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Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by pocohantas(f): 12:36pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ikevictor: Thank you for speaking life into this thread. I was already seeing lots of sentimental responses. The child had a birth cert before OP came along. Ahnahn!!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by olagoke157(m): 1:03pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Onyenna: Please how can i get in touch with the person |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by gechyy2(f): 1:12pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
OP Your wife got it wrong, for the fact you accepted her and her baby she would have naturally adopted your name for her baby, after all the boy is just 2..haba so young to be emotionally unstable because as he grows up he'll definitely ask questions..why im I bearing a different name from my siblings? Dats not good atall, there is time for everything. There will be a time it will be right to break the news to him, but before then he should have been attached emotionally with his step dad and siblings sharing everything in common including surnames. Please for the emotional stability of your family let him bear your own name so that he will not see himself as different from an early age..that will cost you alot. Affidavits can be sworn for change of name. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by ayokellany: 1:12pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Benita27: Your point is absolutely right but how you communicate your msg is absolutely pathetic. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Naijabams(m): 1:17pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Bro this is pathetic but if it was to be me I will call my wife sit her down and tell her to return the child to his father that this wasn't our aggrement wen you met her I hate to see rubbish like this pls try and call for family meeting and let the family say something about this ,let them know that you won't be taking responsibilities if som1s els blood that they should take their son and let you concentrate on what to do ....be serious bro abd move into action ....shit 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:26pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
dingbang:what's your advice ? |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by chrisogbe: 1:40pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
My brother put ur mind at ease n enjoy ur marriage. Thank God almighty u av a child already n ur daughter will definitely av a relationship with ur step son in future. The way u handle issues concerning ur step son now will affect all of that. Just accept him as ur step son, provide for him like u would ur son and watch this,u will be glad u did when in future u look back n consider d bold decision n d sacrifice u made to ensure a happy family. Think about it! |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ayokellany:You're more pathetic if you failed to process the message. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by IDKadiri: 1:58pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Hi, when did you find out that she had a child? before of after marriage? and if after marriage had she had your own child before you found out? ray121: |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Ajagunhope: 2:06pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Is sad that she didn't tell you she already had a child before the wedding.... She can't be trusted. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 2:32pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
midolian:Well said 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by periphetes: 2:32pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Op, I want you to always remember the father will come back for his son in future or the son will request to see his biological father. Then the truth of his circumstance between father and mother wil be revealed. Stop bothering yourself now it's too late your married to her already. Play your part as a step father and carry the cross you have chosen. This are one of the repercussion of a woman initial wrong way of living. Now your caught up in the lifetime mess of worrying, doubt and suspicion. You can't adopt another man child while his father is alive unless by his consent and signed agreement with the lady. Most single ladies will lie, pretend and say anything just to get pitied by the new man. Now she will be strongly trying to make you take another man child as yours in all ramification. as a wise man you should have conducted proper investigation about the lady family, herself, son and father before jumping into marriage with her. As for me I can't accept such, I would prefer a non Virgin than a single parent. Only if the woman was raped by UNKNOWN assailant but God forbid bad thing x3 If you had known earlier before marriage, you should have gotten your lawyer to contact the boy father. To Hear what he has to say about his son accepting or denying his responsibility.(you become justified from any allegation in future. ) Later it can be used as evidence in future, not just accepting what a woman says. Anyway you did it because of love and to please her lol Finally Bros I give you kudos!!! ooo, you try no be small. Many ladies out there with no child outside wedlock. But You chose to start your first generation and home with a single parent. You must be a white man your Love for her is strong oo, , I hope she feels same way with you. HML 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 2:34pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
midolian:Well said, wife that's busy praying for the baby daddy to hold major political appointment so she can use the boy as an edge to run back to him.. She's manipulative 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Oyindidi(f): 2:34pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Xmen149:Crazy ex |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by IDKadiri: 2:58pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Exactly, he hasnt given us enough info on this... ashjay001: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 3:02pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
xule20: God bless U. What u wrote above will surely happen in due time. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Onyenna(m): 3:27pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
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Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Xmen149(m): 3:34pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Oyindidi: |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by josite: 3:43pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ray121: you must be a very stupid man.first u marry a lady without knowing she has a child and gain you expect her to register the child with her father's name because it is her father that give her belle. u will learn not to buy market without proper pricing,suegbe. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by nairanaira12: 3:52pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ray121: She wants to have her cake and eat it. She wants to eat from both sides and she is using you to achieve this shameless, selfish intention. She gave the boy that surname because she wants an identity with the man's family. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by kenoyad: 4:17pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ray121:this is a result of desperation, how can you settled down with a woman you didn't really know? if you have dated deeply for at least six months, you would know she's a single mother even if she didn't tells you and that would have led to the end of the relationship. imagine, the child is not even on her name but on the father's name. I'm sure you still entrust your life and future in such a woman's hand? no one is above mistakes oooooo, but if it's me here, she's a single mother again cos I would break up with her without any hesitation. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by kenoyad: 4:30pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
[quote author=zaynie post=62637584]The child can't bear her father's name. Unless he denied the pregnancy and all fingers point that the boy is a bastardd. For the sake of the child, the child needs to bear his father's name especially as he is a boy. His father's name is every part of his identity. I can't even wrap my head around you having issues with the boy bearing his father's name. If you and your woman went your ways would you want her to revert your child's name to her father's? Please stop acting insecure before you ruin your marriage. Ray121[/quote certainly, this is what you can also do? see woman, see gobe.......... see gbege!!! woman Na real devil and Na devil be woman! |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 4:35pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
You deserves an AWARD plus a trailer-load of cash price for your wise advise. rychard: |
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Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 4:44pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Initially I never knew she had a son but when i got to know i accepted my fate and moving on. Result of Immaturity & Desperation - I second your motion 100%. kenoyad: |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by NoToPile: 4:45pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Lots of hypocritical responses on this thread. Would you prefer he bears her maiden name? Because I don't understand what the hullabo is all about. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 5:01pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
You were young and immature to get yourself into this marriage. Counseling is all you need right now from your pastor/imam and your parents. Many single mothers are ACCIDENT waiting to happen, they are like a petrol trailer going down on a hill without a driver. Get your parents along. ray121: |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Afonjanightmare(m): 5:12pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
preetyb:Well said, but it's strange to me sha, anyway it's his life |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by jonadaft: 5:23pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ray121:This is mysteriously fooooooolish Having sex with someone whose child is not even up to 2 years and you never knew Girl wey don get belle b4 sef we go know talk more of born pikin. I WILL NEVER HAVE ANY BUSINESS WITH A SINGLE MOTHER> NEVER! My advise for you is to divorce that woman. There is no love in your relationship. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by jonadaft: 5:33pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Jesse01:You are the most foolish fools like you are like the op how can a man be sleepy with a lady who just gave birth and lactating and wont know? Did you read the story at all? |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by ray121: 6:17pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Thanks to everyone. God will lead me. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:21pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Some men can never help for free and just do good, for the sake of God and his so called love for his wife. Mr op, the child you are talking about, is not yours The mother have every right to name his father's name. And such act should not cause problems in your home. Because u are training that boy, does not mean u need to claim him As yours when. U know fully well, last last he will go back to his dad. So just remove eye on his father's name and focus on doing good. For me o, the woman didn't do anything wrong. She's simply giving that child is rightful identity. That's all. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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