D point s u r irrelevant to d dude. Better start planning on wat to do b4 its too late.
D dude has moved on, he only came to show u dat level don change.

I was in a similar situation before. I truly loved her but she didn't love truly. She was playing smart, she was like oh you want me then take care of my wants else I get it elsewhere. Being poor she used it against me. She made it seem I was inconsiderate, uncaring, coming around me whenever she had one important event to see if I could contribute some cash and after the event she completely disappeared. Seeing I was unable to meet her crazy demands she left me.

When I got a job went to her in the hope that she might have changed, but this time I was very careful. I wanted to know if she truly loved me or it was just for the money. Soon she was all over me. But the moment I complained about being broke she kept a distance.

Your BF truly loves you but I think you are not being honest. You both are back together but there is so much prejudice. Only true communication can solve this. Remember to see this relationship as a mutual affair. Call, buy recharge cards, send msg, visit him, help out with the chores, make out quality time for him. Chat with him as if he is the only contact you have. This will build confidence and restore trust. If you can't, just quit. he is not the only guy and you are not the only lady. Good luck!

petkruz:


It's simple. We dated,broke up, started again but he hasn't gotten over the past. Now that he's boxed up,he's paying back or atleast that's what I think he's doing.

You dumped him when he was poor and when he got boxed up, you went running back!!!
And you expect him to respect your position? He is simply enjoying the ride, till orente comes along!!

petkruz:


I love him alot

Please can you stop using the word "love". You dont know the meaning.

This is the type of thing I hate in a relationship. If he doesn't call,you won't;that's what stupid people practice when in a relationship. Seriously,I feel people who do this,aren't matured enough to get into a relationship. Relationships are like a 2 way radio(walkie-talkie);not a one way traffic thing. I had a very brief relationship(probably a few weeks) with somebody recently cos of this. I didn't even tell her anything;I just kept to myself until we drifted apart.

petkruz:


Since he decided to be proud I had to play along I didn't call simple

hungryboy:
Aunty


Abeg translate this your story to calabar language,

So dat gateman like me ,go fit understand am

it will hurt like crazy at first... but you better face the pain now than to live in misery for the rest of your life...
if you believe he loves you, i'm not sure you will be needing advice on your life choices... [color=#000099][/color]

ronald4lif:
What did I just read?

He was supposed to inform you before buying himself a car? On what basis if I may ask?

He didn't call you to wish you a happy new year until today and what did you do? Decided not to call him as well until he calls unto say ladies style abi

crazy babe...
imagine. .?
serves u right@ op

Creamish:
Are u guys married?

D'u have a joint account?

If "NO"..then I see no reason why u should be pissed that he Dint tell u about his savings...esp since u once broke up wit him due to his financial status (or at least datz what he believes).

Secondly, he Dint call u on New year's day...did u call him? No. Wat if he had some issues? Ur being selfish IMO...

Nwayz... U need to calm d Fk down and think things thru only when calm. If u have nagging doubts, then address it with him. Communication is key in every relationship. Assumptions are relationship killers.

You have said it all.

petkruz:
Hey guys, i'm so angry right now i'm tempted to break up with the love of my life.

1) he didn't tell me he was saving to buy a car, he just drove to my compound and was looking at my face, I kept my cool.

2) My so-called boyfriend decided to call me today 3rd January and that's his first this year!! I didn't get any new year wishes. I confronted him, he apologised and all but ladies and gentlemen, the era of Men being non-challant is over.

Fine I did wrong years ago,but gone are the days when someone tries to pay back a sin I committed in my youthful restlessness.I have apologised,cried, begged, I became humble by force, I realised my mistake yet he hasn't gotten over the fact that I left him because he didn't have money when actually his possessiveness and lack of trust made me wanna always run out.

He can't be pained after 4years,its better I dump him now before he drops another bomb! But to be honest I do love him a lot, a whole lot. I'm angry and confused

dump him and move on with me - holla back, I'll buy you a car and wish happy new year every morning. ...hehehe

And the op is busy shouting boxed up, boxed up ko Ghana must go ni. WTF!!

DharmyYinks:

Did he "forced" u to accept him back?? Stop putting d blame on him n find a solution to ur enormous ego.

U left him while he was broke, dude got some dough, came to u again, bought a car and u still whining. U broke his trust n love just cos of cash.. ntin can hurt a man more.

U didn't hesitate wen u left him at first, now u want him to leave first.Why dnt u leave him lyk u did initially?

God bless my brother for stating the truth. It's not just about her ego, but her feeling of entitlement should be curtailed. Now, going by her post

petkruz:


I'v actually bought gifts worth 32k for an ex! I did all that shit in the past, u just have to be wise.

It is apparent she got back to him because she has been DUMPED by so many exs after him.

I see no reason why she still thinks she has the same control she once had over this dude because she's just just a side chick now to him.

petkruz:
Hey guys, i'm so angry right now i'm tempted to break up with the love of my life.

1) he didn't tell me he was saving to buy a car, he just drove to my compound and was looking at my face, I kept my cool.

2) My so-called boyfriend decided to call me today 3rd January and that's his first this year!! I didn't get any new year wishes. I confronted him, he apologised and all but ladies and gentlemen, the era of Men being non-challant is over.

Fine I did wrong years ago,but gone are the days when someone tries to pay back a sin I committed in my youthful restlessness.I have apologised,cried, begged, I became humble by force, I realised my mistake yet he hasn't gotten over the fact that I left him because he didn't have money when actually his possessiveness and lack of trust made me wanna always run out.

He can't be pained after 4years,its better I dump him now before he drops another bomb! But to be honest I do love him a lot, a whole lot. I'm angry and confused

hmmm

I can sense that u must be a very proud and a rude girl. no insult intended

You girls just keep hurting guys and be thinking it's normal. Just see how you even sound is a clear sign that your heartless and shameless. You left him when he had no money. That's how one stupid girl told me I was blocking her shine. All this crazy gold diggers. I pirri you.

Aunty Petkruz, pls pay heed to me. Talk to ur boyfriend. Bare out ur feelings... Leave ur pride at the doorstep. Don't hold anything back, no matter how silly u think it might sound to him. He came back for u, I don't want to believe it was purely for revenge. He still loves u, even though he's trying to spite u in some ways.



Whatever happens after u have a heart to heart discussion with him will clearly tell u what u should do next. End the relationship or keep forging ahead.

petkruz:


I see

i will like to be kept me updated on how ur relationship goes. Buying car without tellin u is not sumthing u should be angry about. Do u knw what i think, ur mind is playing trick on u. If u want to dump him go ahead, like dey say dere are so many fishes in the pond. I tink u hav an ego problem.

Creamish:
Are u guys married?

D'u have a joint account?

If "NO"..then I see no reason why u should be pissed that he Dint tell u about his savings...esp since u once broke up wit him due to his financial status (or at least datz what he believes).

Secondly, he Dint call u on New year's day...did u call him? No. Wat if he had some issues? Ur being selfish IMO...

Nwayz... U need to calm d Fk down and think things thru only when calm. If u have nagging doubts, then address it with him. Communication is key in every relationship. Assumptions are relationship killers.

word

Karma is a b_itch

your comment is intriguing, may God bless you. You are the most sensible girl of the year on this forum and not like those fake ass forming i-wanna-be b*tches

Why didn't u discuss this sh*t with ur boyfriend b4 bringing it here? And from ur posts i can see u are a little bit dumb... Now f**k outta here!

Mayor101010:
Why didn't u discuss this sh*t with ur boyfriend b4 bringing it here? And from ur posts i can see u are a little bit dumb... Now f**k outta here!

Very dumb malnourished looking girl

petkruz:


No no no. He bought that car not to surprise but spite me! Why would he have to go all length to prove a point? Meaning he still harbours the pain of the past.

Why would you assume that? It's just your mind playing tricks on you.

petkruz:


Then he should leave me alone. Why did he come back for a better relationship if he was still pained?

You are toeing the selfish line what with the "why did he come back...". Thought you said you're still in love with the chap?

Make up your mind. In this ship of yours there seem to be two captains and it just won't work. You seem to be a proud missus, most chaps detest that trait in a lady. Stop dying in silence, talk to your man, fix this!

petkruz:


Sorry this comment is irrelevant because i'm very much boxed up too, i'm not a cheap lady looking for money.

So you're "boxed up"? Good-luck in getting a true love.

petkruz:


Sorry this comment is irrelevant because i'm very much boxed up too, i'm not a cheap lady looking for money.

Really? That's good to hear that you have your own money too. But lemme ask , have you recently bought yourself a car, do you live alone in a well furnished apartment in an upscale neighborhood, do you have enough savings to last you for the next six months if you loose your job?
If you answer " No" to any of these questions, then you are not " boxed up ".

tosyne2much:
I felt it would be better reading comments but I'm forced to comment


I used to respect this OP but you just lost it. I only read your comments on the first page and I must say that one can surmise the you are very immature and delusional in thinking, and your level of reasoning is far below your age.


I don't even want to know if your boyfriend is to be blame or not, all I see is that, with your mode of talking, I just hope you would find a good husband at the end of the day. However, your over-bloated PRIDE will haunt you one day


I don't think any dude in his right sense of reasoning, will marry someone like you cos you don't even sound like someone that has something to offer, other than kitty-cat.

As for me, even if you are placed on OLX for free, I wouldn't even consider you twice

Ouch, that was harsh.

petkruz:


I'v actually bought gifts worth 32k for an ex! I did all that shit in the past, u just have to be wise.

You're sounding like all this is a game! Well, its not my place to jump to conclusions, but given your comments thus far, it leaves a lot wanting.

Matters of the heart is deep, real deep for folks truly involved in it for the long haul hence I find sort of disconcerting your seemingly flippant remarks with regards to what your presently embroiled in relationship wise. Well, it may be a passing phase for you. You wear the shoes, so I suppose you know where it pinches the most. After all it's not a do or die affair (abi is it? As if it is, you got your work cut out for you).

Creamish:
Are u guys married?

D'u have a joint account?

If "NO"..then I see no reason why u should be pissed that he Dint tell u about his savings...esp since u once broke up wit him due to his financial status (or at least datz what he believes).

Secondly, he Dint call u on New year's day...did u call him? No. Wat if he had some issues? Ur being selfish IMO...

Nwayz... U need to calm d Fk down and think things thru only when calm. If u have nagging doubts, then address it with him. Communication is key in every relationship. Assumptions are relationship killers.

@ d bolded....

ff

i was in a similar situation.whether you like it or not,there is no way he will forget about the past totally(his subconscious still harbour distrust).@ some point the relationship is got to end.kindly forgive my hasty conclusion with less premises.