@ OP: where are you located ?

Can your parents intervene and "hook you up"

DO you go to church ? mosque ? where and what are your social networks ?

btw,

Busy_body:

@ Sharon and Stillwater


Howdy B-listers, I can see you two trying to chip in your two cents too and tryna feel among You can't fly until you learn to walk you hear, so if i were you i'd concentrate on building my intelligence for now and give it 2 years before i start dishing advise on NL I am in a generous mood so would give you both E^- for effort, try harder and better luck next time

----- hahahahahaha! this is some funny ass post.

Tcrack:

APPEARANCE! APPEARANCE!! APPEARANCE!!!.Never take that word lightly. once you av worked on your appearance:
1: Try to SOCIALIZE more. BF wont come inside you house to look for you. you have to go to places where you can
"display your market".ALONE eg. parties, church, cinema, beach, eateries,pool etc,
2:When you see a guy you like approach him with a smile. He wont bite.
3:Make friends with girls that have male friends. they will easily hook you up with someone.
4:Join a dating sit, you will be surprised how many mail you will get per day, though, 90% of them will be silly.

If you try all this steps am sure you will begin to chase guys away because you will have more than you can handle.
Dont be in a hurry to get married. remember that ITS BETTER TO BE ALONE THAN TO BE ALONE WITH THE WRONG PERSON.

Sounds too slutty.I wouldnt recommend any of the above for any one I care about.All of the above will make you seem too needy.Package well(attitude,style,yarns,etc) and naturally guyz will come your way.Naturally love will find you.

naijagurl:



lol, of course i use deodorant and perfume. and no i've never had a bf. i dress normally. i don't like to reveal too much, but i don't dress like a nun either. i thought guys prefer a girl who didn't reveal too much. well at least when they are looking for WIFE material. No im not overweight. i'm 5 feet 8 inches and weigh about 148 lbs. my skin is pretty smooth.

You answered fairly well.Yes, NEVER reveal nothing to attract a man.He would be attracted to what he sees and not what he doesnt(your heart).What's the thing about Igbo guyz n west africans?That in itself is limiting.What about if I am South African n I want you?The point is, dont restrict yourself to a particular tribe,sect or race.ok?Be you , be free, be clean, be good n nice, be loving n you will be loved.

Can we talk?I think I wanna talk2you.I aint igbo though.There's alot we could talk about.I will tell you more later.email me here-michael.philips@rocketmail.com I aint joking this time.(I feel like talking here but I dont wanna kick this forum,lets do it like I told ya.ok?)

My dear Sister, I have four sisters, they all got married into their thirties, I got married earliest and today they have their challenges but are all happy because they waited for the right time and the right man. Dont panick, do your thing, concentrate on making your life worth while, things will fall into place. One of my sisters had the worst heartbreak after years of dating, she had gone to church with her then boyfriend of 12 years only to hear his wedding annoucement in church while sitting next to him. She almost died but now she is married to the perfect gentleman who is just so homely that i go Awwwwwww whenever i see them. Meanwhile hwe ex boyfriend has married and divorced twice.
Calm down, the right man and right time will come. I have friends who married straight off school and aree divorced. There is a right time for everything under the sun

sorry oh.
you know how med school is. no time for too much partying.
you need to make that time to meet people and socialise.

aisha2:

One of my sisters had the worst heartbreak after years of dating, she had gone to church with her then boyfriend of 12 years only to hear his wedding annoucement in church while sitting next to him. She almost died but now she is married to the perfect gentleman who is just so homely that i go Awwwwwww whenever i see them. Meanwhile hwe ex boyfriend has married and divorced twice.

<typical naija man> ,

Naijagurl good infact perfect things come to those who wait.
Please don't accept just any person's wedding proposal just for the sake of being married
God's time is the best.

@ OP,
One sure way of missing out on a good partner is to limit yourself to a certain 'ethnic group'. . . . . . Oh. . . I just want an Igbo guy. . . . Oh. . . . . no Arabs allowed. . . . . . . . . . Meet people from all over the world. Travel within and outside your country if you can. A colleague of mine met her Zambian husband while we were at a workshop in Lusaka. She could have limited herself to a 'Kenyans Only Club', but I always imagine how everything would have turned out to be had she dismissed her now-husband for being Zambian. God has a sense of humour. He slaps you when and where you least expect it. You are scared of Internet dating? Come on now! I have a friend who met her German husband online, yet she is one of those girls who used to swear that she would never date a man that belonged to another tribe other than her own, let alone a white guy! They have been married for 4 years now and she is lucky she met a man that loves her, respects her, listens to her and values her feelings; the stuff good husbands are made of irrespective of race, nationality, etc.

So OP, worry less about a man's ethnic identity. Don't listen to stereotypes. . . . Oh Arabs are rogues. . . Oh Russians are drunkards. . . . You may miss out on the finest of the finest Egyptian guy and it will be your loss.

Two, have you identified a man you like? Approach him and let him know that you are available but not desperate. This is the 21st century. Yes, TELL HIM! In case you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again and like somebody has already mentioned, there is time for everything under the sun. Good luck!

Good Girl:

@ OP,
One sure way of missing out on a good partner is to limit yourself to a certain 'ethnic group'. . . . . . Oh. . . I just want an Igbo guy. . . . Oh. . . . . no Arabs allowed. . . . . . . . . . Meet people from all over the world. Travel within and outside your country if you can. A colleague of mine met her Zambian husband while we were at a workshop in Lusaka. She could have limited herself to a 'Kenyans Only Club', but I always imagine how everything would have turned out to be had she dismissed her now-husband for being Zambian. God has a sense of humour. He slaps you when and where you least expect it. You are scared of Internet dating? Come on now! I have a friend who met her German husband online, yet she is one of those girls who used to swear that she would never date a man that belonged to another tribe other than her own, let alone a white guy! They have been married for 4 years now and she is lucky she met a man that loves her, respects her, listens to her and values her feelings; the stuff good husbands are made of irrespective of race, nationality, etc.

So OP, worry less about a man's ethnic identity. Don't listen to stereotypes. . . . Oh Arabs are rogues. . . Oh Russians are drunkards. . . . You may miss out on the finest of the finest Egyptian guy and it will be your loss.

Two, have you identified a man you like? Approach him and let him know that you are available but not desperate. This is the 21st century. Yes, TELL HIM! In case you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again and like somebody has already mentioned, there is time for everything under the sun. Good luck!

We seem to have similar reasoning.At least you are trying a bit.Marry me.lol.Im Nigerian n you are probably kenyan .nationality shouldnt be a barrier.ok?Besides you might just be a good girl like your name says.Anyway can I meet you?lets talk on michael.philips@rocketmail.com. let me know when you see this.expecting your reply

posakosa:

<typical naija man> ,

Me excluded

Busy_body:

@ Sharon and Stillwater

Howdy B-listers, I can see you two trying to chip in your two cents too and tryna feel among You can't fly until you learn to walk you hear, so if i were you i'd concentrate on building my intelligence for now and give it 2 years before i start dishing advise on NL I am in a generous mood so would give you both E^- for effort, try harder and better luck next time

I suggest you visit Marijana Kovacevic. . . . .U need some placenta massage on your forehead.

@poster

there is a saying in my lanuguage that eni ti o ni ori ko ni fila, eni ti o ni fila ko ni ori.

meaning. someone that has head, has no cap to wear on the head
and someone with cap has no head to wear it on.

you are here looking for my right and am sure when you eventually do you will hold on to him ight, and there are some ladies who have guys looking to get married to them but they are playing away time thinking they have enough time to get married.

my word to you is that since you are open to other tribes as well. just hang in there, it might take time but hopefully not much time but your mr right will come soon. just hang in there.

KINGDOM GREETINGS
KINGDOM PEACE.

I’m sure that you’ve probably heard it 16 thousand times before,
but the first step is to relax. The second step is to enjoy being single.
It’s easy to say and tough to do, but it’s crucial, Plus, for what it’s worth, first marriages are occurring much later
in life than they used to. Perhaps all the guys that are worth keeping aren’t looking for you yet! Be patient.

rokiatu:

I’m sure that you’ve probably heard it 16 thousand times before,
but the first step is to relax. The second step is to enjoy being single.

Enjoy being single and watch her biological clock run down?
What is there to be enjoyed being single?

~Sauron~:

Enjoy being single and watch her biological clock run down?
What is there to be enjoyed being single?

lol calm down will you what am trying to say is that, let her take her mind of
marriage, and forget she's even approaching 30, take good care of herself, and enjoy life
the right person will come. goods things come to us when we stop looking for it.

^^^^ I see your point Rokky---- how can you love someone else if you don't love yourself. I imagine thats what you when you say that she should enjoy singlehood.

precisely.

~Sauron~:

Enjoy being single and watch her biological clock run down?
What is there to be enjoyed being single?

haha, my dear, how abouts you take her out since you so concerned about her biological clock?


@OP, Relax!

@ poster,too bad u r still single at over 26 years old,when most of your mates are nursing mothers.My advise for u is to improve in your dressing,men love girls with sexy shape.

^^^Pretty harsh coming from a female oh I forgot its usually the females who pile on the pressure.

OP you 26 and still young just put yourself out there and the right person will come along

Quote from: naijagurl on Today at 03:24:46 AM


lol, of course i use deodorant and perfume. and no i've never had a bf. i dress normally. i don't like to reveal too much, but i don't dress like a nun either. i thought guys prefer a girl who didn't reveal too much. well at least when they are looking for WIFE material. No im not overweight. i'm 5 feet 8 inches and weigh about 148 lbs. my skin is pretty smooth.

@ POSTER URE SO FUNNY TO ME. URE TAKIN ALL THESE NOIsE PEOPLE are MAKIN SERIOUs

when it comes to attracting future partners i'm sure u dont want to attract the wrong peeps.
UR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE plays a little nd dangeous role ur personality is more important.

Posted by: Tcrack
APPEARANCE!  APPEARANCE!! APPEARANCE!!!.Never take that word lightly. once you av worked on your appearance:

true talk but dont go to the extreme.
and most importantly dnt let ur guards down so men dnt take advantage of ur curiosity.
ur time shall come

chocomillo:

@ poster,too bad u r still single at over 26 years old,when most of your mates are nursing mothers.My advise for u is to improve in your dressing,men love girls with sexy shape.

chocomillo MUST be a 15 year old. btw, you don't seem to have a shape in ur profile pic.

posakosa:

chocomillo MUST be a 15 year old. btw, you don't seem to have a shape in your profile pic.

Dang you cold as ice

posakosa:

<typical naija man> ,

yes oh. but we have good men oh. If they had married out of desperation they would ve been miserable but they are all happy with good men. My immediate elder is getting married soon and she has similar experinece to urs, she is a doctor and was too serious when she was in school, when she finidhed her masters and all she was about 29, she went through hell cos all her friends had relationships and were married. She almost married a leech out of desperation but God delivered her. The Guy wanted to use her to travel abraod, he refused to work and was feeding on her. God delivered h

Ebonyeyes:

Dang you cold as ice

you are one woman I would like to meet--- btw, how old u be ? if u don't mind me asking. I don't think the poster is young per se but maybe her parents can step in if they know people--- anyways--- make I fashi that one.

aisha2:

yes oh. but we have good men oh. If they had married out of desperation they would ve been miserable but they are all happy with good men. My immediate elder is getting married soon and she has similar experinece to urs, she is a doctor and was too serious when she was in school, when she finidhed her masters and all she was about 29, she went through hell cos all her friends had relationships and were married. She almost married a leech out of desperation but God delivered her. The Guy wanted to use her to travel abraod, he refused to work and was feeding on her. God delivered h

U're right. I have an aunty who married at 39 almost 40. Marriage is not a rush rush thing or else you will RUSH IN- RUSH OUT.  She was lucky to have her ONLY child by 40. years.

She was made fun off , yabbed, and talked about by NIGERIAN WOMEN---- she's a successful banker at CBN but she kept her head up high and knew one day her day will come and it did.

posakosa:

you are one woman I would like to meet--- btw, how old u be ? if u don't mind me asking.  I don't think the poster is young per se but maybe her parents can step in if they know people--- anyways--- make I fashi that one.

Hahaha I cant say in here because some vacuous idiot might use it against me in the future when they are struggling to argue with me . Anyhoo im shocked a female would say that matterfact it might just be a male.

Ebonyeyes:

Hahaha I cant say in here because some vacuous idiot might use it against me in the future when they are struggling to argue with me . Anyhoo im shocked a female would say that matterfact it might just be a male.

u're right--- Nlders are very vindictive--- hehehhe! Im here to have fun sha! 

posakosa:

u're right--- Nlders are very vindictive--- hehehhe! Im here to have fun sha! 

They are indeed, vindictive creatures Anyhoo this place can be fun sometimes until they crawl out of the wood works.

i think Nairalanders are "real" not vindictive

posakosa:

U're right. I have an aunty who married at 39 almost 40. Marriage is not a rush rush thing or else you will RUSH IN- RUSH OUT. She was lucky to have her ONLY child by 40. years.

She was made fun off , yabbed, and talked about by NIGERIAN WOMEN---- she's a successful banker at CBN but she kept her head up high and knew one day her day will come and it did.

U re so right oh. Most so called married women that look down on mature single women actually have hellish marriages and so use single women to act out and console themselves

Secretz:

haha, my dear, how abouts you take her out since you so concerned about her biological clock?


@OP, Relax!

exactly. i never understood that. what is so fun about being single? well not when you're 26.

I don't feel like I am limiting myself by sticking only to igbo guys and west africans. I don't want someone who is too far from my culture.

And in response to the comments some people made about appearance, I agree to an extent. However, I don't want to dress to revealingly, b/c I don't want to attract a guy who is too focused on a girl's looks. What would happen if he meets a prettier girl?

Well I tried approaching a few guys before, but they didn't seem interested and I didn't want to be too pushy and seem desperate. It feels so embarassing to be rejected so I don't want to have to approach a guy again. I sent a friend request to 5 guys on facebook( 3 nigerian, 1 Ivorian, 1 senegalese), but they all denied my request. All the guys I've tried to talk to are either not interested or taken. I don't know what to do anymore.

I am from New York by the way.