I don't feel like I am limiting myself by sticking only to igbo guys and west africans. I don't want someone who is too far from my culture.

And in response to the comments some people made about appearance, I agree to an extent. However, I don't want to dress to revealingly, b/c I don't want to attract a guy who is too focused on a girl's looks. What would happen if he meets a prettier girl?

Well I tried approaching a few guys before, but they didn't seem interested and I didn't want to be too pushy and seem desperate. It feels so embarassing to be rejected so I don't want to have to approach a guy again. I sent a friend request to 5 guys on facebook( 3 nigerian, 1 Ivorian, 1 senegalese), but they all denied my request. All the guys I've tried to talk to are either not interested or taken. I don't know what to do anymore.

I am from New York by the way.

Secretz:

haha, my dear, how abouts you take her out since you so concerned about her biological clock?


@OP, Relax!

exactly. i never understood that. what is so fun about being single? well not when you're 26.

wisecutie:


When last did you have a bf?How do u dress?Are you boring,short or dress too bannally?Do you use deodorants/antipersperants?Do you wear clothes that are too free(big) on you,of riotous colors or just plain bland?Do you weigh more than Monic?Are you an introvert?Is your skin badly spoted or just plain dirty?Are you sure u aint "not beautiful"?I havent seen a fine girl that doesnt get loads of toesters.Mayb fine is too much-I havent seen a good-looking chic dat didnt have guys flocking her.The guyz might not be her type but they sha come around,but u sound like u dont get toasted at all.Are you ok?I just cant understand why guyz dont ask you out.
OK let me break the silence/record-Dear Naijagurl,I like you because you sound very homely,respectful n like d wife every man would desire even though you have a professional degree like me and I want you for a wife.lets talk on-08088888888 n email me -great.guy52@yahoo.com. Is that good enuf?lol

Have you read the book 'how to attract the right man'?.I dont think so.You would have had the right person cos the book works like magic-it tells you everything from etiquette to psycho-analysis and personality matching.You can get the electronic copy.I will check if I still have one.

lol, of course i use deodorant and perfume. and no i've never had a bf. i dress normally. i don't like to reveal too much, but i don't dress like a nun either. i thought guys prefer a girl who didn't reveal too much. well at least when they are looking for WIFE material. No im not overweight. i'm 5 feet 8 inches and weigh about 148 lbs. my skin is pretty smooth.

Sisi_Kill:

@ Topic
I got two words for you. . . Medical School. What's that mean, you ask? It's simple really. . . You see naija guys are easily intimidated. They ones who aren't. . .have already gone home with the other doctors, lawyers, pilots, rocket scientist, leaving you with slim pickings. All you can hope for is that one of the good guys break up with his girl but i'll advice not to put your all in all on that hope.

Exactly. Many of them are already taken, but I don't want another woman's man. I will stay focused on the single ones.

riversman:

CHANGE your WARDROBE - not slutty , but it may be time for new outfits
- add some color to your wardrobe, we like the flashy gurls, dont change your personality tho

WAIT FOR your TIME - marriage is not a GAME of "1st to reach the altar", and u get to the altar and turn back, then wat, all over again?

Start, smiling more, stop all that "Independent woman" BS,

ADVICE - its 2009, GO FOR IT, If u want it, then go ahead, a smart dude wont judge, cos we know how hard it is for women,

AT LEAST, i have some sense, for those that think am a trouble maker, lol

What do you mean independent woman bs? I am not one of those women who feel like they are too independent b/c they are educated. I still feel being a wife and mother is much more important than being a career woman. My mother used to stay home and my dad worked and she is a wonderful mother. I still believe that women and men still have their own roles. I'm not saying a woman should be like a maid, but it is her responsibility to take care of the home.

Is it just that some women are just unlucky with men or they made bad choices? What is it? Is it normal that at 26 I still haven't met a guy that has shown some slight interest in me? How long will this last? My friends get approached by guys all the time, but not me. I mean I don't think I'm bad looking. I keep in shape and take care of myself so I don't what the problem is? African guys just don't seem to be really into me. I hoped to be married after graduating from medical school, but that does not seem like it will happen. I will be graduating this may, but I still haven't even dated someone. I just don't get it. How long will this last? I definitely don't want to become a spinster. The people around me are already putting pressure on me. You know in africa there is no such thing as mind your business.

I would prefer to marry an igbo guy since I am igbo, but I'm open to other nigerians and maybe a guy from some other west african country. However, I'm not having any luck with them at all. All the guys I've been interested in don't seem to know I exist or they are taken.

I don't know what to do. I really want to get married. I don't like the idea of joining a dating site, but I guess I might have to. I feel like it would make me look desperate. I've just been having such bad luck with men. I can't remember a time where any guy actually asked me out.

For those women who become spinsters, what leads to that, b/c I do not want to head that path.

jim iyke annoys me. he tries to be too americanized. also some actor named nwanni or somethin like dat is mad annoying.

gennie has it a slightly bit over steph

Talking of older actresses, please wipe off the number 1 on your list and input "LIZ BENSON"

-oops i did forget her. however im not taking off florence. for the older actresses liz comes second then the rest.

the are both extremely beautiful. i mean the most beautiful people in the world hail from africa. but in response to the question i would have to give it ti Omotola.but ms. dominic is also gorgeous. omotola is only slightly more beautiful than rita.

a lot of nigerian actresses r beautiful but in my opinion, the most beautiful r in this order. my list is according to their natual beauty.

young actresses   
1.omotola
2.lilian bach
3.rita dominic
4.caroline ekanem
5.stella damasus
6.genevieve

older actresses:
1.florence onuma
2franca brown
3.patience ozokwor

there r other beautiful ones but these r the top

she's gorgeous but i don't if she'll win or be 1 of da finalists because y'all know africans hardly win these pageants.