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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Biglittlelois(f): 10:59pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
MrMacinterchi1: Words of mouth isn't a law, a village king can just as well wake up one day and proclaim what suits him, doesn't make it factual or true. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by pocohantas(f): 10:59pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
The OP is right, painfully so. Traditionally a man can take as many wives as he deems fit. There is no part of the Nigerian culture that is against polygamy. More reason I am always shocked when some men say, “let’s go back to the ways of our fathers”. Nobody blocked the road to polygamy. It is very open for any man willing to practice it in 2021. Polygamy is not having one wife and smoking loud with a 200L girl in a serviced apartment. Our forefathers didn’t do that. Make your stand clear, let the woman know what she is going into and bring all of them home. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 10:59pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
goodsam23: They are bringing wokeness into the talk. What you said is nothing but the truth. Any lady who has ears should hear o. If you didnt do court marriage, wahala dey o 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:02pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
DEMZEE: Very wrong o. Except na under Sharia. Apart from that, if a man marries a woman customarily and attempts to marry another one, na jail dey call am. It is a crime. They sound it like alarm in marriage registries sef 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:04pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Yagami: No o, free these ignoramuses to be arguing with known fact 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:04pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Okhuadams: Simple! Women should insist on court marriage 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Lindaikejiblogg: 11:05pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:05pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:06pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by MandGEnterprise: 11:06pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
OmoEpe: Leave that person alone, she's revelling in her stupidity. Having read every arguments. It is just simple. Ladies don't only marry in the Traditional way 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by descarado: 11:06pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Traditional laws are actually written down. Well detailed and segmented. Always deliberated on and amended regularly. We have what we call kinsmen constitutions. Each kinsmen constitutions collectively make up village constitution which brings about the town constitution 1 Like |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by folake4u(f): 11:07pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
pocohantas: You're right, Poco. One of my Lecturers back in school told me that he used the law very well to his own advantage. He and his spouse are both educated, and he said he made sure he didn't conduct a statutory marriage, only customary marriage to do as he likes. His wife knows he fully cheats, with even 100/200 level girls but she decided to turn a blind eye to it. As for me, na Court Registry things. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:08pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
descarado:How can I access them please? ![]() |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:08pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
OmoEpe: Not church wedding o. That one is even more useless. That one na just for God's blessings. For court case,church wedding no count |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Biglittlelois(f): 11:08pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Toks2008: Based on your 2/10, there is a possibility that a woman who left her cheating husband, can still be married to a faithful man simple. Are there faithful men out there? Yes, whether minority or majority, they exist, so all these your assumptions and probabilities are inconsequential if women are still getting married to faithful men tomorrow. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:09pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
tctrills: Which custom? That custom no dey pay bride price? Abi na the woman dey pay bride price ![]() |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:11pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Joyceaile: Eye go clear you. Women always think na sex man wan chop. Una go learn soonest |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:11pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by pembisco(m): 11:12pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Rubbiish:This is petty bro. You can marry 10 wives but only one is recognized by law. (Court or church) What she's saying is only court or Church marriage compels man/woman to vow or take an oath to staying with only one woman/man respectively. There's no traditional marriage that compels man or woman to take such a vow and the op is actually right. That is why the court or church cannot dissolve a marriage done in a traditional way. Simple 2 Likes |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:13pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:14pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by BluntCrazeMan: 11:14pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Some traditions still allow women to seek adventure, even up till this present era... But generally, in ancient Igbo Tradition, a man who had a lady he continuously had sex with, and he did not pay bride price on the lady, then the lady becomes his “iko” (concubine), and if a concubine became pregnant, the baby would belong to the husband of the concubine (if she was a married lady), or to her father (if she was an unmarried lady). Young unmarried men were not permitted to have “iko”, unless the lady in question was already a married woman (but the unmarried young man would be facing stigmatization amongst his peers for not looking for maiden who would bear children for him, rather then a married lover). It was assumed that the unmarried young men didn't know anything about women yet, and that was why the young men usually hid in the bushes with the maidens they loved in order to have sex, and once he got any of the maidens pregnant, then he must marry her first. If he still loved the other maidens, they may become his “iko” if they are interested. Christianity came and preached against having “iko”. The whole psychology surrounding concubines is so complicated. It had led to lost of broken families and untimely deaths due to poisoning. .. .. Some people still practice it up till now. For instance, in Anambra State, some married men in some remote villages have “Agiri”, whom the wife might even know very well. .. And not just that. A man’s wife can also be an “Agiri” to another married man, and the man marrying the woman would even know that she is an “Agiri” to another man, he may even know the man himself to whom his own wife is an “Agiri” to. .. And what is an “Agiri”?? An Agiri is a concubine. .. .. That's Crazy Huuh??!! 1 Like |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by pembisco(m): 11:16pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Okhuadams:You are daft so you can't actually understand 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:18pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
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Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by descarado: 11:19pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
DEMZEE:It is well. There are some cultures where women marry more than one husband. Have you heard of polyandry? Some part of Northern Nigeria practice polyandry in the olden days. Tibet, small fraction of India etc still practice polyandry. Internet is also a great teacher. |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:20pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Kingstanding: What happened during divorce during bible times? Did the woman get anything? Absolutely nott |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by Kobojunkie: 11:21pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
BluntCrazeMan, is there any literature on these practices and laws that I can access online abeg. I am very much interested in learning of some of these here intriguing traditions. ![]() |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by ityP(m): 11:22pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: You're getting it wrong. Polygamy is permitted and not enforced. Two different things 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by pocohantas(f): 11:22pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
folake4u: What if he refuses? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Don't complain that your husband is cheating on you if you are on this table by DissTroy(m): 11:23pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
maureensylvia: Faithful is an emotional and physical contract marriage doesn't guarantee. Heck! If marriage guarantees faithfulness, why are there a gazillion cases of philandering spouses (including wives) and paternity fraud? A philandering wife or husband already exhibited the signs pre-marriage and during dating. Men especially who forgive cheating women open the way for three things: Disrespect; Paternity fraud; Death by a scornful woman who doesn't regard you. Marriage wouldn't fix any of these things. The wedding is just an event. The wedding is just a PUBLIC CELEBRATION of vows of loyalty you made to each other but these days, for most girls, the wedding is a status symbol to flaut for 5 years or so for 361 'likes' on Facebook until some grow bored and being their pre-marriage philandering. |
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