Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Dey mumu there.. The writing is on the wall.. Still dey think with your dick.. After you cum, you go come to your senses.

frozen70:


You
Your brother and your girlfriend

All of you are too premature to stand marriage and it's problem

Besides, that joke starting from your brother by saying he will be sending her on errands is a total insult

For you to respond by saying that you choose your brother over her shows that you are not even matured to start a family and you don't even know that a woman can make you reveal what you have on mind

And for your girlfriend to say all what she said, means that whatever you guys want be ready to collect more troubles from her if you guys makes her miserable

There are things that you can't use as joke's when it comes to family and marriage matters

I and my brother are Just too close. you will not understand

Bro how much will it's cost to build a 3bedroom flats with lobby in abuja

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Oga be calming down sef..

Actually you are the one in the wrong here.

Whether those words were said jokingly or not you role as in-between person here is to mediate and make sure no party is doing pass themselves.

Your wife should treat your family with utmost respect and your brother whether older or younger should treat your wife and her family with utmost respect... respect is reciprocal...

By the way, why in the hell would your brother send your own wife to an errand, is he crazy??

I don't give a flying fùck if he set up a business for you, gave you one of his kidney that's just an unnecessary and nonsensical attitude..
I mean, I am even outraged reading your write up and your own position on this issue.

On the other hand, why would your wife chase out your brother from your house? That's improper also speaking in general terms..

So now, as a 34 year old man with common sense, this is where you put your maturity to good use making sure either side is not doing pass themselves..

If you wife is going to the market or have someone in her office selling sth, your brother could ask her politely to help him source this and that... there's nothing wrong with that..

Your brother can also visit you when you are married and respect his boundaries, there's nothing wrong with that as well..

But if your brother comes to your house and tell your wife to go and buy something for him just like that.... then my question would be , IS HE NORMAL?? IS HE OKAY?? ABI NA CRAZE DEY WORRY HIM?

I have a brother myself and I know what I have done for him.. I don't go to his house and be sending hi wife to an errand upadan.. if I need something, I ask her politely and she gets it for me.. if I need food or water.. I ask politely.. I don't just get up and go to her fridge and pick up stuff or open pot of soup and dish my food or tell her to go and buy me beer..

RESPECT RESPECT RESPECT!!!

If my brother comes to my house and acts anyhow, I, badgers14 will pursue him from my house myself and depending on the severity of the issue, I can also tell him not to come to my house again.. my wife need not tell me to do any of this.. that's me using my maturity and better judgment to make a grown man decision.

Also, when I identify problems I will address it promptly either with my wife overdoing it or my brother crossing the boundaries , I will be having some good conversations with him.

Bottom line is RESPECT RESPECT RESPECT!!!

Cheers!!

It not a joke! God just show you her hidden agenda. Listento your spirit

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

priceactionx:
Oga Paul, she is right. Please define a marriage. If you can genuinely define it, then you will be matured to handle what may come your way. Yours is to protect her especially a young marriage. She does not have a problem with your brother until your brother insist he would be sending her on an errand. Who does that? As for say na him marry her or assistant husband? You too dey support nonsense. He is a brother not your mum for Christ sake.
when you married, and you want peace, you first of all separate family members coming to stay from those that just coming once in a while.
No matter what your brother might have done for you, he can always come like a visitor and your marriage will have peace. If you want him to always be around you, let him get his apartment close to you and get an house help to do the running up and down, and you can always visit each other.
once she is married to you, she won't allow someone sending her up and down for no reasons. She is not a house help but your own help mate talk less of being an errand girl for another person that is not feeding her.
Baba.. Reason am na.
if you can't abide by simple marriage code that can bring early peace, no need to marry at all. It's that simple.

God bless you...I was waiting for someone to point out the part his brother said "he'll be sending her on errands." Like who does that? You "joke" with me, I joke with you. Now, u dey pick offense. Iranu...

Why your younger brother wan Dey send your wife around. You Dey cr@ze ??

Ndubuisipaul1:


I and my brother are Just too close. you will not understand

I appreciate the fact that you love your brother

But you have to guard it
Not every one is happy about your unity

In some United homes, they become not too united after all of them got married

One of the reasons are from different people who came into the family with their own different ways of reasoning

StrongAlphMale:


You concentrate so much on the marriage issue and left the most important thing he wrote.

Oga where was the girl when his younger brother was struggling? Then he made money and helped the op (his senior brother) to establish a business. OGA the money the girl is enjoying now, the food is eating, where she is living now etc is as a result of the younger brother's help to his senior brother. Oga if the op doesn't have a business, I can bet my balls that the said girl won't even think twice of dating him, let alone even talking about marriage.

You better start thinking logically with your Brain instead of thinking Emotionally. Everything no be my emotion. Bros learn to think logically like the man you are

You got the point brother ...
This girl will not date me , if I was broke. And unfortunately my brother played a big role in my business.

So when she made that statement, I was shocked. I didn't know were that idea came from. I was speechless and angry at the same time, so I had ask her again, hoping she will say that its a joke. but she repeated it .

priceactionx:
Oga Paul, she is right. Please define a marriage. If you can genuinely define it, then you will be matured to handle what may come your way. Yours is to protect her especially a young marriage. She does not have a problem with your brother until your brother insist he would be sending her on an errand. Who does that? As for say na him marry her or assistant husband? You too dey support nonsense. He is a brother not your mum for Christ sake.
when you married, and you want peace, you first of all separate family members coming to stay from those that just coming once in a while.
No matter what your brother might have done for you, he can always come like a visitor and your marriage will have peace. If you want him to always be around you, let him get his apartment close to you and get an house help to do the running up and down, and you can always visit each other.
once she is married to you, she won't allow someone sending her up and down for no reasons. She is not a house help but your own help mate talk less of being an errand girl for another person that is not feeding her.
Baba.. Reason am na.
if you can't abide by simple marriage code that can bring early peace, no need to marry at all. It's that simple.

Very well written..

This is one of the many reasons wives are treated like trash when their husband is late.

Because the husband allowed some nonsensical attitudes towards the wife when he was alive.. now that he is dead people will be bold x100 and be doing anyhow.. and the woman will be suffering..

Ndubuisipaul1:


You got the point brother ...
This girl will not date me , if I was broke
And unfortunately my brother played a big role in my business.

So when she made that statement, I was shocked. I didn't know were that idea came from. I was speechless and angry at the same time, so I had ask her again, hoping she will say that its a joke. but she repeated it .

Oga abegi Sidon one place...

If the girl don't have the attributes you like about her, would you think about marrying her??

She don't want to date broke guys.. and you wouldn't want to date girls that don't have the attributes she has, so ?

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

what make u think ur brother has the right to send her at will?. U even concoring to that.
U don't even like the girl.

I swear on my testicles bro. She will do it. I am a victim of it and I assure you she will make it happen with your two eyes wide open. Better you run now because even your family too will receive it after she has done away with your brother and no one else is available to do it to and FINALLY SHE MAY JUST WATCH YOU DIE one day so she can inherit you. Take this advice seriously because you will remember me after marrying her.

Badgers14:


Oga abegi Sidon one place...

If the girl don't have the attributes you like about her, would you think about marrying her??

She don't want to date broke guys.. and you wouldn't want to date girls that don't have the attributes she has, so ?

lolz , you are funny sha

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Na during joke them dey talk wetin dey their mind not only when they are angry... don't forget that what you said about choosing your brother over her even after marriage still dey her mind and as you take bring this matter come here,na so she don table am somewhere too...talking from experience

If she's got the good character and she will make a good wife,den I think you talk to ur brother concerning what and what to expect and what to discuss with her, b4 and after marriage.

Talk to your woman about your brother and why you jokingly said what you said (no try dey serious, na when den comes cus e go actually come,you will show you were serious)

Make ur brother sef find him own house

And make una stop all these female plays and gossips... we are 7 boys and we all have wives and kids, when we are all together, the wives cook for us (cook together) anyone can go on an errand for me, if I visit my brothers in their houses, their wives go cook for me and help me run errands and as I dey go, i dey find am something...all through my stay for east this festive, I didn't wash my clothes nor touch detergents, na them dey wash am, anyone washing, na so I go bring mine give am to wash and you can't say no... hope you get ?


That's how we live together as one big happy and United family

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

From experience, please run away from her. She is a demon sent to come and distabilize your peaceful family

It's not a joke. Her mother did that to his father and his father's siblings. Her sisters did that to her husband and his siblings. She will do that to you and your siblings. She isn't joking, she is very serious.

Some of you are very xtupid and it shows in your daily living and the kind of xtupid questions you bring on here. Marry your brother please let’s all have peace

Ndubuisipaul1:


lolz , you are funny sha

Na true nah..

Eziokwu bu ndu..

It is like market, she kept her wares, you like it and purchased..

She won't sell if you don't give her the right amount she is asking for and you will not buy if you don't like the product... na so my brother...

Don't forget to invite us the online inlaws to come chop wedding jollof....

And tell your brother no come your house when you are married to do anyhow, or your wife to do anyhow against your family.. we online inlaws go reason there matter ooo

Be a man and make some grown man decisions.. be a mediator an objective mediator.. address any and every issue politely and responsibly when you see one..

Let him marry the brother then

StrongAlphMale:


You concentrate so much on the marriage issue and left the most important thing he wrote.

Oga where was the girl when his younger brother was struggling? Then he made money and helped the op (his senior brother) to establish a business. OGA the money the girl is enjoying now, the food is eating, where she is living now etc is as a result of the younger brother's help to his senior brother. Oga if the op doesn't have a business, I can bet my balls that the said girl won't even think twice of dating him, let alone even talking about marriage.

You better start thinking logically with your Brain instead of thinking Emotionally. Everything no be my emotion. Bros learn to think logically like the man you are

You don’t like her

Please leave her alone so she can find someone who loves and cherishes her

Ndubuisipaul1:


You got the point brother ...
This girl will not date me , if I was broke. And unfortunately my brother played a big role in my business.

So when she made that statement, I was shocked. I didn't know were that idea came from. I was speechless and angry at the same time, so I had ask her again, hoping she will say that its a joke. but she repeated it .

Ndubuisipaul1:


Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her.

So your brother can order your wife around because he is senior to her? Now I believe the she's really serious and you should indeed take it seriously. She is right. You don't really understand the power you're giving your brother over your wife... she is not his younger sister. Who would you blame when your brother keep barging into your wife's bedroom when she's naked? ... and be lusting after her? ... and seducing her? Have you ever heard of wives having children for their in laws?... and the husband's never knew because the children bear their resemblance? This is exactly how some begin.... you a bit more extreme ... giving your brother authority's over your wife.

Prime example of The type of imbeciles that flourishes on this forum

TradingGod:
no woman has a right in a man's house.
Her right ended in her father's house



A woman belongs to the kitchen, the bathroom and za ozzzza room

Anything that crosses that boundary belongs to the man and him alone.

Women have no say in life, that is why they seek men that have a say in the society



When a woman is young they listen to their father, when they get married they listen to their husband

I'm not sure what to make of your post.

It's reads like a satire or something.

Are you saying that no Nigerian woman can say what his gf said or what?

If so, you shouldn't be taken seriously by anybody.

What kind of daft refutal is that?

Are you Lie Mohammed's Daughter?

Sixfeetbelle:


The rate men on this forum cook up imaginary stories meant to paint Nigerian women black is simply outrageous.

On a different note, Op,

Do you need more condiments? Your food is quite bland. Although I know your fellow compatriots will not mind the lack.

Before nko?

Nah she and your brother you marry abi your brother no get sense to know that married people should be given some privacy?

Your brother would be sending your wife on errands as his errand girl. You need to be shot on site mugu

cococandy:
Prime example of The type of imbeciles that flourishes on this forum

women like you are meant to be fvcked and dumped because if you can abuse a man for stating his oppinon online that means that you can abuse him infront of his parent.


But if you sabi fvck well, I can keep you as my side chick and forget about your nasty character because no be wife character you dey exhibit

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

She replied accordingly... If I am you I should be more worried if my younger brother is knacking her

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

No be joke.

God just show you sign of the kind woman she is.

He dropped crumbs of herself to you. It's left for you to let the crumbs lead you to the bread.

Let your brother go and look for his own house and settle down. Or your wife will bring her own sister to join the house too. It's not only you that loves your brother too much and has been helped by him. Bringing family members to a new couple home is insensitive and nomadic.

TradingGod:
women like you are meant to be fvcked and dumped because if you can abuse a man for stating his oppinon online that means that you can abuse him infront of his parent.


But if you sabi fvck well, I can keep you as my side chick and forget about your nasty character because no be wife character you dey exhibit

If your opinion is that women are less human than you are, then it’s a xtupid opinion and you’re a very xtupid person. Go and tell your mother what your opinion is and come give us her response. Doofus

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

It is unfortunate that you have come to know the predicaments of Esau from the bible.

That's exactly what she will do , do not take it as joke , it was like joke wen my wife brother said something like this on my first day of meeting her but she actually separated me and my brother by all means the worst of it all is I lost this brother of mine last year she sent him to untimely grave at 49 making her 48m naira reacher I'm still in pain till now u can dm to know more ...