Okay so my boyfriend has travelled back to his home village in anambra state and pls don't judge but I see some messages with him and his friend about meeting some girls. Will anyone pls be kind to tell me exactly if I am correct, because they in pidgin and I don't want to overstep if I worry for no reason. Pls tell me if u can help me

"WE" are what u call THIRD PARTIES..... so pls this is not an issue you should throw out here. KINDLY sit your man down and have what is called a
CONVERSATION

if honesty is not present when u share your concerns and the future of the relationship then do not expect loyalty.

Whitegrlinnaija:
Okay so my boyfriend has travelled back to his home village in anambra state and pls don't judge but I see some messages with him and his friend about meeting some girls. Will anyone pls be kind to tell me exactly if I am correct, because they in pidgin and I don't want to overstep if I worry for no reason. Pls tell me if u can help me

IamKashyBaby:

Do u have any "receipts" to back up ur allegations?

Receipt?? Are you serious right now??....lol

Are they really worth the stress? He may/may not be cheating...Only God knows the heart of MEN...there are still few good ones among them, though.
Please, worry less.

Ur brain is already look for cheating,everything about him will look like cheat to u...

thank you for the replies. I understand you think I should talk with him or not judge. Let me share the messages I have seen and I will let you see. I was told by two Nigerian friends that these show he is planning to meet with girls.

Boyfriend: sends selfie

Friend: Lol that fat face
Friend: I dey arrange something for u

Boyfriend: hehehe
Boyfriend: No form my hand o

Friend: Lol let me know when u need am

Boyfriend: Which level be that I fit show tomorrow or next

Friend: Na one one girl way dey awka I go reason her to come with her friend
Friend: But I still get one small girl for onitsha she wan cum with her friend too

Boyfriend: Okay
Boyfriend: You get her friend picture

Friend: Nope but let

He may not be cheating on you ma'am. Many anambra men love to hang out, have some champagne around sexy girls but will end up not going to bed with any.

I'm talking from experience.

@captainjeffry I appreciate this but he is not usually the man to worry too much about women. I suppose I am also concerned because we live apart now and he tell me hes home with family all of the time. He does not work and I send the money for him and his family now. We are applying for visa for him to come to love in my country which I almost paying more than $10k for and I was just about to book flights for him to holiday for me that will cost $5k. These messages do not even make me recognise him.

But please don't mistake me, the money is not a problem. It is the dishonesty that I cannot live with. I believed I have met the love of my life and we lived together and shared beautiful times and to find this is heartbreaking.
"...heaven is a love without betrayal"

Based on the conversation you posted, your guy is definitely cheating. Your guy said 'No form my hand o' which means dont let me down, make it happen i.e he really wants to bang the two girls his friend is arranging for him.

Thank you, that is what the other people tell me. What a shame.

He went to the village to tap palm wine for his kinsmen nd nt to cheat

Lionbite:
Based on the conversation you posted, your guy is definitely cheating. Your guy said 'No form my hand o' which means dont let me down, make it happen i.e he really wants to bang the two girls his friend is arranging for him.

Amebo

bmxshop:


Amebo

truth be told

Whitegrlinnaija:
Boyfriend: sends selfie

Friend: Lol that fat face
Friend: I dey arrange something for u

Boyfriend: hehehe
Boyfriend: No form my hand o

Friend: Lol let me know when u need am

Boyfriend: Which level be that I fit show tomorrow or next

Friend: Na one one girl way dey awka I go reason her to come with her friend
Friend: But I still get one small girl for onitsha she wan cum with her friend too

Boyfriend: Okay
Boyfriend: You get her friend picture

Friend: Nope but let

He is cheating on you.

Op you need work

You know Wat is said abt the idle mind

A word they say is enough for.........

He is cheating on you for sure.naija guys wey dey marry white women always sneak back tasting black ass cos there is something they are missing and we all know what it is.

CaptainJeffry:
He may not be cheating on you ma'am. Many anambra men love to hang out, have some champagne around sexy girls but will end up not going to bed with any.

I'm talking from experience.

bros dat is still cheating, u dnt only cheat on people when u hv sex outside d relationship,,
will u like 4 ur gf to hangout n hv sone chanpagne around handsome guys??

Whitegrlinnaija:
Okay so my boyfriend has travelled back to his home village in anambra state and pls don't judge but I see some messages with him and his friend about meeting some girls. Will anyone pls be kind to tell me exactly if I am correct, because they in pidgin and I don't want to overstep if I worry for no reason. Pls tell me if u can help me

I can't confirm from that convo u posted if he is cheating on you yet but he is definitely going to if nothing is done. Are you sure he is not dating you course of the money sha?

I can see you just register. Why don't you modify your post and quote post instead of posting reply only

What do you mean quote post?
We talked. I told him everything and about this forum lol. He tells me he was only ever talking about his friends women because he bring home not good women and he tease him about wanting to the see them first because they aren't good. I told him I don't believe him. The messages don't look like that to me.

omoiyalayi:
Op you need work

You know Wat is said abt the idle mind

A word they say is enough for.........

Sorry do you mean I need work? I am working as both qualified scientist and will be teaching next year after getting my masters while working. Idle mind? I work very hard and send him more than I keep. He does not work. So who has idle mind??

This nigga just fûcked up.

His green card is hanging on a thread.

lefulefu:
He is cheating on you for sure.naija guys wey dey marry white women always sneak back tasting black ass cos there is something they are missing and we all know what it is.

Wow I am thinking maybe you this is bringing more problem than advice. Black men, white men, black women, white women....all the same problems as far as I understand! Some people are good, some are not. If you believe that you can only get some things from the colour of a woman than maybe you are not sure what love is

Emmytes:
This nigga just fûcked up.

His green card is hanging on a thread.

Lol I am not American. I made the name whitegrl and it probably misleads everyone to think I am a westerner. I am simply not Nigerian. Honestly I just wanted some advice if you think these meaaages sound like he may be cheating on me. It's such a serious matter as I am very much in love.

Emmytes:
This nigga just fûcked up.

His green card is hanging on a thread.

he no play im game well that's why

Angy55:


He is cheating on you.

He tells me this is all about his friend meeting women. Tell me if you honestly think this isn't honesty because it really means a lot to our relationship. I won't accept him cheating!

Whitegrlinnaija:


Lol I am not American. I made the name whitegrl and it probably misleads everyone to think I am a westerner. I am simply not Nigerian. Honestly I just wanted some advice if you think these meaaages sound like he may be cheating on me. It's such a serious matter as I am very much in love.

even if u Chinese or Mexican....as long as u staying in the west and u are a citizen u are vulnerable for scam.this dude is probably using u for what he can gain from u..u have already seen the signs and u here asking if he's cheating .i know sometimes its painful when we get betrayed by the ppl we love.you should confront him face to face and bring ur findings to him.i know he will lie through his teeth though.

Whitegrlinnaija:


Wow I am thinking maybe you this is bringing more problem than advice. Black men, white men, black women, white women....all the same problems as far as I understand! Some people are good, some are not. If you believe that you can only get some things from the colour of a woman than maybe you are not sure what love is

just threaten him with deportation and he will become submissive.afterall feminist weld a greater power in the west don't they?

lefulefu:
even if u Chinese or Mexican....as long as u staying in the west and u are a citizen u are vulnerable for scam.this dude is probably using u for what he can gain from u..u have already seen the signs and u here asking if he's cheating .i know sometimes its painful when we get betrayed by the ppl we love.you should confront him face to face and bring ur findings to him.i know he will lie through his teeth though.

Yes because I don't understand pidgin. I have confronted him. He completely denies that he has ever met any girl. That it is all about his friend. I know his friend too, we have met many times and I know him to be a player (i set him up with my friend a few years ago for her fun) but I just want to be sure of this before I end our relationship! no be small thing.

lefulefu:
just threaten him with deportation and he will become submissive.afterall feminist weld a greater power in the west don't they?

Haha I don't expect submission, just honest and faith. If I must use my privilege to keep a man faithful than it is not worth my time �