LittleBigDick:
Don't serve him food untill he starts paying the bills and don't do anything for him


Don't divorce except you don't love him and found another man to remarry


Treat him badly so that he can refrain from his gambling habits and get a job

LittleBigDick:
Don't serve him food untill he starts paying the bills and don't do anything for him


Don't divorce except you don't love him and found another man to remarry


Treat him badly so that he can refrain from his gambling habits and get a job

shineeye1:


Wicked Woman! All these many many years that you all have been eating and feeding fat on this man's hard work while keeping what you earn to yourself alone, did you come to nairaland to ask for divorce? Diabolical Deviress!
Now that the hapless man is down for no fault of his and is doing all to retain his sanity and keep calm and collected for a sure next move, you want to bring the heavens down! Demon!!! How many years now have you been feeding the family alone, how many years, you devil incarnate?! I hate you with passion, just as I hate all devils

Zihno:



The Bible shouldn’t factor in their decision making.

The man can be a full time stay at home dad while the wife becomes the provider. He wouldn’t be a House boy to anyone same way a stay at home mom isn’t a house girl. Some men, myself included, want to manage the kids and the home front while our women provide for the family and it’s perfectly ok.

Kobojunkie:
Get to your point instead.

Onyeziokwu:
Those of us still single are listening very attentively and learning too!
Now the only thing we got to read is about his gambling lifestyle and how he lost his job and left with nothing. No one ever said something on how he has been a supporting husband financially during his days of working and gambling too! I'm just he was into gambling just to be able to make his family comfortable or was his lavishing his dividends on ladies?

all4zionlover:
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't

Kobojunkie:
He was into gambling away his salary, all so he could make his family comfortable? You sure say the light in your brain dey on so?

all4zionlover:
He still gambles. I don't need to go all that far to know.

Isabi4lov:
Just admit that you're a lazy man , I can't feed you and be excepting submission from me , it can't work because you've sold your crown to me .

The man is the head of the family but if he fails as the head , then he should be ready to accept all kinds of rubbish from the wife .

I can't worship or submit to a lazy man .

Even when both partners are working, they're yet to live a comfortable life .

This life is sweet , I no fit do pass my power .

Zihno:
How am I lazy if I want to take care of my kids and family? You don’t have to submit to me. I don’t need your submission. We should be partners

udede:
Men endure the joblessness of their wives but woman will feed a man for some few short months and complain will full every where.
You don't have any reason to divorce him, the offence of his maybe lazyness and that is not a crime.

Wake him out of it with much love. Make sure you don't nag.

all4zionlover:
If I should remembered his treatment when he had a job earning salaries, all through my pregnancy, paying bills and all that then, I deserve to kill him. He has never been a caring husband and father to his children.

He has no past good record that can make me think backward and support a jobless husband.

all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?

all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?

Richy4:

Which kind vow Una swear?

That day when them ask you...Do U promise to take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaken all other,..
U opened your well brushed.. Colgate minty mouth.. Lipstick infested lips and 15 megawatts of smile and say I do.. u think say Na play u go play for there?🤭🙊

Make U stayOoo, U supposed to honour the "poorer" aspects of the vow😝

Na that AC part of the story got me laughing...Abi he no dey on AC before when he get job? How come u find it disgusting now?. make you just remove the AC and sell first before he first you remember am😂

Kobojunkie:
OK
But marriage is an agreement between the man and the woman. If the man wants to be a stay-at-home husband but the woman does not agree with the arrangement, how can it work?

dmostcheerful:

A man's primary duty as a husband is to provide for his family.
How will you feel if your wife leave your house unkept for a whole month?
No sweeping, cooking or washing?
Just wake up in the morning, bath, leave the kids with you, on AC and sleep?

Zihno:
■ Compromise.
■ The person who earns more should be the one to keep their job while the unemployed/underemployed partner looks after the home front. They can always work out something in the future.

Kobojunkie:
OK
But marriage is an agreement between the man and the woman. If the man wants to be a stay-at-home husband but the woman does not agree with the arrangement, how can it work?

all4zionlover:
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't

Kobojunkie:
A compromise is an agreement reached, it it not?

Zihno:
Exactly. Why would the woman not want to provide for her family especially considering she earns more? Why?

Kobojunkie:
Probably because she wouldn't have anything to gain by shouldering all of that responsibility all by herself, which makes sense considering marriage is supposed to be to the benefit of both parties involved. And the way to get the best out of it — as opposed to when you were single and had to bear it all alone — is when you share the responsibilities with your partner

Zihno:
■ How’s she not gaining anything when the husband is taking care of their home and the kids?
■ What are you suppose to gain in a marriage if not companionship and security?? I don’t understand your point at all.

all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing..

Kobojunkie:
1. Typically when men take on the financial responsibility in the home, against commonsense by the way, they do so in order that they may sit as gods over their women and children in marriage. Many males have such fragile egos that have such needs, but most females don't care for such meaningless ideas, so they gain nothing from carrying all that weight all by themselves.

2. Well, for one sharing the responsibility and burden of marriage, rather than having to shoulder it all alone for one is a big deal. After all, that is why it is said that two heads are better than one.