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Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Hauwa1: 6:07pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
hehe, Busy_body I don waka go with my two oku ![]() Btw poster, do include guys in uniform in your preference, it could be both of us looking that way ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 6:08pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: Your own case na soon come, meanwhile you have a case to answer in Sagamite's court, and I have been given the unpalatable role of retraining that filthy mouth of yours to stop you coming out with those "do me, do me" statement ![]() ![]() ![]() koolchicco: Now, you look here mind how you talk to us NL girls you hear, don't you know you could be talking to a potential MBGN NL Queen ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Sisi_Kill: The chances of any of you falling for those gigolos is zilch, remember I get first dibs at sampling, and I don't mind juggling 50 men at once ![]() You are one of my prized cash cows because you have the potential to attract as many suitors as possible to serenade you and pay your dowry and brideprice, and with luck, I intend on getting you engaged at least 15 times to milk as much cash as I can get from these men- so don't take the knockback about you and the 4 others ladies being too old to be in my agency for now - too hard babe. Trust me I have your back and only want the best for you ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by IgboGirl(f): 6:10pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
kura king: going by your post, then in that case she should be or have been approached by male med students. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by IgboGirl(f): 6:11pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
koolchicco: cool beans! i can't wait to put them to work |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 6:14pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Sisi_Kill: Oh shoot, didn't I tell you that "discretion is our watchword" is our motto, my bad, not to worry, your secret is safe with me, no one has to know that you celebrated your 21st birthday five decades ago ![]() ![]() *Hauwa*: You sef, even if I told you I had Nigerian uniformed men as clients, is it those weather-beaten, parched looking Ol' Soldiers in Nigeria who last got paid in 1970 that I would have on my books or is it those &*$*^% Police Officers you are talking about ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by bigrod1: 6:15pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Busy_body: u wan sample me?na u go tire? its like u like money too much .u better get married soon or u`ll post ur own very soon when u are more than 30 u are d reason why men dey think so much b4 they get married |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 6:19pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
^^^ I am the new love-vendor Madam on the block so why do I need to enslave myself and get married, when I can get me any pick of man I want ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by koolchicco: 6:25pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Busy_body: Sheesh. I think u still neva learnt ya lesson the last time, ehn? ![]() ![]() big rod: Rotfl ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by newdeal(m): 6:35pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
@Poster, Just be yourself, don't let thoughts of marriage cloud other aspects of your life, think beyond marriage and live life to the full, above all, have enough love within to share, your man will find you. If you are desperate, you make yourself prone to mistakes in relationship. My fiance just turned 30 recently and that does not affect my love one bit. I see her as a little baby to be nurtured and taken care of! |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Onyema1(m): 6:56pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
@poster, which state do you live? if you are in U.S., let me know, I will introduce you a handful of responsible Igbo guys, maybe you might just get hooked up. Am in NYC though, if you would like us to talk, let me know so that we can exchange contacts. And if you are in US, which state are you, and how often do you attend Igbo functions? That's the surest forum to get hooked up with cute Igbo guys. let me tell you, Nigeria guys in US are weary of Nigerian girls in US especially when it comes to marriage. I will tell you why when we start talking, there is no consensus about the reason, but it seems every Nigerian guy in US has this conception at the back of his mind. If you can deal with that believe or at least you know about it and try to deal with it, I assure you, you will soon land you dream guy. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by edoyad(m): 7:15pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Sorry if i offend any one but just because she's from a particular geographical area doesn't mean that her life has to be centered around her culture till she dies. Doesn't she have the right to go out and explore new things ? Whether Ibo, yoruba or Efik, she can find a life partner not only anywhere from Nigeria but whe whole damned universe. Personally i'm beginning to find the intra tribal hook ups real boring and hope we mix it up a bit. My opinion though, doesn't count for much i guess ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by wisecutie: 7:30pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Busy_body: Now you wanna make me qwai. ![]() ![]() ![]()
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Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 8:13pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
edoyad: Well, different strokes for differnt folks! You dont care about who you marry, she does! Besides she said she'd prefer an Igbo guy! For some people (like me) that is non negotiable. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 8:15pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Sorry ma'am, be a bit patient. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by scottN(m): 8:20pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Don't worry 30 is gradually becoming d average age in this country! |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Delta007(m): 8:23pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Mistakes Women Make Before Marriage By Olamide Olayiwola GENERATION after generation, women make the same mistakes when it comes to marriage. This can be avoided, to some extent, if mothers spend as much time teaching their daughters about marriage as they do teaching them other life skills. Here are some tips on choosing the right partner: Romance Is Not Enough The number one mistake women make is getting married because they are in love! Being in love in itself is not a good reason to marry. Women fall in love for many reasons. It doesn't mean the man they have fallen in love with will be a good partner. Choosing a good partner makes all the difference between having a harmonious marriage and a difficult marriage. Women need to seriously question if they are compatible with their partner. Do they complement each other? In an Interaction with some women friends recently, one said: "I fell in love with three completely different men before I finally married. If I had married any of them, I would have ended up with a compulsive cheater or an emotionally stunted husband! Each taught me a valuable lesson about what I didn't want and the result is that I married a good man who still spoils me." Many women believe in the "and they lived happily ever after" ending. Women are fed romantic ideals from the day they are born. Books and movies aimed at girls invariably promote the big wedding to the perfect man as the ideal ending. Is it any wonder women don't tend to look past the romance of the wedding to the 50 or so years of marriage that follows! Women believe that he will always be as romantic as he is now. Often, women have very unrealistic expectations based on the way their partner behaved during the courtship. That doesn't mean women have to give up on romance, it is just that they shouldn't expect a 'grand gesture' every day. In fact, it is okay for the woman to be the one to instigate romantic occasions and remind the man of the many small romantic gestures which make her feel special. Women Abandon Too Much For The Relationship They often give up their friends and interests when they fall in love. With the thrill of being in love, it is too easy for women to put friends and family, hobbies and sports on the backburner. This is a fundamental mistake to make because women depend on support throughout their lives and men just can't be everything to women. It is asking too much of them. Women lose their sense of self. Getting into an intense relationship before they've developed a clear sense of their own identity is another common mistake young women make. Without a clear sense of self, women identify overly with their partner and find it difficult to stand up for themselves and their own needs. This will eventually lead to resentment and even depression. They settle. A lot of women start to panic if they aren't married by their mid-20s and that biological clock starts ticking loudly. The result is that they make excuses and rationalizations to themselves about a relationship that is past. Marrying someone because they are afraid to be alone is unfair to themselves and their partner. They rush into marriage. It almost seems to be a race across the wedding finishing line for many young women. Just because a woman has found the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with doesn't mean she has to marry him straight away. They should enjoy their youth so that they will not have any regrets later. Women Don't Do Their Research Before Choosing Their Husbands They don't have conversations about serious issues before getting married. Women need to talk to their partners about where they both stand on issues that can make or break a marriage. They need to talk about the number of children they both want. Does she intend to stay home to raise them, where each person's priorities lie, spending styles, dreams and goals, where they see themselves 20 years from now, parenting styles, sharing of responsibilities, etc? They have sex before marriage with their lovers. Women need to make sure that their men are people they can be happy with before jumping into bed with them. They believe that they can change their men. Women have a tendency to gloss over qualities they don't like in a man, telling themselves, "Oh, he'll change," or "I'll work on that". If a woman does manage to bully a man into changing, their relationship will suffer. Women need to either accept and enjoy the differences between them or create an environment that encourages their men to want to change. http://www.ngrguardiannews.com/life_style/article11//indexn3_html?pdate=141109&ptitle=Mistakes%20Women%20Make%20Before%20Marriage&cpdate=141109 |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by tracy56(f): 8:42pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
hi , i tink the fault i s from you , if guys dont come to you , ve to check ur personality , are u friendly , do u smile when guys look ur way , so many other things u ve to work on , am single young girl, i still get guys attentions , even though am not as educated or a princess like u , i live in uk , |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Anabel(f): 8:46pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
if you are thinking about the physical aspect of life, try thinking of the spiritual too, i have seen cases like yours and it ends up being a spiritual problem. this is Africa and Nigeria to be precise. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by brooklyn99: 8:54pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Ok missy u sound scary. i'd advice anyone that likes hisself to stay away, when nigerian women in NY (or any of this other big cities)start complaining about "time ticking", they usually exhibit signs of being schizo. i know from experience. i met this nigerian girl once, we agreed we wouldnt date, just have sex. FIRST convo ever, this girl tells me how she wants a baby and she doesnt care who the daddy is. when she realizes that im freaked out she makes it seem like it was a joke. fast forward to two weeks lata, we have sex, now she wants me to be her boyfriend, she actually insists, honey, i dont want nobody. she had the most violent temper ( i saw this after just 2 weeks of knowing her), had no respect, she had just come from africa and had this preconceived notion of what women do to men over here (definitely based on stupid stories she heard back in africa, books she read or movies she watched). crazy bitch would call my baby moms at 2am, broke my phone just cause i was talking to my daughter; claimed she needed attention.picked a fight for no reason (always physical; cus she felt the police "always" listen to women) insisted i pay her rent ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by tracy56(f): 9:01pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
u girls in nigeria , always think of spirtual problems too much , be civilize , |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by metalgong5(m): 9:11pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
@poster Are you no longer enjoying the strong and independent lady BS . . . . ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by mamagee3(f): 9:33pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
Go and marry a girl in your village they are available. ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 9:37pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
mama-gee: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by edoyad(m): 9:41pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
I add "no offense" to my comments cos i say them without any harm intended. Ujujoan and all, when you say marrying an ibo bloke is non negotiable for you, that's great. I think It's real strong and focused for us to know what we want out of life and be ready to hold out for it. The thing is that the poster said she'd "prefer" , now that doesn't seem to me she's closing the gates to other possibilities. Do you want to know the kind of woman i'd prefer ? I'd prefer a 6foot 1 athletic chick, who is half Brazilian-half Cuban, likes English football and can answer the cross word puzzle behind the vanguard newspaper in 5 mins. The problem is I've never met such a girl and i know the chances of me meeting one is quite slim. That's my preference, which i have to reconcile with the reality i have on ground. As for the poster, a medical student already gave us a good reason why things are turning out they are for her but the fact of life is it throws lemons at everyone. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by mamagee3(f): 9:42pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
posakosa: Quit being a stalker. ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 9:45pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
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Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by funkybaby(f): 11:02pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
@poster relax. be yourself. true love will come your way when/where you least expect it ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Sauron1: 11:14pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
funkybaby: All those 36-year-old professional babes in Canary Wharf waited for true love to come. It never came. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by funkybaby(f): 11:19pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
~Sauron~: lol. ![]() your likes are best ignored ! ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by koolchicco: 11:20pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
~Sauron~: Dude u go kil me ooo! ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 11:24pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
kooool----- ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Sauron1: 11:27pm On Nov 23, 2009 |
funkybaby: Forgive ma manners. . . . .I was only stating the FACT. koolchicco: Women should start realising there's an acute shortage of MEN these days. |
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