Thank you all, all the replies will be useful for my decision.

Am still waiting for more responses that could help.

She is 29. More comments and advise please.

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Sorry I didnt include this. I am currently saving to start a business. If I venture into anything marriage the whole savings will go for it. This is is my dilema.

Please mod help me push this to the front page to attract helpful matured comments.

My girl came up last night to ask of our marriage plans. She said she has many proposals from men and her mum pressuring from another end. I have delayed the marriage introduction due to our differences and money matter. She needs me to make her decision this weekend. She is a very good girl, I mean marriage material. As she is having different men coming her way, she do not want to loose them and later loose out with me. She is in her late twenties while am in my early thirties.

My fear is that I came from a humble background. I know what poverty is, I have smelt it and I have romanced it. You know what it`s like fending for yourself from primary to university level. Poverty is something I do not wish my enemies to have. I want to attain financial independence in which I can cater for my wife and family. I don`t want my kids to go through what I have been through. At this point of my life I do not have much to run a family of my dream.

The fear of loosing her and starting a fresh search is killing me. Will I be able to get a girl like her in the future if I let go at this point? Please matured Nairalanders help.

maclatunji:

Eeerm, I am scratching my head to see what the problem is. This intelligent girl of yours wants you to meet her parents, is that not a good thing? Maybe you feel that she should gist with you more and there should be two-way communication, not just you being better than her at almost everything and doing all the talking?

Give her some time to find your weaknesses and allow her to dominate you in her areas of comparative advantage some of the time (but don't patronise her). That should make you and her happy?

Noted

She agree to most of my suggestions. I expect her to disagree on some issues. I do most of the initiatives. She talk less, I expect her to challenge me atleast.

Am a guy who has tasted different kind of style life has to offer. I grew in a ghetto, I tasted all kinds of life the ghetto offered. I have lived in a room apartment, thank God I now stay in a Duplex. I have slept in the forest and I have slept in a five star hotel outside Africa.I have area boys as my friends and I have guys who are highly connected as my pals as well. I have the basic education Bsc (not too educated). I have dated girls who think they are sophisticated and I have dated girls of other side of the divide. I had to let you know me before I table my complaints. Am a regular NLer but I had to open this thread with another Id as to be open as much as I can.

I met this lady sometime early last year, she is very beautiful. The first time I met her she never gave me a chance until I sent her a text before she could pick my calls. I love her very much but my problem with her is that she appears to be very cold for my liking. I asked her what the problem is and she said I am the cause of her coldness. She said before I can into her life, she has been in charge of her relationships. She said I appear to be too intelligent for her. I told her that is just me, am not faking anything to impress her. I only had a balanced upbringing. I have not done anything to dominate her. Most times I pushed to tell me her feelings and advise on some issues. I have begged her to come out of her shell, I dont like her coldness. We intend to make our relationship former (introduction in two weeks) to our families.

Please help me, am scared of her coldness. How can I help her come out of it. Matured advise please.

Mod please help me take it to the front page for more matured advise.