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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by cybergawd: 9:21pm On Jul 19
Postpone the naming for now, do a DNA. Let her cry blood... Tell her you suspect her with the pastor, and that DNA is what will solve the issue
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by ISellBeer: 9:55pm On Jul 19
BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.
Simp sported
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Caleycash(m): 12:36am On Jul 20
Maeve7:


Find a woman who loves her man to be totally inconsiderate of what she wants and you‘ll be ok. Good luck!
NO!, it takes a woman who's submissive!, going to your man's church is very prime, depicts you're following his leadership, lots of men out there are are idiots, what she wants is invalid when you actually cares for her and you both kids, if you're not doing well she won't even be there with you in the first place!
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by kellexnuel(m): 7:30am On Jul 20
I don't trust your wife. Anyways use wisdom to approach the whole matter.
The rate at which women usurp authority from their husband in this generation is alarming

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by BlindAngel: 10:12am On Jul 20
Bliztzer:


Ask her whether na her pastor pay the hospital bill, whether she is married to pastor and whether the child belong to the pastor?

As me o, na no no. If she can't give a enough reason why her pastor must be the one to name my child. Na no. No dey say yes, yes to everything wey woman demand.


Whenever I throw up the question about the hospital bills and even the things that I bought for the naming ceremony, her answer is always the same "always saying that if the money I spend is greater than the pain she went through to birth our child, that she did a huge sacrifice for me and I'm ungrateful.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Bliztzer: 10:59am On Jul 20
BlindAngel:



Whenever I throw up the question about the hospital bills and even the things that I bought for the naming ceremony, her answer is always the same "always saying that if the money I spend is greater than the pain she went through to birth our child, that she did a huge sacrifice for me and I'm ungrateful.

Lol grin grin grin

Make she find another man. Like say the pikin no be her own too. Na surrogacy she tell you say she wan do? Which kind nonsense be that self. She never jam wey pass her ni, that's why she dey get mouth any how.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Maeve7: 2:00pm On Jul 20
Caleycash:
NO!, it takes a woman who's submissive!, going to your man's church is very prime, depicts you're following his leadership, lots of men out there are are idiots, what she wants is invalid when you actually cares for her and you both kids, if you're not doing well she won't even be there with you in the first place!

Please find this submissive woman whose wants are invalid to you and let other men and women run their homes based on mutual respect. May we all be happy. Bye!

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Peace2love: 4:34pm On Jul 20
Is well with you Sir.

At the mouth of two witness a matter is establish. We did not hear your wife side of the story. So, personally I can't condem her, but never the least, you both agreed to be under different spiritual mentorship/father (pastor) before now, so I see no reason why you should be complaining about who named your child. Is it not the same Jesus? The two pastors can come around as a way to honour them both.

Go back to whoever counsel you during courtship and sort yourself out. Last last all your children will follow their mom your wife to her church if care is not taken.

Many bitter soul abound on social media, if you take all their advice you destroy your marriage.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Caleycash(m): 4:41pm On Jul 20
Maeve7:


Please find this submissive woman whose wants are invalid to you and let other men and women run their homes based on mutual respect. May we all be happy. Bye!
A woman's wants is not invalid, there are right ways of doing things, once married you ought to follow your husband to his church or better don't even marry him!, that's where he fvcked up!, and FYI I've found a submissive wife that's submissive to my will and I love her so much, women like you don't deserve marriage, I can't even imagine idiots marrying rebellious women like you, bye bye!
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Corniche: 10:40pm On Jul 20
BlindAngel:



Whenever I throw up the question about the hospital bills and even the things that I bought for the naming ceremony, her answer is always the same "always saying that if the money I spend is greater than the pain she went through to birth our child, that she did a huge sacrifice for me and I'm ungrateful.

Whenever I throw up the question about the hospital bills and even the things that I bought for the naming ceremony, her answer is always the same "always saying that if the money I spend is greater than the pain she went through to birth our child, that she did a huge sacrifice for me and I'm ungrateful.[/quote]

How long did you date before wedding her?
Did she take you to see her family members, and did you take her to yours before the wedding?
Did you have like a sister that is old enough to marry and she isn't?
I am guessing your wife is not working too, and all you do is to spend.
Does she have friends? I am guessing no

You married her out of pity.
I was almost in your shoes, but I was able to opt out on time before the wedding, and I am being careful of the kind woman to marry now.
It was like yours, so when i read your story, I fully understand what you are going through.

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Corniche: 10:47pm On Jul 20
Pray she does contrary to your order and divorce her.
You still have lots of years ahead of you to be in a bad marriage.
She has giving birth to your child, make she just be your baby mama.

You are a man, you can still marry again.
You are a man that doesn't want stress for your life, so you deserve that peace in your home.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:04am On Jul 21
BlindAngel:
Good afternoon Nairalanders, my wife gave birth last week which was Saturday July 13th, that day was also my birthday, she gave birth through CS, this is our first child, and it's a boy.


This week Saturday is our baby's naming ceremony but my wife is insisting that her pastor must be the one officiate the naming the child, we've been disagreeing over this for some couple of days now,

she has called me all sorts of names, insulted me that I'm a very wicked man that I have no conscience, that after she pain and tearing she went through and still going through, I can't make this as a sacrifice for her, that I choose my family over her. She said so because my family also insist too that the naming must be done by our pastor.

But she's keying on the fact that she won't agree for the naming to be done in my church that it must be done by her pastor, she has cried and insulted me regarding this. Yesterday when we were arguing about this same particular issue she starting crying endlessly and calling me a wicked man.

I have finally agreed for her to use her pastor to do the naming, although I don't know her pastor and haven't seen him before, but I only agreed because of the CS operation she did while giving birth, her endless crying might affect her, if not there's absolutely no way possible I'd have agreed.

I must say that she doesn't know the repercussions of what sha has done by challenging my authority and always wanting to have her way with tears all the time. But time sha tell, I'm in so much rage right now, and I'm trying my possible best to control myself and not to loose my anger over this.
why telling us your wife gave birth through CS?
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:04am On Jul 21
Corniche:
Pray she does contrary to your order and divorce her.
You still have lots of years ahead of you to be in a bad marriage.
She has giving birth to your child, make she just be your baby mama.

You are a man, you can still marry again.
You are a man that doesn't want stress for your life, so you deserve that peace in your home.

make she divorce her to marry your mama na.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:08am On Jul 21
Caleycash:
A woman's wants is not invalid, there are right ways of doing things, once married you ought to follow your husband to his church or better don't even marry him!, that's where he fvcked up!, and FYI I've found a submissive wife that's submissive to my will and I love her so much, women like you don't deserve marriage, I can't even imagine idiots marrying rebellious women like you, bye bye!
no law stipulate a woman should go to her husband place of worship. Vice versa. There are families that practices different religion and they both live in peace. You want submissive wife that you don't genuinely love as mandated by God or don't you know love is superior than submission?
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:11am On Jul 21
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.
invite your wife let us hear her own side of story.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:19am On Jul 21
Namaster:


My dude, you STARTED your marriage with a big bang of premium fuuuck up!

This woman has ZERO regard for you. She DOES NOT respect or love you. Probably doesn't even like you. You are just an expense account to this woman.

Any woman who has a MODICUM of respect for her husband would be EAGER to take his name. A couple of weeks ago, we all read about how Diezani Allison-Madueke's ex-husband, Allison Amaechina Madueke, took her to court just to get to STOP using his name after divorce.

That woman served as a Minister under 2 different Presidents before she became the first female President of OPEC. Yet she took NOT one but TWO of her husbands name.

But your wife (probably a stay-at-home wife) REFUSED to take your name and you still went along with the wedding.

You started on the WRONG track.

FIRST thing you need to do now is get a DNA test for that boy to confirm it's yours. Because the series of disrespect and disregard your wife has displayed towards you makes it highly UNLIKELY that she'd let you get her pregnant.

Ypu already spent #400K on the kid so find money for the DNA test. And do it ASAP before you sink in MORE money into raising her pastor's kid.

Meantime, put a STOP to every manipulation. Don't let her dictate ANYTHING or manipulate her way through anything. Even with tears, don't give in!
lots of women don't bear their husband's name and their marriage still blossom. Lots of women add their husband's name to their maiden name and the marriage still succeed. Bearing your husband name isn't evidence that you're married to him but marriage certificate. Embassy don't give a fvck about your name but your marriage certificate. Stop misleading uninformed men here
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:23am On Jul 21
DMerciful:
My wife followed me to my church even before marriage.

Men behaving like sissies
your wife followed you to your church doesn't make you superior or better than others. My uncle and wife worship in different churches and their marriage is 29 last month. Stop imposing your own way on others. The world doesn't revolve around you
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 10:27am On Jul 21
Bliztzer:


Ask her whether na her pastor pay the hospital bill, whether she is married to pastor and whether the child belong to the pastor?

As me o, na no no. If she can't give a enough reason why her pastor must be the one to name my child. Na no. No dey say yes, yes to everything wey woman demand.
both pastor can do the officiating. Nothing difficult in all these seriously.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Caleycash(m): 2:22pm On Jul 21
VTJN:
no law stipulate a woman should go to her husband place of worship. Vice versa. There are families that practices different religion and they both live in peace. You want submissive wife that you don't genuinely love as mandated by God or don't you know love is superior than submission?
Keep deceiving yourself, since it's superior why don't you play your own part which is easier to do??, follow the Bible fully, don't quote only where that suits you
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by tosyne2much(m): 2:31pm On Jul 21
That's why it's good to always keep friends with good advisers. Those who are never afraid to tell you the bitter truth and destroy whatever illusions you might be having

If you had such friends that are always there to wake you from your slumber, your marital journey wouldn't have gone this way undecided

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by DMerciful(m): 4:02pm On Jul 21
You're commenting without appreciating the contest that my comment was made.

What is the Op's issue on this,his wife wanted her pastor to do the baby dedication while he wants his pastor. Your uncle might not see this as a problem for 29yrs because he might not care which pastor does it. Insofar the Op care, then better for them to be in same church
VTJN:
your wife followed you to your church doesn't make you superior or better than others. My uncle and wife worship in different churches and their marriage is 29 last month. Stop imposing your own way on others. The world doesn't revolve around you

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Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 4:32pm On Jul 21
Caleycash:
Keep deceiving yourself, since it's superior why don't you play your own part which is easier to do??, follow the Bible fully, don't quote only where that suits you
I am not a woman please. Husband love your wife. Wife respect your husband. Only foolish woman don't respect a man that genuinely love her
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 4:37pm On Jul 21
DMerciful:
You're commenting without appreciating the contest that my comment was made.

What is the Op's issue on this,his wife wanted her pastor to do the baby dedication while he wants his pastor. Your uncle might not see this as a problem for 29yrs because he might not care which pastor does it. Insofar the Op care, then better for them to be in same church
And if the wife insist? What do you suggest for peace to reign? You suggest divorce right? Because of a place to worship?
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by DMerciful(m): 5:15pm On Jul 21
Where did I suggest divorce?
VTJN:
And if the wife insist? What do you suggest for peace to reign? You suggest divorce right? Because of a place to worship?
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by VTJN(m): 6:37pm On Jul 21
DMerciful:
Where did I suggest divorce?
check the comments section to see for yourself how single and hungry guys telling op to divorce his wife.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Foodqueen(f): 6:43pm On Jul 21
BlindAngel:



Whenever I throw up the question about the hospital bills and even the things that I bought for the naming ceremony, her answer is always the same "always saying that if the money I spend is greater than the pain she went through to birth our child, that she did a huge sacrifice for me and I'm ungrateful.

How did it end.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by phatnpretty(f): 7:37pm On Jul 21
grin
CosmicJames:


The brother is weak and the wife knows it.
Have you heard of a blind Angel before?
That's the name @Op choose to answer.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Corniche: 9:05pm On Jul 21
tosyne2much:
That's why it's good to always keep friends with good advisers. Those who are never afraid to tell you the bitter truth and destroy whatever illusions you might be having

If you had such friends that are always there to wake you from your slumber, your marital journey wouldn't have gone this way undecided

Exactly, my cousin's advice saved me.
I wanted to do the whole thing on my own.
Thank God I opted out.
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Kakamorufu(m): 11:17am On Jul 22
Na the pastor give the wife name, the wife come tell you say na she suggest the name and na the name una go call am.
Do DNA ooooo
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by ayando(m): 9:58pm On Jul 22
BlindAngel:




It seems I have been too easy and quiet on her, I will do as you say and ban her from going to that church and if she refused, she should pack her load and go back to her parents house, I have really condole enough of her rubbish and tears at any slight arguments.

I paid 396k for her cs operation, and no where my name or surname appeared on the receipt that was given to me, it's her name and her father's name that was on it. This is because after marriage she has not changed her surname to my name, this hurt me a lot because her elder sister that is just a baby mama to her boyfriend has already changed her Facebook sur name to her boyfriend surname. Whereas my wife is still answering her father's name, I have told myself that if she can't think and do this willingly, I will never and ever confront her concerning this.

I have been allowing her to do whatever she want but this, she has over stepped her boundaries, seems I have been too easy on her.

Are you for real?
Like she still bears her surname? Hmmm....there is a big problem man..
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by kellexnuel(m): 7:07pm On Jul 24
ayando:


Are you for real?
Like she still bears her surname? Hmmm....there is a big problem man..

Don't you have a name. I don't understand why everything should be in her name.

Am not bothered about her changing her surname, it her loss not mine.

My concern is everything payment in her name when you have a name
Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by harmargedon: 8:32pm On Jul 24
BlindAngel:



We had an argument few weeks ago and she was crying as usual, she was still pregnant then. I told her that she's always using her tears to manipulate me and she swore with the life of the fetus on her womb that she isn't, since then I thought maybe she doesn't know when the tears start flowing and might not be manipulating me, but with what I saw yesterday after the argument, that thought is no longer there, I now fully believe that she's manipulating me with tears at every slight arguments or quarrels.

Regarding her changing her name, this is one thing I have swore never and ever to tell her to do, even though it hurts me to my bone marrow most especially seeing her elder sister on Facebook answering her boyfriend name. I swear that it hurts me so much that she is still answering her father's name but I won't ever confront her about this, common sense is supposed to tell her that immediately after marriage she's supposed to change her surname to my own name, even if it's just her Facebook name for the now. But no, she didn't, she registered for antinental with her surname, and that's why the money I paid for her CS has her name and surname on the receipt.
Omo bro, e be like say she too dey watch the Kardashians Season for DStv.

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