Let him include her name please

michlins:
lol. Where are the papers for the properties?

If the man is hiding them or she doesn't have access to them, she wouldn't have seen their title. The family are powerless in the face of the law. Accuse her of killing the husband while she dey Yankee is like pushing a mountain. She will just ask lawyers to transfer ownership of the properties and rent paid to her own account.

These are none issues at all

Yea, I see it now.

Going through the court to fight for what is rightfully yours simply because the love of your life intentionally refused to include your name in the papers is just easy and logical way to go. Easier than putting her name in the papers from the beginning.


I am deeply sorry for quoting you, I apologize and I will appreciate if you don't quote me again.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

- "Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused"

No, you're not. I reckon that you know exactly what is going on, your spouse has no financial integrity and it did not start today.

- "I love him but I don’t trust his family"

No you don't trust HIM, his family does not have anything to do with this, your husband is trying to defraud you in the name of love and you know it but you do not want to call a spade a spade.

- "I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting"

You know within you that your husband is a thief, just like almost every other Nigerian out there supporting Tinubus, they are all thieves.

Nigerians globally do not have financial integrity of any sort, and your husband included. Almost every Nigerian is trying to defraud one another, Sisters, Brothers, Family members, Girlfriends, Boyfriends.

Thank you Tally,spot on.

Tallesty1:
Then why not add her name to the papers and save everyone all these stress? Mind you that what is being discussed here is not his wealth but their investment. Why is her name not included in the docs of properties she co-own?

In marriage, you don't fan the embers of suspicion and doubt, you quench it with transparency.

I don't blame the man sha, I blame the woman who sees reason in trusting a man that his family cannot be trusted.

Tallesty1:
Yea, I see it now.

Going through the court to fight for what is rightfully yours simply because the love of your life intentionally refused to include your name in the papers is just easy and logical way to go. Easier than putting her name in the papers from the beginning.


I am deeply sorry for quoting you, I apologize and I will appreciate if you don't quote me again.

ok she should simply fight her husband now and fight for the properties too in court.

The mistake is already made, the best approach shouldn't be a warpath with the husband but a subtle but defined tactics to get what she wants.

If she goes guns blazing, she will get next to nothing now but if she gets smart, she will get her home and properties too.

But who says the man will die first. What if she dies before the man

Kooldon:
If you guys are legally married, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, it seems your are more concern about your husband demise before you but what if the reverse will be the case?

this property is in Nigeria

you know the man is wrong for not putting her name in a property she contributed for.

what is wrong, if she is concerned for her name to be in a document of a property she contributed for??

her husband is playing fast one on her.

Confront him, and hear what he has to say. If he does justify his silly actions, better start looking for plan D (divorce). Na man wey no rate you be that. He's now forming "head of house" like say na only him contribute the money.....

That's betrayal, ma. serious betrayal..

michlins:
legally married couple and you are worried about whose name is on the properties. Let's say the man dies today,all she needs is to provide proof that she is married to the man and a good lawyer will do the rest.

In most cases, the men do it because that's the way it has always been done and not because they have any ulterior motive against the wife

what if she doesnt have a good lawyer, so what will be her fate

you know that marriage in Nigeria is between families

what if her husband family play a fast one on her and take all the documents

motymop:


what if she doesnt have a good lawyer, so what will be her fate

you know that marriage in Nigeria is between families

what if her husband family play a fast one on her and take all the documents

take documents that are in UK?

Everything you people say have been based on presumption and nothing else. If the husband wants to play a fast one on her, will he do the same on his own kids too?

Make she go fight her husband and scatter her family to get the properties.

michlins:
take documents that are in UK?

Everything you people say have been based on presumption and nothing else. If the husband wants to play a fast one on her, will he do the same on his own kids too?

Make she go fight her husband and scatter her family to get the properties.

yes documents can be taken, dont you think he bought the property through a brother or a relation in Nigeria

even if what i wrote are on presumptions, what the man did was wrong. he is already playing a fast game on her and the kids

The properties are in Nigeria and family members can take over it once they hear he is dead.

this literally is betrayal and in most cases can destroy a marriage.

cococandy:


But you have nothing to say about a man who’s intentionally excluding his wife from jointly owned family property. All you people love is to cheat and oppress your women. Anyone who gives them advice on how to avoid being mistreated like this becomes the enemy

If you don’t trust your man, don’t marry him. The end.

Why didn’t you ask for your name to be on the property when you guys were in Nigeria? Hmmmm

Foodqueen:


And if she was your sister, what would you tell her?

This shows your advice was actually based on sentiment.
Well, I would tell her to rest, because every property acquired by a legally married couple belongs to both

Should we tell her😁

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

You will need to be tactical and strategic or elsewhere, you will see nothing or it may drag on forever.
Best wishes.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Very simple....... STOP contributing towards his sole investments........ And demand some sort of refund, for previous sole investments......

What if both of you agree to place your child(ren) names

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

ChybuzzDD:


This shows your advice was actually based on sentiment.
Well, I would tell her to rest, because every property acquired by a legally married couple belongs to both

Not in a lawless country like Nigeria.........

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

pm so I can tell you things you don't know.

If you have children, put their names instead

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

The mistake you made is that you people didn't make the decision to include both your names in the document, so I don't think your husband was wrong in not including your name. Asking him to include your name now can cause issues in your marriage not because you're wrong in asking but because it may be seen as you not trusting your husband. I'll say you should leave things as they are except, god forbid, your husband has a terminal illness but if he's hale and hearty I think you should leave things as they are.

You should start yours separately because as it stands, you are not entitled to any of those investments except you have an evidence of payment into your husband's account with a description, "for our property" or something related, otherwise, you have no case.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

@JB0707,

It's too late for you to effect any changes if ALL the property wasn't in your name. On the other hand, if you have evidence of these investment purchases being jointly funded, then get a good legal adviser for more insights so that you are NOT cheated.

You should have your own investments as well and not totally depend on joint ownership of property since you say his family is "chaotic"... Meaning that if your husband passes on suddenly, they (your husband's extended family) could take over the property left behind from your immediate family. There should normally be an audit of all the property you and your spouse own while alive, and then a will should be drafted for the benefit of you and your surviving children.

Odotech:
Your husband is investing in Nigeria because he knows Nigeria is a lawless place where should both of you divorce today, you will get nothing from the courts. Courts here pervert justice. But if it was in UK he invested, whether he puts your name or not, the properties belong to you both except you had prenuptial agreement. He may have his fear of losing out if divorced for insisting on investing here in Nigeria. You too have the fear of losing out because of his choice of a lawless country as investment destination. The middle point should have been investing in Nigeria under you both's full legal name ie Mrs Jane Sobotie and Mr Jude Sobotie. In law, "Mr and Mrs Jude Sobotie" is not recognized name. Tell him to put your name or henceforth forget about investment in Nigeria. Support only joint investment in UK where you have automatic right to any property in his own name or invest in your own name here in Nigeria if he refuses to include you in the existing properties. Make him understand that you know and understand his fears is about losing it all through divorce but that Nigerian courts and systems are already biased towards men in the event of divorce, so your legal name must be included. Should he relocate to Nigeria tomorrow or secretly marry another Nigerian woman, she automatically inherits properties built with your money because your name is not on those documents. Nigerian law recognizes not just court marriages but also customary marriages so your own properties will be shared between you and the secret wife of your husband. You seem like a good woman. The type most of us would like to have really. You appear supportive and not interested in divorcing your man like we read about Nigerian women dealing with their husbands in the UK

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Mention one case you know of where the nigerian Courts deprived a woman of her husband's estate. Looking forward to an insightful answer sir.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Having your name on the properties is the only evidence of ownership you have over those properties.

If you still need the properties, then get your name on them.

You should also keep your future investments separate henceforth.

This claim is false...you are ignorant of the law, sir.

ChybuzzDD:


This shows your advice was actually based on sentiment.
Well, I would tell her to rest, because every property acquired by a legally married couple belongs to both

cococandy:


But you have nothing to say about a man who’s intentionally excluding his wife from jointly owned family property. All you people love is to cheat and oppress your women. Anyone who gives them advice on how to avoid being mistreated like this becomes the enemy

Mr and Mrs is enough

Kooldon:
If you guys are legally married, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, it seems your are more concern about your husband demise before you but what if the reverse will be the case?

BSc lawyer spotted!

1) Don't use your own hands to put separation in your family

2) If you are legally married why worry about properties?

3) Unless you project your husband to die before you

4) Your properties belong to the family and the children inherit their parents properties after death

5) Try your best to invest on yourself but carry your husband along if you suspect his people.

Happy Married life to you!!!

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Begin save money buy another property,no matter how small..as u don c say the family dey chaotic