zed7:
Do you know the meaning of a vasectomy? If you run off with another man or God forbid you die, what happens?
It's either you do family planning or you guys use condoms. Stop talking nonsense about vasectomy to a young man.

Kobojunkie:
That there does not make any sense. Regardless of what happens to her, doesn't the man still have the one kid he agreed to?

zed7:
1. Shut up and think. If the man remarries, surely, he'll want kids with the new wife wouldn't he? He was not the advocate of the one child policy. He did it to satisfy a selfish woman.

Some of you just jump on topics without having anything logical to say. Trying to sound intelligent and being intelligent are two different things.

Kobojunkie:
So you are saying this man lied about wanting only one kid to begin with? So if the wife never dies or abandons him,he will be content with one child, if not, he willl want to have more children, even though he still gets to have and keep the one?

Do you even realize what having something "logical" to say even means? You are right that trying to sound intelligent and being intelligent are two completely different things indeed

So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing.

zed7:


Shut up and think. If the man remarries, surely, he'll want kids with the new wife wouldn't he? He was not the advocate of the one child policy. He did it to satisfy a selfish woman.

Some of you just jump on topics without having anything logical to say. Trying to sound intelligent and being intelligent are two different things.

Mercychen:


You are the one who needs to shut that gutter you call a mouth and have been using to spew trash all over the place.

Common sense they say is not common otherwise you would have reasoned that every one is entitled to their choices and what they want in a relationship regardless of what the other person or society thinks. Dumbo!
It's now Left for both parties to agree on common grounds or disagree and go their separate ways.

Just try to be logic in your reasoning for ones and stop sounding sentimental like a broken record.

Some of you men want more than what you can cater for and later you start seeking help from your single friends to feed the battlion you formed in future.

We are trying to be proactive about such situations and avoid overpopulating the country, you're here crying like someone cheated of his birthright.

Buzz off and don't even dare mention me.

Maryjane001:
Personally, I think you are selfish
Ask yourself this, are you worth that sacrifice?. Like this is so huge...giving up his fertility for you.
Biko, there are other options. Consult your doctor ma'am

slimjohn2k5:
Most Africans do not wish to have one child, they call it risk.
Since is your idea, find solutions for yourself but it's risky.

Mercychen:


That youre not worth anything for a man to sacrifice for doesn't mean someone else is worthless. Ok?

Maryjane001:

Ask yourself this....turn the tables around.
If u were in his shoes, would you do the same?. Everything shouldn't revolve around you my dear. You want one child, that's fine. There are ways you could go about it by consulting a professional doctor.
How do you even think he would feel after he accepts to undergo vasectomy?. His ego would be ruined and depression would likely set it in. Worse still, he would put all the blames on you.
Marriage never start, you don dey groom wahala....na wa o. I hope you are ready to dance when the drum starts. No be by gragra o

Sirqt5:
Dis 45 year old again wit her fake stories

Maryjane001:

Ask yourself this....turn the tables around.
If u were in his shoes, would you do the same?. Everything shouldn't revolve around you my dear. You want one child, that's fine. There are ways you could go about it by consulting a professional doctor.
How do you even think he would feel after he accepts to undergo vasectomy?. His ego would be ruined and depression would likely set it in. Worse still, he would put all the blames on you.
Marriage never start, you don dey groom wahala....na wa o. I hope you are ready to dance when the drum starts. No be by gragra o

Michelle55:

Please leave her to keep deceiving herself.
This same her publicly declared that she's done with men yet she's here masturbating over the fact that some dude refused her selfish conditions.
She should kindly marry her work like she proudly declared here and leave men for those that loves them even with their shortcomings.
To be boastful no good at all, na only she say she's done with men and na still she dey worried say one of those she's done with no gree for her suggestion.
Confuse folks everywhere!!

author=cococandy post=108176924]Find a man who agrees with you. Very simple

It’s a good thing you guys are having this conversation now. If you proceed knowing he’s not on board, then you’ll have no one but yourself to blame

Mercychen:


I don't know why you have taken this whole thing personal from your very first comment. You really sound pained.

So what if I said I was done with men?
Do you, or any of your monitoring agents know if I made that statement to ward off the men on here?
Do I have to spell everything in black and white to the letter before you guys can get my drift?

I don't like engaging bitter souls like you but I just had to do this to clear whatever stupid notion you're having about me and make you understand I don't give a damn what you or anyone think about my activities on here. So, get lost!

Take your bad energy elsewhere; do yourself a favor and buzz of my mentions.

Haha! Guess the truth is bitter and you couldn't swallow it. Sorry hon, you aren't worth being pained or envious about.

You insisted you were done with men yet you couldn't stop floating like an evil witch all over the post that has to do with them, no be juju be that?

How are we sure that it's not an imaginary suitor you are killing yourself over, madam I'M DONE WITH MEN

Trust me, you ain't worth nada.. Feeling sorry for the young man who has got himself entangled with a sanctimonious being like you, nothing revolves around you. Take a look around and you will discover that the world still moves hon

May my brothers never come in contact with a selfish hag like you. Amen!

Acidosis:
@ OP,

Don't waste a good relationship over nothing. You're still too young to even know whether the one child policy is truly what you want. By the first child arrives, there's a 99% chance that you'll change your mind. So what becomes of the man? What happens when you desperately need another child in the future?

To be honest, no sane man will say yes to your proposal.

Mercychen:


Thats why Ive stopped picking his calls. Let him look for someone that will give him battalion.



What was it they talked about. Just brief me. I would have gone to YouTube to watch it but right now I'm too tired to watch anything or reason straight.

I'm really stressed.

Michelle55:

Haha! Guess the truth is bitter and you couldn't swallow it. Sorry hon, you aren't worth being pained or envious about.

You insisted you were done with men yet you couldn't stop floating like an evil witch all over the post that has to do with them, no be juju be that?

How are we sure that it's not an imaginary suitor you are killing yourself over, madam I'M DONE WITH MEN

Trust me, you ain't worth nada.. Feeling sorry for the young man who has got himself entangled with a sanctimonious being like you, nothing revolves around you. Take a look around and you will discover that the world still moves hon

May my brothers never come in contact with a selfish hag like you. Amen!

Hathor5:


Why?

UyaiIncomparabl:
This one is not ready for marriage.

Selfishness, narcissism and foolery embedded in one post. Reeks of me, me, me. If I were the guy, I'll just happily take my L in peace and jet out of this already mentally stressful relationship. What a pity for the poor man.

Why not freeze all your eggs instead since you want one child than force your demonic and narcissistic opinion into his head?

You go tay for house. No be say she even fine sef.