Kobojunkie:
Critical? So the 100s of millions of pregnant women out there working nko? There own pregnancy no Critical abi? There own no need support and love that is why they are out there working abi?

Stop making up silly excuses for pregnant women. Pregnancy no be sickness.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.


She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

PlayMaker14:
I believe you guys dated for some few months before you decided to tie the knot.... Now, she has turned into a full blown house wife who is now a Zee World specialist because you failed to define the marital responsibilities.

Talk with her one more time, and if she refuse to do anything to support her home, bring it to the notice of her parents and possibly, her “Daddy” in the Lord.


Now, on a lighter note; It may seem as though you really want her to go out for some hours so you can import some young blood to keep you company....

CaveAdullam:
Wonder what kind of discussion both of you had before marriage.

1. You must understand that it's difficult for adults to change their mindsets, especially when these mindsets or ideology comes with incentives and comfortability or a medium that serves as an escape route.
True for women when they get married. They don't see the need for constant improvement because all they've wanted was to secure a man that will cater for their expenses through thick and thin despite their poor nature, bad attitude, amoebic body shape, damaged mentality, complacency, entitlement mentality etc.

2. Your wife's laziness is rooted in the comfortability you've placed her and to make her become productive you must upset that foundation. (She may however vacillates between changing for the better or seek another greener pasture for laziness).

How do you do these:

A. For the main time, pretend that your remote work is failing or has failed. Move from home early and daily to do your work outside and come back late like a normal job seeker. When you come back tell her the experiences you had when searching for a good job.

B. Reduce the amount of comfortability through the extra things you provide for the family. This will rhyme with your recent "joblessness".

C. Be the one that should start telling her to keep master's degree program aside because things are not as rosy before. (By the way, she doesn't need it, except otherwise). Because it's high time expenses must be managed.

D. Act broke with her and others and let it rhyme with the aforementioned.

On the extreme, if her unproductive nature hinges your prospect and progress tell her it's high time to cut off the relationship. She can't be enjoying life while doing nothing.

Enjoy your liability!

DissTroy:


Right on the mark! As long as men continue to condone lazy, unmotivated women who are jobless and make wives of them, they'd continue to be shortchanged.

Stop shortchanging yourselves, men. She wouldn't be with you if you were jobless and unmotivated careerwise.

Demand same of these women. While you were dating, your woman never even for one date asked that you go out on a date that she funds or buys you gifts and you think it's normal? Why do you expect her to do better in marriage?

Saicrumam:
Honestly I de salute married people
I mean married men and women
You won't understand until u enta...

Some men see it as testament to manhood, that's why even your loved ones will want you to get married. But man there's more you won't see until u enta

Be you who, once married you've got to bear and bear...that's when one understands the word tolerance

My old paddy got married...
At first he was drunk, I no gree am hear word
Before I go cap one or two he will remind me he's married.

If something sup for area whey warrant settlement...before I go yan, my guy go make everyone know say he's a responsible man. If na woman matter then he's the one that understands women more

My guy de ma bunk like this...He left home unannounced since Tuesday.
Him never shee shomething

Saicrumam:

My guy de ma bunk like this...He left home unannounced since Tuesday.
Him never shee shomething

poiZon:

1. Theonly places that advertise jobs are kiosks, mini marts, barbing salon, other smaller smes..
U can't see shell, nnpc, banks even civil service put advert notice on their entrance looking for people to employ.

2. Na online these agencies dey advertise their jobs.
And i know she is a graduate,unless u want her to go look for sale's girls job in a mini mart.

Favfables1:


1. No arguments about that ...
2. My point is...can't she search online by herself?? You said it yourself, there are online platforms that she can take advantage of...
Yes it's awk for her husband to help out...but it's plain laziness for her dump everything on her husband and then complain that there's no job, when clearly she isn't making any effort ((according to the OP's post))..
And by the way...
If the cases were reversed, many person's out there ((probably you included)) would advice the man to do "anything" he can lay his hands on ..so why can't she do same... The lady is just plain lazy abeggi

PlayMaker14:
I believe you guys dated for some few months before you decided to tie the knot.... Now, she has turned into a full blown house wife who is now a Zee World specialist because you failed to define the marital responsibilities.

Talk with her one more time, and if she refuse to do anything to support her home, bring it to the notice of her parents and possibly, her “Daddy” in the Lord.


Now, on a lighter note; It may seem as though you really want her to go out for some hours so you can import some young blood to keep you company....

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

poiZon:

1. And when she is being played the iniumoren's episode, na una go still blame her why she is not taking it easy on herself.

2. The man is fedup with his wife, lets be sincere...

3. If the guyman was working outside his home, he won't be perturbed by her wife's idleness.

4. Since he is working from home, he don tire with his wife's presence... He just wants to send her out so he can have small peace.

5. The Masters he wants her to pursue, will she be paid while schooling?
No be another form of wasting money on stuff that will bring nothing at the end.
Person never use him bsc work, u go do Master's...
Unless she wan be teacher or lecturer.

fourboys:
Good wife she go soon fat anyhow

Godada:


It seems you do not know the value of woman you have in your abode.

You have a woman who loves staying at home, you want her out.

Whatever you are working at from home coach her so both of you can work from home and she can also work under you while you supervise from the top.

You get the drift.

Under no circumstances should you push her to go for masters under the pregnancy.

MeghaneMorgane:
She doesn’t have to do the masters if she doesn’t want to. Try to give her something to do or ask her what she wants to do in Lagos.

Favfables1:


1. What are you typing?? What makes you think she will be played? Yes, people are played, both men and women, but yet they keep pushing, why can't she do same?? She's just LAZY...there's no excuse!!! In our current generation, there are many platforms she can use to make money from home, platforms that can be considered not stressful, why can't she take advantage of them?? Have you not seen pregnant women out on the streets working?? Do they have two heads?? Abi no be the same belly them carry?? THE WOMAN IS LAZY!!

2. I can't say for certain, but I agree with you...he's fed up, but not at his wife...but at her lazy attitude...

3. Hmm...
I can't say...
Men are different...
Some men don't mind having a house wife, while some are disgusted by it...maybe the guy falls in the former, thus his complaint

4. ..
I think so too...

5. No it won't be paid schooling... But having a master's degree puts you in a better position for some jobs, especially jobs in the lecturing field... So he wanting her to go for masters can be considered as a way of putting her in a better position to getting a well paid job....

Saicrumam:
Honestly I de salute married people
I mean married men and women
You won't understand until u enta...

Some men see it as testament to manhood, that's why even your loved ones will want you to get married. But man there's more you won't see until u enta

Be you who, once married you've got to bear and bear...that's when one understands the word tolerance

My old paddy got married...
At first he was drunk, I no gree am hear word
Before I go cap one or two he will remind me he's married.

If something sup for area whey warrant settlement...before I go yan, my guy go make everyone know say he's a responsible man. If na woman matter then he's the one that understands women more

My guy de ma bunk like this...He left home unannounced since Tuesday.
Him never shee shomething

Elsueno:


In summary, he should partially starve his wife, partially make her life miserable by reducing comfort.

And if all fails, he should divorce her right?

I think some of you don't even realise, but being a full time house wife is also a job on it own...Cooks ur food, sweep the house, mop, wash the bathrooms, take care of d kids etc.... that stuff takes at least 5 hours a day!....But Bros Fredamanda u won't understand all these until she starts doing another job & warming leftover foods consistently for a week, always tired to give u attention. That's when u will miss the house wife

CaveAdullam:
Wonder what kind of discussion both of you had before marriage.

1. You must understand that it's difficult for adults to change their mindsets, especially when these mindsets or ideology comes with incentives and comfortability or a medium that serves as an escape route.
True for women when they get married. They don't see the need for constant improvement because all they've wanted was to secure a man that will cater for their expenses through thick and thin despite their poor nature, bad attitude, amoebic body shape, damaged mentality, complacency, entitlement mentality etc.

2. Your wife's laziness is rooted in the comfortability you've placed her and to make her become productive you must upset that foundation. (She may however vacillates between changing for the better or seek another greener pasture for laziness).

How do you do these:

A. For the main time, pretend that your remote work is failing or has failed. Move from home early and daily to do your work outside and come back late like a normal job seeker. When you come back tell her the experiences you had when searching for a good job.

B. Reduce the amount of comfortability through the extra things you provide for the family. This will rhyme with your recent "joblessness".

C. Be the one that should start telling her to keep master's degree program aside because things are not as rosy before. (By the way, she doesn't need it, except otherwise). Because it's high time expenses must be managed.

D. Act broke with her and others and let it rhyme with the aforementioned.

On the extreme, if her unproductive nature hinges your prospect and progress tell her it's high time to cut off the relationship. She can't be enjoying life while doing nothing.

Enjoy your liability!

CaveAdullam:


1. ..."at least 5 hours...." you said. You are talking as if you you and the op's wife are the only married women on earth. Fine, the nature of the workplace is not structured for women because it is tough, rough and slippery and base on the female's psychology, it will take a whole lot of tweaking to get used to the terrain. But you must understand that:

A. The economic and political climate of the African Continent and world at large isn't conducive for "full time housewifemanship".

B. And we are in a political era were women are screaming equality and want to prove " what a man can do, a woman can do it more better ".
Therefore, you can't necessary blame anyone for allowing women into the workplace. At least it will make them have a first time experience in observing the tugs of war men fight in order to bring food to the table.

2. By the way, I can bet my balls that men will 100x more prefer to switch jobs with their full time house wives and will do much better if their wives are willing to enter the workplace.

You are talking as if you go to the market and cook everyday; mop everyday; wash and clean everyday. Men also involve themselves in taking care of the kids. If not for their jobs that take them away from their kids early and come back late from work, they do a better job in raising kids than women!

3. If you use 5-7 hours in a day to do the normal housework at your own convenience and do school runs, what then happen to the remaining 19-17 hours?
Remember: most men are hustlers, even the few office workers that stay in the office from 8am-4pm and above, do their works under pressure, bootlicking their bosses and clients so as to secure their jobs. The other men who are in the majority, stay under the sun, or inside the inconvenience of their cubicles or migrate from one road to another in search of clients or customers. And you think it is easy and comparable to full time housewifemanship right?

4. You women already see men as your retirement plan, no wonder each and everyone of you is bothered about marriage, and when it's not forthcoming, you all caterwauls from dawn to dusk, running helter skelter from pillar to post; fry pan to fire! And yet when you eventually secure a (beta) husband rather than behave yourselves and act accordingly, you start whining and murmuring about house chores because you all have entitlement mentality rooted in yourselves.
You are not willing to transcend, but settle down for mediocrity and expect a reasonable man or human being to take you seriously. You all don't want to grow and improve because a man is already there to clean your asse$ and mop your shits.

5. The op wants his wife to be productive, a good plan from a good man indeed! Yet, you and the wife don't see the need because of women's lackadaisical attitude and complacency, but later will start yelling and screaming equality and feminists bullsh!ts.

6. Is there anything wrong for a woman to run a small business of her own to support her husband? Is there anything wrong if the woman learns her husband's kind of work in order to support him? What if the man die, how is she going to run family affairs?

Hahahahaha! You want to do 5hours work everyday, then after, spread your legs wide to watch TV, gossip and browse the internet during the day, and serve a stale boring sex at night.

7. You women should learn to grow up. I understand your natural tendencies, limitations and psychology, but despite that, growth and development is necessary for every individual, both male and female.

With these few points of mine, I hope you get my point.

Have a nice day!

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.