udz:
@schmilez
since U knw the kind of person and reactions ur husband gives, why did U ignore him, when he asked a simple caring question, stood up, went to the bathrooom and washed ur face. just to come out and ask him what he will eat. nobody saw this part, yes ur hubby reaction no try but U are a trigger. its a two way thing. manage the situation. call ur hubby !!!!

udz:
@schmilez
since U knw the kind of person and reactions ur husband gives, why did U ignore him, when he asked a simple caring question, stood up, went to the bathrooom and washed ur face. just to come out and ask him what he will eat. nobody saw this part, yes ur hubby reaction no try but U are a trigger. its a two way thing. manage the situation. call ur hubby !!!!

schmilez:


he is not.he has an elder brother and a younger one.
we are muslims

schmilez:


U didn't read it well.I answered him.saying nothing
Stood up to wash my face.came back to the bedroom told him welcome and asked him what he wanted me to prepare for him

chiefinalowo:


I can't believe this.
Pls don't call him now, wait till after 3 months.

cococandy:
Anger management is not all he needs. People with bad temper tend to flare up uncontrollably but then calm down later.

He's emotionally abusive.

thorpido:
Does he have an alfa or elderly muslim man he respects and can listen to?
Is your husband's family polygamous?

Sorry about the questions,just trying to understand your hubby's mindset.

nyafunyafu:

Why should a responsible husband travel without informing the wife? I will ignore him if I were you, what kinda childish behaviour is that one. The more you enable him the more he feels he can up and act anyhow. Abegi,time to watch yah fav TV programs without the pressure of attending to his beck n call. If an me an best time to splurge on items I've been eyeing evil grin. Also some men pick up unnecessary quarrel when they have something fishy going on you also need to be on your guard and snoop if possible to find out where he travelled to.
I can't understand why someone cannot feel free and breathe fresh air in their marriage with a man you share your bodies?
Hmm your man needs some tough love for him to out grow some of these childish acts.
Hope you are still on top of your game as taking care of yourself both physically, career wise etc. May God give you wisdom to know how to handle this situation.
In conclusion. Just call to satisfy your curiosity that at least he is ok.

schmilez:

Like I said the only person he seems to have a little respect for is his dad.
No his family is not polygamous.he actually lost his mom a few years ago and his father refused to remarry.

thorpido:
Okay,have you called him?
It seems his parents indulged him while growing up and it's gonna be hard turning into a gentleman now.You have to give him some tough love from now on.Don't indulge him with too much begging and crying.You have to get a grip on yourself.

See what Bukatyne wrote.

bukatyne:
@OP:

1. Call him: for safety and future purposes.

2. Get a grip on yourself. You weeping all about the house is annoying and will trigger his taunting more. . By now, you know What ticks him off so get used to it and stop crying about at everything he does

* Do not take his abuse anymore. If he asks questions, answer. If you have issues, still make food. If he doesn't eat, leave him be. He is not a baby who you force feed. Start training him on What you will accept and What you will not.

3. Get something doing If you are not working. If he doesn't want you to work and you are not inclined to push it, get a hobby; read novels; Google current films etc. Travel out of your home with your mind.

4. You are working, also save a lot

5. Stop blocking his way or other stunts... one day, he might knock you out senseless, like the feeling and continue

6. Commit everything to God in prayers.


I have a feeling you married him because he was rich aka caring without getting to know him in-depth.

It would be huge to pull off from gentleman to This.

Goodluck.

schmilez:

Thanks a lot.I have called him.asked him where he was,he told me and cut the line

schmilez:

Thank you very much.really appreciate your input.Will try and do what you say.God bless you

Floodgater:
Your husband may not or may take years to mature, however you should be hopeful and prayerful about this. You can only manage the now. Understand who your husband is first, know he is immature and be the mature one, cut your expectations from him to prevent your heart from getting sick because he has little or nothing to offer husband wise atleast for now, lastly focus more on your kid and other things that gives you joy. Use your feminine sixth sense to always predict his actions so that you can avoid some of his drama and so that you can proof yourself against his insults. I know its not easy with a love one, but try to know that the type of thing that will make him say silly, eediot etc not let it bother you. If you know that he wont eat when angry, dont waste food. When you feel like ignoring him do it too and if you choose to break the silence, do it because you want to and not necessarily to please him. The above will give you peace knowing that no matter his tantrums, you wont be bothered and you will be on top. During the times he is happy, give him books,materials on how to be a better husband. You can go ahead and call him now, atleast this is his first in this manner but start with a step, you can perfect the suggestions above.

bukatyne:

I have a feeling you married him because he was rich aka caring without getting to know him in-depth.

It would be a huge pull off from a gentleman to this

Timbuktou:

The part in bold nearly knocked me out. BeeKay, who have you been listening to. You dey improve o.

bukatyne:

Improve from What to What?

Timbuktou:

Improved in your general worldview.

bukatyne:



We grow daily and I 100% doubt you knew anything about my world view in the first place.

Anyways, Thank you for the compliment.

pickabeau1:
OP

This story is incomplete

You have not even told us what your own imperfections are...

Timbuktou:

Yes, we indeed do grow daily. But how could I know 0% of your worldview when you're constatntly posting on nairaland. I might not know everything about how you see life, but I'm sure it's greater than 0%.

You're welcome, ma'am.

freecocoa:
Which kind talk be that one? Whatever her imperfections, is the man's behavior the best way to go about it?

thorpido:
That's good enough.Now go and buy ice cream if you like that or chocolate or shawarma and get in front of the television to watch your favourite Tv station.Make yourself have some fun around the house.