Kobojunkie:
True that Nigeria is a multicultural nation but when it comes to tradition and marriage, can you specify one cultural group that does not provide for polygamy as a patriarchal right

If location is what you want, I say you look in the South Easts and South West- I exclude the North where sharia has somewhat taken the place of traditional laws.

buragidi:


Not entirely correct. Many of the men of old were farmers who required farmhands. The easiest way to do this is to marry as many wives and bear many children.

samuelson06:
You are talking nonsense.

maureensylvia:


Haba brother

DEMZEE:
Nigeria is patriarchal

DEMZEE:
Men are capable of loving and marrying different women at the same time

Women can't love two men at the same time talkless of marrying two or more men

Sleekfingers:



I am from the southwest.... traditional wedding favours the men the most.....the man can marry a second wife or impregnate any woman.....and there is nothing the Ist wife can do about it.....na only begging go end am........

That's why I strongly advice women to insist on court wedding......if the man do anyhow, he go see anyhow........

Biglittlelois:
Where is it explicitly stated that all traditional marriages is automatic polygamy or adultery approved? Show us proof, link pls, don't just spew your own opinion as fact.

maureensylvia:
Only women who are married monogamously under the marriage act (in court or in an approved church) have the right to say “My husband is cheating on me”! If you are only married traditionally, your husband never vowed to be faithful to you!

when you are married only under native law and custom your husband has the right to marry as many wives as he wants and there is NOTHING you can do about it. Also your children belong to him custody wise under native law and custom.

Constrictive criticism is allowed

Biglittlelois:



To answer your question, you are high on substance, and since you know my culture and traditions, you must know where I come from, so enlighten me.

Kobojunkie:
The statement in bold is not at all true.

Kobojunkie:
Interesting! Can you please be more specific about any case in customary law of this sort?

Kobojunkie:
Precisely !

Sterope:
They don't actually. My bad.

DEMZEE:


Even with court marriage men can still marry many women

Polygamy is not a crime in Nigeria

Kobojunkie:
That is a lie!

DEMZEE:
Exactly

That's why our family laws are men-centric and we uphold family values unlike western societies where single motherhood is the norm

Kobojunkie:
Uphold what family values unlike the western societies?

maureensylvia:
Only women who are married monogamously under the marriage act (in court or in an approved church) have the right to say “My husband is cheating on me”! If you are only married traditionally, your husband never vowed to be faithful to you!

when you are married only under native law and custom your husband has the right to marry as many wives as he wants and there is NOTHING you can do about it. Also your children belong to him custody wise under native law and custom.

Constrictive criticism is allowed

Sleekfingers:


But he gonna have to file for a divorce , before he can marry another... legally speaking....

ShaqFu:
Narrow minded comments like this, is why you never won the miss Nairaland contest.

Yagami:
But common, instead of arguing over superiority of gender and adultery, why not take common sense from the info the OP point out especially for WOMEN
1. Traditional marriage though acceptable and approved is NOT LEGAL BINDING
2. Traditionally, women right are bought by the husband through bride price..
3. It is HIGHLY advised to NOT settle for only traditional marriage as a woman but go for a court wedding, so as to protect your rights

Like it or not, divorce favours the man in a traditional matrimony, while it tint towards the woman for a legal or court marriage..

Ladies LEARN!!!

Kobojunkie:
Thank you!

Saintmary, here's another person telling you of southwestern tradition as it is even to this day.

HenryThegreat1:

Then prove me wrong oga

maureensylvia:
Only women who are married monogamously under the marriage act (in court or in an approved church) have the right to say “My husband is cheating on me”! If you are only married traditionally, your husband never vowed to be faithful to you!

when you are married only under native law and custom your husband has the right to marry as many wives as he wants and there is NOTHING you can do about it. Also your children belong to him custody wise under native law and custom.

Constrictive criticism is allowed

DEMZEE:
Marriage, men and family are respected in Nigeria that's why Nigeria is patriarchal.

In western societies, women are first class citizens and men are second class citizens. Single motherhood is worshipped and praised while fathers are thrown out of the household