| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by pleiades45: 9:09am On Sep 28, 2015 |
ollah1:
Nick is poor to Mariah Carey just like Dangote was poor to Abacha's children thats not what the topic is about tho. topic says men who are not so rich aka struggling or working class. an extremely rich woman marrying a very rich man is totally different. they are both rich, albeit the woman being richer. its like a woman who owns 5 bentleys marrying a man who owns 2 bentleys. they both own bentleys but its just that she has 3 more. however a woman with 5 bentleys marrying a man with a honda accord <<< this is what the topic is about |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by prettyJoy22(f): 9:15am On Sep 28, 2015 |
We are also leaving out the fact that those ladies(foreign)who get married to "not so rich guys" sign prenup's to protect their assets |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by sow4me(m): 9:15am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Its really a nice write-up..
Had a girl-friend who's so richer than i am but i never felt intimidated cuz my mentality wasnt about money but about love kz we really loved eachother. we ended kz my parents felt she was trying to own me with her money. she asked that i go abroad with her to school which i agreed but my parents said she'll turn me to her pet... she told me she cnt school in Nigeria n i had no money to go school abroad... i guess the situation broke us apart n my parents, not her wealth nor her pride...
shit happens. sometimes, the people we look up to can make it seem bad going for a lady richer than we are even if we're married to one thereby making it feel like hell to us. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by youngice(m): 9:27am On Sep 28, 2015 |
pleiades45:
bro, you are deviating from the topic. the topic does not say rich women who marry rich men whom they are richer than - the topic says rich women who marry men who are not so rich. please learn to stay on topic. Nick cannon is a rich man who married a rich woman who has more money than him. the topic requires that the man be ' not so rich, meaning somewhat poor '
this is sukkott. spambot ate my other ID My point is with Nick owning Nickelodeon |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by okparadonhenry(m): 9:31am On Sep 28, 2015 |
[color=#990000][/color]  Lol..4 ya mind |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by kinglekan: 9:43am On Sep 28, 2015 |
NwaliE01:
Hey, this is not a Yoruba forum.
speak Nigerian language.  
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| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by TheSonOfMark(m): 9:45am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Adanna28:
I think it comes down to financial stability, if that guy can contribute to the relationship and not be a burden. I know it may sound harsh, but a lot of mothers even teach their daughters to go for men with money so they don't struggle in life.
It could also be a different dynamic in social structure, a Nigerian woman born in the UK has had a different dating experience to Naija born women, where they may "test" the waters of different men from diverse backgrounds there.
They may also be a bit stuck up, but that goes with the individuals character per say, not all are like that though.
I recall aunties in my family in childhood telling me to date a rich oyinbo man with lots of money, so I don't struggle in life.
Day in day out they use to say this when I would do chores as a small pikin.
I always followed my heart though, since my father advised me as a child to choose a man whom I love and not solely for money.
I'm a strong hardworking woman so I never felt the need to find a man to depend on financially, I like to work for my income.
And my partner he Igbo/Edo not rich, but we work together n make due, and I'm happy 
Each to their own at the end of the day.  |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 9:45am On Sep 28, 2015 |
firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.
The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
Cc captainswag225 firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.
The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
Cc captainswag225 firstEVA:
First of all, it's not a general thing, some well to do girls just want to get married and bear another man's name even though he has no money, I have heard of several cases where a woman sponsors her wedding, pays for their accommodation, even baff up her man, it happens a lot.
The category of ladies you have referred to are in the majority, the fact is this, a woman wants to be able to look up to her husband in every aspect of life, particularly financially. A woman earning more than her man places her in a higher position than her husband, it takes the grace of God for a woman to maintain her humility and sanity when she is expected to meet most of the demands of the home, it becomes a case of role reversal and can lead to a lot of commotion in the home particularly if he has some ego. To avoid all this wahala, a successful woman/lady would want a more successful man so they don't have an awkward married life.
Cc captainswag225 You said it all..... #Philosopher Quëën# |
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| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by emmydollars4life(m): 10:12am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Kelvinpam:
. this is my own way of stealing front seat, then back to the matter, all the story above is the reason for divorce, when love is not the real issue of coming together, if is material things it fade away easily because is only love that hide all fault. I pray for God to give me my real wife so that she will be my wife, sister & friend IJN |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by drstone1: 10:50am On Sep 28, 2015 |
humilitypays:
Hi, pls this isn't an attack on Nigerian ladies....at least, not from me because I cherish Nigerian ladies so much to hate em
Its just an observation that I felt like hearing ppls opinion.
I can't hate Nigerian girls...I have no single reason to but instead I wish and desire to see us live happily, ever after instead in tears and loneliness as been the case of recent.
So relax and just read ppls opinion, we all are learning from life, good morning Nice observation. I know a broke guy who made it clear he was out to date a richer working class babe,Maybe not super ich like the ones you mentioned. They eventually eventually got married and have two kids and are doing fine courtesy of the Babe's job. The key was the babe realised that all those dudes she really desired,none looked at her side. Somehow her friends and family helped her to notice this was her man.after giving him a lot of bullshit.the first few years of the marriage ain't funny either because she kept pricking the guys ego with her attitude..but they seem to get it right when the reality that both of them are now one and part of each others lives fully downed on their consciousnes.they are one beautiful couple I admire a lot.with lovely kids as well. Surprise lyrics they are even from different tribes in the SW n SS. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by connect2danny: 11:06am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Some opinions on this thread clearly shows some Nigerians and their views like still in the dark ages.
The Op is not referring to broke guys, but many of you keep talking about poor guys. Poverty has many definitions and views. Some folks worth N100 million and are still poor (Its a state of the mind) and being wealthy can be qualified in many ways too (Money, Intellectual capacity, level of exposure, Skills & Life experience, social standing, health).
@OP you mentioned Ladies being more well to do only in terms of finances? and if thats what you mean.
Even without being financially rich, Most Nigerian ladies are full of crap and bullshits!!! YES. Im talking from experience base on my encounter with different ladies from other parts of the world. (In fact 90% of NAIJA ladies don't even know how to date). This traces back to orientation from their parents (It should be a wealthy guy from bla..bla..bla kind of family). It makes them view dating guys they are more financial richer than as "ERROR" (They feel insecure, because they've been programmed to feel so). But on the other hand it depends on the nature of the guy in question, because I believe that several other factors also plays out for a relationship to be successful.
And it also depends on the range of differences (Lets say shes worth 10 million dollars. Hes worth 1 million dollars), In this scenario, the guy can still comfortably provide for the family without relying on her for a dime when they eventually get married. Nigerian ladies need to know that a happy relationship has nothing to do with His Financial worth, "provided the guy naturally has the capacity to take care of both of them (based on average quality living standard) without relying on her" the lady has to ACCORD HIM MAXIMUM RESPECT even if she is 1000 times richer than him.
Issues only abound when some kind of DEAD BROKE PARASITIC GUY(who has no plans of working it out himself) dreams of hooking up with a rich lady to gain access to her wealth.
Now falling back to our country were show off & materialism supersedes...........
Watch out for the next episode. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by zinobiz19(m): 11:08am On Sep 28, 2015 |
No mind dem ,, nigeria girls no just stupid , dem no get brain na only hair dem get ,, that's why girls on low cu dey alway act wiser than those with colour hair , well as for me , I no dey follow nigerian girls way , I gat loyal strins , d reason I call my ladys strings iz cus dey are loyAl to me like music , dey make u feel arigh like a strings on a song ,, rich girls dat pretends , we still f*ck dem for free , nd never get to get anything serious so tell me who dey lose ,, dem go reach 40 we stil deyf*ck dem like 16 , nd by d way their attitude are better , cus it makes d boys knw dat d key to everything in a woman is success , so bro as far as u are successful and smart _f*ck dem all |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by drstone1: 11:10am On Sep 28, 2015 |
Asiwaju9ja:
Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance. Hahaha, see as fowl Yansh open for breeze. But seriously, you just nailed it here. Women by nature are very possessive and selfish. Just check them out in any hostel. Each knows what belongs to her.and they want everyone to know. For the guy in the story that was busted, his ego was so bruised by that exposition.- he can't stand up in the presence of his fellow guys as the humiliation was more than He can bear. Herein lies the secret of making a success out of this kind of relationship. They must front as if they are one and what they have actually belong to each other.....but trust babes any day, before they know it, they will say, isn't that the gUCci wrist watch I bought for you from shop rite the other day, why did you leave it carelessly on the sofa?...if na this same guy wey bolt for your story, kassalla go just burst for house be that. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by CSTR2: 12:00pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Subom1:
People generally whether male or female tend to associate the most with people like their self or someone they may have a lot in common with.
Most times a rich woman and a poor man will not have a lot in common ( interest, education etc) so will not be compatible often times then not. I think compatibility and status is more of the issue then the money itself as a rich woman doesn't 'need' a rich man's money either.
I have found from personal experience that men too (not all of them) are intimidated if a woman is actually earning more than them. Similarly if a man is poor and lazy and allows a woman to be the breadwinner of the house, there will be no respect and most times the lady will be the boss of the home.
Generally women don't tend to be stupid like men who often fall for younger women who end up being gold diggers and are less likely to want to support a man financially. They want someone their equal, well educated, good job, etc. However, everything they expect they can also offer.
When a lot of poor peeps get a taste for money, they become greedier than even some rich people. This is due to the fact that they grew up with nothing and now feel that they deserve the money since they grew up poor. He will then grow wings and that's when the trouble will begin lol not to even get started on his family becoming a liability to you as well.
If you guys happen to separate for some reason then just take Elizabeth Taylor for an example. She married 'lesser', and paid a ton in palimony & divorce settlements. What woman wants that!
Ain't nobody got time for that
personally I can date a guy I earn more than but he has to be educated and be able to stand on his own feet. I ain't going to date some guy whereby I will be his atm machine while he does nada. Tufiakwa 
But rich men get married to poorer women all the time. Rich men pay humongous divorce settlement to women all the time. Why should that of a woman now be different? If everybody decides to marry from their own class, which gender do you think would be at the receiving end? |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by trollolo: 12:08pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
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| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by lezz(m): 12:22pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.
It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.
He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.
He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.
His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.
Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.
Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?
At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.
Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.
But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls
What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?
Let me give some examples:
Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc
Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.
Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools
At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.
Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich? Nigerian feminists can't and won't apply the true principle of fininism. They cannot give to society 1/10th of what they got from society. They chant the feminism slogan and still want to keep the status quo. Rarely can one find a real woman though. Feminism is still a doctrine our weav-on fixing, attachments-wearing african women can't truly practice in reality. It is alright if they scream equality in nairaland. They don't bite. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by adeagbo101(m): 12:23pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
humilitypays:
Some days ago, I and a friend who recently returned from abroad were gisting about life, and one thing led to another, we ended up discussing Nigerian issues like- insecurity in the northeastern Nigeria, abnormal increase in graduate unemployment, politics, and of course romance; basically the rate at which true love is fading away in Nigeria of our time.
It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.
He revealed to me that many Nigerian guys living in US and Uk would love to marry Nigerian ladies living there, but that the problem is that Nigerian ladies don't always make it easy for Naija guys living there with them to approach them and that most of the Naija ladies there usually flock around a Nigerian guy there if they notice that the guy is from a wealthy Nigerian family or at worst, studying medicine or working as a doctor there.
He also mentioned that he has observed that Nigerian ladies who come from wealthy family backgrounds or those who worked hard to become rich themselves will never agree to date or marry a Nigerian guy who isn't richer than them or popular; that's a celebrity.
His statement shocked me because exactly what he said was also my thought having observed things here in Nigeria for some time now, and some months ago, I also overheard a group of guys discussing same thing at a gathering I went to.
Now, I want to throw this question open to Nigerian ladies of all social status, since nairaland is a popular forum where people of all class visit...please no insults, I just want to hear your opinion.
Why don't we see more of rich single Nigerian ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys? Is it a crime or does it mean Nigerian ladies only develop love when they see or smell wealth and success?
At least, we have witnessed or heard of several cases of wealthy Nigerian guys date and marry poor Nigerian girls from poor families who don't even have a job, but on the other hand, we rarely hear or see rich Nigerian single ladies date or marry not-so-rich Nigerian guys; I am not even talking of dating or marrying broke guys, I mean guys who aren't that rich or popular.
Before anyone come calling for my head, please kindly sit back and observe things in your area of residence; you will notice that we now have plenty number of Nigerian single ladies working in big companies and earning fat salaries, some are born into wealth, some have become rich doing business, yet these ladies are single probably waiting for a rich or richer guy to come ask them out and marry them, hence making it difficult for them to find husband.
But in other countries of Africa, Europe, Asia, and Americas, rich ladies date and marry broke and not-so-rich guys without issues, but is seems to be different in Nigeria, why pls
What then is the need of fighting for feminism and gender-equality if NIgerian ladies can't embrace the changes that comes with gender equality/feminism?
Let me give some examples:
Linda Ikeji, Genevieve Nnajia, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, Tonto Dikeh, Kate Henshaw, etc
Believe it or not, Linda Ikeji wants to marry, but she's probably waiting for one rich guy or son of a former minister, governor, MD, etc to settle down with.....same with Genevieve Nnaji, Rita Domnic, Funke Akindele, and so many others that are not that popular but rich or come from rich family background.
Does it mean that rich Nigerian guys dating and marrying poor or not-so-rich Nigerian girls are fools
At least Marriah Carey married poor Nick Cannon...and many of such cases abound in western countries, but rarely happen in Nigeria, why? Something is wrong somewhere, can someone please explain.
Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich? You of course cannot be entirely broke saying you want to marry a rich woman. I understand it can be intimidating walking up to a rich lady (esp when you know just how rich she is compared to yourself) however, if you are wise enough to know you can afford to take her on couple of expensive dates while you are both still courting without being broke and, know you're just as capable of providing her basic needs as she provides for her self before meeting you whilst you are married to her even though you know her purchasing power is relatively higher than yours, then i'd say you shouldn't be intimidated to strike a conversation with that rich lady you love. Of course some ladies can be cocky and not even give you a chance at them, what you should understand is that every lady has a preference and as with every man, every lady has different orientation or what you can call believe. Hence, it might not be entirely true to say that rich divas ain't marrying broke fellas. The bottom line is to realise how wealthy she is relative to you and understand that some girls you just can win over! Esp when the lady in question knows you just cannot take care of her basic needs; Even if she loves your type of person she just wouldn't marry you. Why?... well i'd leave that to the person behind me. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Vikky014(f): 1:22pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Stelvin101:
That's why they will continue to remain single all the days of their lives and married to Cucumber or intimacy gadgets. Their loss, not ours.
Op you are so on point. Na so d stuupid chick I dated during my NYSC days do na. am a regular Corper receiving N19,568 and she is a A special corper who happens to be an Optician (for those of y'all moda4ckas dat don't understand who is an opticians. it meas Eye specialist or Doctor lolz) receiving N19,568, Plus N50,000 State bonus, plus N5,000 General Hospital pay, plus N20,000 two hours per day private hospital monthly pay. This babe dey net pass me but will still wan collect from me and when we get into arguments she will remind me she receives pass me and always wanna act like she is d head and am d tail. I gat dump her sorry Asss fast fast before service finish coz if i try am marry that one, na hell on earth wey person nova know weda e go make heaven
Nigerian gals majority of you should change y'all evil ways. LOL |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by NaijaHulk: 1:30pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
donem:
hahaha Ogar you just made me have a good laugh at work, on the talking issue most of them fit cast you innocently self.
can't immagine the look on the husbands face, pathetic to say the least. Even though she might have meant no harm, subtle reminders like that especially in public can weigh a man down meeeen... Even generally exposed men who are working up their way on their career ladders are not good enough for very rich naija women most of the time because ... The bitter truth is that women (even the rich ones) always generally want to better their lot in life by the choice of their husbands and feel like marrying someone that is poor is settling for less so they keep waiting or searching not understanding that when you are in the 90th percentile already, your range of options is very limited (only 10% are richer than you in the first place). The best way to explain this is that 80 or 90% of women would effect a change in attitude if suddenly they became the predominant breadwinner in the home by some means whatever it is... Only few women can keep a level head when they are in power financially... and most men cannot stand that change in attitude which belittling... Chikena Gold diggers tend not to care, but some men can also genuinely love the rich woman sha and live with the awkwardness and slight wash that the woman will subject them to occasionally coz women will be women and that is inevitable. So OP, my answer to your question is in the bold ooo... |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Orkpekyandega(m): 1:47pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
sonofananimal:
which other thing we fit classify them again apart from pride
Tôû I just felt pride will be too low a factor, selfishness to me is the reason. Girls are naturally selfish. They always feel it is their right to spend a man' money. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nobody: 2:05pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Orkpekyandega:
Tôû I just felt pride will be too low a factor, selfishness to me is the reason. Girls are naturally selfish. They always feel it is their right to spend a man' money. and self-centered people. And that's true, really SELFISH, If women really learn the act of cooperation. Things will work out good for them. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by bukatyne(f): 2:23pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Asiwaju9ja:
Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance. Sorry I did not get the embarrassment |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Nnemuka(f): 2:45pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Cant you guys let Nigerian girls be? Honestly we dont care what you guys say, if it isnt working out the way you want with nigerian girls pls let them be. NoIgwegbe:
You say that white women marry men who are poorer than them, but have you visited their homes?
Have you seen the man doing all the house chores and doing it gladly while his wife works?
THis is called role reversal. The woman does not mind maintaining the man, as long as he is useful around the house.
Unlike in NIgeria where the men are too proud of doign house chores, yet they want an ATM machine as a wife.
Most hardworking established women do not see the need to become slaves in the name of being wives, when the main function of the man in the home, which is providing for his family is done by her, and the man still would not want to do the roles of a wife, like the men abroad do.
Nobody is a work machine, she cannot do all the work outside and inside the home. it is not done. Better to be single and hustle for just yourself, than acquire a liability, and a slave master, that creates more stress for you both at home and at work.
Marriage in Nigeria is over-rated. it is okay to not want to marry if you feel you are okay. Genevieive said it several times, that she does not want to marry.
NIgerian men think that marriage is all the beginning and end of a woman's life, but you must not marry.
When you have something more important in life to achieve than marriage, the bible says that it okay not to marry. and waiting for rich men is not the reason why some rich women are not married.
Some simply do not want to marry, because marriage in NIgeria is over-rated. Gurrit. 1Million likes 1 Like |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Hunry: 2:45pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
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| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Asiwaju9ja(m): 3:13pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Asiwaju9ja:
Reminds me of this guy from abroad married one ordinary banker o! As per kpe e came from abroad no work or busines as yet so e dey house. We had the same gear issues with our cars(same make different models) as I was fixing mine d guy came around and told me that he had d same issue and he spent over 270k buying another gearbox. Not long after d lady came to join us where they are fixing my car. She then repeated What her husband had said and embarrassed him big time. She said " it was this problem our car had, I SPENT OVER 270K TO FIX IT" see as d woman come open d guy yansh just because na she spend d money. The guy quickly left d place leaving d wife there in annoyance. bukatyne:
Sorry I did not get the embarrassment Can You Imagine? bukatyne say she no see the embarrassment there. You see a classic example of wetin we dey discuss here. All wetin we dey go back and forth about see the example above. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by bukatyne(f): 3:19pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Asiwaju9ja:
Can You Imagine? bukatyne say she no see the embarrassment there. You see a classic example of wetin we dey discuss here. All wetin we dey go back and forth about see the example above. There is no need for a dramatic response... What was the embarrassment? |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by Asiwaju9ja(m): 3:23pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
bukatyne:
There is no need for a dramatic response...
What was the embarrassment? I no be actor (when dey act Drama) as you say you no see am (the embarrassment). Leave the matter then. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by bukatyne(f): 3:34pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
humilitypays:
It was at this point that my friend started telling me stories of how Nigerian ladies abroad (especially those living in US and UK according to him) play hard-to-get and difficult for Nigerian guys living abroad, especially if they discover that the guy isn't from a wealthy family back in Nigeria.
Note:
I am not saying its a crime for a lady to date or marry rich guy, neither am I saying that a lady must date/marry broke guy, I am just curious as to why it is rare to hear that a rich single Nigerian lady is dating or married to a guy who isn't rich? @Thread: It is a multifaceted issue 1. A lot of Nigerian guys do not want to date/marry a lady who earns more than them. Headship is tied to money/financials in Nigeria so obviously a man has to earn more to remain the 'head'. As such, they will not approach the lady in the first place. 2. Respecting a person is tied to something he/she possesses more than you. We do not respect people as 'human beings' in Nigeria... It is either the person is older/richer/a boss/more influential etc. than us to 'deserve respect'. That is why a 'respectful' wife can still treat the house help like trash; a husband who has no regard for his wife would be 'Yes sir' for his boss in the office. A number of women cannot respect men they earn more than. What is there to respect again? 3. Parents drum the 'rich & responsible' husband in the head of girls from a young age.... This I would say is not peculiar to Nigeria hence we have the Cinderella stories of this world. 4. Husbands here see chores as demeaning (Though times are changing) and there is a rigid division of roles in marriages. A husband provides and a wife takes care of the home. If a wife is the main breadwinner, then she does the job of the both of them because the husband would obviously not pull his weight in the home front. 5. The 'ego' of the husbands... like a poster said, most of what richer women do are seen as a result of their money. She complains.... she is doing so because she is richer; she asks his help in chores.... ah! she wants to turn him into the 'tail'; she makes a suggestion... afterall, it is because it is 'her' money |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by bukatyne(f): 3:35pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Asiwaju9ja:
I no be actor (when dey act Drama) as you say you no see am (the embarrassment). Leave the matter then. Ok then. |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by obaty(f): 4:25pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
lilmax:
na lie
The fact is you cannot be proud and humble at the same time,the reason they dont get married to poor guys is because of “responsibility“ I never said they were proud and humble at the same, to the Nigerian guy she's proud simply because she has more money |
| Re: Why Don't We See Rich Nigerian Single Ladies Marry Not-so-rich Nigerian Guys? by obaty(f): 4:28pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
rhymz:
what exactly is your definition of self-esteem, a woman being equal to a man in a marriage..... Let me ask you this one question, how much success are marriages where both husband and wife are assumed equal in responsibility and ability to lead and make decisions for the relationship-have been recorded with such models. A woman can never be equal to a man no matter what any feminist tell herself in a marriage. The man is the leader and the woman is his companion and is there to complement him.... All that crap about women being equal and should be left to make decisions only lead to uneccessary strife and competition that eventually leads to the high baby momma and baby daddy models we now see creeping into our society from the the West.
No man will stay in a relationship where his decisions have to always be first vetted by his wife before it passes, that's not low-self esteem, it is common sense, it calls to question his ability to lead or be trusted to lead.. . |
I see yall have taken over Nairaland. 
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