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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Kobojunkie: 9:06pm On Dec 15, 2023
tollyboy5:
You're very adamant. If my future wife would be like this, i don't think its a problem. But not disrespecting my mother in a way you know i don't like under my roof. That's a big problem.
That is why I blame women who out of desperation stoop so low as to marry your kind only to end up regretting it in the end as they should have known they would. undecided

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Nicoddemus(m): 9:07pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Hmm oga even as a redpill alpha male eh I didn't see reason to be angry with her statement o. Do you really want a slave or a wife??

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by tollyboy5(m): 9:09pm On Dec 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
That is why I blame women who out of desperation stoop so low as to marry your kind only to end up regretting it in the end as they should have known they would. undecided
Women are less intelligent, and meant to be less richer, not strong to stand as a best of burden.
So its men that stoop so low to accept them as wife. Now they need to be trained by their husband to have more senses. cool

Last last i go marry one of your young sisters
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Kobojunkie: 9:13pm On Dec 15, 2023
tollyboy5:
Women are less intelligent, and meant to be less richer, not strong to stand as a best of burden. So its men that stoop so low to accept them as wife. Now they need to be trained by their husband to have more senses. cool Last last i go marry one of your young sisters
Again, I blame women who out of desperation stoop so low as to marry your kind only to end up regretting it in the end as they should have known they would. undecided

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by kkins25(m): 9:14pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
Are you owing her?? Bitch better pay her her money!

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by BluntCrazeMan: 9:18pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?
If you cannot move on from things like this,, then you will be having series of issues..


For me.. I don't apologise.
And I don't expect her to apologise either.

Change for the better in the future is what matters most to me,, and not dwelling on the past and sulking over it, and letting it affect the present or the future.

So,, we just say whatever we want to say about the things that just happened,, and warn that it shouldn't repeat itself again.


Yess..
Hold your apologies, and keep it to yourself..
But don't repeat the nonsense again.
Else, you're inviting my own nonsense in retaliation.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by MASTAkiLLAh(m): 9:20pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?
if you could not caution her immediately she made that comment then, there's nothing you can do again. You knew her character before you married her and you also know that marriage and especially women no be beans for men and you're not expected to win all arguments. For peace to reign, go and apologize to your wife for keeping malice with her and when she forgives you, kiss her passionately and tell her never to mention your mother in that way again, pause small then laugh. She'll be confused but careful next time

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by UmmuFarrah(f): 9:23pm On Dec 15, 2023
pocohantas:


Even me done learn o.
I just calm since morning. grin grin
No be small thing 🤣. Everybody na oga patapata for Nairaland.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by UmmuFarrah(f): 9:28pm On Dec 15, 2023
If I am Op's wife, the way I will avoid talking about your mom ehn, you would think she doesn't exist.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by armyofone(m): 9:30pm On Dec 15, 2023
mariahAngel:


Iya mi ti binu. cheesygrin

Iya mi,

Rara, just that I don't understand the thinking process of this op and his likes.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Kobojunkie: 9:31pm On Dec 15, 2023
UmmuFarrah:
If I am Op's wife, the way I will avoid talking about your mom ehn, you would think she doesn't exist.

Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by armyofone(m): 9:47pm On Dec 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
That is why I blame women who out of desperation stoop so low as to marry your kind only to end up regretting it in the end as they should have known they would. undecided

Ahn, one can't make comments again.

Alpha man
Alpha mom

But not Alpha wifey, why ?
grin

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by tollyboy5(m): 9:48pm On Dec 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Again, I blame women who out of desperation stoop so low as to marry your kind only to end up regretting it in the end as they should have known they would. undecided
I will marry your sister.

Empty pride
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Gmajor(m): 9:54pm On Dec 15, 2023
One of the many disadvantages of marrying a stubborn partner.
People would rather insist that they are right that apologise and allow peace to reign.
Even if she doesn't see anything wrong with her statement, the fact that you said that didn't like it should be enough for her to apologise.
Nawa oh
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by sammiewrite(m): 9:55pm On Dec 15, 2023
Op demanding an apology is a waste of time. Give her back with the measure she gave you so that it will be the two of you owing each other apologies. The advice to men to always "let peace reign" can only produce more rainmakers and nothing more.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Kobojunkie: 10:03pm On Dec 15, 2023
Gmajor:
One of the many disadvantages of marrying a stubborn partner.
People would rather insist that they are right that apologise and allow peace to reign.
Even if she doesn't see anything wrong with her statement, the fact that you said that didn't like it should be enough for her to apologise.
Nawa oh
So you apologize to everyone who says you are wrong even when you are certain you have done nothing wrong? undecided

No wonder Nigerians are ever ready with excuses for the corruption in the country. lipsrsealed
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Nobody: 10:11pm On Dec 15, 2023
She's wrong.

You do not reference in-laws in such manner, I'd be wronged if a man does that to me.
Nevertheless it shouldn't be a ground for malice.

Lol your woman stubborn Sha grin cheesy grin

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by mariahAngel(f): 11:18pm On Dec 15, 2023
armyofone:


Iya mi,

Rara, just that I don't understand the thinking process of this op and his likes.


Iya mi, I think he's the very sensitive type, so I wouldn't dismiss his feelings. cheesy
People like him are plenty. They take every single word seriously, and easily take things to heart.

His wife just needs to learn how to communicate with him better. After all she chose him.
Does she not care that her husband is not happy?
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by UjuJoan2: 11:30pm On Dec 15, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:

I don't understand. How is "[b]don't turn my mom into a play thing" [/b]tantamount to my wife being a slave?

I don't get.

If your husband is comfortable with you using his relatives as comparative adjectives. Then that's on your husband and you, and I totally respect how you run your marriage.

But as long as I'm concerned , I won't run my home like that

How is what she said turning your mum into a plaything? This is just emotional blackmail on your part? You are the judge, jury and executioner!!

You know she’s right, and that’s why you are really upset and picking quarell with what she said.

I see nothing insulting or belittling in what she said.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by nosa2ekundayo: 11:51pm On Dec 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Your mother is your god so everyone must see and worship her as such? Do you equally worship everyone else's mother or is it just your mother that should be bowed down to? undecided

While I struggle to relate your response to my post or the subject matter, I wish to quickly put it to you that[b] "A Junkie is a drug addict by definition!"[/b] ...as a matter of urgency, you should change your name immediately ! it's making a negative impact in your life or you get addicted to quality drugs not the cheap ones you are addicted to right now undecided
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by TheOnlyKing: 12:00am On Dec 16, 2023
Emmanuel30a:
Yes, for your mind; you don't make sense-not it don't make any senses...in&for your mind... Your blind mind...is one of a kind, so much that you can't rescind or so much that it can't be rescinded... Rewind, I don't need to reminds...you... You are not kind, not gonna say or not going to say-you are not that kind...

Ah, u don crase.... what a pity
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by IAmHim1: 12:10am On Dec 16, 2023
MODIFIED:
she might have already apologised in her own way BUT YOU DID NOT NOTICE !

go to youtube and type "Psyhacks: why women dont apologise"
...its a short talk by Doctor Orion Taraban.


all these problems would be solved then as you begin to see. cus for women its the emotions while for men its logic. a man apologises for his wrong doing to someone BUT A WOMAN DOESNT APOLOGISE FOR HER WRONG DOINGS OUTRIGHTLY.
SHE TRIES TO CHANGE THE EMOTIONS OF THE PERSON SHE OFFENDED FROM ANGER TO LOVE BY DOING THING THAT SHE FEELS WOULD MAKE THAT PERSON HAPPY. all these long story instead of simply apologising? lolzzz..yeah rightt

this is just one of the gems. the others are in his video short talk

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Kobojunkie: 12:12am On Dec 16, 2023
IAmHim1:
go to youtube and type "Psyhacks: why women dont apologise"
...its a short talk by Doctor Orion Taraban.
all these problems would be solved then as you begin to see. cus for women its the emotions while for men its logic. a man apologises for his wrong doing to someone BUT A WOMAN DOESNT APOLOGISE FOR HER WRONG DOINGS OUTRIGHTLY.
SHE TRIES TO CHANGE THE EMOTIONS OF THE PERSON SHE OFFENDED FROM ANGER TO LOVE BY DOING THING THAT SHE FEELS WOULD MAKE THAT PERSON HAPPY.
all these long story instead of simply apologising? lolzzz..yeah rightt this is just one of the gems. the others are in his video short talk
See the nonsense this one has chosen to feed himself from the mouth of another equally ignorant. You actually believe at this point in your life that women are all alike? No wonder you lot never seem to mature at all. undecided
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by UjuJoan2: 12:14am On Dec 16, 2023
Kobojunkie:
What is wrong with mentioning his mother?

If OP doesn't want his mother mentioned at all in his marriage then OP should cut his mom off completely so she holds no place at all in his life and his marriage. You can't make a god out of a human being, and cause that god to feature in the lives of others around you, while expecting them not to mention the place that god occupies. It doesn't work that way. undecided

All this “my mum is off limits . . . Yen yen yen” is just emotional blackmail. The real reason behind his outrage is that he knows she’s right, and she know she’s right, and OP has been exposed for the hypocrite he is.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by PaulH07: 2:27am On Dec 16, 2023
LooneyLester:
You're a woman in a man's body

I know simps like you


Imagine a woman challenging you and flaunting your orders


Very soon she'll slap you and you'll be watching her do that



If your wife doesn't agree with you , it's up to you to discipline her and teach her a lesson that she won't forget


After that resort to hot fork


Don't apologize


She should be the one doing that after forking on her knees


If you are odogwu , she'll be submitting her salary to you

How exactly would you teach this woman a lesson?
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Munzy14(m): 3:38am On Dec 16, 2023
1TrippleCee:
When one marries a strong minded woman, marriage becomes a drill. That's why many men turn to wood internally after a while. The woman thinks her husband is her competition she can rubbish anyhow
Words on marble.

It is very irritating..

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Munzy14(m): 3:57am On Dec 16, 2023
mariahAngel:


What exactly was it about her words that offended you?

What I've observed is that you both are yet to fully understand each other.

The wife is protesting, and her protest is masked with resentment.

Just like when a man asked something from his wife, she come act, then if hubby makes a statement like " Had it been I am your Dad asking for this, will you say no".

Thats resentment and totally uncalled for.

She has poured cold water in whatever that is fanning their union flame, without feeling remorse. TIME WILL TELL.

Soon hubby will start seeing her as another man(competition), then church agbasaa.. cheesy grin grin
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by huntax(m): 6:30am On Dec 16, 2023
I understand why you might be angered that she didn't apologize. In yoruba culture, she was rude by using your mum as an analogy. She ought to have apologized, especially after you told her you were angered by it.
So her apology should be basically for angering you, not what she said.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by IAmHim1: 6:55am On Dec 16, 2023
MODIFIED:

**your woman have already apologised IN HER OWN WAY but you did not notice. refer to the video i recommended in my previous post up above**


theres the pickmeisha as ubunja described in one of his writeup. pickmeishas basically belong to the alpha female category. whatever works for traditional men, apply it to pickmeishas.

ill give you one example:

the heart follows the treasure. NOT THE TREASURE FOLLOWS THE HEART cus women could like men and not Bleep them...a man could think he loves a woman but Wont spend on her...

mans treasure is money. womens treasure is her pussy.

the woman a man spends on is one whom he'd be dedicated to and love cus a mans love is a decision with his head.

the man a woman have sex with (NOT SPEND ON) is the one she loves cus women *decision to love is a feeling and the best way to access a womans emotions is through her pussy.

men feel with their thinking and women think with their feelings

NOW REVERSE THE ROLES

since a pickmeisha is a LOGICAL woman, her decision to fall in love wont come from whom she has sex with but whom she spends on. shes a thinking woman now

men could have sex with 10 women but love only 1

pickmeishas could have sex with 10 men but love only one

its masculine and feminine energy. logic and emotions baby!
Kobojunkie:
See the nonsense this one has chosen to feed himself from the mouth of another equally ignorant. You actually believe at this point in your life that women are all alike? No wonder you lot never seem to mature at all. undecided
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by adabaraabdul: 7:05am On Dec 16, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.
Except more or similar utterances without remorse or reflections from her. I think wifes are like this. You need to learn to live with it. Air your disappointments and disapprovals always and move on.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by FRANCISTOWN: 7:08am On Dec 16, 2023
UjuJoan2:


How is what she said turning your mum into a plaything? This is just emotional blackmail on your part? You are the judge, jury and executioner!!

You know she’s right, and that’s why you are really upset and picking quarell with what she said.

I see nothing insulting or belittling in what she said.
All I'm saying is. If a woman's raised in a good home, and had imbibed virtues of wifehood from her mom.
She should understand that she should never place herself on the same level as her mother in-law.
I'd never put myself in the same note with my mother in-law. It's pretty disgraceful, I mean. She' been there since day one. No matter how good I am to my woman, she's still have secrets with her mom.
So this is not emotional blackmailing, this is pure truth.
You lot disrespect your husband a lot, and don't worry, your sons will suffer the same faith.
If you have some outstandings with your boss, and you hear he goes on to buy a new ride for himself. Will you ever go on to confront him or reference his mother? At least he is owing you too. You really can't do that

You women respect your bosses/pastors/imams/celebrities online more than y'all respect your husbands which is very wrong. I repeat again. Ain't no woman of mine gon' bring my relatives into our discussion.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by FRANCISTOWN: 7:10am On Dec 16, 2023
ozonechrome:


Woman are marrying sha....
Some men are embarrassments to their ancestors sha

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