mama-gee:

The Kids are most important.

OAM4J:

Please choose your spouse over your children. You can always start all over with your spouse and have more children that will make you forget your loss. But with children around, you will never get over the lost of your husband and the children's father.


I heard this story about a popular evangelist in Nigeria - Dr Uma Ukpai. He once had an accident, their car fell into the river, only him could swim and he could only save one person. He saved his wife and lost 3 children, today they have many more children.

That story touched me.

ubiaa5:

did this realy happen? i know rev uma ukpai n two of his kids,i think he has 4 or5.

OAM4J:

Please choose your spouse over your children. You can always start all over with your spouse and have more children that will make you forget your loss. But with children around, you will never get over the lost of your husband and the children's father.


I heard this story about a popular evangelist in Nigeria - Dr Uma Ukpai. He once had an accident, their car fell into the river, only him could swim and he could only save one person. He saved his wife and lost 3 children, today they have many more children.

That story touched me.

koolchicco:

And why?

Be_Blessed:

As for me both of them are important, but if it is compulsory that u must choose one, i will first-of-all choose my Husband, cos if i lost my child there will still be another change 2 give birth 2 another one if my husband recovered, but if i lost my husband, it will very difficult to find that kind of love , if you marry second husband.


For the male, i know that they will prefer their child, cos they believe once their wife die, they will got marry 2 another wife, and the so-called child will be suffering (i.e. if the second wife is very wicked woman) and once the husband fall in love with the second wife, he won't like 2 remember anytin about the child again. Within that process they will be calling the child witch.



MY HUSBAND WILL COME FIRST B/4 MY CHILD OOOOOOOOOOOOOH

!amebo no1:

It did not happen like this, yes they had an accident, he wasnt there cos he was in a different car with his wife, it was the car his kids were in that fell into river

agabaI23:

OAM4J
Thanks for making me review my atrocious post.

!amebo no1:

It did not happen like this, yes they had an accident, he wasnt there cos he was in a different car with his wife, it was the car his kids were in that fell into river

otukpo:

Thank you for that correction. Uma Ukpai and his wife were not in the car with his children.

My husband does not have to cheat on me for me to know what happens in my society. I know many men wld choose their kids. for those that are not yet married and perhaps don't have kids yet, u may not know it.

I have been close to many married men and women and i can tell u dt majority of most married men in Nigeria cheat on their wives and don't see it as any big deal. And majority of married women think that their future is only guaranteed in their children cos the husband can do and undo. If u understand what i mean.

In everything, there are exceptions and i have not said its 100% for men or women.

Take it or leave it, that is the reality in the Nigerian society.

taosola:

This is a good thread! Well, let's think of what happens to a couple when their children begin their own life, we can only raise children as the fruits of our relationship. They will go on their own and the couple alone to continue their life. Please choose wise if you find yourself in a condition like this. Your spouse should be more important atop other.[color=][/color]