onyinye2 - toooooooooo funny!!!!!!

Do you date women that curse, and generally have foul mouths?

@timmfikk-

timmfikk:

and use my opportunities when ever it comes.

What do you mean by this?

@StephenP -

That is kind of what I was saying (about confronting issues).

@onyinye -

Yes, being too independent and strong was another thing I had a problem with.

I wanted to prove that I needed no one, so I guess he assumed that he didn't need to be there for me for anything, which led to my greater frustrations.

Every relationship is a learning experience. When a relationship ends you should take time to figure out what went wrong and reflect back to what your contribution to the demise of the relationship was.

What could you have done differently? What lessons did you learn or will you take into the next relationship?

For me I think I should have spoken up more. If something was bothering me I held it in and never said a word out of frustration. In the end my partner ended up taking advantage of me.

I no longer do that and I can tell that it has made a difference.

What about Taxi's in the US? How much can you make?

If he were in bed with the government and could be brought, he would have still held his position.

He said in an interview last month that he receives bribes and death threats all the time. He said that the bribers have been prosecuted, or something to that effect.

They never expected him to walk the chalk line,  instead they thought they could use him to their advantage. When this failed, they had a change of heart.

If I made the majority of the money in the relationship and therefore provided the financial support, I would expect you to support the relationship in other ways. You would have to do the cooking, cleaning, babysitting, home repairs, whatever. Just other things to let me know that you value me and not making me feel that your are just around to use me.

Also, unless there is a disability you should be able to find a job. I'm not saying that you have to be the Manager or Vice-President of a company, but just some type of honest job that let's me know that you are not lazy. You need to be getting out of the bed in the morning and getting ready to go somewhere, just like I do.

If you are lazy and broke - I'm out of there.

I am not one for confrontations.

I will simply walk away, and give him holy hell once we are in a more private setting. The verbal thrashing will be so that he will never want to display this type of behavior again.

Do you know that I have NEVER met a couple that has not experienced cheating within their relationship? Because of this I must say that I would not be so quick to kick him to the curb, but to weigh the pro's and con's of the relationship. Why should I leave him for someone else who may just as well cheat on me also?

However, he will never know I feel this way. I will make him think that he will catch hell should he ever cheat on me.

It's not what you say, but how you say it. Stating it in a way that invokes sarcasm and bringing up someone's personal background is really not necessary UNLESS the original question was meant as an attack of some sort.

WHY IS EVERYONE INSULTED BY THIS QUESTION?? WE COME TO THIS FORUM TO HELP EACH OTHER, AND TO SHARE OUR EXPERIENCES. WHY THEN SHOULD YOU ATTACK SOMEONE WITH SOMETHING THEY REVEALED FROM A PREVIOUS POST? I AM REALLY SURPRISED AT SOME OF YOU.

IT IS NOT LIKE SISTAWOMAN IS NOT A REGULAR CONTRIBUTOR TO THESE POSTS. I HAVE READ MANY OF HER POSTS, AND SHE ALWAYS TRIES TO HELP OUT BY SHARING INFORMATION. SHE IS NOT LIKE SOME OF THE OTHER IGNORANT AMERICANS I HAVE READ POSTS FROM WHO JUST WANT TO GIVE YOU ALL A HARD TIME.

PLEASE STOP THE NONSENSE!!

I dont think it is fair to jump on sistawoman for her question. She specifically attempted to ask the question with respect to the culture more than once. Why would she attempt to insult the culture? Her husband is Nigerian for crying out loud.

Please just answer the question, as I have heard this also.

Sistawoman I think it may just have to do with the fact that Polygamy is accepted in Nigeria. I am sure the wives do not necessarily accept it, but within that type of environment it may be difficult to deal with. Especially when you have the Elders advising you to stay.

@sistawoman - Good question.

Wow   What would part two entail?

@timmfikk
What do you mean your un-seriousness. Please explain.

@ davidylan, thanks for answering the complete question.

Everyone please respond to how it makes you feel as well.

@ SAM MILLA  - What if you were at fault?

Should she then drink the beer until you go tumbling to the floor?

@ HCH3COO - If it was your fault, how do you know she will have sex with you? You have to have a better plan than that!

Does it make you uncomfortable? What is your reaction?

When the tears are not due to death, or sickness, but due to the fact that you've hurt her feelings in some way, how does it make you feel. How do you deal with it?

My boyfriend's voice is sooo enchanting to me. Since I am American I love his accent, and he in turn loves mine. I like the way he switches his languages back and forth without missing a beat.

What I absolutely love love love about him is that he is so aggressive and forceful (in a positive way) in conversations with others, but in his conversations with me, his voice always remains calm, low and mellow. Whenever we have conversations, even when we are disagreeing on something, he always incorporates sweetheart, darling or some other loving epithet.

I absolutely get turned on by his voice. As a matter of fact, I am getting turned on right now. 

I think a man is ready to marry when he is financially stable, has gotten all the running around out of his system, and is mature enough to deal with the complexities that he knows marriage may bring.

Thank you brother

@ Abuseay - dont be jealous.

Okay, now I am curious. Do you guys feel that Naija husbands in Naija make better husbands than Nigerian husbands abroad?

Rhino, I have read through this entire thread and whenever I felt the need to respond, you said exactly what I felt needed to be said.

I now officially crown you the house speaker for Nalijah07, as I will now feel comfortable to sit back and enjoy the threads without having to touch my keyboard!!  Your comments will represent the two of us!  

you guys can't say both, you have to pick one.

Please break this down into USD for me. What would the pay be in USD

Thanks!!