@citywal it's nice you noticed the change in behavior. Since you've talked to her and she doesn't want to listen, move on with your life. I wonder why this my gender will choose to stay out so late with strangers even with the much danger roaming around. Another thing is the friends she associates with.

So the three of them put together can't settle their bill and they went on a date. I can't even agree to go out with anyone when I'm broke. Please my fellow ladies if you must go on a date, please go with your ATM card that has enough fund in it. Eat what you know you can pay for...if bobo keeps insisting that you take more things please check the value of your pocket and tell him NO...so if at the end of the day bobo say he no go pay or doesn't have enough cash, you settle the bill and move ahead.

lecturer50:


She is living alone.

I am not the only child.

There are others trying to make ends meet at different places in Nigeria.

I am the only one whose phone is always on whenever they are calling me from the village.

Others have got new lines which they don't want the other relatives to know due to their disturbance.

Whenever they visit my mom, they would stay with her and then go back.

If any of my relatives ask for their numbers, they give their old lines which they only switch on when they are in the village,

claiming that where they are working, their lines do not go through, since they are in remote areas.

Just follow the steps of your siblings. Provide for your mum as much as you can and whenever you want to call her, switch on your old love and use it after which you will switch it off. I guess she didn't die as your siblings are following that step but your uncle obviously wants to use your mum to run you down. Finally, don't even think of quitting your job. Similar thing happened to me so I repeat, don't think of quitting your job. You will still be mocked once you stop providing for them the moment you run dry while staying in the village.