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Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by abba190: 9:47pm On Nov 13, 2023 |
Magnoliaa:you are sounding like its only men that gamble go to twitter and see lots of female gambling addicts 2 Likes |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by DaveHarry(m): 9:53pm On Nov 13, 2023 |
Which loan app can lend me 350K? |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Albinoflash(m): 11:29pm On Nov 13, 2023 |
bro hor=Pamfresh post=126844011]Please I need mature minds advise on this topic. My family recently discovered that my younger brother who has been in the seminary and was supposed to be a reverend father in few years time has a very big gambling issue. Over the years, he has accumulated a gambling debt of 2M (borrowed majorly from loan sharks). When I discovered about the incidence, I hesitated involving my retired dad and mum because of the shock they might get hearing about this but when I discovered I couldn't pay the debt alone, i had to involve them. Thank God they handled it calmly. My dad and I have offset 700k debts already but I recently discovered that he is still borrowing and betting even recently (someone that has access to his details revealed this to me today). I am totally devastated and I don't know how to relay this to my parents to avoid heart attack. The gruesome part of the whole story is that he is JOBLESS because of his seminary school journey (which he has willingly pulled out from because of this issue). Please my fellow nairanders, how do I handle this problem? I'm fed up[/quote]bro this thing is worse than you even think,am a victim myself and your little bro is still even coming up,am saying this as a pro cos I have seen it all in gambling.he is yet to do the worst so you guys have to do something real quick,now he will be thinking of how to recover and cover his mess now it will come with so much desperation more than ever.call me here let me tell you what you need to know about him that he won't even tell you.....this thing is a spirit and every addicted gambler behaves just the same...I am dealing with mine now though not easy |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Magnoliaa(f): 11:30pm On Nov 13, 2023 |
abba190: Na so. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Myer(m): 12:13am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Pamfresh: Several people here have shared one of the reasons he's not stopping but rather getting worse. He knows he has those of you who will clear his debts. He needs to learn the hard way and know that he has a big problem and needs help. Until he realises the gravity of his gambling problem, he can't genuinely seek help. Stop encouraging his habits by bailing him our. He's your blood but at this point you must know hat his help comes from You tough love. The second and most important angle to this is that it's a spiritual condition. He's in seminary school meaning he's chosen to follow Christ. This comes with price to pay. The devil will certainly vet him to expose if he's truly worthy of the ministry he's been called into. Even follower of Christ goes through this. I perceive he's being tested for his love of money among other things. I'll suggest you take him to a true man of God you or he has faith in. They should pray for him. If you have faith, you can pray for him too. He has a strong calling on him and it come at a price. He must die to self completely to follow Christ. We all have call on our lives, however the demand on some are non-megotiable. Rejoice that God is testing him to make him worthy of his calling. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Moneyyman: 2:32am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Rule 1: never repay gambling debt for someone. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by numejis: 3:16am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Is there a possibility for a private discussion? The initial approach would involve speaking directly with your brother, and I might be able to offer assistance if he is open to it. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by RICHMAN247(m): 4:34am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Your brother is an irresponsible gee. Allow him face whatever consequences that comes, then he will realize that life is deep. Clearing off the loan for him will give him the audacity to borrow more. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by AzaHub(f): 6:35am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Dear @Pamfresh ALMOST everyone here is missing a vital point. A few though spoke to this point maybe due to experience. But as advocate of BANNING GAMBLING in Nigeria, I see the damage gambling has done to many of our bright youths. NOTE THIS: This gambling addiction issue takes mostly the BRIGHTESTS of our people. GAMBLING ISSUES is not what you think it is. What your brother needs is HELP. He's being tortured. An innate part of him is CRYING FOR HELP. Just that you cannot hear it loud. All you see are the debts and criminal actions. DO YOU WANT TO SAVE HIM? Because I can tell you your brother's future if you don't use the right approach now: he'll lose everything and die. RELAX. Settling part of his debt was good move. You only bought him more time. You saved his life. But so that your sacrifice will not be in VAIN, you need to take other action NOW! I mean it when I said: An innate part of him is CRYING FOR HELP. Say that to your brother, and see his reaction. That an innate part of him is CRYING FOR HELP. Its a psychological problem with many simple and tough solution, and it boils down to if you really love him and want to help him. HE NEEDS YOUR HELP. I started the Aza Hub forum at AZA.NG to help people addicted to gambling and declared openly that the forum shall stand against gambling and all sort of vices. We need to know that GAMBLING PROBLEM is a bad demon that is imprisoning mostly our brightest minds. MY RECOMMENDATION 1. Take your brother for THERAPY 2. Help him with his debt. The debts are another strong impulse to gamble more, he's hoping to recover his lost money, chasing losses 3. Pray for him, if you believe in prayers 4. Prison or whatever will certainly make you LOSE HIM. Help him. 5. Occupy him wit wholesome engaging activities. If he's idle, that demon shall engage him. 6. Surround him with people to monitor him. Never let him be alone. Let him really LIVE LIFE now. He has not been living real life. 7. Contact me for further guide. My website Aza.ng may be down temporarily due to maintenance later today. But you can always reach me via: azahubng at gmail dot com You will not lose him. He's born to be great. That is why you MUST HELP HIM, NOW! If he's still alive and not in prison, and not mad, there's still hope. You will see. Contact me. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Aditkd(f): 7:13am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Greetings Sir. It's all going to be good. If you reside in Lagos then pls take him to Yaba psychiatric hospital or Human behavioral department Lagos state University teaching hospital Ikeja. If you reside in any other part of the country, take him to a psychiatric hospital close to you. He will be recommend to see a psychologist and they re psychotherapies and other therapies he will be engaged in. With time he will loose that addiction. It's not going to be an easy journey but he will recover. Hope I have been of aid Sir. Do have a pleasant and fulfilled day ahead Sir 4 Likes |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by YoungBlackRico(m): 8:07am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Leave him alone and face your own life problem. No be everybody dem dey help |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by BalogunIdowu(m): 9:04am On Nov 14, 2023 |
AsomArchitectNG: First few wins and they go on to become totally bankrupt than they even started... |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Quebec91(m): 9:09am On Nov 14, 2023 |
I tell you Hezzyluv: |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Karleb(m): 9:44am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Don't save a hoe, even if he is your brother. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by AzaHub(f): 11:20am On Nov 14, 2023 |
HELP him. He needs help. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by achimendy(m): 11:57am On Nov 14, 2023 |
Pamfresh: The only solution to this problem is to allow him face the consequences of his actions. Me and my father did it to my brother and he learnt his lessons. I no get time for rubbish. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Swaelyf(f): 1:51pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
exactly and he should have not been pulled out of seminary, they should have met theperson in charge and explained his problem so they can send him to a remote village with no internet for a year to assist in mass and after that he resumes school because there is no way he wont stop after tht.. but him withdrawing has given him more time to spare and room to get deeply involved in it. if you have a good rapport with the person in charge of the seminary he withdrew from go to them and tell him about this and ask if there is a place they can send him to thats the only way to save him its an addiction so he doesnt need an enabling environment Hezzyluv: |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by 1Nairaboy(m): 2:08pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hx4gdlfamo&pp=ygUMS2Vubnkgcm9nZXJz Hello, I recommend dopamine detox. I do consider gambling as risk_vs_reward scheme. When it becomes a habit I then consider it a mental/psychological problem rather than spiritual. To solve your brothers problem you need to knw what triggers his urges and replace it with fun_vs_happiness(reward). It could be that at the start, whenever he asked for assistance from close relative he always get a no naaa or some kind of rejection or he wants to have a lot of money so he can help people and get more disciples or loyalist, especially when he kick start his ministry (alot of ppl these day r attracted to rich ministries). So I would presume, your brother is not a bad person however, he had bad luck. In his minds, he would have made it the last time and save the family all the redicle it has brought them. If he had made it family members would have adored him and run to him to help them, but since he failed the reverse. Please find a way to tell him you understand his fears, worries and bravery but he shld do it the right way one step at a time. Fun_vs_happiness. 1. He shld see(watch 1:30:00) a lot of movies, why? in his minds he is a million times behind time but interesting movies would help refresh it. I recommend 10 movies a day especially on active football day. 2. He shld be devoted to church activities, this is were spiritual solves the problem by giving his time. 3. He should do house chores and make it a fun thing to do, the reward is that the house is clean. 4. Other fun things sports, he getting a bicycle, going on road trips, all this to beat time and detox. Finally this will not pay the money or get the money back, you'all family still need to help, find a way to reach to the loan company to give more time. In life, it's either the easy way, slow and steady or it's the hard way fast and rough..I rest my case 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Pamfresh(m): 4:02pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
easzypeaszy:How can we start up a business for him when he's just coming out of the seminary? The real world is a different world from where he has bn living in. Besides, I ve assessed him and seen he can't run a business yet. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Pamfresh(m): 4:20pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
devoutpraise:Amen. I pray everyday that this be a dream but I wake up to it everyday. My B.P has gone up since I learnt of it. My brother is too gentle to think he could fall for gambling. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by axeman2(m): 4:40pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
i am a surprised |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by pansophist(m): 10:57pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
abba190: You are right. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by pansophist(m): 11:00pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: Those who judge others rarely question themselves, finding false security in the illusion of superiority/ being the judge. I no go talk pass this one 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Magnoliaa(f): 11:07pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
pansophist: LMAOOOO. I feel a little bit attacked, personally, by this comment, but I won't say more than this, too. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by pansophist(m): 11:23pm On Nov 14, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: Only attacked? you are not offended and disturbed too? lol |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by CR777: 6:17am On Nov 15, 2023 |
pansophist: Bro, I've been following you for a long time now and guess what? You are among the top 5 most intelligent people on nairaland. I guess you are so well read and exposed because your points and ideas on various topics are top notch. Please I want to be your friend, can we connect on whatsapp? I've learnt so much from you bro and I must send you a gift this Christmas no matter what. 1 Like |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by xtreme07(m): 9:21am On Nov 15, 2023 |
ifynwaba:you reminded me of one guy I used to know years ago here Goes by the name ifecowanba or so. |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by pansophist(m): 9:45am On Nov 15, 2023 |
CR777: Thank you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by Regex: 10:14am On Nov 15, 2023 |
CR777: Ask for his account number... Shikina |
Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by AzaHub(f): 6:10pm On Nov 15, 2023 |
For those seeking help, here it is. Psychotherapy sessions. And support. #HelpDontBlame
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Re: My Brothers Gambling Problem by caesymore(m): 8:58pm On Nov 15, 2023 |
Hezzyluv: Mr. Advicer if that nigga kpai himself you go come here give another advice abi |
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