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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Memejem: 7:21pm On Feb 23, 2016
Which religious responsibility? It even states in the Bible that it is good for man to remain to himself. Only because of sexuality that marriage was given to man.

If you want to get married no wahala. But stop claiming that it was forced upon you by God

Omotayor123:
Because, getting married is one of our social and even religious responsibility..
People tend to view unmarried adult (male and female) as socially irresponsible.

Though, marriage is not everything but we should endeavor to fulfill our responsibility!

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by amicable09(f): 7:22pm On Feb 23, 2016
menxer:


I think it has to do with the subconscious programming of/by the ladies in the early teenage years of fantasy of the ideal man for romance.

Such subconscious programming may create a loop, hindering such a lady from making the transition to marriage.

The "ideal" man for romantic relationship may not be or make the "ideal" husband, most times; Thus calling for self re-evaluation by ladies and re-evaluation of the men in their lives as they (ladies) progress in life.
menxer, you made a good point but not all ladies had this problem of subconscious programming.

I believe some men have to work on themselves first before proposing marriage to any lady. Their poor hygiene can be a turn off! I don't understand why young men won't get necessary grooming products and look good before approaching a lady.

With or without any programming, she most definitely will say no. No lady fantasize about marrying a man who isn't clean.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Teespice(f): 7:25pm On Feb 23, 2016
Chukzyfcb:
Take away SEX, and CHILDREN. I don't see the need for a WIFE!!! Everyother thing can be sourced for
For food - get a cook/male maid
For finance - get a job & make Investment
For laundry - dry cleaner etc.

According to late Myles Munroe, he said "God says its not Good that man should be alone" God didn't say its not good that man should be single he says ALONEEEEE. To not be ALONE in this life, SURROUND urself with FRIENDS & FAMILY

sorry ooo.

will this opinion of yours be different if it came from a female?

all I want is a yes or no answer

no long story.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Nobody: 7:31pm On Feb 23, 2016
sukkot:
Loj how are ya buddy ? I am married to myself as well as ................. LOL . lets just say i am married to life wink grin
I've observed you ain't really interested by women. Meanwhile a lot of them were and still are trying to get at you, but you just showed no interest grin. Perhaps you be the most sought after of the religious section. grin I still can fathom the reason behind this
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Excellentmind: 7:32pm On Feb 23, 2016
Op, your ranting won't change the fact that marriage in Nigeria and beyond makes those involve responsible.

There is no amount of success you will attain in the society without contributing to reproduction and impacting of moral principles for the sustainability of the society that will make the society judge you successful.

So, if you are not married, you had better do it now before it's late.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Chukzyfcb(m): 7:33pm On Feb 23, 2016
Teespice:


sorry ooo.

will this opinion of yours be different if it came from a female?

all I want is a yes or no answer

no long story.
Ofcourse it'll be different, even if it was from a male it could be different too.....THIS IS MY OWN OPINION AND NO ONE ELSE
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Teespice(f): 7:34pm On Feb 23, 2016
Chukzyfcb:

Ofcourse it'll be different, even if it was from a male it could be different too.....THIS IS MY OWN OPINION AND NO ONE ELSE

I hear you.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Godsonkemz(m): 7:36pm On Feb 23, 2016
A woman can never be successful without that fulfilment marriage gives knowing pretty well that someone cares for her and she's someone's special (not baby papa) It brings out that happiness in her and a sense of emotional calmness being cared for because no matter her wealth, she needs a man. Likewise men though we men have so many alternatives.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by sukkot: 7:38pm On Feb 23, 2016
LoJ:

I've observed you ain't really interested by women. Meanwhile a lot of them were and still are trying to get at you, but you just showed no interest grin. Perhaps you be the most sought after of the religious section. grin I still can fathom the reason behind this
lol first off, long distance relationships dont work so there really is no need to pursue any online relationship. now if i am fully back in nigeria ? it may be a different issue, but right now, i try to be as realistic as possible and reality is that any woman who is in a long-distance relationship is also getting caned by some local dude lol. no woman is out there waiting for one guy. they will sleep around. its an instant gratification world we live in. thats reality and i am a realist.

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Originalsly: 7:41pm On Feb 23, 2016
Hmmm...what makes a woman successful? ....are we thinking in terms of material riches?....in terms of academic success?... or in terms of living comfortably while enjoying their purpose on earth ....starting a new family? I have never ever met a woman who #1...does not want to ever give birth and #2...does not want to be married. But then there are many that marry just to get the status....if marrying a monkey was legal they would jump to it and still be looking down on the single ladies as if they were ehmmm....word rhyming with who.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by AVRecruit: 7:43pm On Feb 23, 2016
amicable09:
I have a little ish troubling my mind whenever this topic about older ladies and marriage is raised. One of such question is, is the lady supposed to marry herself?

It takes two to tango after all. A lady interested in marriage and there's no eligible suitor, what should she do? There are some ladies who have only married men approaching them for relationships, what are they to do? Run to the streets and marry any guy who is single because they are above 30 and nearing 40?

Let's stop and think for a minute about such situations, rather than jump into conclusions, calling successful single ladies, bitter.

You need to realize that the world is operating upside down now.

EVERY GIRL has a window of marriage opportunity; a time where she has many suitors...

Modern feminism has taught women to ignore this window or use it for boyfriends....

So she is not supposed to marry herself but rather is a victim of modern feminist culture.

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by doskie(m): 7:44pm On Feb 23, 2016
mynd1:
Op,call it African men mentality. undecided
its not my dear. in asia there is something they call hired husbands. people pay men to escort them to social functions where they will be seen as their suitors. we are aware that our yahoo boys often scam british and American girls with marriage proposals and many go abroad and get green cards through fake marriages. it is a human need that we cannot just wake away one morning because 50cent and davido did it like that.

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Atlantian: 7:45pm On Feb 23, 2016
sukkot:
thats like saying ' eating ' has over-lived its intention
Your comparison is flawed, even by common-sense standard.

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Feb 23, 2016
sukkot:
lol first off, long distance relationships dont work so there really is no need to pursue any online relationship. now if i am fully back in nigeria ? it may be a different issue, but right now, i try to be as realistic as possible and reality is that any woman who is in a long-distance relationship is also getting caned by some local dude lol. no woman is out there waiting for one guy. they will sleep around. its an instant gratification world we live in. thats reality and i am a realist.
There was a typing mistake. I meant, the reason why they are so much after you. There is even one of them who wanted to commit suicide because you didn't care much about her grin I'm sure you can recall it.

But anyway, I appreciate that. It's good to have self discipline. As for the women, I guess no. They are some women who are faithful. Of course they are rare, like anything valuable, but there are.

But I digress. Top of the evening to you sire!
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Creamish(f): 7:46pm On Feb 23, 2016
anwo247:
When you see a 70yrs old woman without Husband or children, you will respect marriage. Marriage is No1 achievement for any woman if you must avoid a miserable old age, atleast.

...a member of the stereotypical society we speak of..

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Tobium1(m): 7:47pm On Feb 23, 2016
Dis is Africa, dis is nigeria, hence as a lady/woman/girl/ho your success is not complete if u don't have a legitimate man to make u a Mrs.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Originalsly: 7:48pm On Feb 23, 2016
sukkot:
lol first off, long distance relationships dont work so there really is no need to pursue any online relationship. now if i am fully back in nigeria ? it may be a different issue, but right now, i try to be as realistic as possible and reality is that any woman who is in a long-distance relationship is also getting caned by some local dude lol. no woman is out there waiting for one guy. they will sleep around. its an instant gratification world we live in. thats reality and i am a realist.
Hmmm....I just want to disagree with you.....I'll be right back when I can think up a good defense on behalf of the ladies. In the mean time...don't hold yur breath.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Omotayor123(f): 7:49pm On Feb 23, 2016
skytreader:


Are you saying that people who prefer not to get married are PERCEIVED as being socially irresponsible? Or YOU are personally ASSERTING that they are?
Both cool
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by femliany(m): 7:49pm On Feb 23, 2016
When you go to the mountains to pray there you will know that few people pray for money,visa etc but majority pray for marriage breakthrough overthere so my OP,money does not guarantee marriage@ll not even the happy one
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Savigne(f): 7:49pm On Feb 23, 2016
skytreader:


Good one! You mirror my thoughts. I know some unmarried people that I have mad respect for. Their marital status has no bearing at all on how I treat them. Getting married should be a choice one should seriously consider before deciding. But a whole lotta people get married just because other people are doing it. And then they end up enduring what they ordinarily ought to have enjoyed
If more people thought this way,the world will be a happier place.
One of my favourite quote goes thus; Minding one's business is a full-time job and everyone should stay employed.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Omotayor123(f): 7:51pm On Feb 23, 2016
neoapocalypse:



Not a religious responsibility , even the Bible says it's better to remain single and serve God but if you can not abstain from sex then get married.
I don't know about the Bible... Saying from Islamic point of view!
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by AVRecruit: 7:52pm On Feb 23, 2016
amicable09:

menxer, you made a good point but not all ladies had this problem of subconscious programming.

I believe some men have to work on themselves first before proposing marriage to any lady. Their poor hygiene can be a turn off! I don't understand why young men won't get necessary grooming products and look good before approaching a lady.

With or without any programming, she most definitely will say no. No lady fantasize about marrying a man who isn't clean.

your comment shows your superficiality and why you are still probably single. If he is poorly groomed, groom him that is why you are the wife.

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by sukkot: 7:52pm On Feb 23, 2016
LoJ:

There was a typing mistake. I meant, the reason why they are so much after you. There is even one of them who wanted to commit suicide because you didn't care much about her grin I'm sure you can recall it.

But anyway, I appreciate that. It's good to have self discipline. As for the women, I guess no. They are some women who are faithful. Of course they are rare, like anything valuable, but they are.

But I digress. Top of the evening to you sire!
yup I can lmao. it is what it is. but you know like I said - my location at this present dispensation of time is remote so i am just not going to raise anyones hopes for nothing. but you know its nothing wrong with internet fantasies we all have em. the dating world is virtual. welcome to the 21st century brother and top of the evening to you too Sire wink grin

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Savigne(f): 7:52pm On Feb 23, 2016
skytreader:


Good one! You mirror my thoughts. I know some unmarried people that I have mad respect for. Their marital status has no bearing at all on how I treat them. Getting married should be a choice one should seriously consider before deciding. But a whole lotta people get married just because other people are doing it. And then they end up enduring what they ordinarily ought to have enjoyed
If more people thought this way,the world will be a happier place.
One of my favourite quote goes thus; Minding one's business is a full-time job and everyone should stay employed...
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by joseph1832(m): 7:55pm On Feb 23, 2016
Creamish:


...a member of the stereotypical society we speak of..
I believe the individual is just airing his view. Not everybody is gifted with a free mind.
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by blessedfavoured: 7:59pm On Feb 23, 2016
cruzita:
even those that has turned punching bag to their husbands even have the guts to insult single ladies when their case is in Amadioha's hand

this!!!
i've noticed the ones that taunt single ladies are actually the ones with the worst marriage. that explains the bitterness. I don't know if it's because they're jealous you're living your life, or because you're not suffering like them. especially the ones that rushed to marry because everybody is marrying, despite knowing the guy is the wrong one. I've noticed that the ones that are truly enjoying their marriage have no time to be asking "where your man at".

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Nobody: 8:01pm On Feb 23, 2016
Tobium1:
Dis is Africa, dis is nigeria, hence as a lady/woman/girl/ho your success is not complete if u don't have a legitimate man to make u a Mrs.

Therefore if the woman doesn't find any man she likes, she should end up feeling not successful just for that sole reason.


I bow for una. undecided

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Laygos(m): 8:02pm On Feb 23, 2016
Omotayor123:
Because, getting married is one of our social and even religious responsibility..
People tend to view unmarried adult (male and female) as socially irresponsible.

Though, marriage is not everything but we should endeavor to fulfill our responsibility!

like wtf!!! where did yu get this reasoning from

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by sukkot: 8:03pm On Feb 23, 2016
Originalsly:
Hmmm....I just want to disagree with you.....I'll be right back when I can think up a good defense on behalf of the ladies. In the mean time...don't hold yur breath.
yeah just make it quick cuz i aint getting any younger. grin
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Creamish(f): 8:03pm On Feb 23, 2016
joseph1832:
I believe the individual is just airing his view. Not everybody is gifted with a free mind.

Ah well...
Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Nobody: 8:06pm On Feb 23, 2016
abbey621:
The truth is this, marriage is considered one of the components of having a successful life for women, it is placed very highly on their success pyramid. For men, it is way lower on the pyramid and considered way less important. For men, money is considered the top priority, this is why society blames the man for not being wealthy and blames the woman for not building or keeping her home(family). This leads us to the main question, what happens when we have misplaced priorities? When women start chasing money and career and men start chasing love? We have a disaster, a shift in the continuum of life and an hyperbolic sequence of negative consequences. This is why men who chase love find themselves being hurt by that same love and women who chase money end up regretting later on in life. Ask Oprah Winfrey why she decided she did not want to get married or have any kids? Her answer would be that it was her decision but deep down inside she was afraid of commitment and by the time she realized what was going on, it was too late. I see no reason why a woman can't have it all; success, fame, good home, sexy body, lovely kids and so on. The ultimate decision is deciding whether you are going to see marriage as an obstacle or an opportunity, are you going to see it as a negative or a positive? After all the richest woman in Africa (Alakija) enjoyed the benefits of marriage! So in totality, the Nigerian society is actually doing single successful women a huge favor by being on their case, as I am yet to see a 40 year old woman who can truly say she's happy being single without kids and with no regrets!

As much as a married woman with kids can be unhappy, as much can a 40-year-old unmarried woman without kids be happy.

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Re: Why Do People Use Marriage As A Means To Insult Single Successful Women? by Nobody: 8:10pm On Feb 23, 2016
Men really have much to suffer in this world. First, they have to accept responsibility for their own failings and at the same time answer for why women struggle in their own lives.

It's always a man's fault and women are supposedly the better half, as well as the disadvantaged specie of the both sexes. What a terrible attitude from the African woman feminist wannabe.

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