Which religious responsibility? It even states in the Bible that it is good for man to remain to himself. Only because of sexuality that marriage was given to man.

If you want to get married no wahala. But stop claiming that it was forced upon you by God

Omotayor123:
Because, getting married is one of our social and even religious responsibility..
People tend to view unmarried adult (male and female) as socially irresponsible.

Though, marriage is not everything but we should endeavor to fulfill our responsibility!

menxer:


I think it has to do with the subconscious programming of/by the ladies in the early teenage years of fantasy of the ideal man for romance.

Such subconscious programming may create a loop, hindering such a lady from making the transition to marriage.

The "ideal" man for romantic relationship may not be or make the "ideal" husband, most times; Thus calling for self re-evaluation by ladies and re-evaluation of the men in their lives as they (ladies) progress in life.

menxer, you made a good point but not all ladies had this problem of subconscious programming.

I believe some men have to work on themselves first before proposing marriage to any lady. Their poor hygiene can be a turn off! I don't understand why young men won't get necessary grooming products and look good before approaching a lady.

With or without any programming, she most definitely will say no. No lady fantasize about marrying a man who isn't clean.

Chukzyfcb:
Take away SEX, and CHILDREN. I don't see the need for a WIFE!!! Everyother thing can be sourced for
For food - get a cook/male maid
For finance - get a job & make Investment
For laundry - dry cleaner etc.

According to late Myles Munroe, he said "God says its not Good that man should be alone" God didn't say its not good that man should be single he says ALONEEEEE. To not be ALONE in this life, SURROUND urself with FRIENDS & FAMILY

sorry ooo.

will this opinion of yours be different if it came from a female?

all I want is a yes or no answer

no long story.

sukkot:
Loj how are ya buddy ? I am married to myself as well as ................. LOL . lets just say i am married to life

I've observed you ain't really interested by women. Meanwhile a lot of them were and still are trying to get at you, but you just showed no interest . Perhaps you be the most sought after of the religious section. I still can fathom the reason behind this

Op, your ranting won't change the fact that marriage in Nigeria and beyond makes those involve responsible.

There is no amount of success you will attain in the society without contributing to reproduction and impacting of moral principles for the sustainability of the society that will make the society judge you successful.

So, if you are not married, you had better do it now before it's late.

Teespice:


sorry ooo.

will this opinion of yours be different if it came from a female?

all I want is a yes or no answer

no long story.

Ofcourse it'll be different, even if it was from a male it could be different too.....THIS IS MY OWN OPINION AND NO ONE ELSE

Chukzyfcb:

Ofcourse it'll be different, even if it was from a male it could be different too.....THIS IS MY OWN OPINION AND NO ONE ELSE

I hear you.

A woman can never be successful without that fulfilment marriage gives knowing pretty well that someone cares for her and she's someone's special (not baby papa) It brings out that happiness in her and a sense of emotional calmness being cared for because no matter her wealth, she needs a man. Likewise men though we men have so many alternatives.

LoJ:

I've observed you ain't really interested by women. Meanwhile a lot of them were and still are trying to get at you, but you just showed no interest . Perhaps you be the most sought after of the religious section. I still can fathom the reason behind this

lol first off, long distance relationships dont work so there really is no need to pursue any online relationship. now if i am fully back in nigeria ? it may be a different issue, but right now, i try to be as realistic as possible and reality is that any woman who is in a long-distance relationship is also getting caned by some local dude lol. no woman is out there waiting for one guy. they will sleep around. its an instant gratification world we live in. thats reality and i am a realist.

Hmmm...what makes a woman successful? ....are we thinking in terms of material riches?....in terms of academic success?... or in terms of living comfortably while enjoying their purpose on earth ....starting a new family? I have never ever met a woman who #1...does not want to ever give birth and #2...does not want to be married. But then there are many that marry just to get the status....if marrying a monkey was legal they would jump to it and still be looking down on the single ladies as if they were ehmmm....word rhyming with who.

amicable09:
I have a little ish troubling my mind whenever this topic about older ladies and marriage is raised. One of such question is, is the lady supposed to marry herself?

It takes two to tango after all. A lady interested in marriage and there's no eligible suitor, what should she do? There are some ladies who have only married men approaching them for relationships, what are they to do? Run to the streets and marry any guy who is single because they are above 30 and nearing 40?

Let's stop and think for a minute about such situations, rather than jump into conclusions, calling successful single ladies, bitter.

You need to realize that the world is operating upside down now.

EVERY GIRL has a window of marriage opportunity; a time where she has many suitors...

Modern feminism has taught women to ignore this window or use it for boyfriends....

So she is not supposed to marry herself but rather is a victim of modern feminist culture.

mynd1:
Op,call it African men mentality.

its not my dear. in asia there is something they call hired husbands. people pay men to escort them to social functions where they will be seen as their suitors. we are aware that our yahoo boys often scam british and American girls with marriage proposals and many go abroad and get green cards through fake marriages. it is a human need that we cannot just wake away one morning because 50cent and davido did it like that.

sukkot:
thats like saying ' eating ' has over-lived its intention

Your comparison is flawed, even by common-sense standard.

sukkot:
lol first off, long distance relationships dont work so there really is no need to pursue any online relationship. now if i am fully back in nigeria ? it may be a different issue, but right now, i try to be as realistic as possible and reality is that any woman who is in a long-distance relationship is also getting caned by some local dude lol. no woman is out there waiting for one guy. they will sleep around. its an instant gratification world we live in. thats reality and i am a realist.

There was a typing mistake. I meant, the reason why they are so much after you. There is even one of them who wanted to commit suicide because you didn't care much about her I'm sure you can recall it.

But anyway, I appreciate that. It's good to have self discipline. As for the women, I guess no. They are some women who are faithful. Of course they are rare, like anything valuable, but there are.

But I digress. Top of the evening to you sire!

anwo247:
When you see a 70yrs old woman without Husband or children, you will respect marriage. Marriage is No1 achievement for any woman if you must avoid a miserable old age, atleast.

...a member of the stereotypical society we speak of..

Dis is Africa, dis is nigeria, hence as a lady/woman/girl/ho your success is not complete if u don't have a legitimate man to make u a Mrs.

sukkot:
lol first off, long distance relationships dont work so there really is no need to pursue any online relationship. now if i am fully back in nigeria ? it may be a different issue, but right now, i try to be as realistic as possible and reality is that any woman who is in a long-distance relationship is also getting caned by some local dude lol. no woman is out there waiting for one guy. they will sleep around. its an instant gratification world we live in. thats reality and i am a realist.

Hmmm....I just want to disagree with you.....I'll be right back when I can think up a good defense on behalf of the ladies. In the mean time...don't hold yur breath.

skytreader:


Are you saying that people who prefer not to get married are PERCEIVED as being socially irresponsible? Or YOU are personally ASSERTING that they are?

Both

When you go to the mountains to pray there you will know that few people pray for money,visa etc but majority pray for marriage breakthrough overthere so my OP,money does not guarantee marriage@ll not even the happy one

skytreader:


Good one! You mirror my thoughts. I know some unmarried people that I have mad respect for. Their marital status has no bearing at all on how I treat them. Getting married should be a choice one should seriously consider before deciding. But a whole lotta people get married just because other people are doing it. And then they end up enduring what they ordinarily ought to have enjoyed

If more people thought this way,the world will be a happier place.
One of my favourite quote goes thus; Minding one's business is a full-time job and everyone should stay employed.

neoapocalypse:



Not a religious responsibility , even the Bible says it's better to remain single and serve God but if you can not abstain from sex then get married.

I don't know about the Bible... Saying from Islamic point of view!

amicable09:

menxer, you made a good point but not all ladies had this problem of subconscious programming.

I believe some men have to work on themselves first before proposing marriage to any lady. Their poor hygiene can be a turn off! I don't understand why young men won't get necessary grooming products and look good before approaching a lady.

With or without any programming, she most definitely will say no. No lady fantasize about marrying a man who isn't clean.

your comment shows your superficiality and why you are still probably single. If he is poorly groomed, groom him that is why you are the wife.

LoJ:

There was a typing mistake. I meant, the reason why they are so much after you. There is even one of them who wanted to commit suicide because you didn't care much about her I'm sure you can recall it.

But anyway, I appreciate that. It's good to have self discipline. As for the women, I guess no. They are some women who are faithful. Of course they are rare, like anything valuable, but they are.

But I digress. Top of the evening to you sire!

yup I can lmao. it is what it is. but you know like I said - my location at this present dispensation of time is remote so i am just not going to raise anyones hopes for nothing. but you know its nothing wrong with internet fantasies we all have em. the dating world is virtual. welcome to the 21st century brother and top of the evening to you too Sire

skytreader:


Good one! You mirror my thoughts. I know some unmarried people that I have mad respect for. Their marital status has no bearing at all on how I treat them. Getting married should be a choice one should seriously consider before deciding. But a whole lotta people get married just because other people are doing it. And then they end up enduring what they ordinarily ought to have enjoyed

If more people thought this way,the world will be a happier place.
One of my favourite quote goes thus; Minding one's business is a full-time job and everyone should stay employed...

Creamish:


...a member of the stereotypical society we speak of..

I believe the individual is just airing his view. Not everybody is gifted with a free mind.

cruzita:
even those that has turned punching bag to their husbands even have the guts to insult single ladies when their case is in Amadioha's hand

this!!!
i've noticed the ones that taunt single ladies are actually the ones with the worst marriage. that explains the bitterness. I don't know if it's because they're jealous you're living your life, or because you're not suffering like them. especially the ones that rushed to marry because everybody is marrying, despite knowing the guy is the wrong one. I've noticed that the ones that are truly enjoying their marriage have no time to be asking "where your man at".

Tobium1:
Dis is Africa, dis is nigeria, hence as a lady/woman/girl/ho your success is not complete if u don't have a legitimate man to make u a Mrs.

Therefore if the woman doesn't find any man she likes, she should end up feeling not successful just for that sole reason.


I bow for una.

Omotayor123:
Because, getting married is one of our social and even religious responsibility..
People tend to view unmarried adult (male and female) as socially irresponsible.

Though, marriage is not everything but we should endeavor to fulfill our responsibility!

like wtf!!! where did yu get this reasoning from

Originalsly:
Hmmm....I just want to disagree with you.....I'll be right back when I can think up a good defense on behalf of the ladies. In the mean time...don't hold yur breath.

yeah just make it quick cuz i aint getting any younger.

joseph1832:
I believe the individual is just airing his view. Not everybody is gifted with a free mind.

Ah well...

abbey621:
The truth is this, marriage is considered one of the components of having a successful life for women, it is placed very highly on their success pyramid. For men, it is way lower on the pyramid and considered way less important. For men, money is considered the top priority, this is why society blames the man for not being wealthy and blames the woman for not building or keeping her home(family). This leads us to the main question, what happens when we have misplaced priorities? When women start chasing money and career and men start chasing love? We have a disaster, a shift in the continuum of life and an hyperbolic sequence of negative consequences. This is why men who chase love find themselves being hurt by that same love and women who chase money end up regretting later on in life. Ask Oprah Winfrey why she decided she did not want to get married or have any kids? Her answer would be that it was her decision but deep down inside she was afraid of commitment and by the time she realized what was going on, it was too late. I see no reason why a woman can't have it all; success, fame, good home, sexy body, lovely kids and so on. The ultimate decision is deciding whether you are going to see marriage as an obstacle or an opportunity, are you going to see it as a negative or a positive? After all the richest woman in Africa (Alakija) enjoyed the benefits of marriage! So in totality, the Nigerian society is actually doing single successful women a huge favor by being on their case, as I am yet to see a 40 year old woman who can truly say she's happy being single without kids and with no regrets!

As much as a married woman with kids can be unhappy, as much can a 40-year-old unmarried woman without kids be happy.

Men really have much to suffer in this world. First, they have to accept responsibility for their own failings and at the same time answer for why women struggle in their own lives.

It's always a man's fault and women are supposedly the better half, as well as the disadvantaged specie of the both sexes. What a terrible attitude from the African woman feminist wannabe.