I know you must have gone through horrible experience BUT as a christian always learn how to forgive.It is by divine provision that you were able to achieve this.FORGIVE!!!!!

This op is really slow.
He comes here and splashes his identity in full hoping to get a pity-party and to top it up, he now tells his prospective employers here on Nairaland how he cleaned out his classmates in school to his own benefit?
And he thinks his classmates that he cleaned out are not raining curses on him as we type? Anybody that employs you or does business with you runs the risk of being duped as you have shown that you lack integrity.

You just may not be that different from your father afterall.

makasimatics:


well, it's not me sha. but the corper who puts on both NYSC crested vest and the jacket is my friend who encountered such from his father.

he is presently searching for job

1st, that shii is sooo wrong. If he loves his ma, he just put her in deep shii. His name, status...all e remain na to put house address. Nkan to ma se, inu e lo ye ko wa, not give all his entire nomenclature

This OP na learner oooo

So you don't know that life is a higher institution of learning?

Now that you have gotten your BSc in mathematics, you are still studying for a degree in Forgiveness, make sure you graduate else you won't forgive yourself for not forgiving your father in this life.

Uchan4u:


Remember this is Africa don't underestimate the role of a father. Sponsoring him through school is just one of them but not all. He needs his father even more now than before

rubbish!!
the father had since lost his role in the guy's life.
ooh yeah!! this is Africa? where people think demons cause malaria?

The Bible says honor your father and mother, so that your days will be long on earth, It didn't give a condition for that.
I could be painful and difficult but for a better future forgive him.

Don't be silly oh@op you just called him father!

dare2differ:
What is wrong with not being alive?

what is wrong is that, he won't be able to witness the comedy of the people in power and the present economy of nigeria and tell stories of it.

makasimatics:
I am Chukwuma Edozie,from Ogbunike, In Oyi Local government Area,Anambra State.
since I was born, I have never experienced any positive behavior from my father.
He has proved to be a difficult person.
in fact! to the best of my knowledge, he is a very cuny,greedy,and selfish human being.

He would make money but would rather invest it on harlots instead of we the children who are interested in education. In fact, one of his stupid friend had advised him one certain time to not waste his money in the name of training us in the university. " secondary school level is enough for us ", the man said. I don't know if that was what contributed in making my father to neglect me when I was in the university reading mathematics.
Even,amid my days in the versity, I used to take some bags of rice and tin of life vegetable oil to our house without receiving any ' thanks ' from any body though, my mum would sometimes appreciate. I did all those because of the money I generated in my class as a course rep.

Now I have graduated and gone for service in peace after training my self in the university.

With these experiences, I want to know if somebody would blame me if I fail to appreciate him as my father in case I get a work in the future.
Now he tries to come close to me because, he believes that I have conquered

After abandoning me in the campus to die, he still wants to reap the benefits of what he never merited.

well, I think I know what is is my mind.

My 2cent advice!! My guy life @times is funny to view alone. Let me ask you one single question, have you not seen parent that labored so much on the education of their kids and at the end of the day the children refused to take care of their parents??

You need to change your orientation about those who hurt you especially your biological parents, thank God you stood your ground to get that degree despite his neglect.

Just forgive him and pretend nothing happens because you still have a long way to go and you need FAVOR as you proceed in getting a good job, getting every goodies of life. You can't afford to move on with HEAVY HEART because you won't go far if the grudge is still in your heart.

At least he sent you to SSCE level, if only you know the great favor u've had because so many kids are out there praying to have someone to call a FATHER.

Finally, show some love to him bro and naturally some day he will call you to seek your forgiveness for his neglect while in school.

makasimatics:
I am Chukwuma Edozie,from Ogbunike, In Oyi Local government Area,Anambra State.
since I was born, I have never experienced any positive behavior from my father.
He has proved to be a difficult person.
in fact! to the best of my knowledge, he is a very cuny,greedy,and selfish human being.

He would make money but would rather invest it on harlots instead of we the children who are interested in education. In fact, one of his stupid friend had advised him one certain time to not waste his money in the name of training us in the university. " secondary school level is enough for us ", the man said. I don't know if that was what contributed in making my father to neglect me when I was in the university reading mathematics.
Even,amid my days in the versity, I used to take some bags of rice and tin of life vegetable oil to our house without receiving any ' thanks ' from any body though, my mum would sometimes appreciate. I did all those because of the money I generated in my class as a course rep.

Now I have graduated and gone for service in peace after training my self in the university.

With these experiences, I want to know if somebody would blame me if I fail to appreciate him as my father in case I get a work in the future.
Now he tries to come close to me because, he believes that I have conquered

After abandoning me in the campus to die, he still wants to reap the benefits of what he never merited.

well, I think I know what is is my mind.

forgive him but critical decisions in your life should not involve him. That's all

I bu onye iberibe
.

I bu onye iberibe
.

My man your father is even above typical African father,at least he trained u past primary sch,you should thank your God.

Many don't even know who their is.

We all have different stories,but yours is better than many.

Love your neighbors as yourself,talkless of yr father.

Did he have d moni he didn't train u up ? Only if he have d moni nd he refuse 2 train u up u can pushing him a little

Some of u sayin 4giv im dnt knw hw it feel having an irresponsible father especially wen he av oda bad altitude on top of it,i wnt wish an enemy such father.bt at least your father is much beta dan many of such fathers awt there

we train ourselves in school this days guy, forgive him and move on. though, na him and God get the glory sha.

ammyluv2002:
Wow! You're a star


Impressive

all this NL babes too dey fall for sweet story. Oya me sef the last school fees my father paid for me was in Nursery 1, now he brags about me and all.

Dear op, please forgive your father. Even give him money when and if you have. But please don't let him decide on how you leave your life. Don't let him determine your decisions and your happiness. For example, who to marry, where to settle down, etc
Fathers like yours do like to reap from where they did not sow. Trust me, I am talking from experience.

1.Never discuss UR Problems with everyone,
20% will not Care&
80% will be Glad that U have Them.
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2.Life is similar to a Boxing Game.
Defeat is not Declared when U Fall Down.
It is Declared when U Refuse to Get Up.
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3.It is Always the WRONG PEOPLE who Teach the RIGHT L‎ESSONS in Life.
That is called LIFE EXPERIENCE.
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4.Everything is Valuable only on two occasions:
1: Before Getting It.‎
2: After Losing It.
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5.Two Places are most Valuable in the World:
1: The NICEST Place is to be in s‎omeone's Thoughts.‎‎
2: The SAFEST Place is to be in s‎omeone's Prayers‎
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6. 'EGO' is the only Requirement
Which Destroys any Relationship.
Be a Bigger Person, ‎Skip the 'E' & let it 'GO'.
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7.As long as We do not 4give People who have hurt Us,T‎hey Occupy a 'RENT-FREE-SPACE' i‎n our Mind.
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8.I asked GOD: If everything is already Written in Destiny, then ‎why should I Pray ?
GOD Smiled & said: I have also Written 'CONDITIONS APPLY'.
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9.Empty Pockets Teach Millions of Things in Life.
BUT Full Pockets Spoil Us in Million Ways.
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10.TRUST is like a Sticker.
Once it is Removed, it may Stick again,but not as Strong as it Holds ‎when U First Applied.‎
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11.Never Win People with Arguments.Rather Defeat Them with UR Smile. Because People who always Wish to
Argue with U, cannot Bear UR SILENCE.‎
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12.'MEMORIES' are always Special. Sometimes,We Laugh by remembering D days We Cried& sometimes,We Cry by‎
Remembering the days We Laughed.Thats LIFE.                         
"We love ourselves even after making so many mistakes; then how can we hate others 4 their small mistakes?Strange but t‎rue!Make habit of forgiving. 4giveness is the sweetest revenge". Have ä great day.

umehmj:
My guy you are lucky he trained you up to secondary school level. the last school fees my dad paid for me was in primary 2, that was the last time i spent like a solid 1 week with him too.

now he brags about me and all.

holding grudges against him is holding yourself down. forgive him, you need to forgive him more than he needs to be forgiven.

All the best.

op shey u hear ? your complaining that they didn't give u meat for your rice meanwhile this person wasn't given rice at all. at least ur father tried for u to sec school. some their father's didn't accept them, drove them out of the house etc.... and point of correction.....stop praising ur self that you conquered etc. just appreciate God (I DIDNT SEE YOU AVKNOWLEDGE GOD IN UR POST. ITS JUST I CONQUERED, I FINISHED, I BOUGHT RICE ETC. YOU DONT KNOW THAT IT WAS GOD ALL THE WAY ABI?)

meanwhile you said u generated money from being a class rep abi? in other words you were stealing and scoping your class mates abi? its well

Mr seun I got banned for no reason and I would be glad if you can look into it cus I believe is a mistake from the mod or the antispam...thanks


https://www.nairaland.com/3032110/fiancee-beat-meshould-forgive-him/1#44472037

herkzprince:


Google it ..Bro
Argument of the day.
Wikipedia : I know everything. Google : I have everything. Facebook : I know everybody. Internet : Without me, you are all nothing. NEPA: Keep talking …we shall see.

Solar powerbank is waiting to see.

Fanirandele:
This is why such men keep abandoning there responsibilities towards their children since they know how sentimental Africans are

Forgive him sure but if you ever give him all the same things you give a real parent who took care of their children all through then what has he learnt?

All I'm learning from this thread is fathers feel free to abandon your kids. You will still reap at the end abi

This is why men will keep abandoning their kids

The next generation of men who will be irresponsible to their children and expect the same kids to show up with love after the hardwork are reading this thread happily. They too cannot wait to run away from their responsibilities and then show up spewing sentiments in their old age.

The OP said the man had the money but spent it on oloshos outside and some are STILL BLAMING HIS MOTHER FOR THIS (that his mum kept them away or maybe his mum gave his dad reason to suspect he's not their father). It is always a woman's fault on NL.

U have ur own life to live! forget abt ur father, even if he sponsor u in university,before u recall him u have give prostitute a lot of money and spend for ur self "u are responsible for ur failure"

ClinicalHope:
Nwanne madu biko forgive and pay him back with kindness, I mean lots and lots of kindness we all have family issues but come to think of it, there is a divine reason why God gave you Daddy focus on the bright side of life, don't give up and don't stop Praying for your dad. I will be waiting to hear your testimony.

Africans and sentiment, what you said is the reason why there will never be changes in our society when people continue to reap where they never sow. All his father friend and everyone in there village who knows the story will surely follow the trend. Fatherhood and Motherhood is beyond just giving birth. Whenever people refers to someone as a father, it is beyond giving birth, responsibility is what makes you a father not impregnating a woman.

I share in your grief but your father is still your father.
By the way, if you continue to think you would not care for your father, that bible verse wey say regard your father fit even no allow you get better job self

makasimatics:
I am Chukwuma Edozie,from Ogbunike, In Oyi Local government Area,Anambra State.
since I was born, I have never experienced any positive behavior from my father.
He has proved to be a difficult person.
in fact! to the best of my knowledge, he is a very cuny,greedy,and selfish human being.

He would make money but would rather invest it on harlots instead of we the children who are interested in education. In fact, one of his stupid friend had advised him one certain time to not waste his money in the name of training us in the university. " secondary school level is enough for us ", the man said. I don't know if that was what contributed in making my father to neglect me when I was in the university reading mathematics.
Even,amid my days in the versity, I used to take some bags of rice and tin of life vegetable oil to our house without receiving any ' thanks ' from any body though, my mum would sometimes appreciate. I did all those because of the money I generated in my class as a course rep.

Now I have graduated and gone for service in peace after training my self in the university.

With these experiences, I want to know if somebody would blame me if I fail to appreciate him as my father in case I get a work in the future.
Now he tries to come close to me because, he believes that I have conquered

After abandoning me in the campus to die, he still wants to reap the benefits of what he never merited.

well, I think I know what is is my mind.

"bags of rice and tins of oil you bought with money you generated as COURSE REP". Lord have mercy on the average Nigerian. You lost all credibility d moment you gleefully typed that!

my friend, you should thank God for giving you a Father, and also, you are the one that needs your father's forgiveness not him, because you can only make it to the heaven if you respect your parents,do you know how he struggle to train you from baby to adult, can u thank him for that,believe the earlier you understand it the better, you can't progress both in this life and hereafter if you keep single malies in your herat against your parents, be careful.

makasimatics:
I am Chukwuma Edozie,from Ogbunike, In Oyi Local government Area,Anambra State.
since I was born, I have never experienced any positive behavior from my father.
He has proved to be a difficult person.
in fact! to the best of my knowledge, he is a very cuny,greedy,and selfish human being.

He would make money but would rather invest it on harlots instead of we the children who are interested in education. In fact, one of his stupid friend had advised him one certain time to not waste his money in the name of training us in the university. " secondary school level is enough for us ", the man said. I don't know if that was what contributed in making my father to neglect me when I was in the university reading mathematics.
Even,amid my days in the versity, I used to take some bags of rice and tin of life vegetable oil to our house without receiving any ' thanks ' from any body though, my mum would sometimes appreciate. I did all those because of the money I generated in my class as a course rep.

Now I have graduated and gone for service in peace after training my self in the university.

With these experiences, I want to know if somebody would blame me if I fail to appreciate him as my father in case I get a work in the future.
Now he tries to come close to me because, he believes that I have conquered

After abandoning me in the campus to die, he still wants to reap the benefits of what he never merited.

well, I think I know what is is my mind.

Even though you were able to forgive your father, the law of kamal may still take it course by now not allowing him to eat the fruit which seed he did not sow...I'm saying this from alot of observations.

Hmm...... I think you should just do ur part as his child by making him happy or make ur parent happy... Give them wat ever they request for, forget wat dae did to u cos God is the best of all judges.

Abeg Park well joor. Na today that one dey happen?
I went to university all by myself and was equally assisting my younger brother who was also in the polytechnic at the same time. In fact my father's own is worse, anytime he noticed we are in dire need he would form "I am not your father". When you don sort yourself out you go become his children again.
Come see as e dey form big man for my graduation and wedding.
Na u sabi if you wan forgive him or not. Not our business.
By the way, wetin your mother talk?

[quote author=makasimatics post=44455058]I am Chukwuma Edozie,from Ogbunike, In Oyi Local government Area,Anambra State.
since I was born, I have never experienced any positive behavior from my father.
He has proved to be a difficult person.
in fact! to the best of my knowledge, he is a very cuny,greedy,and selfish human being.

He would make money but would rather invest it on harlots instead of we the children who are interested in education. In fact, one of his stupid friend had advised him one certain time to not waste his money in the name of training us in the university. " secondary school level is enough for us ", the man said. I don't know if that was what contributed in making my father to neglect me when I was in the university reading mathematics.
Even,amid my days in the versity, I used to take some bags of rice and tin of life vegetable oil to our house without receiving any ' thanks ' from any body though, my mum would sometimes appreciate. I did all those because of the money I generated in my class as a course rep.

Now I have graduated and gone for service in peace after training my self in the university.

With these experiences, I want to know if somebody would blame me if I fail to appreciate him as my father in case I get a work in the future.
Now he tries to come close to me because, he believes that I have conquered

After abandoning me in the campus to die, he still wants to reap the benefits of what he never merited.

well, I think I know what is is my mind.


It is very simple, you too owns him no responsibility, even at his old age. Do not allow sentiment to set in. Most people hear are saying trash that he is still your father, but that is not the issue hear, because you didn't ask if you should stop calling him your father. If you become billionaire tomorrow, pls stay away from him. If he didn't value you as a boy, he should take the same stand when u are also also man, if he doesn't want to, remind him of his previous position and tell him to maintain it.