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Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by ayokellany: 6:21pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Benita27:Shame ! Like I said earlier pathetic altitude even though you made a valid point. Work on your altitude girl, I got no time for kiddies tirade on NL. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 6:25pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
[quote author=kenoyad post=62648797][/quote] God bless you. That's the boy's true identity. Whether anyone like it or not. Or whether the boy's father is rich or not. You cannot take that identity from the child. It's selfish of the op to even think of such. If he can't cope, he can divorce his wife and marry a lady who has no child for another man. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Windflower(f): 7:24pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
The only reason she might be at fault is not letting you know that she had a baby ,asides that there is no biggie in her child bearing the fathers name,speaking from experience. I have an elder sis and my dad has been the one taking care of her from day one,even after she did her nce degree,he is still sponsoring her university education, its not like he is rich or has surplus money but he has taken her to be one of his,no one even knows she is not his blood except family and guess what,she is still bearing her fathers name.As God would even have it she is the only sister I have. The only reason you are concerned is because of the affluent family and I think ure just intimidated by it. Between,forgetting the name issue do you love this child as your own,do you want to raise him cos if not there will be an issue. You can't marry a single mother without her child too |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by jpphilips(m): 7:30pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ray121: You dont keep another man's child under your roof regardless the circumstances. before you married her, you should ask her to return the boy to the father because that is where his inheritance lies, should you have your own son , both of them will kill eachother. To forestall the whole drama, so long as it is a son, he must be returned before you marry their mother, for the girls, no issues, her name will change in the future afterall. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by jpphilips(m): 7:36pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Windflower: Your father played by an age long rule the OP is yet to understand, the only reason your father did what he did was because the child in question is a girl, were it a guy, your family would have ended up like the Ojukwu's. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by seunfape(m): 7:36pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
Wetting be my own |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by jpphilips(m): 8:14pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ikevictor: Your wife defeated you with superior intelligence after all the baby mama shit, they hang it on rookies like yourself, Do you know that several sane ladies wont marry you if you carry such baggage? anyways some folks are addicted to tokumbo shaa. dont be deceived, birth certificate is the only legal document the boy has you can still go back to the same hospital and write another with your name on which all other credentials will be built. ie if your wife is pulling such unintelligent stunt. finally, keeping another man's son under your roof is a time bomb. especially when you intend to have sons of your own. The baby mama craze wont end if men like you continue falling for their antics. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by ikevictor: 8:31pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
jpphilips: 1. I am still trying to understand the point in your message. 2. Thanks for referring to me as a man however 3. I would rather stick to my faithful wife and save the happiness of my innocent family, than abide by the thoughtlessness of an inexperienced and egotistic nairaland boy who might still be living under his mother's roof. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by seuncyrus(m): 9:28pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
josite: LOL , bros you harsh oh ...but come to think of it 2 kids within 2-3 years one for the OP , and even the boy is just a year plus ...didn't they court at all or was it during the courtship she gave birth ? I think the lady is just taking advantage of his weakness ...tbh the OP sounds somehow. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Coolgent(m): 10:15pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
ray121:. Had it been she is a Muslim i cpuld have say she acted according to Hadith, nevertheless to me its nothing dont judge her love to u on this mere issue. Who knows your step son wil be the one to take care of you in the near future. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by jpphilips(m): 4:26am On Nov 24, 2017 |
ikevictor: 1) The message was never for men with very low IQ whose wives justify keeping the product of her "baby mama" trophy probably used to be her ego booster on social media in her hay days, with an unintelligent excuse of birth certificate, you just proved that you are dumb to be f00led with such cheap stunt. 2) since you didn't understand the message, I will spare you further details of the dangers of raising another man's son. you think you are being the great daddy? lol such unintelligence and myopic. On your first son's 21st birthday, the Op must have learnt his lessons, you will open a thread asking for advise on the same subject. I always say this, most of the pettiness women display in our so called modern society is as a result of failures parading themselves as men. When I thought that desperation for sex is the lowest a man can go and now this? To believe it sounds ok to you is an indicator you need urgent psyche evaluation. In the past, a man or woman won't dare have a child outside wedlock, why? because she will kiss matrimony goodbye except she goes back to her child's father, while the man will never marry from a decent home. today, single parenthood is done with impunity while those in marriage behave so badly that they are always ready to quit to become single parents then take the pleasure of flouting such abomination on social media. The reason is because men like you have failed man and God. Men like you have allowed the abominable become the norm. Victims of rape still have 48hrs contraceptive thanks to advancement in medical science, what other reason does a sane person have to keep such abomination? It is bad enough we are having premarital sex, the society has no sympathy for any woman who opens her legs without proper sex education because in our present world, pregnancy is the least of your worries if you have spent as much time I have in the emergency room. Ojukwu's story could have been a lesson to those of you who have chosen to wrap their heads with abomination. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by tuscani: 6:42am On Nov 24, 2017 |
First all brother, I see two things, your wife had trust issues , she is desperate, and care more about herself than the family both of you are trying to build. From your post, it means she became pregnant for you when her son was about one or less than one, for the fact that she was able to conceal the baby, and even get married and have a daughter for you defines her level of secrecy desperation and her personal values. You really need be careful. To you, I know you are one of those too much of a good guy, I mean one the guys that prefers peace all the time. The truth is that I fall in that category, and we are always easy prey for women who are cunning. Well love you more when you wield an element of fear and strong headedness. If you had dealt with the issue of she not telling you about the child she had brutally, she would have been very scared to try anything without your consent. Trust me on this, if he s away easily with not telling you about her previous son, expect more. Don't get me wrong, women like behave so well at times that you think you are being unfair to her, bro it's a big lie. They are very calculative, they size up their spouses and know the outcome and the decisions their spouses will take in a every issue, these women sincerely don't give a damn once they need something. Good luck, rise up and be a man. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by tuscani: 6:44am On Nov 24, 2017 |
First all brother, I see two things, your wife had trust issues , she is desperate, and care more about herself than the family both of you are trying to build. From your post, it means she became pregnant for you when her son was about one or less than one, for the fact that she was able to conceal the baby, and even get married and have a daughter for you defines her level of secrecy desperation and her personal values. You really need be careful. To you, I know you are one of those too much of a good guy, I mean one the guys that prefers peace all the time. The truth is that I fall in that category, and we are always easy prey for women who are cunning. Well love you more when you wield an element of fear and strong headedness. If you had dealt with the issue of she not telling you about the child she had brutally, she would have been very scared to try anything without your consent. Trust me on this, if he s away easily with not telling you about her previous son, expect more. Don't get me wrong, women like behave so well at times that you think you are being unfair to her, bro it's a big lie. They are very calculative, they size up their spouses and know the outcome and the decisions their spouses will take in a every issue, these women sincerely don't give a damn once they need something. Good luck, rise up and be a man. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 7:35am On Nov 24, 2017 |
Sound funny but Gospel TRUTH. More Grease to your brain. jpphilips: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 7:50am On Nov 24, 2017 |
She is an accident waiting to happen - the boy need a serious counseling. Ajagunhope: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 7:57am On Nov 24, 2017 |
You are a good counselor - he need to meet with you face to face for a proper counseling. efighter: |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by LeanonGOD(m): 8:34am On Nov 24, 2017 |
One of the sad things of raising someone else's child is to see the biological father suddenly pop up at the son's graduations - hugging and taking pictures with the child he had never contributed anything significant. The second sad thing is to see your wife and her baby father sitting in the front row at their son's wedding while you the Samaritan father is just a mere-spectator - this not a Nollywood movie, this is real. As long as the child's father is ALIVE, don't go after baby mama - it is an accident waiting to happen. jpphilips: 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by ikevictor: 8:39am On Nov 24, 2017 |
jpphilips: What an epistle...i couldn't read. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Moji12(f): 6:27pm On Nov 24, 2017 |
ray121:. Mr. Op I sincerely credit ur good gesture, caring for another man's child such is very rare. If I were ur wife, I will never allow u cater to another man's responsibility since he's not answering ur name. Bn a fatherly figure in his life is enough. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by lastmaster(m): 3:50pm On Nov 26, 2017 |
This is one of the reasons I can't marry a single mother. |
Re: My Wife Had A Son For Another Man, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 1:12am On Nov 27, 2017 |
Jonathan:and d Mods did not banned u, I swear, I 4 tell u waiting dey mind if not because of one thing, contiune. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
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