Bonita101n2:
I knew there will be judgement. If I was a gold digger Mr nnachuks, I would not be here plus I am from a very well to do family duh! I am posting a dilemma, a lady with a lot of suitors and making the right decision so please go and rea through again and think well before spitting out garb.

horeejah:
My dear, pls pray abt it, evrytin in life isnt abt being rich, happiness is very impt in marriage, so for nw, 4get abt suitors bin rich or not, go to God in prayers to show you d very best persn 4u, i knw He'll direct ur path

ednut1:
gold digger oshi.

Sexyolori:
In marriage, emotions count as much as finance. If you go for money over love you might end up being miserable,you have to find a middle ground.
This not so wealthy guy, does he have a source of income?can he take care of himself and an extra mouth? is he focused and hard working? is he someone with plans and dreams who pushes to get better? does he have growth prospects? This are questions you must sit down and answer objectively, if he is that kind of person you can take the ride with him and work hand in hand to build a future that you both desire. Remember not all that glitters is gold and because Guy A is rich today doesn't necessarily guarantee that he will be rich tomorrow.

Bonita101n2:
I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

fairygeh:

Oh please,you are from a rich background and you are shouting rich,rich,rich like a pauper? Huh
My dear if you are from a rich background, you wouldn't find it difficult to date or marry a not so rich guy,u wouldn't see it as a problem sharing resources and having a better life with someone you love rather than shouting rich,rich,rich

You know what the rich guys you said ate after you might just wanna chop you and leave while the only "not so rich" guy is here to stay,
Bae,yiu sound like an omo oju o ro la ri girl, better still "I never Chop" girl,the kind of girl that depends on a guy even to buy ordinary pant.

Bonita101n2:
I was formerly engaged to a very nice guy who luckily for me was very rich and also got a very good job while we were dating in an oil firm. Unfortunately it did not work out due to external factors (folks). After healing and all, I started to open up again and have and still meeting a lot of men, both rich and not so rich, bad and good etc.

My problem here is that maybe having dated someone that was very rich and also having met and meeting still very rich guy, I'm finding it difficult settling for less. I met this wonderful guy who I'm also attracted to but he is not very rich. Meanwhile, I do have another suitor or two who are extremely rich but I'm not so attracted to them and I know marriage, that attraction is important.

I really like this guy but then again, I start battling with the fact he is not so rich as the previous and the others and what people might say in me settling for less. Even one time he visited, while I was trying to talk to my brother about him, before I could finish, my brother had already said who is this guy that does not seem like he's rich.

It's now making have conflicting feelings and thoughts and I don't want to miss out on a good person but what if I force and maybe get attracted to those other rich suitors but my mind is more on the not so rich.

Please advise sincerely and judging. Thank you.

kosplateau:

but they were dating in an oil firm...

Omotolu:
It seems you are from a poor background, and you want a life insurance. Poor folks behave like you and your brother.

kosplateau:

what abt u the questioner? no be only this are..

timilehing:
Gold-digger confirmed present.

Why are Nigerian ladies like dis?

fairygeh:
At OP,you are just the kind of lady that make men feel all women are gold diggers and all for the money.so so annoying

Isn't it that you are crippled or what or are you an 1mbecile ,you mean you didn't go to school/ you are uneducated that you cannot pray to have a good job yourself and not rely on a man for money saying he's not rich, bla bla,bla.
As for your parents expecting you to bring a rich man home at all costs,i guess you are from a poor background, omo oju o ro la ri.
I pity you

Bonita101n2:
Thanks a lot @YourMain... would yield to your advice. I agree with you. I work in a very good company.

Thank you @DamkemzI, for your advice,

saintkel:
I dnt share, go 4 LadyF

saintkel:
I dnt share, go 4 LadyF