and why I say what I do. Remember this is my perspective and we don't have to agree.

An introduction is what you make it, it doesn't have to be a precursor to a traditional marriage unless you believe in that kind of thing.

I don't see the relevance of traditional marriage in the 21st century. I do not see the relevance of having a number of ceremonies in the name of "marriage". As far as I'm concerned, the families meeting and knowing the family their child is marrying into is enough, you can make it what you want.

Shock horror, I do not believe nor agree with dowry. I know and understand why it exists and the reasons for it, but is not particularly relevant in the 21st century. It is no guarantee for either party of fidelity, that either party will treat each other with respect, to me it is an unnecessary ceremony. There is nothing particularly sacred about it unless we choose to see it as such.

In our forefathers day, yes, traditional weddings were the norm and made perfect sense. Not any more.

LeJeun3:

Guy wisen up! Etisalat and Airtel are doing a great job. We built MTN, we can bring dem down! My MTN has been a reception line for sometime now!

Gimme a break - if MTN are thieves, Airtel are master crooks! They have done a very similar thing but on a smaller scale to MTN. They never acknowledged there was a problem and were adamant they weren't refunding credit.

There is NO network in Nigeria where that won't happen.

belushi7: airtel truly has improved on their 3g coverage. however, probably dur to the present offers, their network has been down since yesterday in Lagos. Hope they get it fixed in time. I enjoy the fast data speed in aguda area of surulere, lagos

Apart from MMIA, Surulere is the only other place I automatically got 3G appearing on my phone. Oh, and Lagos Island - 3 locations.

belushi7: airtel truly has improved on their 3g coverage. however, probably dur to the present offers, their network has been down since yesterday in Lagos. Hope they get it fixed in time. I enjoy the fast data speed in aguda area of surulere, lagos

Apart from MMIA, Surulere is the only other place I automatically got 3G appearing on my phone. Oh, and Lagos Island - 3 locations.

@presfedreap, I must be on the Lagos side from you

I got 3G for the first four days, since then it has been erratic. My phone displays nothing, when I connect to the net one phone says 3.75G, the same SIM in another phone says EDGE. Change it back, it initially says EDGE but the connection was worse than GPRS.

You should not have to ask the network you enable your SIM for 3G. When I was abroad last year and I regularly checked my SIM, it automatically showed the roaming network was 3.75G. The only reason to call the network to enable a SIM is purely down to incompetence by Airtel and is a waste of Customer Service Agents' time.

@ vicjustice,I asked because I'm aware of letters not addressing the ECO that have led to successful applications, not because I haven't read through the entire thread. But thank you for the info you've already given.

I would say go for the Desire S.

What do you mean by 'hang', the OS or Skype? The latter would be dependant on your network and how much memory you have on your phone.

@ op, let me ask you this:

Did your girlfriend talk with food in her mouth?
Did she shout to the waiter "Oya, come!" Did she raise her voice at all?
Did she chew and spit out the chicken bones?
Did she put too much food in her mouth so that it was falling off the f/ork?
Did she wipe her mouth with the back of her hand?

Those to me are signs of bad manners and poor etquette. She is left handed and it is natural for her to eat with the fork in the right hand just as it is natural for you to eat with the fork in your left. Only lefties who have been forced by right handed people who know no better can do it the other way around.

So no, it is not poor etiquette. The fact that she can use a knife and fork properly is evidence of that, regardless of how "strange" you find it. A leftie eating with a knife and fork like a leftie in the 21st Century is not "bush". I can only assume your fellow diners were looking either because you drew unnecessary attention to it or they're not particularly cultured.

^ Thanks for that vicjustice, really appreciate it. Another question: does the letter have to be addressed to the High Commission or can it be addressed to the invitee?

I'm a bit fixated about getting it right as the person has been refused before and it's all new territory for me.

Does the person receiving the invitation letter need to submit the original invitation letter or a scanned copy? I have advised someone that it's best to submit the original letter if possible. The person in question has been refused a visa before. Thanks.

I have yet to see the relevance of a traditional wedding when an introduction will do. And I'm with Freiburg, the only people I hear refer the 'white weddings' are Africans.

The important thing is the marriage. As far as I'm concerned I only need one ceremony that is legally binding and that is it.

@ OP, there's a difference between BIS and BCM. BCM is a cheaper, reduced version of BIS. So the N1400 package is not the same as the N3000 package by Airtel for example. If in doubt, check their website.


@ Emmykeyz, it would be more accurate to say those are the best IN YOUR OPINION, as it does not represent all of Lagos nor Nigeria. I'm not that far from you and Glo and Etisalat are the worst networks, in fact at the best of times Etisalat doesn't work at all. MTN may be more expensive but it actually works, even during bad weather. Airtel will work so long as there are no clouds and it isn't raining. So what works in one location may not work in another neighbourhood.

pendo89:

Was imposed by the council in my country and it works. if you must make loud noise in any gathering you need a licence from the council.
or else its a criminal offence to disturb the peace of others esp in a busy city and during office/night hours.
Its good to know God is a God of order and God respects the law of the land > give ceasar's what is ceasar's.
Bible commands people not to be stumbling blocks.

It works where you're from because people still have respect for the rule of law; they know if they break it they will bw punished. Not so in Lagos or Nigeria where people care little for the rule of law.

Look at some of the comments from some of these people in the article, like they don't know what 'reasonable' sound levels are. Or you can't ask a religious place to turn it down or they will persecute you.

Above the noise of the generator I can hear a cacophony of churches. Let me not go into the nonsense some of them say under the guise of being 'in the spirit'.

Airtel has 3G, but is limited to a few areas. Where I am in Lagos the only network I get 3G from is Glo, but it might as well be GPRS cos it rarely connects to anything. I don't even get 3G on MTN.

The only places I've had Airtel's 3G were in Surulere, Lekki and at MMIA. But most of the time it's been EDGE.

dan_dollar:

The rate at which my megabyt reduces is alarming.other network don't run down as fast as it does.

I used to think it was standard until I got an MTN data bundle. In the 4 days it takes to use up 100MB on Airtel, it took 2 weeks on MTN.

Noticed this started happening after they took over from Zain. Got a text to say they've now released a 30-day 250MB bundle for N1300.

Busy_body:


Awww hugs Have to go there myself this January but keep putting it away due to the nightmares the thought is giving me. Your hubby needs to take along extra money because everytime i have been there, i have overheard people crying and lamenting that they paid $140 online only to be told to fork out £70 whilst handing in the forms again

You shouldn't have to hand over money again once you've paid online. Unfortunately I was probably one of the first people to test the system years ago before it was supposed to be officially up and running. I spent a whole day at Nigeria House, fortunately I printed out a copy of EVERYTHING. . .or so I thought.

In the end I was taken to see one of the officials, had to run out to find an internet cafe to print out a receipt from my bank account to show I had paid the money. He also called Abuja to confirm.

I would not be paying twice unless they're going to refund me there and then. But make sure you print your form if you can, any payment you make online, and a copy of your bank statement where payment was made. And if possible get a passport on your next trip to Nigeria

Fhemmmy:

Thanks . . . . If you know of any pond that could contain like 10,000 fishes please lemme know if it is for rent . . . . conditions could be discussed here or offline

Unfortunately I don't know anyone who rents ponds, but will contact you offline.

The big problem regarding black women and their hair is complex, yet simple. Most women did not seem to appreciate their hair as children, or never grew up in an environment where you embraced your natural hair as a part of you. Who didn't get knocked on the head for not sitting still while your hair was being braided, plaited and twisted? Who didn't have some degree of animosity with their natural hair due to the PAIN of having to comb it after washing it?

Men don't get it because they either have women who'll do their hair, or never grew up with lots of hair. The amount of things we had to do to maintain our hair as children. By comparison my brothers just used to add water and comb; that was not an option for me.

When I was 14 years old I decided to cut my hair and not tell my mother. The only thing she said to me was "you should've let your father do it (he who did old school haircuts and it was not going to be fashionable if I let him near mine!). That was my first taste of hair liberation - no more having to get someone to plait it, no more hassles when it comes to combing and washing. . .ah, life was sweet.

Ironically, I was watching Channels TV a few weeks ago where they were speaking to women about traditional hairstyles. Out of the women they spoke to, all said they liked traditional hairstyles but they make you look like a child. One girl (probably a Uni girl), basically said "we are living in the jet age, and so we have to wear modern styles like weaves". Oh really? I was in a Caribbean island some months ago, and was amazed at how many of the women either wore their hair naturally, had their hair permed or had braids. In the two weeks I was there I saw about 3 weaves. Whereas in Lagos, you will probably see more weaves than natural hairdos. I count how many women on TV wear their natural hair rather than awful weaves and wigs (it seems the more powerful position, the worst the weave excluding Madam Finance Minister).

Weaves are seen as more "professional", yet so many of us wear weaves that don't suit our faces and, as Outstrip said, back-to-front. Why would I, as a black woman, want to wear a hairstyle that doesn't suit me for the sake of looking good? Yet many of us do that in the name of "beauty".

As for what my "partner" thinks - well, he was the first man I met who was never fascinated by my hair. When I transformed from perm to natural, he didn't bat an eyelid. I'm thinking of going short again cos it takes me so long to wash and plait my hair, and he actually commented on how much easier it is with shorter hair. My sister-in-law has short natural hair and I envy her (yes, I said it! )

I have to agree with MBJ to a degree - often we are our worst enemy when it comes to our natural hair.

@ Roland17

I tend to agree with iice - there are no bad gifts as such. That would be to presume the giver had bad intentions, when most gift givers don't do it to be mean.

I've received perfumey bath things which I can't use (allergic reaction), but it never occurred to me that it was a bad gift. Someone else gave me some white lace - I don't do white. I didn't expect the gift anyway, but it was a nice gesture from the giver.

So bad gifts? Not really. But that is just my opinion - to me it's the thought that counts. So even if I never use that lace, it will always have sentimental value because of who gave it to me.

Aluweezy:
I believe mine is dat fanta advert were a student was dancing wit his teacher in class. Dat advert sucks really bad and i tink it sud be off air!

I agree with you, that is THE most annoying ad.

However I have to say I like the AK/Airtel Club 10 ads.  If their service was half as good as the ads. . . 

Pa22:

Slumbering airtel! W̶̲̥̅̊ђA̶̲̥̅t's †ђξ advantage if ƪ ĝêŧ more than 3GB  glo with τ̅Ħ̀ε̅ same amount?, Mtcheeeeeew!

If, like me, you live in an area where you can't even use 200MB in a month on the Glo network because there is hardly ever any signal, Airtel makes perfect sense.

If you have options and Glo works where you are, good for you.

worm:

What account?

they just send this to multiple numbers and if yours happened to be among the numbers and call back then you are a victim.

There's a programme called “email extractor” these guys just launch it through the net and it searches the information banks and 'extracts' only email addresses for them to use.

Why did i knw all these? ans: i used to run a cafe    

The real question here is how are these people getting hold of our details?

I am convinced that the networks are selling our numbers without our consent. That would explain why we get unwanted text messages offering us services we don't need or use.

+239 is the Country Code for Sao Tome y Principe. Why would you refer back to a message from a country code that you aren't familiar with, or am I missing something?

@ OP - I don't get it. Why would I sell my BB for an Android phone when I can have both? I've used both and enjoy them for different reasons and wouldn't consider trading one for the other.

If "pinging" is the big thing on BB (which, incidentally I've never done), then Kik, LiveProfile and a host of others do the same. Interesting enough, they also have an app for BB as well so. . .

Now, would I trade a BB or Android phone for an iPhone? HELL NO!

If I'm correct, 100-240 AC works both in North America and Europe and anywhere else that uses similar voltage, including Nigeria. Depending on where you are in Nigeria, you may want to get an adapter as the plug sockets could either be 2-pin (US) or 3pin (UK) or "other".

I still would like to know if you ever ostracised the woman who sent you the teddy bear text that was a catalyst for all this wahala in the first place. Funny enough you've been very silent on that, client or no client.

I have to say JennyK has been on point on this one. You have painted yourself very much the victim. Your wife may have been wrong and short tempered, but I don't see you trying to rectify the situation.

If you were remotely considering reconciling with your wife, I suggest you meet her in Nigeria and take it from there.