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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by maasoap(m): 1:00pm On Jul 10, 2023
Omoawoke:


Pls could you give an answer to the questions I asked. I’d appreciate
Your questions are the issue here, doesn't need answers.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Omoawoke(m): 1:20pm On Jul 10, 2023
maasoap:

Your questions are the issue here, doesn't need answers.

Bros, I’m aware of the two option that AS couples can procreate.
One is IVF, the other is testing the genotype of the foetus

And I listed the challenges with testing foetus and aborting if it is SS which are;
1. What if the pregnancy is twins, and one of the foetus is AS/AA and another is SS
Or what if the result brings a false AA/AS whereas the child is SS
And what if the abortion leads to complications

These are reasonable questions to ask and you said I’m ignorant. So can you please explain further how to address this questions.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by MrSly(m): 2:24pm On Jul 10, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion
What I heard now did not happen in Nigeria. The government paying for a citizen's medical experience.

Prove me right.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Bolt458: 2:37pm On Jul 10, 2023
MrSly:

What I heard now did not happen in Nigeria. The government paying for a citizen's medical experience.

Prove me right.
I don’t understand the question
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by kelechiodo(m): 2:42pm On Jul 10, 2023
OriginalCEO:
OP
Well said


Funny enough, the AA, SS saga seems to blind us from the other person's flaws. We only see the genotype issue as only obstacle. It was later that I realized that the issue blinded me from seeing some inherent flaws that would have doomed the union.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by youngreva(m): 3:15pm On Jul 10, 2023
Too much talks
Mehn just do whatever the Bleep you want and be happy

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by abbey621(m): 3:35pm On Jul 10, 2023
haslaw:


Una too like argument. That is the range the OP gave and I don't see what point you are making by changing the OP's story

IVF is expensive but not as expensive as the OP is painting.

Mention one country where the government pays for IVF

The point is that you picked the extreme with your statement focusing on 30 million rather than in between. IVF definitely could costs 7-10 million for most people, for those with complications it could cost more. I already pointed out how so what are you still arguing? Learn to farabale, where did I mention govt. pays for IVF? Abi you no know difference between IVF and sickle cell screening?
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Temhellen(f): 4:14pm On Jul 10, 2023
slimvida:
In all you do please be careful not to add to sickle cell population. I am SC and I will tell you for free it's not easy. It's a very painful experience. I would choose heartbreak over the pain caused by sickle cell disorder.
So sorry about that.

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Glowqueen3(f): 4:39pm On Jul 10, 2023
Please l want to ask a question ooo, Regarding this genotype of a thing,Is it true that people who are AS usually have rheumatism.I have a friend who is As and She told me that She suffered from Rheumatism when She was growing up.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Coldsteel(m): 7:33pm On Jul 10, 2023
It's a tough one..
Trust me I Know cos I've been there..
I'm AS genotyped & I've ended uncountable beautiful relationships cos of it..
I do ask at the very first week of dating..
Best thing is to leave the relationship..
If you can't then please consider this because moving ahead..

There's 25% chances of having a ss baby in every trial.. There's no fixed rule..You may end up having multiple SS issues.
Can she keep up with the emotional & physical damage? No matter what the docs say,14 -16wks, that's about 4 months pregnancy termination is no easy feat. She'll curse you as time goes on. I don't know how strong your village people are either.
Anyway don't do the invasive CVS.. There's a better way to check that's non invasive and also available here in Nigeria but you still have to wait for about 12wks

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by 1Sharon(f): 9:17pm On Jul 10, 2023
Quenncee:


Even if I don't support criminality,All lives matters. Whether in the womb or born.

Lynching a thief no concern me. If you never fall a victim then you will never rethink your style about them. If a thief break into your family house rape you, your daughter and in the process of your husband trying to protect his family, he was shot dead. If this thief was later caught and handed over to you, what would you do to him?

What will I gain to see another man being killed? Will it add more to my lifespan?

I stand against abortion totally.


I didn't say anything about rape. I mentioned theft.

If a thief deserves to be lynched for stealing something silly, what would you then do to rapists and murderers?

Why do people like you only care about the unborn but once they are born, you look the other way?

Have you ever donated anything to an orphanage?
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by tsmith(f): 2:27am On Jul 11, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion

Love is a beautiful thing and trials such as your genotype issues is just one of the tribulations to test your love.

I'd say go for love above all


I have a friend who also let go of her partner due to same issue but time and love brought them together again.

They did the genetic testing for both of their children and luckily both aren't Ss.

I'm your dynamic your chances are 25% AA, 50% AS & 25% SS. The odds 75% is in your favour... And thankful you don't have to worry about the cost of these tests.. So I'd say go for it and hope for the best.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Mountbatten: 5:00am On Jul 11, 2023
Should've done your due diligence before fully committing to such a relationship.

What have you two been discussing for 5 years if you managed to skip the genotype question? You guys are not serious, and I feel no sympathy for you all. It's best you go your separate ways, and this is coming from someone with an SS sibling who I have seen suffer over the years. Thank God they've made it into their 20s.

Ladies and gentlemen, don't skip the difficult questions early on in relationships, otherwise it would capsize.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Mountbatten: 5:17am On Jul 11, 2023
Osashalom:
Why are you so afraid that Faith coming into the discussion has become a treat to you? You guys should faithup in life because life is spiritual. I and my wife were both AS to the glory of God, I ask God to change my genotype to AA and after that I went to three different laboratory and they all confirmed AA. God still does miracles, have faith in God.

lol
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Mountbatten: 5:22am On Jul 11, 2023
Olarewaju89:
My wife and I were AS.

I remembered when we want to get married and we were told to do genotype test, I did not even answer them because i don't believe in that rubbish undecided. I told my wife not to take heed to those nonesense that i don't believe in those things. To cut the long story short, we got married and God bless us with two children. Gusse what, both of them are AA.

(beautiful and gorgeous girls grin)

Op remove your mind from that thing and go ahead marry your wife. Also both of you should be prayerful.


Shallon.

You're a pathetic liar. Those aren't your kids.

Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by APCNig: 6:40am On Jul 11, 2023
IconicR:
Why will you subject somebody's daughter to so much stress when you can easily go your separate ways.

Imagine planning abortion even before marriage

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Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Xinjin: 6:45am On Jul 11, 2023
slimvida:
In all you do please be careful not to add to sickle cell population. I am SC and I will tell you for free it's not easy. It's a very painful experience. I would choose heartbreak over the pain caused by sickle cell disorder.
sorry for your pain, be gentle on your self, it not all perfect for everyone. Supposed normal people suffer different ailments. We just accept what life throw at us. One day everything will be over.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Olarewaju89: 8:46am On Jul 11, 2023
Mountbatten:


You're a pathetic liar. Those aren't your kids.

You be mumu. Where did you see me calming those twins as my children?

So, you want me to post my daughters pictures here for you?

Assumption will not kill you.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Mountbatten: 5:21pm On Jul 11, 2023
Olarewaju89:


You be mumu. Where did you see me calming those twins as my children?

So, you want me to post my daughters pictures here for you?

Assumption will not kill you.

So why post someone else's kids? 🤡
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Quenncee: 10:22pm On Jul 11, 2023
1Sharon:


I didn't say anything about rape. I mentioned theft.

If a thief deserves to be lynched for stealing something silly, what would you then do to rapists and murderers?

Why do people like you only care about the unborn but once they are born, you look the other way?

Have you ever donated anything to an orphanage?


That petty thief will soon become notorious so the earlier they nip it in the bud, the better for the society.

Rapists and murderers don't deserve to live. Is to build a kind of grinding machine that will be use to blend them into paste.

I choose who I want to give. Every pikin get papa and mama. The parents should take up their responsibilities, coz when the parent were touching, hugging, loving, kissing, romancing, sexing, cloud 9, cuming, I no dey there.


Damn nigga,

Am outta of here.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Quenncee: 10:25pm On Jul 11, 2023
Bolt458:
get away. You Dey warn me like say na me and u go bear any consequence. Crazy person

A word is enough for a wise.

Good night
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Bolt458: 3:54pm On Jul 12, 2023
Quenncee:


A word is enough for a wise.

Good night
Ok
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Pinkdimples: 10:28pm On Jul 12, 2023
advanceDNA:



Why would any girl agree to be aborting her baby till they can randomly get AS or AA genotype.
...so yeah....na because of Canada
OMG! I just can't imagine the stress and pain the said lady will definitely go through. She thinks it's easy because probably she has not been pregnant before. The joy of having a baby,the first trimester sickness,vomit etc for most women,then boom just when you wu start to enjoy the pregnancy and glow, loving the seed growing inside you,you will be ask to abort and start all over again! I'm still in shock a woman will want to go through all that,it's shocking and at the same time makes me shudder.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by advanceDNA: 1:22am On Jul 13, 2023
Pinkdimples:
OMG! I just can't imagine the stress and pain the said lady will definitely go through. She thinks it's easy because probably she has not been pregnant before. The joy of having a baby,the first trimester sickness,vomit etc for most women,then boom just when you wu start to enjoy the pregnancy and glow, loving the seed growing inside you,you will be ask to abort and start all over again! I'm still in shock a woman will want to go through all that,it's shocking and at the same time makes me shudder.

She probably has plans.....get to canada...ditch the guy for someone else with AA genotype.. grin .
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Pinkdimples: 3:27am On Jul 13, 2023
advanceDNA:


She probably has plans.....get to canada...ditch the guy for someone else with AA genotype.. grin .
Hmmmm
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by shege45: 2:35pm On Jul 13, 2023
Pinkdimples:
OMG! I just can't imagine the stress and pain the said lady will definitely go through. She thinks it's easy because probably she has not been pregnant before. The joy of having a baby,the first trimester sickness,vomit etc for most women,then boom just when you wu start to enjoy the pregnancy and glow, loving the seed growing inside you,you will be ask to abort and start all over again! I'm still in shock a woman will want to go through all that,it's shocking and at the same time makes me shudder.
but you talk like it’s not this same abortion women do all the time. For even rubbish reasons. Some women will even do it cus of their career
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Pinkdimples: 2:40pm On Jul 13, 2023
shege45:
but you talk like it’s not this same abortion women do all the time. For even rubbish reasons. Some women will even do it cus of their career
You are right sha,but some women oo not all 😁😁. It's surprising thou because Ah! I just can't imagine the nonsense some women do sha. Some will be aborting a child continuously just because her boyfriend is not ready to settle down. At the end of the day she get dump either because she has lost her womb or he's no more interested in the relationship.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Yinkaolola: 8:48pm On Jul 19, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion

I know a couple that did PGT personally. It didn’t fail (I guess cos no fertility issues) I know two couples (indirectly) that did it, it also didn’t fail. The PGT is generally successful. Just do it in a good place.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Yinkaolola: 8:49pm On Jul 19, 2023
Bolt458:
I am not writing this for religious people to come with their funny talks, I am just putting this out here to hear from people who might have tried this methods or who heard about this methods and still proceeded or did not. I want to hear your experience. I have been dating someone for 5 years now, it happened that I began to see her as someone I would want to spend my life with. Last year we did our genotype test and we were both AS. Now , I know some of you will say this should be the first thing you ask when you meet someone but c’mon, would you say people in university that are dating now, would ask their sef that question? That theory is only feasible when you are single and ready to get married and want to start a new relationship, then you can always ask, but we all know some of our relationships started when we no Dey even see marriage in the nearest future, all of a sudden you just see them as the right person and you take the bold step. Now, I had to meet my family doctor here in Canada, I explained to him my current situation and he referred me to a GENETIC COUNSELOR. I am trying to take the necessary steps cause I am not ready to bring in a child with Sickle cell to this world, and I am not leaving anything to faith. A fone appointment was set with the counselor and we spoke at length. She told me that in every foetus, there is a 25% chance that we can get an SS child. Now , how do we mitigate this percentage to the barest minimum I asked as I am not even ready to bring in a sickler to this world. She gave me three options, I would rather say two because the last involves test when the baby comes, and that is out of the question.

Option 1:
A) CVS: They take a sample of the fluid in the womb through her vagina, at 12 weeks to test, if it’s good then fine, if not we have to terminate.

OR

B) At 16 weeks, they take the fluid using a needle directly from her womb, and if it’s SS , they terminate. Both procedures are cover by the government and we don’t need to pay a dime.

Now, she assured me that abortion is a very safe procedure if done properly, and it is even a bigger risk that one can die from a penicillin injection or carrying a pregnancy to term than any harm during an abortion.I know many people would come here and say abortion is this and that but let us be frank to ourselves. If you were told that the child in your womb would have cerebral palsy, or Down syndrome or a neurological disorder, would you still keep that pregnancy? Is there a 100% assurance that two AA people would give birth to a healthy baby? I have come to a realization that pregnancy is just a risk that people take, cus you really don’t know how your child would turn out.


Option 2:
PGD. This is just like IVF, where they would select the genotype before they insert back to the womb. She told me the government doesn’t cover this, and it could cost between $10K- $40k. However she mentioned, just like IVf, it is not guaranteed as it can fail and your money is gone.

I discussed this with my girl in Nigeria and she said she was fine with option 1a. I then asked her, that if the first, second are SS would she still remove it. She accepted. I would not lie to you, this girl is everything I want in a woman. I am not just looking at just love because I know love fades with time, but she is a really nice person, and has a good character. She has always been like this from my days in Nigeria because I was with her before I moved outside. Now after finding out our genotype, I tried to get into a relationship with AA. The first one Dey nigeria, she is a nice person, beautiful, but I just didn’t like her or feel attracted to her. She got tire and we just free ourselves, the second one is here in Canada, I just don’t like this one . Please note, I never slept with any of these ladies because I feel it’s not fair.


Now my question is for those who knew all this and still proceeded, how did it work out for you?

I repeat, don’t come here to tell me about how abortion is this and dat. Cus I know if they tell any of you that your child would be abnormal, 90% of you will go for the abortion

I know a couple that did PGT personally. It didn’t fail (I guess cos no fertility issues) I know two couples (indirectly) that did it, it also didn’t fail. The PGT is generally successful. Just do it in a good place.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Yinkaolola: 8:58pm On Jul 19, 2023
Olarewaju89:


No. Not wrong bro. I was forced to do it twice because i was stubborn to do it at first. I don't just believe in it.

I would have post the two result here but immediately i collect them, I tore them grin

I don't just believe in that rubbish thing honestly.
y

You don’t believe, but you did the test for your kids to confirm?
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Olarewaju89: 9:09pm On Jul 19, 2023
Yinkaolola:
y

You don’t believe, but you did the test for your kids to confirm?

It was my wife who went to do for them oo.
She was afraid.
Re: Genotype Issue. Please Be Rational ( I Am Not A Religious Person) by Yinkaolola: 9:10pm On Jul 19, 2023
Gr8amechi:

I love your courage and this is what we should be talking about not those talks of not marrying.

So back to the matter, from a medical point of view I would advise you to do selective IVF, the good think about this is, this procedures are available in Nigeria and far cheaper than Canada, meaning you could marry your girl and try the IVF here in Nigeria.


Also the first options are very very possible and you both can exploit it.

In summary, if you see her as a wife you want don't allow genotype dissolve it.

Let me ask this, what if both of you were AA and after marriage she was unable to get pregnant will you not opt for IVF?
Most of the people running from the IVF will still end up doing it even if they marry AA. Nigerians have a wrecked mentality towards issues like this. PGT that is being done randomly abroad to check for genetic disorders and choose gender.

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