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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by sexychocolate1(m): 11:34pm On Sep 27, 2015
Nnemuka:
Cant you guys let Nigerian girls be?
Honestly we dont care what you guys say, if it isnt working out the way you want with nigerian girls pls let them be.

Let me start by saying that I love your display picture. If Nigerian guys leave the girls for some other girls, pastors are the ones I pity cos the will get tired of running vigil. But what the guy wrote is very true. This attitude causes some of us to go back home and get married.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 11:34pm On Sep 27, 2015
I am 100% certain that I would soon be among the list of rich elites in Nigeria. I swear, any woman/lady/girl that comes my way pretending to have one nonsense like/love, I will gun you down. The only women i owe much love and affection are my mum & sisters. Peace

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by dapsonlou(m): 11:34pm On Sep 27, 2015
Because time passed them by. Rich guys tend to marry younger girls

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by adewumiopeyemi(m): 11:36pm On Sep 27, 2015
dead thread since june.... cheesy cheesy cheesy wink don t quo te me
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by seedord247(m): 11:39pm On Sep 27, 2015
sukkot:
Bellanaija is your source ? like i said, nick cannon owns childrens TV channels and had made several films before marrying mariah. i was living in the USA at this time so i know. he also had several shows on MTV

Lmaooo i guess we living in Nigeria are obsolete to what's happening in US OF A.. He invested that 470k ring to make him what he's today and Do you think he could have accomplished that without Mariah as his wifey? I'm still waiting for your definition of "powerful" Mr America lmaoo grin grin

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 11:41pm On Sep 27, 2015
The destiny of a woman is in a mans hand, it is only a woman that has something hidden in her cupboard that makes it so big and can control her destiny herself.


Please give me an example of Five ladies in the bible/quoran that made it so big and became so wealthy and could control their own destiny

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by donem: 11:42pm On Sep 27, 2015
udmbat:
I am 100% certain that I would soon be among the list of rich elites in Nigeria. I swear, any woman/lady/girl that comes my way pretending to have one nonsense like/love, I will gun you down. The only women i owe much love and affection are my mum & sisters. Peace
lol at "I will gun you down" naso I believe you.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by AreaFada2: 11:42pm On Sep 27, 2015
winnieberry:
Op i think d'problem comes from d'guys and our myopic,archaic societal vaalues whose states dat A man must d'wealty one.Most naija guys are intimidated by rich ladies,even on threads here,some guys feel guys should not go after rich ladies.When a man goes after rich ladies,he is a either a gold digger or gigolo,Naija guys got alot of problems wit them:date a rich babe no ,then they go fter broke ladies and start complainig she is only after my money ,for crying out wat do u wat her to be after wen she is a broke bitch?We need change in our beliefs on relationship

Wrong. 9ja guys date women of other races richer than themselves.
I dated young Caucasion professionals when I still had nothing to my name.
No biggie.

But a comfortable 9ja girl forms a lot. She is over-conscious of her money/influence and that is off-putting.
Even abroad, you hear 9ja ladies talking into their phones in common 9ja languages/English in public places. Mostly gossip or romance stuff.
Clearly you hear that their target are the rich guys. They say so openly.

By the way, women are not that generous with money. You can date a rich 9ja girl and not enjoy her money. Whereas an average guy will still spend on his lady.

In my line of work, on seeing my 9ja name-tag, 9ja girls become very friendly indeed.
You quickly think ethics of course.
Whereas in some other environment, they won't even answer if you were to greet them.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by mkoabiola: 11:42pm On Sep 27, 2015
Ego
I have a lady who once promise to sponsor d wedding n all dat
But ds gal was too proud with ego
I bone d wedding shaperly even though she was frm a wealthy n royal family in lagos,
I cat take dat shit

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by sukkot: 11:44pm On Sep 27, 2015
seedord247:


Lmaooo i guess we living in Nigeria are obsolete to what's happening in US OF A.. I'm sttill waiting for your defnition of "powerful" Mr America lmaoo grin grin
you may not have been obsolete but you are getting third rate info through bellanaija. there are so many stars in america who are not big stars outside of america. nick cannon is one of those. thats one thing i found out in america is that so many black stars who are huge in america are not known outside america. so in naija you probably never heard of him till he married mariah carey. but within america he was already a star

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by OrlandoOwoh(m): 11:45pm On Sep 27, 2015
They do, but in Nollywood movies. Igwe's daughter going out with the son of a palmwine tapper.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by donem: 11:47pm On Sep 27, 2015
mkoabiola:
Ego
I have a lady who once promise to sponsor d wedding n all dat
But ds gal was too proud with ego
I bone d wedding shaperly even though she was frm a wealthy n royal family in lagos,
I cat take dat shit
If true, e good as you bone am o.. before she for go cast you for public one day. I have noticed majority of naija ladies are the same, they talk talk, talkatives.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 11:53pm On Sep 27, 2015
Google the word "igberaga". LUCAS I see you
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Dindondin(m): 11:53pm On Sep 27, 2015
Nnemuka:
Cant you guys let Nigerian girls be?
Honestly we dont care what you guys say, if it isnt working out the way you want with nigerian girls pls let them be.
Op, everybody, see one of them!
Last Bullet
May that guy you dumped because he's not rich enough end up getting richer and employ you and your hubby.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by dapsonlou(m): 11:55pm On Sep 27, 2015
humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?

Nick cannon networth was 13million dollars before he met Mariah Carey.

You friend is right about the Nigerian girls in Yankee, they all wants to marry rich guys, that's why a lot of guys come to Nigeria to get a wife. Ugly Nigerian girl will be picking and choosing because there are more guys than girls. Some girls rewrite there past when they get to yankee.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by mkoabiola: 11:55pm On Sep 27, 2015
donem:

If true, e good as you bone am o.. before she for go cast you for public one day. I have noticed majority of naija ladies are the same, they talk talk, talkatives.
On a serious note
Dere was a day she bought my ticket to abj by flight after some days wen we had misunderstanding ,she was telling me hw she help me bought my ticket.I was furious n mad

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 12:01am On Sep 28, 2015
it is normal even with foreigners.
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Twy: 12:01am On Sep 28, 2015
humilitypays:

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Basically the same reason politicians steal,fraud and 419 abound, a large section of the mindset of nigerians is to do things for money even reduce some of their ideals to make it. The girls are just using whatever they have to succeed and sometimes it is their beauty. You may say they are rich but the mind set still persist, it is beholden the money, effizy and oppression

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 12:12am On Sep 28, 2015
I think it comes down to financial stability, if that guy can contribute to the relationship and not be a burden. I know it may sound harsh, but a lot of mothers even teach their daughters to go for men with money so they don't struggle in life.

It could also be a different dynamic in social structure, a Nigerian woman born in the UK has had a different dating experience to Naija born women, where they may "test" the waters of different men from diverse backgrounds there.

They may also be a bit stuck up, but that goes with the individuals character per say, not all are like that though.

I recall aunties in my family in childhood telling me to date a rich oyinbo man with lots of money, so I don't struggle in life.

Day in day out they use to say this when I would do chores as a small pikin.

I always followed my heart though, since my father advised me as a child to choose a man whom I love and not solely for money.

I'm a strong hardworking woman so I never felt the need to find a man to depend on financially, I like to work for my income.

And my partner he Igbo/Edo not rich, but we work together n make due, and I'm happy smiley

Each to their own at the end of the day.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by molar36: 12:13am On Sep 28, 2015
Dis problem is nt frm nigerian ladies,nigeria is a country whr d rich becomes richer nd the poor becomes porer,even d rich deny d poor acess to good life,for example in d western world,o poor guy can actually take a gul out on a dating in a place dt make sense without having to pay much,nah let's bring it to nigeria,imagine wen u take a gul to a nice hotel witout buying anythng,na bouncer go remove u immediately,
Again in d western world poor man can becm richer if a big man abuses his right,of cause d court ll settle in favour of the poor man,nah how does it go in nigeria,wen a rich man abuses a poormans right,whr u won carry d case go,u don see food chop talk of hiring a lawyer........
So wit dis thngs I ve said,pls let's leave nigerian guls alone,is nt dia fault......d fault is frm top,abi u won cm dy drag bebe wit sanusi for nigeria?

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Orkpekyandega(m): 12:15am On Sep 28, 2015
humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?
The answers to your questions are just very simple. Women are naturally selfish period. A poor young lady would always love to marry a rich guy, but a rich and well to do girl will never want to marry a relatively poor guy: she doesn't want to use her money on the guy.
Enhennnn sonofananimal! I was heregringringrin

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by zanga420: 12:15am On Sep 28, 2015
winnieberry:
Op i think d'problem comes from d'guys and our myopic,archaic societal vaalues whose states dat A man must d'wealty one.Most naija guys are intimidated by rich ladies,even on threads here,some guys feel guys should not go after rich ladies.When a man goes after rich ladies,he is a either a gold digger or gigolo,Naija guys got alot of problems wit them:date a rich babe no ,then they go fter broke ladies and start complainig she is only after my money ,for crying out wat do u wat her to be after wen she is a broke bitch?We need change in our beliefs on relationship
I get what u're saying, the fact with many occurences is that money move alot of nigerian girls. In many relationships, a 'll cleanup a lady n still pamper/respect her but let the case reverse n a lady brush up a guy n see if he'll respect the man. She believes he owe her his life as his god.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by molar36: 12:15am On Sep 28, 2015
molar36:
Dis problem is nt frm nigerian ladies,nigeria is a country whr d rich becomes richer nd the poor becomes porer,even d rich deny d poor acess to good life,for example in d western world,o poor guy can actually take a gul out on a dating in a place dt make sense without having to pay much,nah let's bring it to nigeria,imagine wen u take a gul to a nice hotel witout buying anythng,na bouncer go remove u immediately,
Again in d western world poor man can becm richer if a big man abuses his right,of cause d court ll settle in favour of the poor man,nah how does it go in nigeria,wen a rich man abuses a poormans right,whr u won carry d case go,u don see food chop talk of hiring a lawyer........
So wit dis thngs I ve said,pls let's leave nigerian guls alone,is nt dia fault......d fault is frm top,abi u won cm dy drag bebe wit sanusi for nigeria?
I stand to b corrected
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by elkhalifah(m): 12:21am On Sep 28, 2015
E be like say naija girl don fall ur hand see[code][/code]Op
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Subom1(f): 12:28am On Sep 28, 2015
People generally whether male or female tend to associate the most with people like their self or someone they may have a lot in common with. 

Most times a rich woman and a poor man will not have a lot in common ( interest,  education etc) so will not be compatible often times then not. I think compatibility and status is more of the issue then the money itself as a rich woman doesn't  'need' a rich man's  money either.


I have found from personal experience that men too (not all of them) are intimidated if a woman is actually earning more than them. Similarly if a man is poor and lazy and allows a woman to be the breadwinner of the house,  there will be no respect and most times the lady will be the boss of the home.

Generally women don't tend to be stupid like men who often fall for younger women who end up being gold diggers and are less likely to want to support a man financially. They want someone their equal, well educated, good job, etc. However, everything they expect they can also offer.

When a lot of poor peeps get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich people. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they deserve the money since they grew up poor. He will then grow wings and that's when the trouble will begin lol not to even get started on his family becoming a liability to you as well.

If you guys happen to separate for some reason then just take Elizabeth Taylor for an example. She married 'lesser', and paid a ton in palimony & divorce settlements. What woman wants that!

Ain't nobody got time for that grin


personally I can date a guy I earn more than but he has to be educated and be able to stand on his own feet. I ain't going to date some guy whereby I will be his atm machine while he does nada. Tufiakwa cheesy

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by passionate88: 12:31am On Sep 28, 2015
firstEVA:
how many countries have you visited?
survey method of research.
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by youngice(m): 12:43am On Sep 28, 2015
RedBenson:


See this one. U think you are one of the referred Nigerian girls here? You are such a minor and therefore, your opinion is irrelevant here.
red y u finish her na
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by tommegie52(m): 12:44am On Sep 28, 2015
Op, have you ever asked some Nigerian guys if they will like to married a woman richer than them?
Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by zanga420: 12:48am On Sep 28, 2015
firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.

The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
Cc captainswag225
Its only ladies few ladies with grace of God n humility that knows their man deserves respect no matter what. In life what has more occurrence becomes a norm. We have few guys that have ego problem in that regard but generally majority of women are selfish when they have money. A man will spend, lavish n cleanup a poor girl, still beg n worship her n nobody feels bad. Let a woman help a guy out n see attitude, the pretending 1s will not give a direct insult but 'll give stylish, technical n cryptic insults.

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 12:50am On Sep 28, 2015
humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.

It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.

He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.

He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.

His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.

Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.

Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?

At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.

Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.

But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls

What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?

Let me give some examples:

Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc

Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.

Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools

At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.

Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich?
THIS IS WERE I PARK MY CAR!

DID YOU WANT TO KNOW WHYundecided

LET ME NOT SAY BECAUSE NAIJA WOMEN ARE ANIMALS (BUT YOU PEOPLE ARE ACTUALLY ANIMALS angry )

pride is the major cause to it and that's just it. There is no scientific explanation to it and not just only NAIJA WOMEN but also the black women around the world but it is particular within NAIJA WOMEN.


BUT WETI CONCERN ME undecided ALL I KNOW IS THAT I AM OR I WILL NEVER SET MY EYES ON ANY GOD DAME NAIJA WOMEN angry

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Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by youngice(m): 12:54am On Sep 28, 2015
sukkot:
Bellanaija is your source ? like i said, nick cannon owns childrens TV channels and had made several films before marrying mariah. i was living in the USA at this time so i know. he also had several shows on MTV
Stop embarrassing your self
Mariah Carey and Nick no be mate and Nick doesn't own Nickelodeon, it's owned by Viacom,

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