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Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by dapsycool(m): 9:31pm On Nov 22, 2009 |
naijagurl: bolded part sounds funny, that's the shit guys need to go through. Anyway 26 is not too old ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by TheSly: 9:47pm On Nov 22, 2009 |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still UnmarriedNa wa oh. . . . Naija guys have turned gold now. . . . . . .Uhmm. ![]() Well i have no advise for you, . . . . You just have to wait. . . .relax. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Sissy3(f): 9:52pm On Nov 22, 2009 |
how do you relate to people? are you approachable? maybe its something in your personality or attitude of which you may or may not actually be aware of that instantly puts them off. i know how medical school could take a toll on your social life but its possible and doable to manage the tons of books with having a girls night out. as for your appearance, you can still appear presentable and classy without being trash or too sophisticated. sad, but people do often time address you by you look. so if you think you havent been putting much effort in that fashion department, then its time to get a makeover. however, dont over it. if you are the simple type, dress like it but with class. also you location could also being the hindrance. inasmuch as you would want an igbo man, dont set that limit on yourself because Love knows NO LIMIT. let love decide where it will land you. arent there igbo churches in NY you could attend? try to find predominately nigeria or igbo churches and start attending them, and while there try to make friends dont appear desperate because every relationship starts with some sort of friendship. also try as much to attend ibo or nigerians gatherings, like parties, weddings etc. above all things dont forget that God understands your heart better than anyone else. talk to him, he surely will listen to your prayers and concern. dont forget him. you are still young at 26, its not as if you are 36. dont appear desperate, because desperation attracts desperation. sometimes love happens when and where we least expect it. so dont just give up yet. remember marriage is not a destination. its a journey. some people starts the journey early, and others later. but when it is your time you will surely make the journey. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Hauwa1: 10:31pm On Nov 22, 2009 |
just wait till you graduate, finish residency and start making that dollars. then you will be rushed (choked) on. naija men esp our igbo/nig brothers of today are ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by biobaba: 10:34pm On Nov 22, 2009 |
hi, The problem with many marriages both Christians and unbelievers are, two incomplete partners becoming one. The first thing to do before starting any relationship or getting married is to get the full knowledge of God. Develop yourself in God; ask for his direction on each matter. Never go into any relationship or marriage without a life purpose. One thing I will tell any single person that wants to get into any relationship is: instead of asking God for a partner, ask Him for your purpose, for when you know your purpose in life you’ll know the direction of your life. You have to have a life going for yourself. Let your partner find you busy (working) in life. Find yourself busy with worthwhile purpose. When you find your purpose in life, God will find you the right partner that will help you pursue and accomplish your God given purpose in life. If you don’t have purpose for living you’ll cooperate with someone that’ll paralyze your future. Every time you fill you need something so desperately out of the will of God, someone will use that as an avenue to cheat you out of life, by giving you what you need and collecting what God has given you in life. Your choice today determines by the future you holds tomorrow. Marriage cannot be a solution to loneliness. Loneliness is an empty vacuum to be filled by a want or need of your mind. When you network yourself with the wrong company, you’ll delay your own destiny. Don’t live your life for others. Your attractiveness is not for others consumptions, but for God and your purpose in life. If you’re determining to get love and value outside God’s plan for you, anything will do. Most youths are scared of the age limit. Age has nothing to do with advancement; it is your character and maturity. So, if you’re thirty-five and everything seems dead to you; then go to your bible and take examples from these people: Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses, and all of these great men started their family at forty and above. As a young lady don’t even get carried away with the ‘late marriage syndrome’; Sarah, Hannah, Rachael, started having families in old age and yet their purposes in life where fulfilled. Don’t get yourself entangled with someone still looking for fulfillment or purpose in life without God. Let your choice be based in God. If the word of God cannot help you get your way then you’re lost nothing can help you out. And, lastly, in life you must get your type, because God made you in His own likeness, after His image. If you want a partner, get someone who desires the same passion as for the things of God. What you have not learned cannot be a part of you. The beauty and sense of character keeps a relationship lasting. Godbless you real good. Cheers, ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by chamotex(m): 10:58pm On Nov 22, 2009 |
Post your picture and you will be surprised . . . . . . |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 1:35am On Nov 23, 2009 |
~Sauron~: I should visit her after you told me it was all a waste of money cos you only realised she was a quack on your 7th visit ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 2:37am On Nov 23, 2009 |
naijagurl: Seriously---- how ugly are you ? are you FAT ? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 2:44am On Nov 23, 2009 |
posakosa:Ok am begining to think that this thread is fake. Is it the poster that said that people thought she was ugly because she looks like gabriel union? People have psychology disorders, I swear. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 2:46am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: I suspect its fake too---- Its probably a joke. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 2:50am On Nov 23, 2009 |
@ Topic You are at the right marriageable age for a Nigerian so no need to despair, but maybe you need to get your heads out of your books once in a while and go out and let your hair down. An Uncle of mine once gave me this advice which I thought was BS at the time, but have since known better. He said "once a lady starts getting older, the number of guys approaching her would start to dwindle sharply because unlike ladies that knows what they want from a guy and whether he is marriage material the moment they set sight on him, a lot of guys go into relationships with marriages being the last thing on their mind, hence find it reluctant to approach ladies once they get to a certain age because they would feel under pressure to start taking things seriously" He went on further to tell me that the number of guys that approach a 21 years old girl is always a lot higher that the number of guys that would wanna further a relationship with a - lets say 29 years old lady for example, once again they wrongly conclude that the lady would be desperate to get married. And when you think that this is true for about 95% of cases, its time to sit up. And with regards to majority of the posters saying you need to look after your appearance, I don't think that is relevant, it is what is inside that should count, and this seems to be the case because I am sure you have seen countless of handsome men with ugly babes and ugly men with very pretty babes, and it can be so bad that some people would not be able to help but wonder out loudly how they managed to attract each other. Like I had this friend who worried she was too big and needed to loose the excess weight to keep her man, only for the guy to rebuke her that "she should be comfortable in herself that if she gained weight after they got married, would she expect him to divorce her . . . " |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 2:51am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: posakosa: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 2:54am On Nov 23, 2009 |
@ Busy_body: good advice----- but from what I see---- most Nigerian women 20 and up go into relationships with the intention of getting married----- <whether or not that relationship leads to marriage is something else> but the intent is always there. I think its a cultural thing. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 2:56am On Nov 23, 2009 |
Busy_body: I see hope cuz no guy wants me yet. Hopefully at 21, they'll come flocking ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 2:59am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: dang it u're young ---- finish your university education---- don't let guys be ur focus yet. Bill Gates found his wife at age 24 and dated her for 5 years before getting married---- these things happen at different times for different people. Focus on your life goals and purpose---- and stay humble. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 3:00am On Nov 23, 2009 |
posakosa:yes mumcy ![]() ![]() ![]() By that shock, I'd think ur 28 ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 3:06am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 3:07am On Nov 23, 2009 |
Well, you're not old na ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 3:12am On Nov 23, 2009 |
well----- hehehe----- im close enough but im in the having fun age--- ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() im over 21 though. |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 3:18am On Nov 23, 2009 |
posakosa: Thanks, thats what I was trying to convey, but for the men, marriage is the last thing on their mind, hence are scared to take things further with older women. And I think culture, especially the Nigerian one, sucks too. Naija men have been raised to have these biased attitude and to eschew ladies over a certain age, older women, divorcees, uneducated women, big boned women, single mothers, disabled people, non-virgins, etc ![]() ![]() ![]() FL Gators: Go and sleep and stop worrying your pretty head, we share the same birthday, and we only just turned 13, so we still have a long way to go ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 3:20am On Nov 23, 2009 |
But I'm pretty. . . .and am studying in Burger King University. I added 220ppl on myspace and they denied me. . . . Its unfair ![]() ![]() Busy body, I thought the training bra secret wnt get on NL ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 3:23am On Nov 23, 2009 |
^^^ Yeah but I can't stand people fibbing and I can already see posakosa starting to really think you are in your twenties, hence had to pull you up and stop you in your tracks ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 3:23am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: HAAAAA! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 3:25am On Nov 23, 2009 |
Busy_body:haaaaaaaa mo gbe!!! all 23year old inches of me shiver!! madam e so ara yin o, ah ahn. . . . eebu po ju ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 3:25am On Nov 23, 2009 |
Busy_body: Most people on NLd are under the age of 22---- ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 3:27am On Nov 23, 2009 |
posakosa:taking style to ask Busybody when she'll turn 22? ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 3:39am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: Don't pour sand in my garri and stop lying that we are not 13 years old joo ![]() ![]() posakosa: Hmmn, no be Naija we be, wey na the age we talk say we be, dem go stamp for our birth certificate, my lips are sealed ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Pweety4me(f): 3:41am On Nov 23, 2009 |
*Sings P-square-Busy Body* |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by posakosa(m): 3:46am On Nov 23, 2009 |
FL Gators: No need for style here---- its the age range of most NLders (17-23) |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 3:47am On Nov 23, 2009 |
*Singing Fela's song - She go say oh, she go say she ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Nobody: 3:59am On Nov 23, 2009 |
And with regards to majority of the posters saying you need to look after your appearance, I don't think that is relevant, it is what is inside that should count, and this seems to be the case because I am sure you have seen countless of handsome men with ugly babes and ugly men with very pretty babes, and it can be so bad that some people would not be able to help but wonder out loudly how they managed to attract each other. Like I had this friend who worried she was too big and needed to loose the excess weight to keep her man, only for the guy to rebuke her that "she should be comfortable in herself that if she gained weight after they got married, would she expect him to divorce her . . . " So you sabi talk sense? ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Am Afraid Of Being 30 And Still Unmarried by Busybody2(f): 4:11am On Nov 23, 2009 |
stillwater: ![]() ![]() ![]() To my Butler: Hey you, come here, pass me the sick bucket please, and the biggest quantity of caustic soda you can find, to wash my hands after replying this second class gyal, I don't believe I just stooped so low to correspond with a commoner, eurghh, yuck ![]() ![]() |
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