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Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by humilitypays(m): 10:29am On Jul 21, 2015 |
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time. It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria. He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there. He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity. His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to. Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion. Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success? At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular. Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband. But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls ![]() What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism? Let me give some examples: Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background. Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools ![]() At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain. Note: I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich? 180 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Kelvinpam(m): 10:38am On Jul 21, 2015 |
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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 10:39am On Jul 21, 2015 |
Nigeria is synonyms with stupidity. Meanwhile... The ur question lays foundation to the cornerstone to the future in such a way that equality will obtain it's right here... 32 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 10:44am On Jul 21, 2015 |
humilitypays:Film tricks... chai look at your self dude 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ITSaWRAPOUTFITS: 10:53am On Jul 21, 2015 |
If only I have the answer ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nnemuka(f): 11:00am On Jul 21, 2015 |
Cant you guys let Nigerian girls be? Honestly we dont care what you guys say, if it isnt working out the way you want with nigerian girls pls let them be. NoIgwegbe: 73 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Feranchek(m): 11:04am On Jul 21, 2015 |
WARRIBLOOD: You just made this 1st page unnecessarily long. Must you quote the op ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 11:05am On Jul 21, 2015 |
Feranchek:beg me to modify it |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Feranchek(m): 11:08am On Jul 21, 2015 |
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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by humilitypays(m): 11:21am On Jul 21, 2015 |
Nnemuka:Hi, pls this isn't an attack on Nigerian ladies....at least, not from me because I cherish Nigerian ladies so much to hate em ![]() Its just an observation that I felt like hearing ppls opinion. I can't hate Nigerian girls...I have no single reason to but instead I wish and desire to see us live happily, ever after instead in tears and loneliness as been the case of recent. So relax and just read ppls opinion, we all are learning from life, good morning ![]() 113 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ggrin(f): 11:26am On Jul 21, 2015 |
I tire ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by asumo12: 11:33am On Jul 21, 2015 |
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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by kinglekan: 11:36am On Jul 21, 2015 |
ggrin:Osinwin showapa? ![]() ![]() |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 11:36am On Jul 21, 2015 |
super rich ladiez tend to end up single anyway .. coz dey intimidate all men away wit deir uptight attitude no man wantz a b1tch wu actz lyk ha shiiit doesnt stink ![]() wen dey end up alone in old age, dey then retreat 2 hide under d blanket of 'feminism' juss lyk majority of d old, single bitter women on diz forum 223 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ggrin(f): 11:41am On Jul 21, 2015 |
asumo12:broke asz nigga ![]() |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ggrin(f): 11:42am On Jul 21, 2015 |
kinglekan:pele o egbon e ![]() Oponu aiyerada ![]() 12 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by kinglekan: 11:46am On Jul 21, 2015 |
ggrin:Oponu Oshiii!! Shey u cannot greet me daaada ni? Ogo shaaa ooooo. ![]() |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ggrin(f): 11:59am On Jul 21, 2015 |
kinglekan:ani obaje se ![]() ![]() Aja la je epon e ![]() 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by kinglekan: 12:07pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
ggrin:Werey nie ee ooooo ![]() ![]() ![]() Aja ke? O buuru oooo. Kilo le to yen naaa 3 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ggrin(f): 12:37pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
kinglekan:ija sese beere ni o ![]() U neva see anything ![]() 10 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by kinglekan: 3:07pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
ggrin:Kilode naahhh!! Padi mi to sweeettt. Ma je ka ja oooo. ![]() |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by winnieberry(f): 3:34pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
Op i think d'problem comes from d'guys and our myopic,archaic societal vaalues whose states dat A man must d'wealty one.Most naija guys are intimidated by rich ladies,even on threads here,some guys feel guys should not go after rich ladies.When a man goes after rich ladies,he is a either a gold digger or gigolo,Naija guys got alot of problems wit them:date a rich babe no ,then they go fter broke ladies and start complainig she is only after my money ,for crying out wat do u wat her to be after wen she is a broke bitch?We need change in our beliefs on relationship 96 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by ggrin(f): 3:36pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
How many nigerian men want to marry a woman who earns higher than them? I can't marry a guy who earns less than I do. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Captainswag225(m): 6:14pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
firsteva dear, whats ur take on dis? |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 6:35pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot. The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life. Cc captainswag225 106 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by humilitypays(m): 6:40pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
winnieberry:Great response! But I think the reason guys are intimidated maybe as a result of how our ladies carry themselves. A broke Nigerian girl who is pretty or just good-looking do plenty shakara talkless of a rich good-looking lady ![]() Nigerian guys date and marry rich foreign ladies...at least I know 1 or 2...but it seems to be diff when it comes to rich Nigerian ladies. In all, I still agree with u that we need a lot of cultural re-orientation in some areas of life that will affect our society positively. @ahsekeena, I like the way u made your preference known without playing around with it. Nice 1 @eebairotciv, funny but thought-provoking analysis, lol 17 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Captainswag225(m): 6:40pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
firstEVA:WOW!! U said it all, there's nothing more to add. Great write up. 14 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by humilitypays(m): 6:43pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
firstEVA:Awesome! God bless you for this honest comment; now I know better 11 Likes |
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by scentmarlc(m): 7:31pm On Jul 21, 2015 |
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