I can't but laugh. Idiota, you had sex without protection!!!

You said it all... thats the best thing to do! Talk to your mum first...she will help you with a sloution

Decker:
It's always yoadvisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after few days, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright.

Oyind17:

Why are you scared?

Debs, don't be scared! I know you have made a mistake, but now we need to find a way forward.
You must understand that you have sinned against God, repent and get right with your creator. You need to tell your parents and be ready to face the consequences, because they will be hurt by your actions. Put yourself in their shoes as a parent you wouldn't want that done to you.

Ask for their forgiveness! Be ready to face the society, which simply means ignore them, we are to learn from our mistakes and let them guide us. Stay away from pre-marital sex no matter how much you love the guy. Women love with their hearts and soul, men just want to get into your honeycomb. A man that truely loves you won't put you in a family way and then tell you yo abort it.
I know of a woman in her forties who aborted when she was young and got married and had no fruit for years. So don't do it! After having your baby, go back to school and become what you want to be.
If you have the contact of your boyfriend's parents, contact them and tell them what has happened! But you must stay clear from your boyfriend so he won't poison you with abortion pills. Surround your friends and people who will encourage you and not mock you!
Genevieve Nnaji is an example! She beat the odds! Make up your mind that I will come through, but don't go back to premarital sex.
You must also be prepared to raise your child in God fearing way!

Strahovski1:
Trash... serves you right. Getting pregnant at 21. When you were fuc!king you did not know you would use use a condom?

Lucky you created created a new account.

Hoe.

dont insult cos u are no better. I know for sure that u ve been involved in abortion in one way or the other. Dont throw stone while living in a house made of Glass

tpiar:
this is the third such topic in the last month or so.

straffing plenty 4 last yr na

debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

Woo!!

When did you know this boyfriend of yours? And how long have you guys been in a relationship? Did you know him very well before you guys started dating?

I pray that the guy should lose his *thing and then later beg to help parent the kid. He's already cursed himself for suggesting an abortion.

Its unfortunate,whatever the outcome.I do not believe in abortion, even religion forbids it.But to be a single mother has its consequence too, stigmatization from suitors and could prevent a lady from ever getting married.I guess it's a price to pay for the carelessness.Good luck

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

chai it has happen..... .know one thing people are not the same .....tell ur mother....cus for now she's ur helper .....
tell de guy ur giving birth to dat child




say NO TO ABORTION

Cc Debbysmyles, I can relate with wat u r going through nw, I can assure you its not d end of d world, u hv to be strong and brace up for wat is ahead, d present phase u are is nothing to compare with wat lies ahead.
God keep you and your baby safe, pick wateva is left of you, your womanhood, integrity and balance and embrace motherhood with all joy, am sure you'll b anticipating ur baby's first smile, and d day he/she wl call u mum. stay blessed.

pp

This is a kind of situation I will never want to find myself in this world. For me, I know that my mum will stigmatise me throughout her lifetime and that's the kind of mum that I have.

Abortion has its consequences no doubt, but this is about your life and your happiness.

Keeping the baby can turn you a baby mama for life cos most Nigerian men don't like getting down with baby mama's unless you become superstar along the line.

I use myself for example, I will not ordinary want to get married to a lady with another man's child, and I know many Nigerian men fall within this category, and this is fact.

If your mum is like mine, you won't even want her to hear about it not to talk of telling her.

Some that are suggesting you tell your mum on their part have very understanding and supporting mum and they can easily share these type of condition with their mum without any issue, but even at that as I said, it's still about your happiness.

Many single mum in Nigeria passes through much difficulties, ranging from becoming single for life to all sort of stigmatisation and stress of raising the kid alone financially and mentally etc.

It is obvious that you and your guy are not ready both mentally and financially to have babies and he has made his position already known, and you should do yours too as fast as possible so that anything that could be done will still be done without complications

Good luck and I hope you have truly learnt your lesson if you finally get out of this

Speechless3:
Liar, you are trying to get help my foot. Go ahead and deceive those you can.

She doesn't sound sober, but then my dear someone reading this somewhere has this same issue. It happens all the time. So let those with genuine situation read and learn

Funminicrown:

You're damn far from sanity.......i swear!

Hahaha. And you've got lots of that and still seek for advice in your life? What a drama!

Dudeweedlmao:
If you keep the baby and your mum disowns you like you said, now what?

You're gonna come back here and ask for a place to stay?
This same people telling you to keep it wont even look twice at that thread.

If her family doesn't want the baby she can bear the child for some childless couple, and be treated as a princess in the process.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Pele, others have done it and so can you.
Ireti Doyle (who got married sef and remains hapilly married till date)
Genevieve Nnaji
Waje
Sophie Momodu
Wizzy's baby mama
Ice prince baby mama
Olamide's baby mama
Da Prince's baby mama
D'banj's younger's brother baby mama
May'd baby mama

And the unknown millions out there. Good luck

seaga:


She doesn't sound sober, but then my dear someone reading this somewhere has this same issue. It happens all the time. So let those with genuine situation read and learn

Yea you have a point sha.

Dudeweedlmao:
If you keep the baby and your mum disowns you like you said, now what?

You're gonna come back here and ask for a place to stay?
This same people telling you to keep it wont even look twice at that thread.

Don't mind crazy people.

Ishilove:

Another thing, screen grab your conversations with him either through bbm or whatsapp so that when shiit hits the fan, you will have proof to present to his people that he is the father of the child but he doesn't want to man up and take responsibility.

Oshey

Dirkcoyt:
Young lady, you will be doing the world a favour if you abort that pregnancy now, you not ready,psychologically,emotionally, financially,morally to develop or take care of a baby!

No support from your man or whatever! The world is tired of unnecessary suffering to kids who knows nothing about the selfish lust of their parent!

We tired of seeing malnourished kids, sick children, we don't want to see a kid you will bring to the world to suffer because of your carelessness! Save the little boy stress of what he knows nothing about! You will birth the child and all you will ever do is telling the child of better tomorrow! The kids bears the brunt most in this recklessness!

Now, there is nothing to panic about, goto a qualified personnel to abort the preganancy, well handled by an expert, abortion is not as complicated as you all seem to paint it! Only in nigeria we hear of abortion,caesarean section and we fidget!

You scared of damaging your womb? Nah you shouldn't be, you should be able to be responsible for your actions!

When many childless marriages are begging to adopt the baby and treat the mum as a princess and the baby as a prince.

Speechless3:
Yea you have a point sha.

To the genuine ones, what would you suggest?

bigerboy200:

how u take sabi the style dem use??do u knw who was ontop? instead of you to advise her u are here blaming dem....mtshceeeew

Oh please let us call a spade a spade,when she was indulging herself in the act she never knew the consequences.

debbysmyles:
My mum will never accept me,I'm scared right now.

U just have to start thinking on how to deliver the baby. Mama Bomboy.

Healthymee:

Debs, don't be scared! I know you have made a mistake, but now we need to find a way forward.
You must understand that you have sinned against God, repent and get right with your creator. You need to tell your parents and be ready to face the consequences, because they will be hurt by your actions. Put yourself in their shoes as a parent you wouldn't want that done to you.

Ask for their forgiveness! Be ready to face the society, which simply means ignore them, we are to learn from our mistakes and let them guide us. Stay away from pre-marital sex no matter how much you love the guy. Women love with their hearts and soul, men just want to get into your honeycomb. A man that truely loves you won't put you in a family way and then tell you yo abort it.
I know of a woman in her forties who aborted when she was young and got married and had no fruit for years. So don't do it! After having your baby, go back to school and become what you want to be.
If you have the contact of your boyfriend's parents, contact them and tell them what has happened! But you must stay clear from your boyfriend so he won't poison you with abortion pills. Surround your friends and people who will encourage you and not mock you!
Genevieve Nnaji is an example! She beat the odds! Make up your mind that I will come through, but don't go back to premarital sex.
You must also be prepared to raise your child in God fearing way!

Nice one

seaga:


To the genuine ones, what would you suggest?

I am pro life so i'll suggest keeping the child no matter what, and if you can, change your area of location to avoid embarrasment.

After giving birth, give the child out to a more mature relative or take him/her to an orphanage home.

Biggestboy1:
U just have to start thinking on how to deliver the baby. Mama Bomboy.

Hahaha. When she was doing it, she didn't know the mom won't accept it?

DeeTus:
Hahaha. When she was doing, she didn't know the mom won't accept it?

Same question i asked and someone quoted me that why am i not having pity on the girl.

Speechless3:
I am pro life so i'll suggest keeping the child no matter what, and if you can, change your area of location to avoid embarrasment.

After giving birth, give the child out to a more mature relative or take him/her to an orphanage home.

That tactics doesn't work anymore. An intelligent man who wants to marry you would surely know and then withdraw.

Speechless3:
I am pro life so i'll suggest keeping the child no matter what, and if you can, change your area of location to avoid embarrasment.

After giving birth, give the child out to a more mature relative or take him/her to an orphanage home.

Yes seems morally right,I personally don't subscribe to abortion. But then do you know how many ladies that ve done this and still kept their faces and still went on to live a normal life without baby mama stigma.I ve a lady at my office she's getting really old now, everyone she dates dump her immediately they know she has a child,really feel sorry for her, she really prays to be married but....

you girls atimes shitting me you got pregnant for the wrong guy and now you're confuse you girls are really sick why because when the real guy toast you'll ignore them but when the fake come you think they are the right and now you crying for help of advice well my don't abort that baby if you do you commited suicide and you know the quencequencies maybe by aborting that baby it maybe the only child you ll get wise up babe never a dull day use your head and think

evy1:
Same question i asked and someone quoted me that why am i not having pity on the girl.

Lol. Lots of pretender on here. The best she can do now is abortion.

After all, some women here on who comment, had done abortion and still get married to their dream men.