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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 3:32am On Mar 12, 2023 |
SOME MEN DONT WANT TO WORK SOME MEN DONT WANT TO WORK SOME MEN DONT WANT TO WORK SOME MEN DONT WANT TO WORK SOME MEN DONT WANT TO WORK And it is perfectly ok as long as they communicate this to their partners. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 3:34am On Mar 12, 2023 |
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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 3:35am On Mar 12, 2023 |
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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 3:39am On Mar 12, 2023 |
The unwritten rule that a man has to be a provider has to be destroyed if we want to win the war against patriarchy. We have to completely eliminate gender roles. Women are not lesser than men and women can be the sole provider while a man cooks and clean. Besides, you don’t use penis to make money. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 3:42am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Zihno:1. OP did not enter into an agreement with her husband to take on the sole responsibility for the family's finances, hence the reason why she is complaining — no compromise was reached between them. ![]() 2. He is not sharing financial responsibilities with her, is he? You do know there is a difference between having to share responsibility and having to bear it all alone. ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 3:45am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: The agreement was entered into the moment she said “I do”. He doesn’t contribute financially because he can’t. The OP can and should continue to provide for her family while the husband can continue to cook, clean and care for their children. Why is this so difficult to process? 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Zihno: 3:47am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Omo, just stay away from Nigerian women. Why is providing for your own family and yourself so difficult? Why do you expect a man to provide when you can’t do same? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 4:11am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Zihno:1. You continue to miss ![]() ![]() 2. OP is not obligated by the contract which she entered into to do any of that. She can do it for as long as she wants to but she is under no obligation to do so. ![]() 3. Because Marriage is meant to be an agreement between a man and a woman, and not something you can change up anyhow and anytime you like. ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Caseless: 4:20am On Mar 12, 2023 |
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.if he's not creating trouble or beating you up, walk him through this phase - he'd change. Gambling is an addiction. Help him out of it. You're not even sure if he's testing you as a woman he's married to. We understand how women act when men get broke - maybe he's trying to see you show that true you in his time of lack. Don't go and overreact! |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by emmaodet: 4:23am On Mar 12, 2023 |
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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Tobest94: 4:37am On Mar 12, 2023 |
He can endure anything. No food, he will lay down there till there's food. Once there's raw food, he will go to kitchen and prepare and eat, but he can never buy them.money don finish now your husband don become annoying.. ok o. Woman, seat him down and ask him to tell you his plans. Tell him you know he has plans and you want to hear them. You’ve right to know your spouse’s plan as regarding the family |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Luckysbab: 4:48am On Mar 12, 2023 |
bukatyne: I doubt it's the financial burden of the AC on that bothers her, but more likely him being comfortable underneath it. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ezegold4we: 4:58am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Gambling, drug's, laziness, procrastination and womanizing are the 3 easiest ways to remain in perpetual poverty The word of God says that's if any man does not provide for his family,He is worse than an infidel, That man should sit up and look for any work or Job to do and provide for his family, A transfered responsibility is a transferred crown, Any healthy man being fed by a woman on a daily basis should just go on hunger strike and pray to God to help him because it's never the will of God from the beginning, God made man the Head in everything especially in marriage. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by papae1(m): 5:19am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Richy4:Bad guy |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by papae1(m): 5:32am On Mar 12, 2023 |
LittleBigDick:Though am not a Gambler but my take in this is what if he eventually win a huge amount tomorrow while she already divorce him. From what I understand most of this gamblers believe they're going to win one day. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Successkolapo(f): 5:33am On Mar 12, 2023 |
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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by papae1(m): 5:35am On Mar 12, 2023 |
If I should remembered his treatment when he had a job earning salaries, all through my pregnancy, paying bills and all that then, I deserve to kill him. He has never been a caring husband and father to his children. Why did you marry him in the first place. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by NwaliE01: 5:58am On Mar 12, 2023 |
This generation, any rift in marriage, the first option that cross their minds is divorce. We Africans, where did we learnt this divorce? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by yinkeys(m): 6:13am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don'tGo ahead & Divorce him. You lousy women don’t know anything Why will you take the stupid marital vows. I don’t blame you, the burden of performance is usually on men Good luck finding another one if you’re half past one Someone is going through rough times & your solution is to divorce him. Please do |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Masculity(m): 6:16am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Ma'am why leave someone that's able to provide AC for you and your children. This is the right time he need you guys. If you abandon him now you have fail and it will hurt you one day when history remember you as person that discarded her husband at the time he needed her must. What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 6:39am On Mar 12, 2023 |
NwaliE01:1. Your forefathers did exactly the same things. Any small thing, they sent the woman packing back to her father's house to collect the bride price and abandoning her with the children she had. Your ancestors went as far as to demonize the abandoned women in order to shut them up and keep their reputations so no one would find out what they had done. ![]() 2. Divorce has always existed, only in the south it is hidden in the form of marriage abandonment which is not officially tracked and hence the reason why the official divorce rate is maintained at an artificially low rate. The north, on the other hand, has been open about divorce and had it tracked even as far back as the 70s. It is for this reason that while the official divorce rate up north has remained at approximately 60% since the 80s in parts of the North, it has hovered below 2% in the south. ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 6:58am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Gloriagee:don't mislead her, let her take a good advice. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Brushstrokes20: 7:01am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Hmmmm.... Very dicey situation! The man needs a lot of counselling and reorientation as regards his gambling though. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ejimatic: 7:05am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:. I don't understand what you are saying .It sense you are mixing things together.Lwt me try to isolate some ideas .: 1. Everybody ideas or opinions are respected on this matter2.I am not trying to win an argument here but to explain what I which may not be accepted by some people because people view divorce and remarriage in varied ways. 3. There is no sin in divorce and remarriage if the grounds for them are based on the scriptures. 4 God does not want divorce that is not scriptural.He hates basesless diviource Malachi 2. vrs 14 to 16. 5 . If a person is married only to divorce his wife for a trivila reason and remarry that person is commiting adultery because before God the first marriage is intact. 6 I have not said anything on legal implications of divorce not basedon scripture. 7. It is disturbing in our time now when we see people divorcing their spouses now on unscriotural reasons. Nobody cares.Mqny don't even get marriage but they are living as husbands and wives.Those ones are living in fornication.I think what I have said is clear now.Any observation or comments are welcomed. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by udede(m): 7:15am On Mar 12, 2023 |
dmostcheerful:nobody is supporting the joblessness of the man. It is his responsibility to provide for his family also but when there is a hiccup inthe flow of things anybody can help in any thing until things balance out again |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 7:20am On Mar 12, 2023 |
ejimatic:■ God, may hate divorce yet God Himself announced that He divorced, at one point, His bride, Israel, in Jeremiah 3 vs 8 only to later take her back again. Can God sin? NO! So, yes, God hates divorce but divorce is not sin ![]() ■ God allowed divorce in His Old Law of Moses, and the same God allowed for divorce even in His New Covenant Law as well meaning divorce is not a sin. God does not change His mind. ![]() ■ The divorce trends you see today are the same as they were during the time of your ancestors. Your ancestors hid their divorce behind marriage abandonment schemes. They would send the women back to their father's homes only to pretend the marriage never happened. That atrocity resulted in many of those women living in shame for the rest of their lives as they were recognized not as divorced women but as women unfit for marriage afterward. The rate of abandonment mirrored the official rate of divorce in the north where the divorce was openly accepted and allowed. So, do not deceive yourself by believing in false illusions that all was well and golden during the time of your ancestors. ![]() |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kingsland001(m): 7:36am On Mar 12, 2023 |
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money. YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN! THEREFORE I WOULD LIKE TO INVEST INTO YOUR SMALL BUSINESS, CHECK MY SIGNATURE AND CONTACT ME ON MY EMAIL (screenshort this your moniker when sending me a message to my email so that I'll know it's you precisely) |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Mindlog: 7:46am On Mar 12, 2023 |
udede: The how and when are core to the presenting issue. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ejimatic: 7:47am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Your opinions and contributions are appreciated and respected ! 1 Like |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by livinbygrace: 8:06am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't So you believe ,its only when a man go out ,that he makes money in this modern age,why we are using 1000 to get 600? Most people that makes money these days dont even lift a finger,just an idea.Madam,you need to be updated. |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by udede(m): 8:11am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Mindlog:that one is the hands of God, the motivation of the man and Buhari. Meanwhile who did you vote ? |
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Rupertek: 8:12am On Mar 12, 2023 |
This is what we get when women become the breadwinners. There was no problem at all when the man was shouldering the responsibilities Kingdollar28: |
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