frozen70:


Sorry for the embarrassment but from the look of things, you, your mum and your siblings are not in a good relationship

Is either you are not organize or you are a future problem child

I think you have to make peace with your family, starting with your mum before she can integrate you back into the family

With what is going on, there is no synergy between you and your family

Very soon, they will sell you without receipt

Go and make peace with your family and stop all these drama

If a woman or women gang up against you, your own done finish be that

You are very biased!
How did u conclude the bold without also saying the women could be wrong? See how u paint the women in this case perfect?
Do u know if it is the sister that is fueling the whole thing? Don't we have bad mothers & sisters too? How do u just conclude op is the problem? Do u think if the woman is truly a good person, she will sell that property? The manner in which they sold the property bespeaks the mother & sister aren't saints. Stop viewing issues from a single perspective because u are trying to support ur gender. Seems u don't know some women can kill their spouse for property.

ejimatic:
How many wives did ur father have? If it is one reach out to them for your entitlements If the wives are two and only children of one of the wives sold the property without giving the other wife and her children money , it is a serious matter.On fact the buyer is playing with fire because you can institute a case against him as a rightful owner of the property too

Seems like guys forget too soon that some of those family houses are single handedly built by the wife but nobody hears pim.
Some of the houses you claim are built by your mothers. Some were jointly built. In fact, as long as they remain married when such happened, it's a joint effort. For a mum and her daughter to sell the house, tge son is no good. Who knows what else he has squandered. They just beat him in his own game this time around.
You guys should have shame a bit. See entitlement mentality.

BRATISLAVA:


How many people in 3rd world nations write wills? Watching succession series is giving the wrong ideas about reality.

What's so difficult to comprehend in my post?

jayce232:

You are very biased!
How did u conclude the bold without also saying the women could be wrong? See how u paint the women in this case perfect?
Do u know if it is the sister that is fueling the whole thing? Don't we have bad mothers & sisters too? How do u just conclude op is the problem? Do u think if the woman is truly a good person, she will sell that property? The manner in which they sold the property bespeaks the mother & sister aren't saints. Stop viewing issues from a single perspective because u are trying to support ur gender. Seems u don't know some women can kill their spouse for property.

It is known in Nigeria that bad sons end up selling the inheritance leaving the mum and daughters with nothing. Shoukd we site cases?
He should tell us how many he sold. There may be his siblings who are still schooling. How will mum fund their school fees or set them up?
Sometimes it's good to add one on one together.
Go back to the original post and read again but with deep understanding.
He never come back to refute allegations sone made against him. He never come to paint his mum and sis bad. Guys that have killed their fathers cos of this same inheritance countless times.

Sonnobax15:

Another reason why men should enjoy their lives while they are still alive in stead of acquiring different properties all in the name of --'I am securing my children's future by building houses and land".

Cuz the moment after you die,the way those your so-called children and wife go do collabor just to dey whip-whip and sell sell your properties go even shock you for your grave

There was a very wealthy man in my community back then, he got ill & right from his sick bed, his wives & children started debating how to share his properties, immediately he got better, he sold everything. I think he left only the house he was living then.

descarado:

It is known in Nigeria that bad sons end up selling the inheritance leaving the mum and daughters with nothing. Shoukd we site cases?
He should tell us how many he sold. There may be his siblings who are still schooling. How will mum fund their school fees or set them up?
Sometimes it's good to add one on one together.
Go back to the original post and read again but with deep understanding.
He never come back to refute allegations sone made against him. He never come to paint his mum and sis bad. Guys that have killed their fathers cos of this same inheritance countless times.

Madam it is a two way thing!
Not everybody has that time to be arguing on a public forum! Did u see the op coming back to quote those supporting him either? The person I quoted was biased. Since we have sons selling their father's properties, we also have mothers killing their spouse because of properties. It is wrong for anyone to just conclude the op is the bad guy if that person has not been living with them. It is a divided family & anyone can be a victim. Even the op has no right to sell that house, it belongs to every first lineage of the father's generation if we are to go by tradition. The op can also be a victim, the sister or mother maybe the one fueling this whole trouble, no one can tell so long u are not living with them. Coming here to outrightly paint op a bad person because u want to support your gender is biased!

BluntCrazeMan:
In modern times,, [b]husband and wife put resources together [/b]to get properties.

Yeah, however the % is still small, lets look at it like these, are the children not the responsibility of both parent, it doesnt matter whether the properties are co owned or not ... inheritance are for children

Now i don't see why anyone should feel threatened or insecure, a responsible husband will duely appropriate for his wife and sane children will definitely take care of there mother .... besides we have see more children build houses and buy properties for there mother than a reverse

What I see in the family

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NO LOVE.

Charleys:


Compensated how? The house always belongs to the mother. She will live there till the day she dies. Other properties can be shared. Lastly the court will rule in her favour if there is no will.

Agreed! but thats usually one tagged "family house" in the event there are more properties or company it is alloted to the children
Like i said the wife is duely compensated, she would be placed on special renumerations and benefits plus family house she retain But it is the place of the children to carry on a Man's legacy

In the case of no will, the 1st child has a leverage by tradition and by law, where the wife stands a better chance is if she is a legal wife ..
these thing happened to my Friend his step mom sued him he won although she was compensated

go to court

mikywonder:


Nwokem go and hustle
Dis firs child of a thin no dey work again
I say again go and hustle

Your advice is immaterial, my father is late and no property sef so rise up nd look for someone else to preach gospel to

Have you seen dem otedola, dangote adelekes shouting go n hustle to there children, Davido is hustling night n day yet his father still allot him shares in all his company,

prestige257:
Hello Nairaland lawyers please i need your advice.
My mother and elder sister sold our late father's house secretly without our consent around february this year but we just found out only recently.It's a 4 bedroom bungalow.The buyer has completed renovation.Have we lost out? They didn't share the money they are holding on to it.Is there anything that can be done at this point in time?

O ti lo!

chidiokay:



Yeah, however the % is still small, lets look at it like these, are the children not the responsibility of both parent, it doesnt matter whether the properties are co owned or not ... inheritance are for children

Now i don't see why anyone should feel threatened or insecure, a responsible husband will duely appropriate for his wife and sane children will definitely take care of there mother .... besides we have see more children build houses and buy properties for there mother than a reverse

In a case where the Children are not sane, nko.??

What if some of the children had been nursing the ambition to sell off the little remaining properties and squander the returns without sharing it with the rest of their siblings, ((and they are not even planning to buy their own properties not to talk of buying for their mother)) and their mother got to know about this,, what would you think would be the case.??

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Whenever there are discussions going on about some real situations which some people are passing through already, please stop bringing in some perfect ideal situations to scatter the discussions,, like as if the situation had always been perfect all the while with those people in question..

If things were ideal with the OP’s circumstances in the first place, don't you think that what happened inside this thread wouldn't have happened in the first place??

Now it had happened, and you're talking about Sane Children.??
Two things are involved in the OP’s family.
Either the Children (especially the OP) are not Sane.,, or the mother is not sane.
Whichever way it goes,, it is not an ideal perfect situation.
And the people that are commenting are assuming that either of them is not sane,, or both are not sane.

oluwaseyi0:


Please be more specific, which country or culture is 1st born more entitled than other kids and on what basis, definitely not Yoruba maybe Igbo

Unless the first born contributed more in building the house than other kids

Nigeria ofcus, and my stand is pertinent to most tribe in Nigeria be it igbo, hausa and yoruba
Wow, seems i stepped on peoples toes, i can feel the insecurity and agitation, what is he saying, he must be archaic .. now i understand why the life of the 1st child is always a battle even from the days of the bible
When it comes to property, 1st born ko .. but when its comes to inherited gbese/debt and responsibility everyboy looks to the 1st born thats a bit of digress you asked for something .. its from customary law on inheritance in Nigeria for more go n search

For those that have throw stone or want to throw stone, go n hustle ... my brodas my father don die since and no property sef so keep una advise

Brooooooooh 😱😱😱😱.
That man deserves an award . Job of our time

jayce232:

There was a very wealthy man in my community back then, he got ill & right from his sick bed, his wives & children started debating how to share his properties, immediately he got better, he sold everything. I think he left only the house he was living then.

kushme:


IF na useless child, at least give am small thing to squander, he go see am as his share , and he won't ask again. Dey play

😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

BluntCrazeMan:



In a case where the Children are not sane, nko.??

What if some of the children had been nursing the ambition to sell off the little remaining properties and squander the returns without sharing it with the rest of their siblings, ((and they are not even planning to buy their own properties not to talk of buying for their mother)) and their mother got to know about this,, what would you think would be the case.??

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Whenever people are discussing some real situations as we are seeing it happen to people, stop bringing in some perfect ideal situations to scatter the discussions..
If things were ideal with the OP’s circumstances in the first place, what happened inside this thread wouldn't have happened in the first place.

lolzz !! except for one child, as a mother if all your kids are mean toward you and none is endear to you then you need check yourself

Lets even assume all children are insane, the mother can sue them if she is a legal wife ... and the court will impose a sharing formula, i guess

But i find it hard to believe children will abandon there mother, we have 9 mothers day in a year faa ... naa fathers suppose dey fear children ke

chidiokay:



lolzz !! except for one child, as a mother if all your kids are mean toward you and none is endear to you then you need check yourself

Lets even assume all children are insane, the mother can sue them if she is a legal wife ... and the court will impose a sharing formula, i guess

But i find it hard to believe children will abandon there mother, we have 9 mothers day in a year faa ... naa fathers suppose dey fear children ke

Relax..

Some mothers are something else.!!

ojun50:

Forget the house don go

Have you confronted your mother what was her response, let her know you could put up a legal action against her because you are a beneficiary to your father's estate...pls do you know who/ what killed your father?

Find a job and stop looking at properties a man worked to purchase.

BluntCrazeMan:
Relax..

Some mothers are something else.!!

Agreed ! but nothwithstanding person mama be person mama .. just fulfill what you owe her n carry on with life.

or do you think two wrongs will make a right

Now u are looking for a way to start another problem for the buyer.... Work and don't 100% depend on inheritance. Stop being a lazy Nigeria Youth. Eni o ta ogun kodabi eni ti ogun gbe

Sirhush:
My brother go and work and make your own money.

Abi waiting you too won leave for your kids

No be you e happen to na why you dey talk like this, except he's irresponsible i see no reason why his mom and sis will sell their house without letting him know. It bad

Sapasenator:


Honestly, I am surprised at such an entitlement mentality.

Does that mean if ur father or mother's properties were sold behind you, even if u build ur own castle, u won't bother to ask why u weren't informed??

U re not worthy to be called a child then, ur parent didn't have a worthy child to leave behind

prestige257:
Hello Nairaland lawyers please i need your advice.
My mother and elder sister sold our late father's house secretly without our consent around february this year but we just found out only recently.It's a 4 bedroom bungalow.The buyer has completed renovation.Have we lost out? They didn't share the money they are holding on to it.Is there anything that can be done at this point in time?

Are you in good relationship with your "mother"?

She can say "He is not your biological father"! I've seen this kind of case before.

chidiokay:



Agreed ! but nothwithstanding person mama be person mama .. just fulfill what you owe her n carry on with life.

or do you think two wrongs will make a right

We are all different human beings..
And we all see things differently.

You might be seeing “Two Wrongs”,,
And another person is seeing “JUSTICE AND PAY-BACK AND REVENGE”

BluntCrazeMan:


We are all different human beings..
And we all see things differently.

You might be seeing “Two Wrongs”,,
And another person is seeing “JUSTICE AND PAY-BACK AND REVENGE”

I agree what i see as 6 might be 9 to you from our standing point but there is no justification for two wrongs ... even the bible said vengance is of God bro sey you wan dey follow God drag nii

In my life for instance, i always try to show weytin i pass i pass am ni .. ajùlor likened to maturity
Revenge is like post-sex feeling when you release finish sex feel over rated same as revenge but where you show maturity you earn respect for life ..you know what respect does to a man ego

If your dad will the house to your Mother or Sister, then they are entitled to sell the house with or without your consent.
But if the property is not will to anybody, then the buyer who bought the property will face legal battle.
When buying any property from a deceased family, there is usually a Letter of Administration from the Court which the Seller must present to the buyer. If that is not done, then u have a good case, the buyer is in soup.

prestige257:
Hello Nairaland lawyers please i need your advice.
My mother and elder sister sold our late father's house secretly without our consent around february this year but we just found out only recently.It's a 4 bedroom bungalow.The buyer has completed renovation.Have we lost out? They didn't share the money they are holding on to it.Is there anything that can be done at this point in time?

This right here is the reason why your mom and sister sold the house! - You think you're entitled to the house as a son or first son!

Rexymania:
Brutal comments 😁😁

I'm telling you!

Even OP sef don run commot leave the thread for them! 🤣😅😂

Leemzyy:
Am I'm leemzy not babangbali

What's Leemzy?

Salowise:

No be you e happen to na why you dey talk like this, except he's irresponsible i see no reason why his mom and sis will sell their house without letting him know. It bad

Lol my dad also have house in Lagos and I can boldly say it that since when he die in year 2012 i never for once take 1 naira from the house. Glory be to God I am able to work on my own now.


Still hear this only if he can take his mind off his dad property like 30 precent before he can start working on his own. Abi waiting him own pikin go meet when dey grow up. Just like you said he maybe irresponsible