kellexnuel:

The rate at which women usurp authority from their husband in this generation is alarming

The matter requires wisdom

Foodempire:



The matter requires wisdom

Serious wisdom ohhhhhh

BlindAngel:



We didn't discussed anything regarding name change during courtship, If I told her to change her name today, she'd do it. But she's supposed to know that I don't need to remind her and change it already, that's my pain.

Why must she change her name? What constitution demands it? This are basic things people should discuss while dating. Nothing is too irrelevant to be discussed.
At this time, you would learn to be diplomatic and make her see reasons why she should change her name to yours.

BlindAngel:



If only you know the daily cry, you would understand why I bowed to the pressure of getting married to her, which I'm still regretting until date everytime I think that I'm married to someone that I don't love, and worst still not sexually attracted to, it hurts me a lot everytime I think about it, our marriage is just 4 months and I have already started regretting everytime I think that I'm married and I don't have 1% love for who I'm married to, it would still be good if I'm sexually attracted to her, but I'm not. I'm so deeply hurt.

What does it mean to love another person? Have you tried looking inwards to see why you finally accepted her tears and marry her? That could be the starting point to help you love her more. Remember, love is a choice and decision you make, and not the butterflies we think we feel.

BlindAngel:




It seems I have been too easy and quiet on her, I will do as you say and ban her from going to that church and if she refused, she should pack her load and go back to her parents house, I have really condole enough of her rubbish and tears at any slight arguments.

I paid 396k for her cs operation, and no where my name or surname appeared on the receipt that was given to me, it's her name and her father's name that was on it. This is because after marriage she has not changed her surname to my name, this hurt me a lot because her elder sister that is just a baby mama to her boyfriend has already changed her Facebook sur name to her boyfriend surname. Whereas my wife is still answering her father's name, I have told myself that if she can't think and do this willingly, I will never and ever confront her concerning this.

I have been allowing her to do whatever she want but this, she has over stepped her boundaries, seems I have been too easy on her.

Keep taking advise from people who don't even have girlfriends, talk more of being married. You don't like yourself

Oche211:


Sometimes, you don't have to wait for women to make some decisions, you make it for them. Understand that women are not capable of making sound, logic decisions without proper guidance

Negodu crap and balderdash

GboyegaD:


Did they force him to marry her or do you think he is doing her a favor marrying her? He needs thread with caution and as a man learn to lead his home and not just listen to people like you who want to make him feel he is more than he is.

@bold:

Toor! Warris this?

bukatyne:


@bold:

Toor! Warris this?

Telling him to man up and not be tactical on an important issue they did not resolve in courtship is making him more man than he is. Listening to the online jamboree of people who have no idea of the uniqueness of his family will only destroy the home.

Ishilove:

Keep taking advise from people who don't even have girlfriends, talk more of being married. You don't like yourself

what will be your advice for him. If his story is anything to write home about, I don't believe it's okay, with the way his wife is insisting her pastor must name their child.

joseph1832:
what will be your advice for him. If his story is anything to write home about, I don't believe it's okay, with the way his wife is insisting her pastor must name their child.

I'm not a counselor in marital affairs, so I find myself incapable of giving sound advice in this matter. The marriage started on a faulty foundation already, and unless the foundation be destroyed what can this fellow do?

My irritation is that he is listening to someone who is insinuating that his wife is promiscuous and the pastor could be the real father of the child. The fellow spewing this rubbish doesn't know the OPs wife from anywhere but he is saying the baby could be the "bastard child of the pastor". Imagine the disrespect.

Am married and i can tell you 20,30 and 40 yrs ago, a married woman wouldn't do this. I am only angry with the wife insisting on her pastor naming the baby.

What authority does the wife has in the first place. No biblical backing. We have several Bible references of men giving the baby names and not the other way round.

Marriages where working when women had respect.

If u ask some of our elderly ones, wives then aligned with their husband. Nothing like my pastor because her husband church is
automatically her after marriage.

The more married women try to uspurp power from their husband, the more we see this things playing out like this.

A wise woman will not engage in this type of fight with her husband who God.

I rest my case

update pls??

You don teach her lesson or you still dey do like mumu for ya wife