Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

I believe you guys dated for some few months before you decided to tie the knot.... Now, she has turned into a full blown house wife who is now a Zee World specialist because you failed to define the marital responsibilities.

Talk with her one more time, and if she refuse to do anything to support her home, bring it to the notice of her parents and possibly, her “Daddy” in the Lord.


Now, on a lighter note; It may seem as though you really want her to go out for some hours so you can import some young blood to keep you company....

Someone taking care of your home, your meals and her pregnancy and you still think she is doing nothing?

Wife from heaven.
I Kent kee myself heavenly wife

What Efforts have u made to get her a job?
Has she gotten job offers and refused?
Does she have a business to manage?

Congratulations oga OP

sit her down and ask her what she want and how if she can cope. She is pregnant, it might be somehow stressful for her nature. You dated and talked about a lot of things, you ought to have settled this before getting her pregnant. She hold on with the masters first till she put to bed.

Massiveglory:
What Efforts have u made to get her a job?
Has she gotten job offers and refused?
Does she have a business to manage?

Thanks! But I have tried my best all the interviews she has gone, none was successful and that is why I want her to pick that masters

Have you ask her if she would like to start up a business.

Fredamanda:


Thanks! But I have tried my best all the interviews she has gone, none was successful and that is why I want her to pick that masters

Can she cope with the studies stress? After the studies what next?

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude. I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one altitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something. She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us. Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Your mumu noe be here.


With normal bsc, she'nor won work.

You still want force her to do masters make she carry the paper put for house.


You nor just get Sense at all

Hmmm....
You will also need to make sacrifice.

My opinion is that you both relocate to the east so that her schooling can be easier.

This has nothing do with "am the husband"and she is "the wife" and so must do as I say.

Things not as complicated as this breaks home.

Wish you the best and pray you both God's wisdom.

Good wife she go soon fat anyhow

Massiveglory:
What Efforts have u made to get her a job?
Has she gotten job offers and refused?
Does she have a business to manage?

Na him go find work for her as minister of labour wey em be abi wetin??

Rubbish.

If I see this kain wife sef; me go happy. Not like this end time wives of these days.

So, should travel to the east for her masters; while you stay in Lagos? or will you go along as your job is flexible.

Congratulations on the baby, sha.

OP you are about to learn a very bitter lesson .. very bitter

Make she start work abi?

How do you expect her to do her masters when she’s pregnant? Are you alright?

Na wa oh

Massiveglory:

1. What Efforts have u made to get her a job?

2. Has she gotten job offers and refused?

3. Does she have a business to manage?

1. Na wa o... So a full grown adult would seat down at home all day, doing nothing but probably watching movies and then say there's no job and the husband is to blame for it ba?? Can't she go out and look for a job by herself?? Abi you're tryna to Blame her laziness on her husband?? And besides, if you read his post well, you'd see a place where he said he, he has tried for her to start up something but to no avail...

2. Has she tried and she didn't find any??

3. If she did, the husband wouldn't be complaining would he??

If her being pregnant is the reason for her not wanting to find a job, then it's understandable, cause pregnancy comes with is own wahala...but even as that, there are things she can do to make money even while at home...

RENOWNED2:


Na him go find work for her as minister of labour wey em be abi wetin??

I tire o....
If na man talk like this now, na different story we go hear.

Fredamanda:


Thanks! But I have tried my best all the interviews she has gone, none was successful and that is why I want her to pick that masters

Okay. In her present condition, it would have been better if the Master program was in Lagos. Except you have plans to shift to the East.

It seems you do not know the value of woman you have in your abode.

You have a woman who loves staying at home, you want her out.

Whatever you are working at from home coach her so both of you can work from home and she can also work under you while you supervise from the top.

You get the drift.

Under no circumstances should you push her to go for masters under the pregnancy.

Holly Gram real matters. WTF MAN

Honestly I de salute married people
I mean married men and women
You won't understand until u enta...

Some men see it as testament to manhood, that's why even your loved ones will want you to get married. But man there's more you won't see until u enta

Be you who, once married you've got to bear and bear...that's when one understands the word tolerance

My old paddy got married...
At first he was drunk, I no gree am hear word
Before I go cap one or two he will remind me he's married.

If something sup for area whey warrant settlement...before I go yan, my guy go make everyone know say he's a responsible man

My guy de ma bunk like this...He left home unannounced since tuesday.
Him never shee shomethin

Who told you she is not doing anything?
Tell her to delete her Instagram or Facebook first and see if she won't divorce you

Wonder what kind of discussion both of you had before marriage.

1. You must understand that it's difficult for adults to change their mindsets, especially when these mindsets or ideology comes with incentives and comfortability or a medium that serves as an escape route.
True for women when they get married. They don't see the need for constant improvement because all they've wanted was to secure a man that will cater for their expenses through thick and thin despite their poor nature, bad attitude, amoebic body shape, damaged mentality, complacency, entitlement mentality etc.

2. Your wife's laziness is rooted in the comfortability you've placed her and to make her become productive you must upset that foundation. (She may however vacillates between changing for the better or seek another greener pasture for laziness).

How do you do these:

A. For the main time, pretend that your remote work is failing or has failed. Move from home early and daily to do your work outside and come back late like a normal job seeker. When you come back tell her the experiences you had when searching for a good job.

B. Reduce the amount of comfortability through the extra things you provide for the family. This will rhyme with your recent "joblessness".

C. Be the one that should start telling her to keep master's degree program aside because things are not as rosy before. (By the way, she doesn't need it, except otherwise). Because it's high time expenses must be managed.

D. Act broke with her and others and let it rhyme with the aforementioned.

On the extreme, if her unproductive nature hinges your prospect and progress tell her it's high time to cut off the relationship. She can't be enjoying life while doing nothing.

Enjoy your liability!

Fredamanda:
My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us. Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Maybe it is time you both go get professional marriage counseling - no pastors or imam bullsheet abeg.

Why did she apply to school in a university that far away from where you both live? Did she not plan this?

You want her to get a masters, even though right now she refuses to work with even the undergraduate degree she currently has, I hope you don't intend for a Masters to magically transform her into a working woman or something?

She currently refuses to work meaning yours is the only source of income for your home, but you are already adding a third person to your family and atop of that you want to add a masters program, are you swimming in millions or something?

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude. I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one altitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something. She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us. Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Ur wife is pregnant. U want her to work and at the same time u want her to go for her Masters. Na how many body she get?

Fredamanda:
I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us. Please kindly advice me on what to do.

If your wife really wants you to go and do your Masters or PhD, will you go?

who still does 9- 5 job in this era? don’t stress it, just teach her how to make money from home. Perhaps cry.pto or food blogging. DYOR

Imagine a lady going through school for years only for her to decide she wants to be a full blown house wife. Op honestly your wife needs a mind reset because she's not really focused on the things that lies ahead, and it is your responsibility to let her know and contribute her quota.
Life is unpredictable, people saying it's because she's pregnant so she should sit at down, what a shame. I have seen many pregnant women who work even with their conditions
My own wife must work and assist me o, i can't come and kee myself cz i want to form man