My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

I think the mistake is already made, if you make it as issue it might cause problems in your marriage.

Going forward, start your investments separately and You need to put your foot down. If he insists on joint investments, then make sure you see your name on the document before you contribute anything.

It’s good to be wise in love, to avoid stories that touch.

Trust me, I’m talking from experience!

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Maybe your husband loves and trusts you too much and it is for that reason that he didn't see fit to include your name as part owner on any of the properties. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Imagine this one trying to mix "love" and business as if that ever makes sense!

If you guys are legally married, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, it seems your are more concern about your husband demise before you but what if the reverse will be the case?

Start making your own separate investments. Your name should have been there even without asking.

You would discover all those advising op to start her investment separately are all women.

I don’t know why when women advise women but matrimonial things, it is the one that would scatter the home pata-pata they always advised their fellow woman to do.

I still haven’t figured it out whether it is subconscious or intentional

Harddiskng:
You would discover all those advising op to start her investment separately are all women.

I don’t know why when women advise women but matrimonial things, it is the one that would scatter the home pata-pata they always advised their fellow woman to do.

I still haven’t figured it out whether it is subconscious or intentional

But you have nothing to say about a man who’s intentionally excluding his wife from jointly owned family property. All you people love is to cheat and oppress your women. Anyone who gives them advice on how to avoid being mistreated like this becomes the enemy

cococandy:


But you have nothing to say about a man who’s intentionally excluding his wife from jointly owned family property. All you people love is to cheat and oppress your women. Anyone who gives them advice on how to avoid being mistreated like this becomes the enemy

Do you know that as a lawfully wedded wife, she and the man’s children have a right to inheritance of his wealth. So why the fuss.

Start yours separately.

I don't any problem here, if you are legally married to the man and if you are the only he I married to.
All his inheritance belong to his kids, who are also your.

Foodqueen:
Start yours separately.

Typical feminine advice in all marital issues.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Your husband is investing in Nigeria because he knows Nigeria is a lawless place where should both of you divorce today, you will get nothing from the courts. Courts here pervert justice. But if it was in UK he invested, whether he puts your name or not, the properties belong to you both except you had prenuptial agreement. He may have his fear of losing out if divorced for insisting on investing here in Nigeria. You too have the fear of losing out because of his choice of a lawless country as investment destination. The middle point should have been investing in Nigeria under you both's full legal name ie Mrs Jane Sobotie and Mr Jude Sobotie. In law, "Mr and Mrs Jude Sobotie" is not recognized name. Tell him to put your name or henceforth forget about investment in Nigeria. Support only joint investment in UK where you have automatic right to any property in his own name or invest in your own name here in Nigeria if he refuses to include you in the existing properties. Make him understand that you know and understand his fears is about losing it all through divorce but that Nigerian courts and systems are already biased towards men in the event of divorce, so your legal name must be included. Should he relocate to Nigeria tomorrow or secretly marry another Nigerian woman, she automatically inherits properties built with your money because your name is not on those documents. Nigerian law recognizes not just court marriages but also customary marriages so your own properties will be shared between you and the secret wife of your husband. You seem like a good woman. The type most of us would like to have really. You appear supportive and not interested in divorcing your man like we read about Nigerian women dealing with their husbands in the UK

ihavesense:

Do you know that as a lawfully wedded wife, she and the man’s children have a right to inheritance of his wealth. So why the fuss.

So then there’d be no fuss if the woman puts all the family wealth and property in her name right? After all if she dies, the man is entitled to everything she owns. No?

These are the sick devilish lies you used to deceive women in the past so they’d build with y’all and when you start misbehaving they won’t have a choice to stick with your miserable behinds seeing as they have no other choice

I promise you that man knows. That’s his intention

Odotech:
Your husband is investing in Nigeria because he knows Nigeria is a lawless place where should both of you divorce today, you will get nothing from the courts. Courts here pervert justice. But if it was in UK he invested, whether he puts your name or not, the properties belong to you both except you had prenuptial agreement. He may have his fear of losing out if divorced for insisting on investing here in Nigeria. You too have the fear of losing out because of his choice of a lawless country as investment destination. The middle point should have been investing in Nigeria under you both's full legal name ie Mrs Jane Sobotie and Mr Jude Sobotie. In law, "Mr and Mrs Jude Sobotie" is not recognized name. Tell him to put your name or henceforth forget about investment in Nigeria. Support only joint investment in UK where you have automatic right to any property in his own name or invest in your own name here in Nigeria if he refuses to include you in the existing properties. Make him understand that you know and understand his fears is about losing it all through divorce but that Nigerian courts and systems are already biased towards men in the event of divorce, so your legal name must be included. Should he relocate to Nigeria tomorrow or secretly marry another Nigerian woman, she automatically inherits properties built with your money because your name is not on those documents. Nigerian law recognizes not just court marriages but also customary marriages so your own properties will be shared between you and the secret wife of your husband. You seem like a good woman. The type most of us would like to have really. You appear supportive and not interested in divorcing your man like we read about Nigerian women dealing with their husbands in the UK

UjuJoan2:


I think the mistake is already made, if you make it as issue it might cause problems in your marriage.

Going forward, start your investments separately and You need to put your foot down. If he insists on joint investments, then make sure you see your name on the document before you contribute anything.

It’s good to be wise in love, to avoid stories that touch.

Trust me, I’m talking from experience!

see them. These ones are the reason you should keep your problems to yourself. They will give you advice that will ruin your home

Like this, it's to make sure that the properties are made in your children's name. Even if you start working, you can never make such resources again as you're already going down and will only retire and also create animosity in your home and probably divorce

cococandy:


So then there’d be no fuss if the woman puts all the family wealth and property in her name right? After all if she dies, the man is entitled to everything she owns. No?

These are the sick devilish lies you used to deceive women in the past so they’d build with y’all and when you start misbehaving they won’t have a choice to stick with your miserable behinds seeing as they have no other choice

legally married couple and you are worried about whose name is on the properties. Let's say the man dies today,all she needs is to provide proof that she is married to the man and a good lawyer will do the rest.

In most cases, the men do it because that's the way it has always been done and not because they have any ulterior motive against the wife

cococandy:
I promise you that man knows. That’s his intention

What about the woman? Why would or does she not know this too?

ChybuzzDD:


Typical feminine advice in all marital issues.

And if she was your sister, what would you tell her?

cococandy:


So then there’d be no fuss if the woman puts all the family wealth and property in her name right? After all if she dies, the man is entitled to everything she owns. No?

These are the sick devilish lies you used to deceive women in the past so they’d build with y’all and when you start misbehaving they won’t have a choice to stick with your miserable behinds seeing as they have no other choice

Can’t you be civil in your arguments.

michlins:
legally married couple and you are worried about whose name is on the properties. Let's say the man dies today,all she needs is to provide proof that she is married to the man and a good lawyer will do the rest.

In most cases, the men do it because that's the way it has always been done and not because they have any ulterior motive against the wife

Thank you for answering her perfectly.
It is the man that marries a woman and not the other way round.

Two shall become one, no? So why are all the properties you both acquired only in one person's name? And he can't give a valid answer. LMAO. You shouldn't even have to ask him to do so if he's truly a man of integrity. Mr. Nsikak and Mrs. Edidiong Ubong, not Mr. and Mrs. Ubong. Anybody can be Mrs. Ubong tomorrow. A lawyer friend told me this when I started acquiring properties.

Someone would see white and call it black because one of his own is at it again.

ihavesense:

Do you know that as a lawfully wedded wife, she and the man’s children have a right to inheritance of his wealth. So why the fuss.

Then why not add her name to the papers and save everyone all these stress? Mind you that what is being discussed here is not his wealth but their investment. Why is her name not included in the docs of properties she co-own?

In marriage, you don't fan the embers of suspicion and doubt, you quench it with transparency.

I don't blame the man sha, I blame the woman who sees reason in trusting a man that his family cannot be trusted.

You're forking confused, why can't you be happy



Must your name be in the property documents ??

If you have kids, tell him to include the kids or change it completely to your children's names. You have a right to speak up wisely, if he has a problem with that, it means he has ulterior motives. According to you, this is a joint venture.

michlins:
legally married couple and you are worried about whose name is on the properties. Let's say the man dies today,all she needs is to provide proof that she is married to the man and a good lawyer will do the rest.

In most cases, the men do it because that's the way it has always been done and not because they have any ulterior motive against the wife

Why are you people intentionally ignoring the man's chaotic family? What if he dies and they accuse her of killing him? Strip her of all his wealth and send her packing or are we going to pretend it doesn't happen? How about they divorce, he will now walk away with her investments? I thought we all stan Hakimi because we are good people, didn't know it was because he is a male.

30 minutes of me seeing things from the woman's angle and I feel totally drained. Nawa ooo

Are the men on this thread for real?

What kind of disgusting bias is this? She should keep quiet and let her husband cheat her. You people are not well.

Odotech:
Your husband is investing in Nigeria because he knows Nigeria is a lawless place where should both of you divorce today, you will get nothing from the courts. Courts here pervert justice. But if it was in UK he invested, whether he puts your name or not, the properties belong to you both except you had prenuptial agreement. He may have his fear of losing out if divorced for insisting on investing here in Nigeria. You too have the fear of losing out because of his choice of a lawless country as investment destination. The middle point should have been investing in Nigeria under you both's full legal name ie Mrs Jane Sobotie and Mr Jude Sobotie. In law, "Mr and Mrs Jude Sobotie" is not recognized name. Tell him to put your name or henceforth forget about investment in Nigeria. Support only joint investment in UK where you have automatic right to any property in his own name or invest in your own name here in Nigeria if he refuses to include you in the existing properties. Make him understand that you know and understand his fears is about losing it all through divorce but that Nigerian courts and systems are already biased towards men in the event of divorce, so your legal name must be included. Should he relocate to Nigeria tomorrow or secretly marry another Nigerian woman, she automatically inherits properties built with your money because your name is not on those documents. Nigerian law recognizes not just court marriages but also customary marriages so your own properties will be shared between you and the secret wife of your husband. You seem like a good woman. The type most of us would like to have really. You appear supportive and not interested in divorcing your man like we read about Nigerian women dealing with their husbands in the UK

You nailed it, i suggest the woman to address the issue first with her husband, then if he doesnt listen and change then she has the full support from a reasonable person, if she goes behind her husband secretly buying properties it will 1 positively support husband's decision not including her (dont be trapped into such) 2 with today's technology have video evidence to support your hard life decisions why you are doing such and such, record yourself why you made such a
decision i.e the reason you have bought your own property.


Learn or perish, i have never heard of woman who lost her materimonal property to her new marriage but millions of cases whereby women and children have lost properties to late husband's family ( father, brother and uncles)

Lost of kids have lost their inhertance through father marrying another woman and father made to deliberately leave the other kids out of his will or estate

Tallesty1:
Why are you people intentionally ignoring the man's chaotic family? What if he dies and they accuse her of killing him? Strip her of all his wealth and send her packing or are we going to pretend it doesn't happen? How about they divorce, he will now walk away with her investments? I thought we all stan Hakimi because we are good people, didn't know it was because he is a male.

30 minutes of me seeing things from the woman's angle and I feel totally drained. Nawa ooo

lol. Where are the papers for the properties?

If the man is hiding them or she doesn't have access to them, she wouldn't have seen their title. The family are powerless in the face of the law. Accuse her of killing the husband while she dey Yankee is like pushing a mountain. She will just ask lawyers to transfer ownership of the properties and rent paid to her own account.

These are none issues at all

began yours separately.

Klass99:


Just lookatchu . You are asking why the fuss, after she said his family is chaotic?

Why do you people love to pretend like you don't know what a man's family is capable of upon his death? We grew up on stories of family members taking over a man's properties upon his death, throwing the wife and kids out or practically leaving them destitute in their greed. Some of you personally know families who have suffered such a fate, yet, you act like these things don't happen or exist any more.

Lawfully wedded doesn't mean she will successfully inherit or contest ownership of properties in court and win. If her name is not on official property documents or the man dies without a valid will (bequeathing things to her) she gets absolutely nothing! His family can swoop in and claim everything, not even caring that he has kids, they will not remember that blood is thicker than water at that time and they ought to do right by their brother's children.

The entitlement and greed of a man's siblings, uncles, cousins and entire lineage can be legendary when he dies! It often leaves me in shock and awe, and I am not easily shocked.

those stories happened because people don't have proper titles over their properties. Men are wiser now. No one wants to die and all his sweat will go to someone else while his own children suffer. It doesn't happen again.

Moreover, the law has made it possible for women to claim properties from their own father sef.

This woman should simply raise this issue with the husband and discuss it as couples and not come to the internet where vicious people will advise her wrongly and scatter her home thereby making her worst nightmare a reality.