Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

When one marries a strong minded woman, marriage becomes a drill. That's why many men turn to wood internally after a while. The woman thinks her husband is her competition she can rubbish anyhow

Wetin concerns me concerns ur wife...? Bring her to me and let me deals with her/disciplines her... I sense clout chasing... Are you a tout..., or you just finished drinking small stout...? I can't shout, so shut your mouth or keep your mouth shut... You are looking for actions, reactions, interactions&transactions... It may end up in/with sanctions...

Emmanuel30a:
Wetin concerns me concerns ur wife...? Bring her to me and let me deals with her/discipline her... I sense clout chasing... Are you a tout..., or you just finished drinking small stout...? I can't shout, so shut your mouth or keep your mouth shut... You are looking for actions, reactions, interactions&transactions... It may end up in/with sanctions...

Next time switch off your data if you have nothing reasonable to contribute

Some women are opportune to have head but unfortunate to have no cap.i understand her being adamant for not seeking apology.she feel she is not wrong for comparing herself to your mother.you are someone who somewhat value respect&honour which you wife disregard that.you need to calmly sit her down and tell her you detest such statement so heartedly,that if such happen next time she won't like your reaction.

NoahHadNoArk:


Next time switch off your data if you have nothing reasonable to contribute


It’s not your fault that you have a low IQ and find it hard to comprehend simple English…..we understand with you

Didinrin ni o... Olorikori... No wonder you are bearing NoahHadNoArk!

I love the way you arranged your words...

1TrippleCee:
When one marries a strong minded woman, marriage becomes a drill. That's why many men turn to wood internally after a while. The woman thinks her husband is her competition she can rubbish anyhow

You are quite a sensitive man sha because this issue is a very light one to me. She is only saying that you love your mum more so no offense there BC it's normally true & she is probably jealous.

Why should she apologize for stating her observation?

She didn't insult your mum.

ogawisdom:


You are quite a sensitive man sha because this issue is a very light one to me. She is only saying that you love your mum more so no offense there BC it's normally true & she is probably jealous.

Why should she apologize for stating her observation?

As long as I'm concerned. I feel like my relatives need to stay off my wife's mouth. They are not play things for wordplay.

She can possibly bring about her points without comparisons with my relatives.
It's even wrong for a wife to put herself on the same level with my mom. That's disrespectful.

My wife is my wife for as long as she wants to be my wife but my ma is my ma forever.No one compares sleep to death.

Stuupid people always bothering us here with my wife, our wife, our nonsense all the time. Mtcheeeew.

From what her grievance in her statement is that you can't repay her but you can repay your mother.

Oga, you're the one to apologize

Let's see your pre wedding pictures.

You're a woman in a man's body

I know simps like you


Imagine a woman challenging you and flaunting your orders


Very soon she'll slap you and you'll be watching her do that



If your wife doesn't agree with you , it's up to you to discipline her and teach her a lesson that she won't forget


After that resort to hot fork


Don't apologize


She should be the one doing that after forking on her knees


If you are odogwu , she'll be submitting her salary to you

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.
So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.
Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.
I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.
After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.
So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.
We have not been in good terms since then, Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

What exactly was it about her words that offended you?

What I've observed is that you both are yet to fully understand each other.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.
So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.
Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.
I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.
After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.
So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.
We have not been in good terms since then, Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Women hardly apologize.

Oga she has offered you a trait that you must reject immediately. Or else, she will offer you more.

Quickly reject this one and with maturity, demand her to apologize.

Do not eat her food until she apologizes. Be very frank, strong and meek at same time.

Explain to her again that she needs to apologize for a subtle jibe at your mum. Even if you're wrong, let that trait be enforced on her.

Then after her apology, you go ahead and take her on a treat or a surprise gift. Shey you get.

Women have a way of offering you some nonsense.

Weak men swallow it until they become the wives at home.

I didn't see anything wrong in what she said.

Capernum:


Women hardly apologize.

Oga she has offered you a trait that you must reject immediately. Or else, she will offer you more.

Quickly reject this one and with maturity, demand her to apologize.

Do not eat her food until she apologizes. Be very frank, strong and meek at same time.

Explain to her again that she needs to apologize for a subtle jibe at your mum. Even if you're wrong, let that trait be enforced on her.

Then after her apology, you go ahead and take her on a treat or a surprise gift. Shey you get.

Women have a way of offering you some nonsense.

Weak men swallow it until they become the wives at home.

New husbands do not know that many women have turned their husbands to the wives at home.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like. The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.
So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said. Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum. I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that. After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings. So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong. We have not been in good terms since then, Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

The statement isn't an insult so, OP, why exactly are you incensed by it? Is it true what your wife said?

Mhizzard:
Some women are opportune to have head but unfortunate to have no cap.i understand her being adamant for not seeking apology.she feel she is not wrong for comparing herself to your mother.you are someone who somewhat value respect&honour which you wife disregard that.you need to calmly sit her down and tell her you detest such statement so heartedly,that if such happen next time she won't like your reaction.

Apologize for voicing an insult-free opinion that may even contain elements of the truth? Are women not allowed to voice their opinions in what is their marriage as well?

Kobojunkie:
Apologize for voicing an insult-free opinion that may even contain elements of the truth? Are women not allowed to voice their opinions in what is their marriage as well?

yeah,she maybe true.but she shouldn't have mentioned his mother.we cherish our mother more than others do.

Mhizzard:
■ yeah,she maybe true.but she shouldn't have mentioned his mother.we cherish our mother more than others do.

What is wrong with mentioning his mother?

If OP doesn't want his mother mentioned at all in his marriage then OP should cut his mom off completely so she holds no place at all in his life and his marriage. You can't make a god out of a human being, and cause that god to feature in the lives of others around you, while expecting them not to mention the place that god occupies. It doesn't work that way.

Kobojunkie:
What is wrong with mentioning his mother?

If OP doesn't want his mother mentioned at all in his marriage then OP should cut his mom off completely so she holds no place at all in his life and his marriage. You can't make a god out of a human being, and cause that god to feature in the lives of others around you, while expecting them not to mention the place that god occupies. It doesn't work that way.

I don't say what the OP is demanding from his wife is necessary.but the woman need to abid to what his husband want and doesn't in order to enjoy the marriage she and her husband have been building for a long time.moreover he is the head of the house.

Beremx:
From what her grievance in her statement is that you can't repay her but you can repay your mother.
Oga, you're the one to apologize

Something tells me there may be some truth to what his wife said. That would explain why OP was particularly hit by it.

Kobojunkie:
Something tells there may be some truth to what his wife said. That would explain why OP was particularly hit by it.

don't mind him. He knows the wife was right and her still demanding apologies.
Nonsense

Insist on apology and you would get it.

When a woman says "had it been it was your mom", "had it been it was your sister", "had it been...", bla bla bla, trust me, she already resents your family.

You don't have to believe me. Just wait for the signs. Don't just demand an apology. An apology would not fix resentment. You have a bigger problem on your hands if you don't handle this carefully and with maturity.

Acidosis:
When a woman says "had it been it was your mom", "had it been it was your sister", "had it been...", bla bla bla, trust me, she already resents your family.

You don't have to believe me. Just wait for the signs. Don't just demand an apology. An apology would not fix resentment. You have a bigger problem on your hands if you don't handle this carefully and with maturity.

I don`t agree. Her problem is not his mother but his attitude towards her. If he gave her what she needs, she wouldn`t notice the things he is giving to other members of the family. And I am not talking about material things, though I m not sure if their problem centres around finance, but it could also be something like understanding, love, attention, respect, time, understanding or whatever.

FRANCISTOWN:

As long as I'm concerned. I feel like my relatives need to stay off my wife's mouth. They are not play things for wordplay.

She can possibly bring about her points without comparisons with my relatives.
It's even wrong for a wife to put herself on the same level with my mom. That's disrespectful.

My wife is my wife for as long as she wants to be my wife but my ma is my ma forever.No one compares sleep to death.

She really has nothing to apologize for. I think you should watch your over sized ego before you destroy your marriage.

She should be free to express herself Biko. How can a woman be well educated and not be allowed to express an opinion in 2023.

You have scolded her and expressed displeasure at what she said and that is enough. Move on

I don't know or care if she is wrong or not wrong with her utterances in regards to your mom but one thing is certain:

If you do not force that apology out of her one way or another (violence not inclusive)— your marriage will never remain the same in terms of power dynamics and who truly is the authority figure in that house.


This is a crucial test for you. Play your masculine cards well. Failure to do so. You will continue to seek her apology or worst case scenario, you will always be the one to apologize for whatever reason.

Hathor5:


I don`t agree. Her problem is not his mother but his attitude towards her. If he gave her what she needs, she wouldn`t notice the things he is giving to other members of the family. And I am not talking about material things, though I m not sure if their problem centres around finance, but it could also be something like understanding, love, attention, respect, time, understanding or whatever.

According to the OP,

The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.

Of course, it is about money, not love, time or attention. It appears that the OP borrowed money from his wife or someone and has been unable or unwilling to repay.

What I don't understand is how the mom came into the picture. It's completely needless, baseless, and a clear sign of resentment and disrespect, but that's my opinion.

'I'm sorry'. It doesn't take much to say those 3 words, but when you're begging someone to say them, then iunno.