mamachizzy:
its funny how guys are calling her names. but if the case were reversed, they will change their stance., One thing people fail to understand is if u are owing somebody and u decide to avoid that person just because u can't pay back the money yet, it looks like u are trying to dupe the person.
what happened to "baby I am sorry I haven't been able to raise the money yet. I will pay u back as soon as I can. just be patient my love"

supersystemsnig:



Highly speculative...Why not find the few good ones than worry over the ones that are still climbing up but not entirely as bad as you portray them?

supersystemsnig:



I don't take money from ladies oh. May God spare my life from challenges that will push me to asking a lady to loan me money. My investment crashed some weeks back, could have asked for help from a lady, i watched it crashed and was fulfilled....I won't tarnish myself before anyone..Lai lai...

supersystemsnig:



I don't take money from ladies oh. May God spare my life from challenges that will push me to asking a lady to loan me money. My investment crashed some weeks back, could have asked for help from a lady, i watched it crashed and was fulfilled....I won't tarnish myself before anyone..Lai lai...

nkwuocha:


And what stops him from picking her calls or trying not to see her?Guy abeg the niggar na scam

supersystemsnig:


If i'm your husband, i'll know. I'll checkup your text messages from time to time

pedrilo:
no wonder, u be typical house wife. doh

alexialin:





Is there a placard stamped on the forehead of the good guys?

The bad guys have outnumbered the good guys in great numbers.

And That's fact.

sekem:


I'm telling you

Any wise man who really likes his life should learn how to be very very very careful when dealing with women

They way the reason and even act at times is enough to make you think twice

YelloweWest:

PROUDLY!!

But please add legal practitioner and business woman to that!

supersystemsnig:



Bingo, another sane person. I have hope i'mma marry a Nigerian chick, this elates my soul and spirit. Bingo...


Healthy reasoning... Why should someone who setup a company run away....


Anyways, i just remembered i saw some guys who dupe people last year, they target factories tell them they will help them import machines from China and all, once they get full payment cause buyers have to pay plus shipment charges before transaction, they start making excuses, there's a possibility the guy has been scammed by these kind of guys and doesn't know how to confront his chick... I'll advise her to get the guy back if the guy lose the cash somehow, she gets her man and the marriage and the money in future through some other form, the guy would trust and love her all the more because of her faithfulness...What do you think?

Sterope:
You are being sexist and you know it.



Now, you are confusing yourself. He borrowed the money. The money as not gift or a romantic gesture. It was a debt like every other debt. Don't confuse the two.

Your friend did a charitable act. Good for him.He is a caring guy, I appaid6 him for that. However, you can't conclude that he would move on if things do not work out. People do not move on like that, man or woman. There are more threads on this forum with men crying wolf because a lady that have sent on jilted them. I am not a woman behavior. Men are as guilty as women. You don't need to have a penis to see that.

missyadorable:


You will need a very good IT expert and hacker to hack my mobile devices.Good luck!

mamachizzy:
its funny how guys are calling her names. but if the case were reversed, they will change their stance., One thing people fail to understand is if u are owing somebody and u decide to avoid that person just because u can't pay back the money yet, it looks like u are trying to dupe the person.
what happened to "baby I am sorry I haven't been able to raise the money yet. I will pay u back as soon as I can. just be patient my love"

pedrilo:
i wee not add it, come and beat me ma

nkwuocha:


Oh! You felt he choosed her based on the highlighted.Why then is he not playing his own path by being transparent and available?

elantraceey:


Exactly, people react to problems differeny albeit unwisely sometimes, it could have just been tension that made him unable to communicate with her well and her reaction worsened everything (I could be wrong though ) . All these makes me wonder what kind of communication they had before the money issue came in.

Blackhawk01:


Hian! Your own case is strong ooo, there's nothing bad in asking anyone for assistance instead of watching your business crash. Egotistic much.

So, you finding your feet back?

WORLDPEACE:

From the way they've handled things ba? Do you think he has duped her?

NoToPile:
Silly people everywhere as usual they must blame the woman.

When I say nairalanders have comprehension issues it seems I exaggerate .
It seems people didn't read where she said things have returned back to normal in the company after the engineers worked on the problem.

No explanations , not picking calls is a bad signal and shows signs of irresponsibility, I wouldn't advice anyone to marry such a person

Madam OP your 500k has dissapeared , count your losses, try to get the little you can get back .

Some people are saying ordinary 500k as if they can lend it out 10k that they lend someone they will be screaming to the heavens.

Nonsense.

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
.
.
Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
.
After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

Blackhawk01:


Hahahaha

See aunty Loveth oooo. Apologize for not trusting him you say? Trust is fvckin earned, Missy.

And whatever gave you the impression that her first reasons for calling him were not "care and support" and she only got worried when he wasn't answering his calls.

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

nkwuocha:
Wow!There was supposed to be am interest?
Wow,I love this lady. She is focused. [/b]Not until she allowed the desperation to get married about to mess things up for her.[b]

Try to establish communication again, try as much as you can.If he is still not endulging, lock him up!

humilitypays:
Me and my friends discuss women cunning nature....we laugh about it...we are well aware of it. I even reminded him that when he messaged me to help him do the transfer, he laughed that if she decides to do that, she will be the one loosing because she will miss a lot na lol

A man only cry for what he spent on a lady if:

1. He never swimmed across the lady's blue sea lol, of which no soji guy will spend on a girl that much when he has not crossed the Atlantic Ocean lol

2. He later became broke and the girl ran lol....but as e be now sha, na only God and death fit make person go broke sha‎


Now to your calling me a sexist, lol...I am not o, cos I love women so much lol, but I think the lady must have‎ unknowingly insulated the guy or made him feel regret borrowing from her....women and their money be like monkey and banana, u don't touch women's money o....i don't ever see myself accepting a dime from any woman; God won't let me lack to that extent, God abeg o. I don't even consider women rich enough to help a man no matter who she is....women (be it your girlfriend o, fiance o, wife o) money should be avoided by any sane man who want his integrity in tact!

supersystemsnig:


IT expert over 10 years experience. Ethical hacker...I'll have you hacked if i needed within hours...The last time a guy bragged like you in a cafe i was mad, it took me just two hours to change his password to make him feel sorry....

I'm now repented sha, so you're safe...